Sexless Marriages

[Vitriolhack]

Small jok

The recent talk on thread reminded me of an “old” joke.

At a wedding, the groom has the biggest smile. His best man asks him, “dude, aren’t you even a bit nervous?” To which the groom answer, “no man, I am going to marry the girl who just have me the best bow job of my life. I am looking forward to a long life with her.”

Meanwhile, the maid of honour Noticed the greatest smile on her friends face and tells her, “your smile is indicative of the joy you are feeling.” The bride answers, “wouldn’t you be if you knew you just gave the last blow job of your life?”

..... perspective!

Ok, it’s a joke! Hopefully, the sarcasm made a few of you laugh!

 

[IASFPWTF]

My situation and hockeydude's are very, very similar. Are they about the same for a lot of folks?

 

[ccs29745]

I buy my own toys and he doesn’t even know I have them! He also has no idea one of them is controlled remotely by my lover in Canada You do what you have to do ultimately, when no interest is shown.

All I have to say is thank goodness for technological advances!

Bought wife toys, she don't mess with them and a couple she's thrown out.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Bought wife toys, she don't mess with them and a couple she's thrown out.

WTH you really have got problems when your woman’s throwing out sex toys!

 

[ccs29745]

WTH you really have got problems when your woman’s throwing out sex toys!

2 vibrators, a remote control egg, wrist ties, never did get her a ball gag

 

[DDBustyBrit]

2 vibrators, a remote control egg, wrist ties, never did get her a ball gag

Trust me! None of mine get thrown out, I just added to the collection

 

[Elite_Goblin]

The wife threw her small collection out when we moved.

Wasn't much, but out it went. Along with her lingerie and pushup bra.

 

[asian2015]

I cant understand how they would just throw them out, esp when they were gifts from their spouse. Horrible.

 

[Ekserb]

I am surprised to see 2 women respond to this thread. I don't know any guys in their 40's or 50's who don't want sex. I quite wrongly thought this was a guy only problem. I guess you learn something new every day. Thanks for sharing.

It's not that these men don't want or desire sex, but most men simply don't want sex only with the same woman for the rest of their lives.

I've been married for about 18 months and we have had sex with each other once in the last four or five years (May 2018, it was in a hotel we stayed in during a road trip to a family member's wedding). We have been a couple for almost ten years and in the beginning it was hot and all the time. Over time, we became so comfortable together that the idea of living with someone else felt strange, so we decided to get married.

We've had an open relationship since the beginning and that still is the case, so either one of us is allowed to have as much sex as we crave with anyone else, but we always come home to the one we want to be with.

If you got married for the sex, you are unbelievably naive. Sex and love are two different things. I get plenty of sex and I get plenty of love. They don't have to be from the same person.

 

[expertlinguist]

Though it does help, a good sex life with your life long partner is the glue that keeps you together.

 

[Ekserb]

Though it does help, a good sex life with your life long partner is the glue that keeps you together.

Are you suggesting that a marriage without sex will not last? What about someone who is injured in an accident and can no longer have sex? Is the spouse allowed to just leave because the "glue" has been removed from the relationship?

 

[expertlinguist]

Are you suggesting that a marriage without sex will not last? What about someone who is injured in an accident and can no longer have sex? Is the spouse allowed to just leave because the "glue" has been removed from the relationship?

If one is injured that bad to loose genitals, both arms and legs and a mouth then there is a problem, they'd probably be dead!

 

[ccs29745]

The wife threw her small collection out when we moved.

Wasn't much, but out it went. Along with her lingerie and pushup bra.

She keeps that to tease me.

 

[Elite_Goblin]

She keeps that to tease me.

SOMETIMES teasing is good. At least she still has them.

I bought a deck of question-cards called "Sexpectations". It was designed by marriage counselors (or something like that). The questions are to spark further dialogue between the couple. Gets you (or her) to ask questions that you may have never thought about, or just did not bring it up for one reason or the other. There are 52 cards, so you could ask 1 a week. It is also not a sex game per se. It is more about learning more about your partner and yourself with these questions.

The cards will not come in until early December. I don't know, if she will even want to check them out. But I thought it was worth a try. I thought it would be fun. Look them up on Amazon.

 

[Mtnmike]

WTH you really have got problems when your woman’s throwing out sex toys!

DD, you make me laugh, this is a sexless marriage forum lol. I have also done the same thing, to use whenever but she went off and told me to send em back, that she never ever wanted any kind of sex again !!! I ending up giving them to a couple I know and they love them. O well, after 10 years of selflessness I'm done trying to bring back intimacy to our marriage. Thanks for the laughs, I love your postings, keep it up

 

[Ekserb]

If one is injured that bad to loose genitals, both arms and legs and a mouth then there is a problem, they'd probably be dead!

OMG, people can be injured and sustain such physical and psychological trauma that they just don't want to have sex anymore. But they never stop loving their significant other.

Wait. How old are you?

 

[TTawhere]

Couple of thoughts.

If you've got partners that are throwing away lingerie, sex toys, sex-related items, it would seem that the message there is abundantly clear. They've decided that either they don't enjoy those things or they're simply "done" with them. It's a not-so-subtle hint, IMO.

There have been numerous postings by people who say things to the effect of, "Well, just have your partner give you sexual pleasure by some other means." That would be nice, but it isn't realistic for some couples. One partner or the other is "checked out" as far as sex goes. No amount of talking is going to change that for some.

There are folks here who ARE having sex, albeit infrequently. Have any of you considered that YOU might be the reason that your partner is less interested in sex with you? Have you let yourself go to the point where you've become physically unattractive to your partner? Is your treatment of your partner in the rest of your relationship making you unattractive to them? Are you not prioritizing sex and your relationship with your partner? I could write a serious missive here on this part.

Does your partner feel unattractive for some reason? Have you not told your partner that you find them beautiful/desirable/etc.? Have you forgotten the romance?

 

[Bjerget]

If you got married for the sex, you are unbelievably naive. Sex and love are two different things. I get plenty of sex and I get plenty of love. They don't have to be from the same person.

Quoted for truth!

 

[Bjerget]

Are you suggesting that a marriage without sex will not last? What about someone who is injured in an accident and can no longer have sex? Is the spouse allowed to just leave because the "glue" has been removed from the relationship?

Sure. Why are you implying that they should stay if it's not working for them? This turned weird fast. In your last post you were all pro steppin out, and now you're staying that people are obligated to be married even if it's not the same marriage they signed up for originally?

 

[ccs29745]

SOMETIMES teasing is good. At least she still has them.

I bought a deck of question-cards called "Sexpectations". It was designed by marriage counselors (or something like that). The questions are to spark further dialogue between the couple. Gets you (or her) to ask questions that you may have never thought about, or just did not bring it up for one reason or the other. There are 52 cards, so you could ask 1 a week. It is also not a sex game per se. It is more about learning more about your partner and yourself with these questions.

The cards will not come in until early December. I don't know, if she will even want to check them out. But I thought it was worth a try. I thought it would be fun. Look them up on Amazon.

Had those cards, never opened them

 

[Ekserb]

Sure. Why are you implying that they should stay if it's not working for them? This turned weird fast. In your last post you were all pro steppin out, and now you're staying that people are obligated to be married even if it's not the same marriage they signed up for originally?

I never said they should stay together. I was only saying that a couple can stay together if they love each other enough to not need sex in the relationship. If the sex is the only thing holding them together and that stops, by all means, end the entire relationship.

 

[littlemissMT]

Add another female to the list!

I’m glad to see I’m not the only girl struggling with a sexless marriage. I have a high sex drive, but after being told no on numerous occasions for one reason or another, I kind of just stopped asking and bought myself a toy. It helped me for a while, but it’s just not the same as the real deal.

 

[Mtnmike]

I’m glad to see I’m not the only girl struggling with a sexless marriage. I have a high sex drive, but after being told no on numerous occasions for one reason or another, I kind of just stopped asking and bought myself a toy. It helped me for a while, but it’s just not the same as the real deal.

Sorry you're in same boat, understand toy angle, it's not the same
Wish people like us were closer together, maybe we start a club lol.

 

[littlemissMT]

Truth!

Sorry you're in same boat, understand toy angle, it's not the same
Wish people like us were closer together, maybe we start a club lol.

Haha a club might be the right idea!

 

[IASFPWTF]

I like this club idea! Count me in