Chaotic Coffee Klatch (tea also available)

[MsNatalie99]

M was always circling the room he was a natural at putting people at ease and figuring out who to introduce them to. 90% of the time he could read them right. We were completely opposite I hate people he loved them

At the time I was dating a guy who ran these events his name was Jo. He was very sociable, but people were very intimidated by him because of his build and the tattoos. Most of the pics from the event I have were taken by him. So when we're at these events he would usually tell me who to talk to. He had a good sense for who was uncomfortable, and I'd seen him turn a few people away telling them that this isn't really what they wanted. Like the couple I mentioned earlier, they wanted to try new things, but weirdly enough neither one of them had the courage to bring it up to the other. It was kind of odd that group play was a healthy alternative in their minds.

 

[LexxRuthless]

M was always circling the room he was a natural at putting people at ease and figuring out who to introduce them to. 90% of the time he could read them right. We were completely opposite I hate people he loved them

I tend to take up that role naturally -- the way you describe M -- at gatherings. One of my younger brothers got married and held separate receptions in Alabama and then in Texas so people who couldn't make the long drive could attend the "more fun anyway" part. However, shortly after it started my brother and his new bride took off from the second reception, leaving everyone milling about awkwardly in the reception hall. I just grinned and walked up to one of his college friends I'd never met, held out my hand and said, "Hi! I'm Alex, JT's older brother. Are y'all living in Texas now?" That got the ball rolling, and I quickly introduced people and got a bunch of fun conversations started.

JT and his wife never came back -- that little shit.

 

[cascadiabound]

At the time I was dating a guy who ran these events his name was Jose. He was very sociable, but people were very intimidated by him because of his build and the tattoos. Most of the pics from the event I have were taken by him. So when we're at these events he would usually tell me who to talk to. He had a good sense for who was uncomfortable, and I'd seen him turn a few people away telling them that this isn't really what they wanted. Like the couple I mentioned earlier, they wanted to try new things, but weirdly enough neither one of them had the courage to bring it up to the other. It was kind of odd that group play was a healthy alternative in their minds.

Once again... people have an idea about a thing that often is not the way it is in real life.... and the failure to communicate is just.so.common.

 

[MsNatalie99]

I tend to take up that role naturally -- the way you describe M -- at gatherings. One of my younger brothers got married and held separate receptions in Alabama and then in Texas so people who couldn't make the long drive could attend the "more fun anyway" part. However, shortly after it started my brother and his new bride took off from the second reception, leaving everyone milling about awkwardly in the reception hall. I just grinned and walked up to one of his college friends I'd never met, held out my hand and said, "Hi! I'm Alex, JT's older brother. Are y'all living in Texas now?" That got the ball rolling, and I quickly introduced people and got a bunch of fun conversations started.

JT and his wife never came back -- that little shit.

My brother did that at his wedding. We had this big reception built up at Chase. Turns out they got married at the Justice of the Peace, and just hit the road. So pretty much everybody just used up their one or two drink tickets and left.

 

[cascadiabound]

My brother did that at his wedding. We had this big reception built up at Chase. Turns out they got married at the Justice of the Peace, and just hit the road. So pretty much everybody just used up their one or two drink tickets and left.

we did the opposite.
we rented out this big resort with cottages near a national park and invited everyone we loved.
After the wedding we all had a big party for two days.
then, about a dozen people came back to our house and hung out or went on road trips and came back around a few days later - that went on for about 10 days. THEN we left on our honeymoon. It was great. I wouldn't do it any other way.

 

[MsNatalie99]

Once again... people have an idea about a thing that often is not the way it is in real life.... and the failure to communicate is just.so.common.

It is. I'm not going to lie, I'm terrible with talking about my feelings and stuff to my partner. It's easier online. I feel like there's always a safe distance between me and who I'm speaking to. Still, just crazy to me that some could say let's try an orgy before the could say I like to be choked during sex.

 

[MsNatalie99]

we did the opposite.
we rented out this big resort with cottages near a national park and invited everyone we loved.
After the wedding we all had a big party for two days.
then, about a dozen people came back to our house and hung out or went on road trips and came back around a few days later - that went on for about 10 days. THEN we left on our honeymoon. It was great. I wouldn't do it any other way.

That sounds amazing.

 

[cascadiabound]

That sounds amazing.

it was good. My theory was, if you invite people to come see you from all over the country, you should not leave a few hours after they get there. I wanted to spend time with those people. Some friends played live music all night, we had home brew that we had made to last the whole weekend, and we sent everyone on a scavenger hunt so they would explore the park and go see stuff.

 

[MsNatalie99]

We never did costumes but everyone had to socialize first introduced themselves and get 5 flirt stamps to make it into the actual action. Both men and women could give them out and couples shared the same stamp so couldn't stamp themselves

How many people would you get at these events? I've never seen more that 30 show up, but when it was all said and done maybe only 10- 13 would actually go all out. 5 or 6 would be turned away and the rest were either couples who wanted to be seen, or people who liked to watch.

 

[cascadiabound]

I like the flirt stamps... could we figure a way to do that here in the PG? Keep some of the creepers out? lol

 

[MsNatalie99]

it was good. My theory was, if you invite people to come see you from all over the country, you should not leave a few hours after they get there. I wanted to spend time with those people. Some friends played live music all night, we had home brew that we had made to last the whole weekend, and we sent everyone on a scavenger hunt so they would explore the park and go see stuff.

It was kinda like that for my cousins college graduation. We had a big party on day 1, jungle tour and formal gathering on day 2, and a party for our age group on day 3. If I'd have stayed another day, I would've seen Daddy Yankee live.

 

[MsNatalie99]

I like the flirt stamps... could we figure a way to do that here in the PG. Keep some of the creepers out? lol

That is brilliant.

 

[Codeman93]

Hey y’all quick rant here but it’s been a long night for my self and I just want to say the mental health is a real thing and if any of you are down bad and need to vent or just need to talk because things are going bad please feel free to reach out to me, I don’t ever want to make another call like the one I had to make, and I hope that we all have enough trust enough in each other to be able to have that person to talk to on a very dark day. All of your lives are important to me and i hope everyone else feels the same way I love you all and hope you all continue to have a good weekend.

 

[MsNatalie99]

Hey y’all quick rant here but it’s been a long night for my self and I just want to say the mental health is a real thing and if any of you are down bad and need to vent or just need to talk because things are going bad please feel free to reach out to me, I don’t ever want to make another call like the one I had to make, and I hope that we all have enough trust enough in each other to be able to have that person to talk to on a very dark day. All of your lives are important to me and i hope everyone else feels the same way I love you all and hope you all continue to have a good weekend.

Oh geez. How about you Code? Are you ok, need to talk?

 

[Codeman93]

Oh geez. How about you Code? Are you ok, need to talk?

I’m ok just spent a night of dealing with somthing I hope I never have to again

 

[cascadiabound]

Hey y’all quick rant here but it’s been a long night for my self and I just want to say the mental health is a real thing and if any of you are down bad and need to vent or just need to talk because things are going bad please feel free to reach out to me, I don’t ever want to make another call like the one I had to make, and I hope that we all have enough trust enough in each other to be able to have that person to talk to on a very dark day. All of your lives are important to me and i hope everyone else feels the same way I love you all and hope you all continue to have a good weekend.

hope you are doing okay. Thank you for your kind offer. I have been impressed at the number of people who have made similar offers here on Lit. It is a great goodness.
i echo this... if you need help - if you are having a dark day - reach out. you are worthy- your life is important.

 

[MsNatalie99]

I’m ok just spent a night of dealing with somthing I hope I never have to again

If it's what I'm thinking, I'm very sorry. I won't dare say I know how you feel, but I've seen these things pan out, and I'm here for you as well if you need to vent.

 

[Codeman93]

If it's what I'm thinking, I'm very sorry. I won't dare say I know how you feel, but I've seen these things pan out, and I'm here for you as well if you need to vent.

I’ve been down the dark road, but trying to treat/find that person is the hardest thing I’ve ever done

 

[cascadiabound]

Quote for the day
"Your area of awareness must be bigger than your area of disturbance"

 

[MsNatalie99]

I’ve been down the dark road, but trying to treat/find that person is the hardest thing I’ve ever done

It won't be easy. Few things that are worth doing ever are. The road may be dark, but it's worth travelling to find your way back.

 

[_Ritch_]

Why do so many of you choose to intentionally be insufferable assholes?

I've explained that .gifs cause problems with page displays and suck bandwidth. Many of them are several Mb in size. I believe they are a big part of all the complaints people have been making about page loading, site delays, crashes and other glitches.

You react with the same immature posts instead of even trying to see the other side.

Try not being fuil on flaming asswipes for just a little while.

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The amount of irony in this post is absolutely hilarious.

You're probably one of the biggest "flaming ass-wipes" on the site to begin with. You never seem to have a good word to say about anyone and you come across as a permanently angry individual. You attack other posters pretty much all the time and I'm sick of reading it.

You're the first person on my block list. Congratulations.

 

[MsNatalie99]

was searching for a picture of a nude woman swimming with some us seals

I actually saved this to my phone.... no Idea what I'm going to do with it, but seeing it made me happy.

 

[AngelWithAShotgun]

Quote for the day
"Your area of awareness must be bigger than your area of disturbance"

I thought this was a penile metaphor before I read further up. Oops

 

[MsNatalie99]

I thought this was a penile metaphor before I read further up. Oops

Good morning Angel

 

[cascadiabound]

I thought this was a penile metaphor before I read further up. Oops

I should really think through the most sexual connotation possible with every.single.post.