Justa really wants an audio thread. Yeah, it will probably be Chaos.

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I looked into the dynamic long ago. I’ve been with a few ladies that enjoyed the dynamic. While I like some of the dynamic. I can’t say I’m really into it.
One really needs to talk to them and see what exactly they want from this dynamic. See what age they enjoy playing.

so what pieces of the dynamic do you like? What pieces didn't work for you?

 

[LittleSwitchy]

My thoughts:

https://voca.ro/1dVN655g4AKu

https://voca.ro/15BzNiDa9Xph


The "way too long didn’t listen" summary. I struggle with the LG concept because the Patriarchy is real and the old dudes running it say I can’t walk around topless #FreetheNipple. I struggle with the MD concept because I am kind of a cunt with high attraction to the more rigid male gender role, and it is your job as men to get the spider. Yup, that about summarizes why I am how I am.

In your first vm you described a brat. A brat hears a rule then tries to figure out ways to push the limits.
As far as being submissive. There’s nothing easy about it. It can be difficult to let go of control and give that control to someone else.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

In your first vm you described a brat. A brat hears a rule then tries to figure out ways to push the limits.
As far as being submissive. There’s nothing easy about it. It can be difficult to let go of control and give that control to someone else.

Bdsmtest.org called me brat too. I guess it is true. That is an odd dynamic to me as well. Like, generally the dynamics would say a dominant type would pair with a submissive type, but what dominant types are all, "yeah submissive submissives are just too easy, actually doing what I say and stuff." The brat and brat tamer types seem an odd little a BDSM paradox.

 

[clark_kent]

My thoughts:

https://voca.ro/1dVN655g4AKu

https://voca.ro/15BzNiDa9Xph


The "way too long didn’t listen" summary. I struggle with the LG concept because the Patriarchy is real and the old dudes running it say I can’t walk around topless #FreetheNipple. I struggle with the MD concept because I am kind of a cunt with high attraction to the more rigid male gender role, and it is your job as men to get the spider. Yup, that about summarizes why I am how I am.

None of what you said surprises me. It seems right in line with who you are. I think role playing this occasionally could be fun, but to make it my life just seems exhausting!
It’s the balance of both beings strong and wanting to be taken care of sometimes that is attractive. But that’s just me!

 

[LittleSwitchy]

Bdsmtest.org called me brat too. I guess it is true. That is an odd dynamic to me as well. Like, generally the dynamics would say a dominant type would pair with a submissive type, but what dominant types are all, "yeah submissive submissives are just too easy, actually doing what I say and stuff." The brat and brat tamer types seem an odd little a BDSM paradox.

Keep in mind
BDSM is like a buffet. You take from it what you want/ like. You leave what you don’t want/ dislike.
Hell. Get 20 people that ACTUALLY know the lifestyle and have physical experience in the lifestyle. Ask them to define a submissive. You’ll get 20 different responses.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

None of what you said surprises me. It seems right in line with who you are. I think role playing this occasionally could be fun, but to make it my life just seems exhausting!
And while I’m all for strong women, I

yes, I mean every role is fun from time to time. but then it isn't like actually that dynamic, it is just acting the dynamic. We can all act anything for a day (someday somewhere somehow I am going to calling myself Daddy for a day) But yeah, the fact that it isn't, idk, honest, likely means not truly feeling the same feelings as someone who truly identifies. Also it seems you didn't finish the thought.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Keep in mind
BDSM is like a buffet. You take from it what you want/ like. You leave what you don’t want/ dislike.
Hell. Get 20 people that ACTUALLY know the lifestyle and have physical experience in the lifestyle. Ask them to define a submissive. You’ll get 20 different responses.

very valid point, I am sure. Feel free to turn on that mic and tell me yours. (hint hint. yeah I am a master at subtle hints)

 

[LittleSwitchy]

very valid point, I am sure. Feel free to turn on that mic and tell me yours. (hint hint. yeah I am a master at subtle hints)

Lol. I forgot this is the vm thread.
Subtle? Pfftt
Like a 2X4 upside the head.

Lol

 

[clark_kent]

yes, I mean every role is fun from time to time. but then it isn't like actually that dynamic, it is just acting the dynamic. We can all act anything for a day (someday somewhere somehow I am going to calling myself Daddy for a day) But yeah, the fact that it isn't, idk, honest, likely means not truly feeling the same feelings as someone who truly identifies. Also it seems you didn't finish the thought.

I kept getting an error message. I thought it hadn’t posted and then got distracted with work (how annoying is that!). I guess it did post.
I think the end was something along the lines of:
It’s the balance of both being strong and wanting to be taken care of sometimes that is attractive. But that’s just me!

And I agree then it’s just playing if you only do it occasionally. I’ve dabbled with the dynamic online. While it’s interesting, anything beyond playing is just exhausting to me. If someone likes it/needs it, then all the power to them. It’s just not something I could sustain long term.

 

[clark_kent]

Wow, my first Playground thread. It only took 5 and a half years. We shall see if this keeps going. What I'd like is a topic or question to be posted every couple of days, by me or someone else, maybe Monday and Friday. I win the race to ask a question this Friday because I am first.

Question 1) Tell me about your Fuck-it lists, ie sexual bucket lists. Do you have one? What has been crossed off? What still remains? Any other thoughts on the Fuck-it list topic. No judgement on the length or on the extra pervy pervs. I will be back later with my 5 minute rambling monolog on the different ways I still want to be fucked.

Question 2) Do you have a favorite holiday? Tell me why.
Question 3) What brought you to the lit forums and are you still coming for the same reasons or have those reasons evolved with time?
Question 4) Tell me about the first concert you attended, the last, your favorite, and the one you just never made it to.
Question 5) Taking lit communication off the threads. Do you do it? Talk to me about how you talk.
Question 6) Have you been in involved in the Caregiver/Little flavor of BDSM? Word Blurt thoughts on CGLO, DDLG, DDLB, MDLG, MDLB and whatever other acronym.

I’m going to go with the concert question for now. Don’t get too excited!
https://voca.ro/18sGj9FujhpD

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I’m going to go with the concert question for now. Don’t get too excited!
https://voca.ro/18sGj9FujhpD

I reserve the right to be excited about all audio.

 

[clark_kent]

I reserve the right to be excited about all audio.

It’s going to make you reevaluate your entire life; especially as it pertains to the music you listen to on a regular basis.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I’m going to go with the concert question for now. Don’t get too excited!
https://voca.ro/18sGj9FujhpD

oh Grateful Dead is a good choice on the should have list.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

I reserve the right to be excited about all audio.

ALL audio?


Runs to post vm of me getting off
Lmao.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

ALL audio?


Runs to post vm of me getting off
Lmao.

haha. pretty sure someone on like page 11 already beat you too it.

but yes, I really like hearing people.

 

[clark_kent]

I reserve the right to be excited about all audio.

Here is some audio that I think you will really like. It will hit home so to speak.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

haha. pretty sure someone on like page 11 already beat you too it.

but yes, I really like hearing people.

Chuckles at beat you to it

I was kidding. I don’t know you like that. I wouldn’t feel right doing that

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Here is some audio that I think you will really like. It will hit home so to speak.

only counts if you are singing along with it.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Chuckles at beat you to it

I was kidding. I don’t know you like that. I wouldn’t feel right doing that

lol, yeah. I am not actually going for this as an erotic thread. just aiming for talking. erotic audio is more pm material for me.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

lol, yeah. I am not actually going for this as an erotic thread. just aiming for talking. erotic audio is more pm material for me.

I rather like the putting a voice to a name

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I rather like the putting a voice to a name

ditto. It feels more like I know people, when I can hear them.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

ditto. It feels more like I know people, when I can hear them.

I agree. It’s not as good as putting a face to a name. If they post a pic but it’s close

 

[clark_kent]

only counts if you are singing along with it.

By all means then, feel free to sing along.

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

My thoughts:

https://voca.ro/1dVN655g4AKu

https://voca.ro/15BzNiDa9Xph


The "way too long didn’t listen" summary. I struggle with the LG concept because the Patriarchy is real and the old dudes running it say I can’t walk around topless #FreetheNipple. I struggle with the MD concept because I am kind of a cunt with high attraction to the more rigid male gender role, and it is your job as men to get the spider. Yup, that about summarizes why I am how I am.

https://voca.ro/1aMNLIVBJsQ9

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

https://voca.ro/1aMNLIVBJsQ9

https://voca.ro/1kUGLxihKrIl