Can you fuck someone into being in love?

[Escierto]

Not certain this counts but when I was in my early thirties, I worked with a girl who was engaged. Her fiancé was her first and only lover. Due to our work situation we got close and became good friends. So of course I wanted to fuck her. She resisted my advances but finally gave in, mostly because I think she wanted to fuck someone else before she got married. We fucked and it was one of the most passionate sexual encounters I ever had. I went down on her at the beginning (her first time), then we fucked in multiple positions and continued until we were totally exhausted. I mean totally exhausted. Afterward, I walked away in love with this girl...still do in many ways. I know it was passion combined with our intimate knowledge of each other through a close personal relationship but the sex did it. It was incredible. I think she felt the same but never said so directly. We never hooked up again due to the circumstances, and we went our separate ways. Later I learned she broke off her engagement.

Yes, it counts. Great story.

 

[Katch123]

Definately doable, but not everyone.

 

[J_Bone]

Thinking more about this thread, it does remind me of my wife and I. I was away at college and she was going to college and working in a bar and grill in my hometown I used to frequent with friends when I'd come home every now and then on the odd weekend or holiday. The attraction was instant and we'd flirt a little when I saw her and she seemed interested. But I made a few moves, asking her out, etc., but there was always a reason she had to decline, so I just figured she wasn't, in fact, interested (found out later she had a BF). But I gave her my number and told her any time she wanted to come down for a visit, she had a place to stay and we could hang out and go to all the college hot spots and just have fun. Just left it at that and figured I'd never hear from her until I got a call from her a few months later asking if the offer still stood. I was a little shocked and of course I said yes, not even worrying about if I had plans, which I would have broken in a heartbeat anyway.

Long story short, she came down for a long weekend, took her out to dinner at a nice place the first night, and absolutely devoured her for the better part of three days. I made sure to bring my A game and the sex was amazing on both of our parts. She's later said there were a lot of "firsts" for her that weekend sexually and that first night together is when she said she knew. She drove home after the weekend, broke up with her BF (which she said she had been wanting to anyway, just needed an excuse). I graduated two months later and we moved in together about four months after that and been together ever since.

Did I "fuck her in love?" Probably not since we had lots of other attractions and reasons to end up together. But the great sex sure didn't' hurt

 

[eroticspank]

The short answer is no. If you start having sex and you are already friends or in a relationship it will certainly elevate you to the next level and can increase feelings for each other. Sex can include emotions which are great for couples.

However, (this is just my theory) if you put a man and woman in a room and make them have sex twice a week for a month or a specified length of time, they will develop feelings for each other. That does not necessarily mean feelings of love. The exchange of fluids, and the intensity of the scene, create a bonding effect. Some people ignore it but it is there.
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[Smileyouronnow]

With my other have I had known him for over a year, but never thought about him other then just a friend or a father figure when he was dating my mom. When we start having sex it made us closer and we been together since.

Hi GymJulie, Mike here. So was he your step dad, the one that you are presently with?

 

[GymJulie]

Hi GymJulie, Mike here. So was he your step dad, the one that you are presently with?

yes

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I think there is more than one correct answer. Someone who has not had sex or is not having sex often can feel so overwhelmed by breaking the drought that it feels like love. I can't count the number of guys I knew who fell in love with the first girl they actually fucked.

Also, if there are already feelings in place, having good sex with a person can intensify those feelings and that can lead to feeling in love, whether real or imagined.

So that raises another interesting question. Can bad or unsatisfying sex make a person fall out of love with someone?

 

[RachelWalsh]

It takes a while, but if the sex is good, and repeated enough, yeah. It can happen.

 

[eroticspank]

It takes a while, but if the sex is good, and repeated enough, yeah. It can happen.

I have had several dates where the sex was very good so we started dating regularly but I did not fall in love. I remember one girl who was awesome in bed. And she wanted a lot of sex. Unfortunately, when we did anything else like go out to dinner, I got irritated with her. We dated for almost two years and finally, I had to end it. Eventually, at the end of our relationship, we just stayed at home, watched TV, fixed food, and had sex. Every time I thought about leaving she would take me in the bedroom and convince me otherwise.
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[Razzyricho]

People are generally quick to form an emotional attachment to sex.
The real question should be, what is love? It’s subjective and different from everyone’s lense of perspective…

 

[live4thebj]

I think you can fuck someone into thinking they're in love. I mean, it could be the real thing, but wouldn't come from great sex alone. But amazing sex, especially if they've never had anything like it before, can be a very powerful thing both physically and mentally.

Great sex and intense orgasms do give people what is that term bottle glasses or something like that. Anyway I seen this happen on both sides.

 

[Razzyricho]

As Timmy says…’I love you ain’t no pick up line’

 

[cdstefi]

From my experience, no way.

Real love is nice and ideal if you have intimacy as part of the package, but just sex without that fellow-feeling, that need to be with someone because you just feel like a better human with them in your life and feel like you're giving that back to them. That's nothing to do with sex. That's that thing that's a ways beyond friendship. You know it when you feel it and it can involve sex but doesn't have to.

 

[morelikeasong]

Can definitely lead to an emotional attachment for me. Don’t think I could fall in love from sex alone. I need more connection on an emotional/intellectual level. And typically I need those things for really good sex too so unlikely.

 

[wildp]

Yeah I not sure about in true love but fuck them good and it’s like and addiction they can’t kick and they will only be yours

 

[Escierto]

Gotta love the J. Geils Band. Boston, baby, Hub of the Universe!

 

[Rob_Royale]

Would sex by itself make you fall in love? I'd say, probably not. But it will kick you down that road apiece. At the point of orgasm, the brain releases massive amounts of oxytocin and dopamine. These are feel-good-love hormones. They can sure make you feel like you're in love and the sheer amount of spur-of-the-moment Las Vegas weddings and next-day divorces, would add credibility to the theory.

 

[Gr82meetu2]

I’ve certainly had my brains fucked out
And thought I was in love

 

[davion2308]

I say no. Love comes from a series of shared experiences that build a strong emotional connection over time. You learn to live and have that other person as a part of your life.

 

[StrongMaster7]

Back in college, there was an attractive young woman who, for some reason, adored me. She thought I was the smartest, handsomest, sexiest man on earth. I am not. She did almost everything she could do to make me fall in love with her. She offered herself to me in almost every way she could. She was available for me to use whenever I wanted. She was sweet and nice and deserved all the love in the world, but I simply did not feel that way about her.

I eventually broke up with her because I felt bad about using her. She may still think she loves me.

 

[eroticspank]

"How can someone you don't really care for give you a mind-blowing orgasm?" I think this^ is along the same lines as the OP. I really believe it depends on what is in your head at the time.

Example: I met this woman who had never had sex with a black man before. She was really excited to have sex with me because of my race. We had sex and the entire time she was really enjoying herself. I was surprised at how enthusiastic she was, to me it was just regular sex. She thanked me many times and suggested we start dating. I could not because it would be taking advantage of her since I had no feelings for her.

Example 2: I met this Asian woman and I had never had sex with an Asian woman before. It was a very similar scenario as above only I was really enjoying myself. She was kinky so that checked that box as well. I had in my head that it was going to be very good and it was very good. I did have some feelings for her because we did talk a lot before we became physical. So we ended up dating for about two years.

In example 2 did she fuck me into loving her? I don't think so. I know it is possible that some of my feelings during sex were clouded by the fact that I was living a fantasy.

Maybe part of the answer to the original post is the question I mentioned above. The key is how you feel after the mind-blowing orgasm. If it is an ex who knows your body very well and this is a one-off to take care of each other's needs before you head off that is different. You feel amazing but you know you are not going to be with this person anymore. Your mind has moved on.

But, if it is someone you have been friends with for a while and had some feelings for, a different story. The person is available, lives near you, and seems to have similar feelings for you. The afterglow becomes thought about future possibilities. Even if nothing is said between you regarding a relationship. Your mind continues to go there, especially after each bout of sex.

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[cunme69]

Yes a person can fall in love by getting fucked. Fo example my friend have a big dick and I have seen a few women who are in a relationship with him complaining to me and almost crying because each one finds out that he is fucking them all. They even stalk him and threatening each other

 

[Scotchlander]

I don’t think you can fuck someone into being in love, but you can fuck them into being in lust.

I have been with a few shy inexperienced females who have never had a real good fuck. It was like BOOM! …. They became cock hungry bitches and sometimes a pest. They did not as much want my love, more my hard cock and experienced sex.

 

[Susscrofa]

This is a question for people who get fucked, women by men, men by other men, women by other women, men by transgender women.

Last night my transgender girlfriend fucked me and seriously, she fucked me so hard and so intensely filling me with a huge amount of cum. Afterwards I was dizzy, deliriously in love with her and I kept wanting to hug her and kiss her. It was the fucking that did it. She fucked me into being in love. It was like a drug.

Have you ever been fucked into being in love?

Yes. Or at least it releases endorphins that feel like love.

The second part is right. If all you're doing together is fucking each other, you don't love the person, you love the way she makes you feel.

 

[SubmissiveMom]

This is a question for people who get fucked, women by men, men by other men, women by other women, men by transgender women.

Last night my transgender girlfriend fucked me and seriously, she fucked me so hard and so intensely filling me with a huge amount of cum. Afterwards I was dizzy, deliriously in love with her and I kept wanting to hug her and kiss her. It was the fucking that did it. She fucked me into being in love. It was like a drug.

Have you ever been fucked into being in love?

Absolutely not!