Litiquette VII

[SassySheDevil]

I was in Seattle visiting my best friend that I’ve known for 26yrs. We’ve stayed close throughout the crazies of life, we can finish each other’s sentences and I know in a blink of an eye when she’s attempting to feed me a load of crappola.
It was bitter sweet leaving and a teary goodbye until next time.

Today’s question: Who’s your best friend and how long have you known them?
What justifies giving someone the best friend title?
Have you grown apart over the years, closer, or on two very different paths?

I hope you managed to see some of Washingtons Beauty while you were here.. Seattle itself is a shit show at the moment. But the Views are amazing.

My best friend.. Since High School. We were friends long before she cheated with my boyfriend at the time. Years later, we made up and decided he was not worth it. I had more fun giving her shit for touching that in the end. But. We made it through that and decided that if our friendship could survive that. It must be pretty strong.
We've been through a lot together. Our babies have kind of grown up together. Her son is 6 months older than mine and ended up being my sons football hero lol My daughter shares her birthday. So they still do Birthdays together often. We go out for dinner.
When I found out my daughter would be a scheduled C Section, she had joked that I should pick her birthday. And I did. So now they share that day.
We can go without talking and pick up like we saw one another the day before. We aren't insecure with any time passing. We trust in each others love. We know that if the other ever needs anything, they will be there.
With my recent news. She called before anyone else to offer up anything she could (and lots of tears) and this woman has been through more medical issues than almost anyone else I know. I'm happy to say I was with her in almost all of those.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I’ve known my best friend for a little over 20 years. When I first met him I was like, “Who’s this douchebag?”
There was a girl involved.
But then, once I talked to him (against my will) we became immediate friends and have been ever since. We were even roommates for a couple years and if that doesn’t destroy a friendship nothing will.

I guess the title is earned over time when the person has consistently not disappointed. When you want their opinion over most others.

And most of all, when their helicopter gets shot down over hostile territory your immediate response is to go sharpen your Bowie knife and get ready for war.

 

[Endless_Night]

My bestie relationship is 26 years. We are nothing alike! Never have been, and age has only widened the gap. Every once in while we have a *why are we friends, again?* conversation.

I'm not entirely sure what keeps us together. We have exactly nothing in common. Longevity plays a part, certainly. At a guess it has something to do with what drew us together in the first place. According to her, she values my blunt honesty. I value her transparency and lack of duplicity.

And her loyalty. We are both ride or die kind of girls. Booyah.

 

[FranklyFrank]

Today’s question: Who’s your best friend and how long have you known them?
What justifies giving someone the best friend title?
Have you grown apart over the years, closer, or on two very different paths?

I have a lot of long-term friends. Some of those friendships started all the way back in first grade and carried on through high school into the present. Many of us are still in contact with each other. But there is a difference between having long-term friendships and having that one best friend. I met this pudgy, short person in ninth grade. He was even shier than I was, so I knew we were going to be friends.

As the years went by, he was no longer pudgy or shy. Lol By the time we made it to college, well we thought our majors were drinking, girls and fast cars and I was never sure of the correct order. We were off-campus roommates and felt liberated when we rented rooms in housing like something from Animal House; the kind that would have been condemned if they were situated in any place but a campus and slum-lorded out to cash-strapped students.

After college, I went to work, and he went on to grad school and then law school which took him to other states. We always managed to keep in contact and meet up on breaks and pick back up where we left off. Then, marriage came, and our friendship just added two more people into the mix, our spouses. Kids arrived, godparents were shared duties back and forth and the next thing you know, in a blink of an eye, years have gone by, you are across the country from each other! But the distance never stops us from calling a couple of times a week to check on each other and the family during this COVID-19 time or just to call and cry in our beer about our college sports team stinking up the place.

The thing is, he is the first person I call to share good news and the bad news, and I am the same first person to call for him. What justifies giving them the title best friend? Their actions and just being that person without any expectation of reward or acknowledgement. The title is meaningless if you have to pin it on or have to continuously validate it. It’s more of a natural process, a kind of thing you know it when you feel it rather when you deem it to be so.

We don’t visit more than a couple of times a year. Life’s responsibilities get in the way sometimes. But the concern and care for each other is always there. Being best friends is something that never has to be said as it’s just felt and understood. In some respects, it’s a special thing that even rises above and beyond a sibling’s bond…you were born with those connections, didn’t chose them and had to love them…right?

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Delete. Redo. No one saw that, right!

 

[QuietCanadian]

I think we missed it, but I was probably doing something nefarious. Like eating potato chips or masturbating. Or, not and, people, I'm not a heathen.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Stealing the “Howdy” this morning because I can.

So, at 9:21 tonight, it will be the 21st minute of the 21st hour of the 21st day of the 21st year of the 21st century. What will you be doing?

That would have been on the 21st correct?

 

[SMNaughtywife]

That would have been on the 21st correct?

Laughing hysterically.
Thank you.
Oh sweet Christ, I’m a flustered hot mess today.


Ok. Ok.
I’ll think of a new one real quick like.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Trying again for today’s question.

So I’m a little bit flustered today.
Started off first thing this morning and I’m trying to reel it in.
Well maybe not.
Maybe I’ll bask in my delicious hot mess all damn day.
I’m pointing blame to the 14 inches of snow we got yesterday.

Mmmhmm.....

Are you easily flustered?
Is it what someone said, a pic, gif, story, smell, memory... that can turn you into a babbling fool not knowing which way is up or down?

 

[Trekka]

*wonders aloud what got SMNaughty all flustered this morning

I mean... she forgot what day it was
By, like, a mile

 

[QuietCanadian]

There are a few select people that can get my tongue all confused pretty easily. For the most part I wouldn't say I'm early flustered, though. Work, sports, most day to day, I may think a bit if I'm confused or get a bit lost for words. But there are times when I can almost like indie put so eloquently, though my panties don't get wet. They get stretched.

*wonders aloud what got SMNaughty all flustered this morning

I mean... she forgot what day it was
By, like, a mile

I kind of assumed it was you.

 

[parker77]

*wonders aloud what got SMNaughty all flustered this morning

I mean... she forgot what day it was
By, like, a mile

weren't you paying attention...14"

 

[SMNaughtywife]

weren't you paying attention...14"

Yeah hell no! I’m not even sure what to say.
That man needs California King unders.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Yeah hell no! I’m not even sure what to say.
That man needs California King unders.

If I was him I would be pissed that it was only 18.9” and not 19”.
I bet he tells people it’s 19”

 

[QuietCanadian]

Yeah hell no! I’m not even sure what to say.
That man needs California King unders.

That was more disturbing than I expected it to be.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Quick and dirty this morning.

What’s something that happened to you that you still can’t explain?
And if you had the choice, would you change it?

 

[QuietCanadian]

I don't know. Mostly when I can't explain something that's happened to me it's that someone has shown me kindness or become a great friend. Like in my head I can't explain why someone would do such things for little old me.

I don't think I have any fun potential alien abduction stories I can't explain, but I feel as though they would erase my memory regardless.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

Quick and dirty this morning.

What’s something that happened to you that you still can’t explain?
And if you had the choice, would you change it?

In my family, in my generation, we have lost 3 children after they'd been born and blessed and welcomed and celebrated...
and while I can explain it medically, I still can't explain it. It's like trauma removes all logic.
If given the choice, I would change it.

 

[Trekka]

I cannot explain what happened the night at that Greek restaurant (seriously tho!) that someone put something in my drink and I woke up in an apartment full of waiters. I’ve never blacked out before in my life. I wanna see the instant reply from that night, one day, when I get to the other side. I wanna know what the flying actual fuck happened!

****

New question
Have I asked this before? I can’t remember

Okay so do you hunt for new kinks and fetishes and hot stuff to do? Do you just fall into it? Let someone take your hand and lead you down the rabbit hole? Or are you kinda like steady she goes? Like you liked the whole diaper thing from birth and that ain’t changing.

Ooooh subquestion! Do you think we are born with certain inherent kinks? Like an inborn proclivity toward BDSM? Or taboo things? Or, oh hell, sticking cucumbers here n there?

Sub sub question: have you ever stuck a cucumber anywhere?!

 

[QuietCanadian]

That's like nine questions, really, just saying. Away we go...

I normally just fall into it. I can't say that I've ever thought about searching a new out though. It's usually a "oh, shit, that's pretty ok, let's learn more about that. I do not mind someone leading me down the rabbit hole, especially if it's someone I really like and it's something they really like. That's one of the best ways to find one, it working for someone special makes it exciting for me too. I do go through some streaks with some, some are steady as she goes and always there, even if I don't need it all the time. Uh, not sure I was into the diaper thing at birth, but no one asked me at the time.

Sub: Born into it? I never thought about that, potentially? I think it's more likely that some early things can influence us in ways we don't think about (obvs) at the time, maybe with a little dash of born into. Maybe.

Sub Sub: Like, other than my mouth? #howhotdidthatmakeyou

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I like when he takes my hand and leads me
but there's a whole lotta trust building that comes before we hit the rabbit hole. I'm both steady and adventurous. It does tend to build on itself.. a sexual relationship..
like there are those things that are the foundation of your sexual relationship; but there is always room to laugh and play.. to explore.. to tempt. I think that the sex life is usually (with me) an extension of the rest of the relationship so it can certainly shift temperament now and then.

I may have been born into things.. but I've been reborn a time or two as well

Interesting Q

 

[hotwords229_A]

Interesting. I’ve wondered about this many times, long and hard (and throbbing).

I don’t search kinks out, but if I see something that makes me hard I will investigate it—even if it makes me a little uncomfortable. I think kinks are just that, kinks. If you like something you like it. Why wonder why?

I have a strong attraction to water, wet clothes, fun and nudity. This parallels what I saw in my first Playboy. I’ve always wondered did that wet T-shirt girl smiling, laughing, pulling off that wet tank top to reveal a pair of perfect, tan, wet breasts make me consistently attracted to those scenarios or do I remember that image because I was born to be in to that.

Either way, a boner is not to be questioned. When it arises one must beat it down until it gets up again.

I don’t have any cucumber stories, but they do make me feel inadequate.

 

[Endless_Night]

I'm in the Steady-as-She-Goes camp.


Okay, okay. More like an unmovable object.

I have, once or twice, in my submissive exploration, met with an unstoppable force and had my boundaries pushed down the rabbit hole. An occurence rarer than a super blue blood moon. Compliance is simply not my natural milieu; it does not come easy.

Sub: Ye olde nature vs nurture? I'll go with both. I can remember having thoughts that indicated certain proclivities far earlier than sexuality came into play. However, I also seem to remember reading a paper that discussed various imprint ages as far as sexual proclivities, so….

Sub Sub: Like, I think we both know the answer to that question.

 

[Endless_Night]

< Sub Sub: Like, other than my mouth? #howhotdidthatmakeyou

I LOLed.

 

[QuietCanadian]

I LOLed.

My work here is done.