What’s your most controversial opinion?

[Diosax]

Nah, you gals, aren't generalizing and lumping all sexless marriage men as a single category. And I can't see you mocking anyone for their unfortunate predicament.

It is an interesting subject though.

I have seen many men and women come to Lit with that claim. They all deal with it as best as they can. Some, like you stated, kinda suck at it. There are at least a couple Litsters I know, one a man, the other a woman, both in yearslong sexless marriages that died without ever getting resolution or peace with it. People are complex. Make mistakes. Is what it is. There are worse things than that to deal with at Lit.

Not sure if I'm included in "you gals" but hope so

But also for clarification I didn't say what I said with anyone in mind. Or due to anyone on the playground. I read other sections in the forum.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

We’re all selling something to one degree or another

I'm just over here negotiating with terrorists (toddlers) all day

 

[Cymru9696]

I'm just over here negotiating with terrorists (toddlers) all day

I hope that you are well compensated.
I’ve done that myself pro-bono.

 

[jaF0]

I'd much love my time off of work thank you very much

Resign. Stay home all you want. Let somebody have the job that wants to work.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Resign. Stay home all you want. Let somebody have the job that wants to work.

Are you trying to find work and not finding it? Is there a reason you’re so contrary to people taking leave? I really do not understand the mindset and focus on this issue.

 

[KatieDoes]

Not sure if I'm included in "you gals" but hope so

But also for clarification I didn't say what I said with anyone in mind. Or due to anyone on the playground. I read other sections in the forum.

I had people in mind (I’m not going to name them) but it’s due to specific things that they’ve said or done, and how they speak about the women in their lives. Not a generalization of all men (or women) in that situation.

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

My Mom tried to give it to us as kids. All I remember is thinking I'd rather have nothing if carob was the only option.

I remember finding some carob candy in my Easter basket one year and feeling sad because I thought it meant we were poor.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

I remember finding some carob candy in my Easter basket one year and feeling sad because I thought it meant we were poor.

OMG, I would have felt the same.

 

[AmberLGreen]

Not all store bought sandwiches require mayonnaise. Stop filling them up with that stuff and put proper filling in them!

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Not all store bought sandwiches require mayonnaise. Stop filling them up with that stuff and put proper filling in them!

Totally agree! I hate it when I have to wipe half a cup of mayo off of my sandwich with a napkin.

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

There are guys like that, but they still want the connection with a woman other than their spouse.
I mean. They may have confided in me and sought me for my vast cache of wisdom, but they mostly wanted to see my nipples.

I was like that at the end of my marriage, too. Bring on all the nipples!

The sticky part of it all, with the friendships and closeness, is they ARE mostly good people, and it’s easy to get attached.

I'm not getting out of bed until I figure out how nipples are like cryptocurrency. I know there has to be a connection. . . .

 

[Sundayschild]

I'm not getting out of bed until I figure out how nipples are like cryptocurrency. I know there has to be a connection. . . .

You have to understand the complexity of the Blockchain and how it links each one. A gentle tug can make the structure move, while serious pressure on the chain can have disastrous consequences.

Hope that helps

 

[Sundayschild]

Bad thinking. Nipples are real.

Nothing realler..

 

[AmberLGreen]

Bad thinking. Nipples are real.

And yours are real and beautiful

 

[Sundayschild]

They may have confided in me and sought me for my vast cache of wisdom, but they mostly wanted to see my nipples.

That sounds so sordidly transactional. I love it!

 

[HoneyMeadows]

I believe some, but I wonder if they put as much effort into their marriages as online. Online is easy.
Women, too, but I don’t see them say it as much. The sexless marriage seems to be a mostly man mantra.

Just wanted to add my 2 pence as a woman in a sexless marriage.

I'm here after being told "no" a lot. I still ask. I still get told no. I put in the effort and I'm heartbroken each time, but I understand the reasons so I keep trying. I need an outlet somewhere though, so I'm here as long as I'm allowed

 

[gga]

Totally agree! I hate it when I have to wipe half a cup of mayo off of my sandwich with a napkin.

If it's a sandwich shop, it's mayo on the side. And the majority of the time I throw it away without using any of it.

 

[pandaburr]

If it's a sandwich shop, it's mayo on the side. And the majority of the time I throw it away without using any of it.

I think the bigger offense is eating a dry ass sandwich. You need some kind of sauce or condiment. My oldest can slap meat and cheese between two pieces of bread and go on about his day...it's shocking to me.

 

[gga]

I think the bigger offense is eating a dry ass sandwich. You need some kind of sauce or condiment. My oldest can slap meat and cheese between two pieces of bread and go on about his day...it's shocking to me.

Don't hate me, but I can too. That's what the glass of milk is for.

 

[jaF0]

I gave up work 11 years ago, but I despised being stuck there doing somebody else's job while they were off screwing around. I was there every day. Rarely ever took a vacation, usually took the extra pay instead. Almost never took a sick day, maybe 3 or 4 in 30 years.

When I worked, I worked, I didn't expect others to work for me.



I fucking hate lazy assed bastards who think work owes them paid days off.

 

[HoneyMeadows]

I was the same. It’s shitty. I’m sorry.

Thank you. I'm glad you're in a better place now. There are some steps still to be taken here so I'll see how it goes. The moment I give up is the moment I'll walk away.

 

[HoneyMeadows]

I think the bigger offense is eating a dry ass sandwich. You need some kind of sauce or condiment. My oldest can slap meat and cheese between two pieces of bread and go on about his day...it's shocking to me.

If the bread is moist enough then it doesn't need any condiments on it

 

[pandaburr]

If the bread is moist enough then it doesn't need any condiments on it

Ewwwww...all I can picture is some soggy effing bread

 

[HoneyMeadows]

Ewwwww...all I can picture is some soggy effing bread

Haha I mean more like fresh "out of the oven an hour ago" bread

 

[pandaburr]

Haha I mean more like fresh "out of the oven an hour ago" bread

Oh fancy style..yeah, that sounds acceptable lol. We got the white Sara Lee bread up in here