Pmann wants to talk mental health

[aussiegeekygal]

My mind would literally explode. It tried to once already

THIS.

The only way that I've freaking survived has been by having the ability to find some kind of humor in all of the shit that keep happening to me. But I'm entirely sure that a lot of the things that I say... well, it's hard for me to be appropriately serious sometimes because all that I can do is see the dark humor in it all. Because you have to, right?

 

[Dribble]

I am still learning how to be angry. I actually think we tolerate anger in men far more often than we allow women to be emotional. We've just somehow agreed that anger isn't men being emotional.

I am not sure tolerate is the right word. Anger is complex. We can have the undiluted true form of anger. You pissed me off and i am angry (or am i hurt and it is expressed as anger? That's a different discussion. ). We can have the form expressed when I don't understand or can't describe the emotions I am feeling type of anger. Or the kind expressed when I simply don't have the tools I need in my toolbox to deal with what I am dealing with.

 

[Endless_Night]

I wasn't raised to be emotional. My parents were both cops and taught me how to regulate myself by buying stuff deep down. I am still learning how to be angry. I actually think we tolerate anger in men far more often than we allow women to be emotional. We've just somehow agreed that anger isn't men being emotional.

I think you're right about anger not being seen as emotional. Anger can be far easier - and more socially acceptable to an extent - to express than fear or grief or sadness. It is a less vulnerable response, like the flip side of humor.

 

[Dribble]

 

[Lady2020]

I'm getting ready to call my daughter to get an update on my grandson who refuses MH meds and counseling. The thing is, don't think your family is perfect, unaffected, pure. Don't think there are families that are above this. No one is above this. Above hurt, trauma, family who do not give a shit about your pain and trauma. My 29 yo brother took his life by hoarding his anti-depressants and taking them at one time. Then he regretted it a few minutes later. So he called 911. They took him to ER. He walked into ER, told them what he had done. But it was too late. He went into convulsions and died. You think my family lived happily ever after? It went silent, incommunicado. My mother blamed my father. My father blamed no one. The rest of us had to suffer for the inability of our parents. They expected the remaining 5 kids to handle this shit. No one handled this fucked up mess. But there is hope. Take your meds, get counseling, own your shit.

 

[Paligirl]

I do think it’s something that should be talked about openly. Not in the way some people do where they just make life miserable for everybody. But it’s okay to have mental health problems, just like it’s okay to have an allergy to peanuts or semen.

I like what HW said about teaching people to cope and solve problems, as well. Awareness is only half the battle; solving and learning to cope with the issues you have is the other half. But that’s coming from someone who aspires to be a reclusive bomber.

Is mental health really stigmatized where you are? Like people respond to depressed or anxious people like..."Ewwwww...Stay away!" How fucking gross.
Nice of you to pull some concern out of your ass for those that suffer and open this up. Where are you?

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

I spend a lot of time here. I also spend a lot of time scrolling through my short list of contacts in my phone, or on Skype. I only have three people on Skype. Its most likely going to end up only 2. I have a few on Discord, but I mostly try not to bother them. I worry a lot about bothering people so after I reach out and get no response, or someone lets me know that they are busy, I stop.

So I sit there scrolling through the names. I come to Lit and browse, sometimes think about posting or even reaching out in PMs. My inbox is usually empty, maybe with a couple PMs unanswered. I think about or even start to send something else...then realize it wouldnt be right.
Then I go and try to do something, stay busy. Wash dishes, do laundry, cook, watch a show.

Then I come back to check my text messages. My Skype. My Discord. My PMs. Browse for a bit and think about posting, but know that my mood is too down and negative for people to handle. I do this all day, until eventually I accept that no one is going to talk to me and I will turn off the computer and read. Even then sometimes I check the text messages and Skype and Discord. Sometime I go to sleep.

On the days I work, it is easier. I'm at least interacting with people. Strangers on the phone. On my breaks and Lunch I might occasionally check for messages from certain important people, but mostly I just scroll through TikTok. The job sucks and I hate it, but there are voices.

My days off pass in silence.

 

[jaF0]

The one single thing life has taught me is that people are worthless fucking assholes, one and all.

I can't fucking wait for the day I stop waking up.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Speaking of mental health, a massive factor in my quality of life is having meaningful relationships with others. My marriage, my family, my friends and my community all provide me with a sense of belonging and connection which helps me continue through the drudgery of every day life.

I'm finding that lit is having a negative impact on my relationships, especially as I begin to work outside the home more, and so for now, I'm going to spend less time here and more time with others.

Have others here found that being online a lot is having an effect on your health? What do you do to address these effects?

 

[jaF0]

Speaking of mental health, a massive factor in my quality of life is having meaningful relationships with others. My marriage, my family, my friends and my community all provide me with a sense of belonging and connection which helps me continue through the drudgery of every day life.

^^^ That's what did the most damage. That's what led me to say the hell with everybody and have almost no contact at all, with anyone. I've never met anyone that didn't stab me in the back and both sides one way or another. Literally every single person I've ever known has let me down or turned on me... without exception.

 

[Dribble]

Speaking of mental health, a massive factor in my quality of life is having meaningful relationships with others. My marriage, my family, my friends and my community all provide me with a sense of belonging and connection which helps me continue through the drudgery of every day life.

I'm finding that lit is having a negative impact on my relationships, especially as I begin to work outside the home more, and so for now, I'm going to spend less time here and more time with others.

Have others here found that being online a lot is having an effect on your health? What do you do to address these effects?

Absolutely.

I don't come here. Or anywhere online. The internet IS the source of so many problems today.

You know what is best for you. I believe in you. Don't think twice.

 

[DrkSthrnGnt]

Speaking of mental health, a massive factor in my quality of life is having meaningful relationships with others. My marriage, my family, my friends and my community all provide me with a sense of belonging and connection which helps me continue through the drudgery of every day life.

I'm finding that lit is having a negative impact on my relationships, especially as I begin to work outside the home more, and so for now, I'm going to spend less time here and more time with others.

Have others here found that being online a lot is having an effect on your health? What do you do to address these effects?

It definitely can.

I make plans that involves putting away the phone/computer and spending time with them without distraction. Also, sleep is a much bigger component of mental health (and health in general!) than most people realize, and good sleep hygiene is something to re-focus on.

Mostly, trust your instincts when it comes to what you need to be an authentic version of you.

 

[Cotswolds]

Speaking of mental health, a massive factor in my quality of life is having meaningful relationships with others. My marriage, my family, my friends and my community all provide me with a sense of belonging and connection which helps me continue through the drudgery of every day life.

I'm finding that lit is having a negative impact on my relationships, especially as I begin to work outside the home more, and so for now, I'm going to spend less time here and more time with others.

Have others here found that being online a lot is having an effect on your health? What do you do to address these effects?

I have always dipped in and out of this place. I don't subscribe heavily to online activity at all really, I have no social media accounts on any platform other than this. I have felt that my time is better spent doing real life stuff lately so have not been on much at all. I can't honestly say my mood isn't affected by being on here, or not being on here, but my productivity at home certainly reflects accordingly.

Most of my spare time these days is spent DMT breathing, that's really good for mental health

 

[Lord Pmann]

Is mental health really stigmatized where you are? Like people respond to depressed or anxious people like..."Ewwwww...Stay away!" How fucking gross.
Nice of you to pull some concern out of your ass for those that suffer and open this up. Where are you?

Sorry for the late reply, but yeah, it’s pretty stigmatized. However, I really don’t think it’s location dependent. It’s pretty strongly stigmatized across cultures and locations. I suppose it’s somewhat dependent on certain factors, but I do think a lot of people would consider anxiety or depression to be something you just “get over” or “stop being sad”.

It’s certainly not treated like other illnesses.

 

[cheekygirl75]

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[Paligirl]

Sorry for the late reply, but yeah, it’s pretty stigmatized. However, I really don’t think it’s location dependent. It’s pretty strongly stigmatized across cultures and locations. I suppose it’s somewhat dependent on certain factors, but I do think a lot of people would consider anxiety or depression to be something you just “get over” or “stop being sad”.

It’s certainly not treated like other illnesses.

True...the get over it attitude doesnt take the whole picture into account. That being said I'm in California,....so while so many people and other cultures make fun of us it cant go unsaid that at least we arent as judgmental as ... almost anywhere, LOL

 

[Lord Pmann]

True...the get over it attitude doesnt take the whole picture into account. That being said I'm in California,....so while so many people and other cultures make fun of us it cant go unsaid that at least we arent as judgmental as ... almost anywhere, LOL

I honestly almost made a joke about California.

They certainly aren’t judgmental in CA. But it’s because you’re all weird as hell.

 

[Paligirl]

I honestly almost made a joke about California.

They certainly aren’t judgmental in CA. But it’s because you’re all weird as hell.

Where you from Baby?

 

[Endless_Night]

Where you from Baby?

*blinks*

Did you...just call the Stickman...Baby?

*blinks again*


A decade on Lit and it turns out this moment is what I've been waiting for the whole time. I can now retire from Lit with perfect serenity.


I don't know who you are, Paligirl, but it's possible I like you.

 

[Paligirl]

*blinks*

Did you...just call the Stickman...Baby?

*blinks again*


A decade on Lit and it turns out this moment is what I've been waiting for the whole time. I can now retire from Lit with perfect serenity.


I don't know who you are, Paligirl, but it's possible I like you.

Is he an Imperialist English Asshole?!? LOL!

 

[Endless_Night]

Is he an Imperialist English Asshole?!? LOL!

He is…just not usually addressed on the board with casual endearments.

Yeah.

Let's go with that.


(He's da bomb, but might be considered by some to be an acquired taste. )

 

[alwaysaway]

He is…just not usually addressed on the board with casual endearments.

Yeah.

Let's go with that.


(He's da bomb, but might be considered by some to be an acquired taste. )

I have definitely acquired his taste. That sounds wrong, but I’m sticking with it.

 

[Dribble]

He is…just not usually addressed on the board with casual endearments.

Yeah.

Let's go with that.


(He's da bomb, but might be considered by some to be an acquired taste. )

He asks the tough questions that requires thought. He sometimes crosses the line. i trust him more than I trust most here...but few trust me so my opinion means little. Lol...she called him "baby"...

 

[MedicalMuse]

I just have to join in here with complete and utter amusement.
The Lord will have fun with everyone's responses, I'm sure.
I'm with @Dribble on this one. He is thought provoking and generally a good fella. Though he does like to make a lot of self named threads...

 

[jaF0]

^^^ Never be with Dribbler, the Seditionist.