Why do older men become bi-curious?

[tristantrotsky]

I started to think about wanting to suck cock when my wife was cuckolding me, which I was happy about as it turned me on tremendously. But then I lost my ability to get an erection and that made me want to try experiencing a man's cock for myself. At first I just sucked cock and I enjoyed it so much that I sucked as many as I could get my hands on and my mouth round. Maybe it was inevitable that I then wanted to try being fucked. That was painful at first but I soon came to love doing that too. So I ended up taking as much cum as I could reasonably get, in my mouth and in my arse. I just love the erotic mental pleasure of being used and filled with cum, but also the erotic feeling of cum dripping from my mouth and my arsehole.

I simply adore a story with such a happy and contented ending.
I wish you much pleasure, Alliter, in your future adventures in taking cock...

 

[PersonalFavors]

I think it is only cheating if you get caught. The hard part is finding someone on the same page to cheat with. Every time I find some one curious they start talking about my butt. I don't respond.

 

[Series 6]

I think it is only cheating if you get caught. The hard part is finding someone on the same page to cheat with. Every time I find some one curious they start talking about my butt. I don't respond.

That also raises the question - what is cheating? Some people consider watching porn cheating. Others would consider sex chat in the old AOL rooms back in the day as cheating. And of course there is the obvious physical sexual encounter with a person considered cheating. But if we don't want our partner to "catch" us looking at porn, chatting online, or in bed with another person, do we know deep down that we are cheating?

 

[Just2Kinky]

How can it be cheating to go get my anus stretched by some guy when she won't even peg me?

 

[cubbyfire04]

That also raises the question - what is cheating? Some people consider watching porn cheating. Others would consider sex chat in the old AOL rooms back in the day as cheating. And of course there is the obvious physical sexual encounter with a person considered cheating. But if we don't want our partner to "catch" us looking at porn, chatting online, or in bed with another person, do we know deep down that we are cheating?

Pretty simple... You know by having an honest conversation with your partner. If you're afraid to ask, it's probably going to upset her.

 

[cubbyfire04]

How can it be cheating to go get my anus stretched by some guy when she won't even peg me?

Kinda floored by this comment. So by your definition, it isn't cheating if you go to other people when you need something your partner refuses to give you?

You should ask her this....

"Hey babe, you know how I've been wanting you to fuck me in the ass with a strap-on right? Well, since you're not interested, I thought a good compromise would be to fire up a Grinder account and find another man who's willing to pound my asshole instead... Deal?"

...let us know how that goes.

 

[hulmule]

Kinda floored by this comment. So by your definition, it isn't cheating if you go to other people when you need something your partner refuses to give you?

Cubbyfire, i do ! if the wife dont cook breakfast i go get doughnuts !! lol Trying to lighten things up !

 

[cubbyfire04]

Besides, a real cock feels much better that a fake one....lol

You'll get no argument from me, there!

 

[SuperSissy]

That also raises the question - what is cheating? Some people consider watching porn cheating. Others would consider sex chat in the old AOL rooms back in the day as cheating. And of course there is the obvious physical sexual encounter with a person considered cheating. But if we don't want our partner to "catch" us looking at porn, chatting online, or in bed with another person, do we know deep down that we are cheating?

There's that moment when your conversations are mostly about sex, and you're attracted to them, and you're flirting, and you know your partner would be upset by the content of the conversation, and you continue sex-chatting because it gives you that delicious feeling of being a naughty dirty cheat. For me, that's the line, it's mental. By the time he sticks his cock in me (or me in her) I'm well over the line. And frankly even if it never gets physical, it crossed the mental line into cheating.

 

[Mtnmike]

There's that moment when your conversations are mostly about sex, and you're attracted to them, and you're flirting, and you know your partner would be upset by the content of the conversation, and you continue sex-chatting because it gives you that delicious feeling of being a naughty dirty cheat. For me, that's the line, it's mental. By the time he sticks his cock in me (or me in her) I'm well over the line. And frankly even if it never gets physical, it crossed the mental line into cheating.

If this is the case, then I suspect 99% of people have cheated at one time or another.

 

[Just2Kinky]

Kinda floored by this comment. So by your definition, it isn't cheating if you go to other people when you need something your partner refuses to give you?

You should ask her this....

"Hey babe, you know how I've been wanting you to fuck me in the ass with a strap-on right? Well, since you're not interested, I thought a good compromise would be to fire up a Grinder account and find another man who's willing to pound my asshole instead... Deal?"

...let us know how that goes.

You seem to have lost the whole theme of this thread... hell, I'm guilty of that too.
With the theme of this thread in mind, I think I'm within the norm for guys that open their minds to male sex partners and as such, I'm acknowledging that my marriage vows are subject to interpretation where sexual activities that she won't participate in are concerned.
Each of our journeys are different and I traveled a different road to get here than you did. If you were aware of my path, you might not be so floored.
I won't defend myself to you for my beliefs nor will I judge you for yours.
Now, straighten up and play nice!

 

[cubbyfire04]

You seem to have lost the whole theme of this thread... hell, I'm guilty of that too.
With the theme of this thread in mind, I think I'm within the norm for guys that open their minds to male sex partners and as such, I'm acknowledging that my marriage vows are subject to interpretation where sexual activities that she won't participate in are concerned.
Each of our journeys are different and I traveled a different road to get here than you did. If you were aware of my path, you might not be so floored.
I won't defend myself to you for my beliefs nor will I judge you for yours.
Now, straighten up and play nice!

Apologies if my snark sounded as though I'm judging. Not the intent... If you read any of my incessant ramblings on here, you'll see there's a good chance my comment comes from a place of personal experience. You do you, but I won't "straighten up" - I like dick too much .

 

[PersonalFavors]

That also raises the question - what is cheating? Some people consider watching porn cheating. Others would consider sex chat in the old AOL rooms back in the day as cheating. And of course there is the obvious physical sexual encounter with a person considered cheating. But if we don't want our partner to "catch" us looking at porn, chatting online, or in bed with another person, do we know deep down that we are cheating?

If I were to define cheating it would be closely along the lines of her not telling me she was gonna blow a guy, lick a pussy she discovered she could lick or fuck a guy she wanted to fuck. Any of the above if I approved and was invited to at least watch... hahaha

 

[Just2Kinky]

Apologies if my snark sounded as though I'm judging. Not the intent... If you read any of my incessant ramblings on here, you'll see there's a good chance my comment comes from a place of personal experience. You do you, but I won't "straighten up" - I like dick too much .

No harm... have a great day and best wishes in the cock hunt.

 

[NotAFool]

I have no judgement of what other people choose to do or who to do as long as it is consenting between all parties involved.
With that said, I'm straight, about to turn 57 in a couple months. I had more pussy and ass from mostly exceptional looking women, and plenty of good looking and okay women. I was fortunate.
I have no curiosity or intrigue about being with a man. I do know when I see or meet a handsome man and I can say that to other people because I'm secure in my masculinity.
But, I've always loved anal play either solo or with a woman. I don't suck a dildo or think about men or that I want a real cock in my ass. It's purely another way to get off and add some dynamics to a relationship. Not all women are into it and some are a little too into it.
Maybe the fact that I've been single (not married) my whole life that at this age I still get pussy, my age and younger so I am not caught in that sexless marriage situation or where my wife won't perform certain acts of sex.
To each their own as long as no one gets hurt beyond their safe word.

 

[Just2Kinky]

I have no judgement of what other people choose to do or who to do as long as it is consenting between all parties involved.
With that said, I'm straight, about to turn 57 in a couple months. I had more pussy and ass from mostly exceptional looking women, and plenty of good looking and okay women. I was fortunate.
I have no curiosity or intrigue about being with a man. I do know when I see or meet a handsome man and I can say that to other people because I'm secure in my masculinity.
But, I've always loved anal play either solo or with a woman. I don't suck a dildo or think about men or that I want a real cock in my ass. It's purely another way to get off and add some dynamics to a relationship. Not all women are into it and some are a little too into it.
Maybe the fact that I've been single (not married) my whole life that at this age I still get pussy, my age and younger so I am not caught in that sexless marriage situation or where my wife won't perform certain acts of sex.
To each their own as long as no one gets hurt beyond their safe word.

Nicely said.
I seek out MM activity because I enjoy it and I can't get anal penetration at home. I've had ladies peg me and I've had men screw me and have concluded that warm and real is better ... at least for me.

 

[NotAFool]

Nicely said.
I seek out MM activity because I enjoy it and I can't get anal penetration at home. I've had ladies peg me and I've had men screw me and have concluded that warm and real is better ... at least for me.

Like I wrote before ... to each their own.
I can understand your feelings about that because I don't like those fake pussy/anal masturbater toys for men. They do nothing for me the way real, warm, wet flesh does. Call me weird. Hahahahaha

 

[PersonalFavors]

Like I wrote before ... to each their own.
I can understand your feelings about that because I don't like those fake pussy/anal masturbater toys for men. They do nothing for me the way real, warm, wet flesh does. Call me weird. Hahahahaha

I am in tune with the no butt stuff. Not a goal but I have enjoyed tantra relaxation techniques where the goddess found my prostate. Wonderful experience.
As for the vibrator toy when I discovered masturbation I discovered a massager in my moms bedside table. Had an attachment like a cup that fit perfectly over the head of my penis. It was like plugging into a light socket. If I could hold back my release I could, from a standing position, fire shots of cum remarkable distances. Now many years later I have a hitachi magic wand with a choice of a cup shaped attachment or a sleeve and a speed control. My girl and I live close by but in separate homes. Sometimes you just need a moment.... I like the real thing better too. But if you need to jerk off and want to spice it up. Amizon has the goods. hahaha

 

[none2_none2]

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I have no curiosity or intrigue about being with a man. I do know when I see or meet a handsome man and I can say that to other people because I'm secure in my masculinity.
But, I've always loved anal play either solo or with a woman. I don't suck a dildo or think about men or that I want a real cock in my ass. It's purely another way to get off and add some dynamics to a relationship. ...

What an interesting perspective. Plenty of men on here seem to be of the nature of "love cock, not men" phenomena. Some address it with preferring to have encounters with chicks-with-dicks, or effeminate men, or cross dressers, or if it is with another man, making sure the other guy knows that it is ONLY about his cock -- no hugging, kissing, etc. So it is interesting that someone like yourself has not made any connection what-so-ever of anal simulation to a desire for a real-life fleshy penis at some level.

For myself, I prefer romantic and sexual activities with men -- specifically just my faithful partner of 18+ years. I have absolutely no natural craving for penises myself. If I see a big penis, I don't desire it inside me or feel the need to touch it. I just wish I were bigger so that I could have been deeper inside a guy's ass.

Note: if I love the guy, a cock cums with the territory, I don't ignore his cock, I just don't obsess about it.

Specifically as to anal, I never had any interest in being penetrated. When I was young, I naively did it because older guys convinced me that only hung guys could top. Not once did I enjoy it one iota. The last time was 1985, and I don't miss it one bit.

On the other hand, nothing trips my trigger more than being inside another guy. It isn't just about the fantastic orgasm as much as it is the "connection". Unless your dealing with a male "slut", there is always a bit of hesitation for a man to let you inside him. Thus there is a real amount of trust that the man being penetrated gives you as he is allowing you to get inside him in the most venerable way and trusting that you will stop if he asks you to. I kind of get off on that emotional trust at some level.

Because I have ED, I just don't get to do it anymore.
I will add that two of the most intense physical aspects to fucking a man that can happen once in a blue moon is when a guy cums from getting fucked without anybody touching his cock. Even more intense is when the bottom man gets off while you are inside him. His sphincter muscles contract down on the top's cock which is an out of the world sensation. Again, it is all ancient history for me as my ED is so bad.

 

[klippert]

Maybe we mature men have had same sex attraction for decades. either they/ we / I am / are in a sexless marriage or late divorce, widower, struggling to meet someone. The biggest reason mature men start with the Bi thoughts; is porn, add in those other factors. perfect storm. Remember Men are testosterone driven. we need to nut, and with all the new supplements to revitalize our testosterone.... well, nuff said
you learn pretty quickly that finding another guy to suck you off is easier than dating or cheating with a woman, especially another married woman. Men you have to admit we are pretty stupid when we let our dicks think for us. Seriously, we'll reason, that letting a guy suck us off or fucking a guy isn't the same as the sexual emotion or attraction to a woman.
that brings me to these points and most importantly. M/M sex is just sex. That's another justification. there is no emotion invested for a guy. After pumping his ass and Cumming on his face. I leave. Not there to watch a romance movie, measure for carpet or try a new cookie recipe...its cum and go. finally, it's about kinks too. maybe you're into rimming or piss play. Most wives are NOT into those kinks. Factor in No sex at home, clicks of the mouse in a private search for your kink. Porn just boils it over the top.
In the end, 99.125% of the time it will remain a curiosity / fantasy. Cheating is cheating, it's not only if you get caught...that the words of a sociopath...
I guess you can be thankful for the internet, or you have an addiction like me

 

[cubbyfire04]

Maybe we mature men have had same sex attraction for decades. either they/ we / I am / are in a sexless marriage or late divorce, widower, struggling to meet someone. The biggest reason mature men start with the Bi thoughts; is porn, add in those other factors. perfect storm. Remember Men are testosterone driven. we need to nut, and with all the new supplements to revitalize our testosterone.... well, nuff said
you learn pretty quickly that finding another guy to suck you off is easier than dating or cheating with a woman, especially another married woman. Men you have to admit we are pretty stupid when we let our dicks think for us. Seriously, we'll reason, that letting a guy suck us off or fucking a guy isn't the same as the sexual emotion or attraction to a woman.
that brings me to these points and most importantly. M/M sex is just sex. That's another justification. there is no emotion invested for a guy. After pumping his ass and Cumming on his face. I leave. Not there to watch a romance movie, measure for carpet or try a new cookie recipe...its cum and go. finally, it's about kinks too. maybe you're into rimming or piss play. Most wives are NOT into those kinks. Factor in No sex at home, clicks of the mouse in a private search for your kink. Porn just boils it over the top.
In the end, 99.125% of the time it will remain a curiosity / fantasy. Cheating is cheating, it's not only if you get caught...that the words of a sociopath...
I guess you can be thankful for the internet, or you have an addiction like me

Fuck yes... I love a no-nonsense honest response. Now I need someone to come pump my ass, cum on my face and leave !

 

[CuriousMind68]

I've been bicurious my whole adult life but have not pursued it as I followed the straight and narrow path of love and marriage and monogamy.

Now at 53 in a sexless marriage (due to effects of menopause), I find my curiosities boiling up more often.

It would probably take a perfect storm opportunity to drop in my lap to finally explore my bi side. So for now online chat is it and porn of course.

Ontario Canada (durham region 905 area code).

 

[camper23]

I've been bicurious my whole adult life but have not pursued it as I followed the straight and narrow path of love and marriage and monogamy.

Now at 53 in a sexless marriage (due to effects of menopause), I find my curiosities boiling up more often.

It would probably take a perfect storm opportunity to drop in my lap to finally explore my bi side. So for now online chat is it and porn of course.

Ontario Canada (durham region 905 area code).

Hi. I'm rom that vicinity, too.

 

[CuriousMind68]

Hi. I'm rom that vicinity, too.

Let me know if you'd like to chat on Lit sometime. That's so cool you're from same area as me it seems (durham region). Sounds like we have similar bi curiosities.

 

[searchn469vegas]

i find it very interesting that men who do not get what they want at home have to still find reasons to do something they can say
is not cheating. if it is something they enjoy then they should just enjoy it. been a widow for 11 years and have realized that nothing
i do is considered cheating. hopefully the person i am with feels the same way. as long as both enjoy it why feel bad.