Sexless Marriages

[guns444]

Not quite totally sexless. We do have sex although not much maybe couple times a month. But she is so vanilla and unwilling to explore fantasies or get kinky it drives me crazy. Yes I like missionary but there is SOO much more that could be done

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

No. Not from a random encounter. To some degree, to each their own...

The psychopathic behavior comes in when there’s a longer term relationship, and one party really doesn’t give a damn about the other and what happens to them. Or worse, hides a health issue that affects the other partner, but goes ahead without telling them.

Personally, I’m not looking for the kind of encounter you mention above, so certainly my perceptions are filtered through those rose-colored glasses. To thine own self,, you must be true.

Now you're just backtracking and talking about something you admittedly have no concept of. My life is an open book on here and I make no apologies for it. Personally I could care less about your "rose colored glasses". In the situation I outlined, beyond 15 minutes of the encounter, I don't really care for the individual. Nor what happens to him. And I'm sure that goes both ways. It was a live in the moment moment. Not a commitment .

Also in the example, safe was mentioned for both parties. So you alluding to "hiding health issues" was totally uncalled for. I'm beginning to believe your "rose color" outlook on life comes from your eyeballs, not glasses.

 

[RichardBentwood]

How many of you don't have the balls to change things besides me?

 

[weasela]

I am in a pseudosexless marriage. We have sex approximately twice a year, if that. My wife teases, but doesn't go anywhere. I still love her dearly.

 

[TTawhere]

Now you're just backtracking and talking about something you admittedly have no concept of. My life is an open book on here and I make no apologies for it. Personally I could care less about your "rose colored glasses". In the situation I outlined, beyond 15 minutes of the encounter, I don't really care for the individual. Nor what happens to him. And I'm sure that goes both ways. It was a live in the moment moment. Not a commitment .

Also in the example, safe was mentioned for both parties. So you alluding to "hiding health issues" was totally uncalled for. I'm beginning to believe your "rose color" outlook on life comes from your eyeballs, not glasses.

Please don't judge - Yes. My rose color comes from my outlook on life and that's come with some hard-learned experiences - à chacun son goût

In a past life, I was in a very similar situation. I worked for a company with a large multi-national as a customer. I was at a business meeting in London and staying at the hotel where the meeting was. After the meeting I headed to my room. About 20 minutes later, there was a knock at my door and the customer's buyer was standing there with a bag and a bottle of whiskey. We talked about it beforehand and had both decided this was just a ONS.

At the time, I don't think either of us cared anything for the other, but were looking for the physical outcome - we were both young, attractive and safe and spent the night together. It was wonderful. By the next morning, we'd both changed our tune and wanted more. It became a multi-year fling that operated on the business relationship between the two companies and was executed all over Europe and the US and her very generous expense account. It didn't last, of course, but the emotional side of a relationship took us both by surprise. While she came across in business as a cut-throat, no-nonsense person, it was the mask she wore for work. In the morning in that. hotel bed, it became clear that emotion had snuck in. For her at first, for me a little later.

 

[ccs29745]

Don't think I would mind the sexless part of marriage if when I hold my wife and squeeze her butt or want to hold her from behind and wrap hands around her breasts, she didn't act so offended. She has Some size to her, but so what. I know She hates it and all. But do encourage her when She diets.

 

[RunningJib]

No

So lets say there's a person in our circle of friends (a friend of a friend) who I know is safe and he knows I'm safe (both of us married). A random encounter leads to a bj in a secluded room. I have no feelings for him, he has none for me.

That makes me a psychopath?

In a word no.

However, I'd offer to change your oil / fix a clogged sink for you

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

Always wondered if blowjob was considered cheating

Since we're always together, no. Can't speak for others.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

In a word no.

However, I'd offer to change your oil / fix a clogged sink for you

I've got a feeling you'd get no favors after doing either of those nasty jobs...

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

Don't think I would mind the sexless part of marriage if when I hold my wife and squeeze her butt or want to hold her from behind and wrap hands around her breasts, she didn't act so offended. She has Some size to her, but so what. I know She hates it and all. But do encourage her when She diets.

Do you diet with her?

 

[ccs29745]

Do you diet with her?

I try .snacking less front of her, not eating so much. My job is very physical, so unfortunately eat lot more, gain nothing. Told her I don't care how big she gets, I'll still love her. Tells me she don't trust me. She's waiting for me to cheat on her as her father did her mother.

Like her with extra size to her Some. Loved it when she straddled my face with her wet pussy on my face.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

I try .snacking less front of her, not eating so much. My job is very physical, so unfortunately eat lot more, gain nothing. Told her I don't care how big she gets, I'll still love her. Tells me she don't trust me. She's waiting for me to cheat on her as her father did her mother.

Like her with extra size to her Some. Loved it when she straddled my face with her wet pussy on my face.

I'm a short gal with more extra pounds than I'd like. Hubby doesn't mind but does remind me of my mother's last years. She got so big it was horrible and we've got the same body type. So it's out of concern he reminds me but doesn't harp on it.

Sounds like you guys have more issues than just her size. If you've never given her a reason to doubt your loyalty, all you can do is keep up the communication. If you have given her a reason to doubt, you've got a long road ahead of you with her family history.

 

[ccs29745]

I'm a short gal with more extra pounds than I'd like. Hubby doesn't mind but does remind me of my mother's last years. She got so big it was horrible and we've got the same body type. So it's out of concern he reminds me but doesn't harp on it.

Sounds like you guys have more issues than just her size. If you've never given her a reason to doubt your loyalty, all you can do is keep up the communication. If you have given her a reason to doubt, you've got a long road ahead of you with her family history.

The doubt came years ago when I found an old high school friend and started talking to her via text messages and words with friends game. Hell, she haff actually been my wife's hair stylist at one time before I knew who she was.

A different last name and a 300 pound weight loss made her unrecognizable. It was her voice that when I heard it is when I knew who she was.

 

[Thickdix661]

53 M, florida as well

I think we all get a little too comfortable with sex as we age and take each other for granted. I have a sex drive that would be happy with getting sex 3 times a week, but really only get it about every 8-10 days, but the sex is the same every time. The symptoms of our problems still exist and I can't blame them all on her, but it amazes me how quickly we fall back into the routine.

I chat a lot with my wife gone for 9 weeks. Hell yes I am horny and I think masturbating now is more frequent than when I was a teenager. Chats with women who start out really conservative usually end up 2 ways, either they let their guard down and really get into it, or they leave the chat.

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[ccs29745]

I'm a short gal with more extra pounds than I'd like. Hubby doesn't mind but does remind me of my mother's last years. She got so big it was horrible and we've got the same body type. So it's out of concern he reminds me but doesn't harp on it.

Sounds like you guys have more issues than just her size. If you've never given her a reason to doubt your loyalty, all you can do is keep up the communication. If you have given her a reason to doubt, you've got a long road ahead of you with her family history.

Sound fun sized to me. I keep telling people that it's not how big or small you are, it's the type of person they are.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

Sound fun sized to me. I keep telling people that it's not how big or small you are, it's the type of person they are.

I try to be.

 

[AnnieLit]

Chats with women who start out really conservative usually end up 2 ways, either they let their guard down and really get into it, or they leave the chat.

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Hm... really? Let their guard down? How conservative do you think they really are, if they go to the chat room in the first place?

 

[MutualMatureMike]

Hm... really? Let their guard down? How conservative do you think they really are, if they go to the chat room in the first place?

Maybe that's just misinterpreting whether someone clicks with you or not, I doubt very much it's anything to do with being conservative or liberal minded, don't you?

 

[AnnieLit]

Maybe that's just misinterpreting whether someone clicks with you or not, I doubt very much it's anything to do with being conservative or liberal minded, don't you?

I think he was talking about sexually conservative, not politically...

Clicks or not is always the case, calling it "letting their guard down" is different. At least to me.
You are talking about two people warming up to each other.
And his version is tricking woman into doing something she did not want to do.

 

[MutualMatureMike]

I think he was talking about sexually conservative, not politically...

Clicks or not is always the case, calling it "letting their guard down" is different. At least to me.
You are talking about two people warming up to each other.
And his version is tricking woman into doing something she did not want to do.

Oh, I didn't realise he was going down that road, not my scene. Without the mutual warming, what's the point, and we're all human, a bit of sensitivity to one another wouldn't go amiss would it. (I wasn't meaning politics by the way).

 

[hersheycandyman2012]

In my case, it is her hormone levels have dropped so much and her sex drive followed suit.....

Its frustrating as hell, only because all was well and then BAM, nothing. I knew I wasn't the only one struggling with this, perhaps this thread will help some of us cope better

The same for me. I have even stopped asking her because I know she just doesn't have the urge anymore. It is very frustrating to say the least.

 

[ccs29745]

The same for me. I have even stopped asking her because I know she just doesn't have the urge anymore. It is very frustrating to say the least.

This thread has helped me allot. Never been able to talk out my problems. Wife keeps saying she's not interested, hardly let's me touch her and when I compliment her, blows it off as if to say whatever.

Tried talking to her Monday, got silent treatment.

 

[Crownvic]

This thread has helped me allot. Never been able to talk out my problems. Wife keeps saying she's not interested, hardly let's me touch her and when I compliment her, blows it off as if to say whatever.

Tried talking to her Monday, got silent treatment.

Talking about copping an attitude..

 

[TTawhere]

This thread has helped me allot. Never been able to talk out my problems. Wife keeps saying she's not interested, hardly let's me touch her and when I compliment her, blows it off as if to say whatever.

Tried talking to her Monday, got silent treatment.

Same-same. When it first cropped up as an issue for us it was vaginal pain and a certain shift in desire. We talked to each other about it and talked to various doctors about the issue, but to no avail. She has some medical issues and we suspected the particular one we knew about. Turns out that may have been the cause of the pain, but a second undiagnosed issue was the cause of the lack of desire. Then menopause hit and she basically told me she had no interest in giving or trying to receive sexual pleasure. It is the elephant in the room we no longer discuss.

 

[ccs29745]

Same-same. When it first cropped up as an issue for us it was vaginal pain and a certain shift in desire. We talked to each other about it and talked to various doctors about the issue, but to no avail. She has some medical issues and we suspected the particular one we knew about. Turns out that may have been the cause of the pain, but a second undiagnosed issue was the cause of the lack of desire. Then menopause hit and she basically told me she had no interest in giving or trying to receive sexual pleasure. It is the elephant in the room we no longer discuss.

Wife had mention it being painful before, I'm not that big, so I didn't quite understand what she meant.