Social Experiment - Ladies, Send a PM to a Random Man on Lit for a Change

[_NCguy]

Lists be damned...

You know, Chris makes an excellent point about settling. I'm a fat guy, and society tells me that I have to lower my standards because I will never meet the minimum standards of any woman. But you know, I also am intelligent, funny, sweet, romantic, kind, considerate, generous. I'm not the most organized or energetic...I can be lazy and sloppy. Not bio hazard messy, but I'll never keep a perfect house.

I don't cheat, do not say hurtful things intentionally. I will NEVER EVER hit a woman, I'll walk away first. I don't drink or do any drugs. I smoke cigarettes and can be a bit moody and sad. I'm a freak in bed and love to cuddle.

So why the hell do I have to settle??

I see it as finding a person you can mesh with. All those people with endless lists of do this but don’t do that, well they don’t get it I think. I’m looking for a woman who can take me at my best and my worst and still want me and love me. I’ll see her at her best and worst too and we will fit together, not perfectly, but we will fit each other and it will be a great experience for both of us. Lists be damned, give me a flexible woman who is forgiving of my faults as I am of hers every time.

Someone said it earlier in several responses and above but it needs repeating I think. I don’t hit or intentionally hurt anyone, ever. I think I’m a decent guy too and when my girl walks into my life, I hope I recognize her and do whatever I can to show her I adore her for the rest of my life. Yeah, peg me a romantic but I am a guy and sometimes I miss stuff even when I don’t want to. That’s my 2 cents and I’m sticking to it.

 

[Chris_Michael]

You know, Chris makes an excellent point about settling. I'm a fat guy, and society tells me that I have to lower my standards because I will never meet the minimum standards of any woman. But you know, I also am intelligent, funny, sweet, romantic, kind, considerate, generous. I'm not the most organized or energetic...I can be lazy and sloppy. Not bio hazard messy, but I'll never keep a perfect house.

I don't cheat, do not say hurtful things intentionally. I will NEVER EVER hit a woman, I'll walk away first. I don't drink or do any drugs. I smoke cigarettes and can be a bit moody and sad. I'm a freak in bed and love to cuddle.

So why the hell do I have to settle??

It’s funny. When men post like this, they’re “beta,” whiney, bitchy, and not valuable as partners. When women post like this, they’re empowering and brave.

What do you want in a woman?

“A woman with a nice body to fuck me right now!”

OMG WHAT A PERV!

What about you, Chris?

“A woman who is loyal to me?”

Hey maybe you should join a dating site. This is Lit. What do you expecf? It’s a porn site.

*facepalm*

 

[JerseyJade]

It’s funny. When men post like this, they’re “beta,” whiney, bitchy, and not valuable as partners. When women post like this, they’re empowering and brave.

What do you want in a woman?

“A woman with a nice body to fuck me right now!”

OMG WHAT A PERV!

What about you, Chris?

“A woman who is loyal to me?”

Hey maybe you should join a dating site. This is Lit. What do you expecf? It’s a porn site.

*facepalm*

You do realize you're being whiney and bitchy right now, don't you?

 

[Chris_Michael]

Testing the Ignore feature now.

Oh hey, working pretty good.

 

[JerseyJade]

Testing the Ignore feature now.

Oh hey, working pretty good.

Seriously? You put me on ignore? You really can't take someone kidding around with you, can you? I am so done with this thread

 

[wildchild24143]

Seriously? You put me on ignore? You really can't take someone kidding around with you, can you? I am so done with this thread

Please don’t,

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

It’s funny. When men post like this, they’re “beta,” whiney, bitchy, and not valuable as partners. When women post like this, they’re empowering and brave.

What do you want in a woman?

“A woman with a nice body to fuck me right now!”

OMG WHAT A PERV!

What about you, Chris?

“A woman who is loyal to me?”

Hey maybe you should join a dating site. This is Lit. What do you expecf? It’s a porn site.

*facepalm*

Yeahh, it does definitely seem as if everything is about aggression and competition and all that revenge of the nerds bullshit. Like we're all permanently stuck in high school circa 1980 something.

Unfortunately, just as women have been forced into behaviors due to traditional gender roles, so have men. There are expectations that are completely unreasonable and in fact false.

Women have been taught that the male they should seek out as the best mate, is the most aggressive 'alpha' male they can find. But in reality, in nature, it is the beta who teaches the cubs, protects the pack while the Alpha is away hunting and- oh yeah, WE ARE NOT FUCKING WOLVES!

The Alpha is never going to stay put and take care of his family, he will never be loyal, he will cheat, he will roam, he will slap her around. Its just a part of the personality type they have. But nobody will ever admit this.

*shrugs* Especially the women who run Lit, and their friends.

 

[Chris_Michael]

Yeahh, it does definitely seem as if everything is about aggression and competition and all that revenge of the nerds bullshit. Like we're all permanently stuck in high school circa 1980 something.

Unfortunately, just as women have been forced into behaviors due to traditional gender roles, so have men. There are expectations that are completely unreasonable and in fact false.

Women have been taught that the male they should seek out as the best mate, is the most aggressive 'alpha' male they can find. But in reality, in nature, it is the beta who teaches the cubs, protects the pack while the Alpha is away hunting and- oh yeah, WE ARE NOT FUCKING WOLVES!

The Alpha is never going to stay put and take care of his family, he will never be loyal, he will cheat, he will roam, he will slap her around. Its just a part of the personality type they have. But nobody will ever admit this.

*shrugs* Especially the women who run Lit, and their friends.

Well, I don't really want to detail out alpha vs beta since I'm not a biologist. But surely, there is some importance of that behavior from an evolutionary standpoint. Unless you believe in some divine being, which I don't.

I saw her post from the other guy's quote.

She says she's joking. Imagine if a guy were to say something "joking" about a woman who was expressing views that were "whiney" or "bitchy." He'd get fucking stomped on.

It's a perfect example of what I was originally referring to. And she, of all people, was the perfect person to illustrate my point.

 

[Wetsider]

Evening all! The night shift had the weekend off, it's back in full effect.

Looks like I missed up bunch of excitement and some folks not feeling great about life right now.

Lemme just say that I think everyone feels that way to one degree or another, we all just handle it differently.

In the interest of lightening the mood, I'll let you in on something. I'm a serious hard rock and heavy metal fan. Loud guitars, powerful vocals, mystical lyrics, leather and steel.

But you know what always makes me smile and sing cheesy lyrics? Meatloaf... I'm a fan of the man and the meal. They are both guilty pleasure comfort to me.

Since I can't invite anyone over for dinner, here's something that always makes me feel a little better.

https://youtu.be/k5hWWe-ts2s

 

[navytime09]

Hello my friend, I hope this night find yourself and all the other random PM peeps in happy regards.

 

[Froya]

I'm starting to feel sleepy here. How're you tonight, navy?

 

[navytime09]

Better after a good nights rest.

Looking through the thread, happy to find it well and thriving. Great job to all contributors, especially CMM

 

[Froya]

Better after a good nights rest.

Looking through the thread, happy to find it well and thriving. Great job to all contributors, especially CMM

I think a good night's rest sounds like exactly the right thing.

 

[Wetsider]

Hello my friend, I hope this night find yourself and all the other random PM peeps in happy regards.

Just trucking through the night, spreading the gospel of Meatloaf.

Feeling ok, had a nice long snooze before work. As you pointed out, everything is better after a good rest.

 

[pikmin1388]

Morning everyone
It did get very serious last night , think me and Chris nearly killed it lol
And that would be a huge shame

 

[RustyIron]

Morning everyone
It did get very serious last night , think me and Chris nearly killed it lol
And that would be a huge shame

Yeah it did get a bit tense for where I sat reading, need to chill a bit, it would be a shame if it got killed. It's been good reading and playful up to now.

 

[pikmin1388]

Yeah it did get a bit tense for where I sat reading, need to chill a bit, it would be a shame if it got killed. It's been good reading and playful up to now.

People can't be fun all the time we are allowed an off day lol
Just need to get Chris in fun mode again or i might find another guy to torment

 

[RustyIron]

People can't be fun all the time we are allowed an off day lol
Just need to get Chris in fun mode again or i might find another guy to torment

Yeah you are right everyone has bad days, sometimes it's better to walk away take a break, and come back when you feel better, than to get upset and cranky.

I am a bit sad Gracie left actually, Chris gave her a hard time to some degree, but she was so funny, and witty with her comebacks, she was just so funny.

 

[Wetsider]

Yeah you are right everyone has bad days, sometimes it's better to walk away take a break, and come back when you feel better, than to get upset and cranky.

Strong advice. It's only the internet after all... I generally try not to get involved in online conflict. It's really a zero-sum game. Nobody wins the internet, and we all do and say things we regret later.

I suspect we all know that words can be weapons. I just try to choose mine carefully.

 

[RustyIron]

Strong advice. It's only the internet after all... I generally try not to get involved in online conflict. It's really a zero-sum game. Nobody wins the internet, and we all do and say things we regret later.

I suspect we all know that words can be weapons. I just try to choose mine carefully.

Year your right nobody wins and there is really no point to it.

But sometimes I guess people need to unload, and if they have no one else to listen to them, or talk to, the interwebs cop a blast. I suppose it's better than bottling it all up.

Words can be very vicious indeed and hurt deeply, so can tone even with the written word.

 

[Wetsider]

Year your right nobody wins and there is really no point to it.

But sometimes I guess people need to unload, and if they have no one else to listen to them, or talk to, the interwebs cop a blast. I suppose it's better than bottling it all up.

Words can be very vicious indeed and hurt deeply, so can tone even with the written word.

All true statements.

 

[Ins_spacetime87]

Morning all! How are you all today. Has everyones mood improved by a good nights sleep?

Love,
-St

 

[RustyIron]

Morning all! How are you all today. Has everyones mood improved by a good nights sleep?

Love,
-St

Evening here and no sleep yet, but I hope all is well in the world today.

 

[Ins_spacetime87]

Evening here and no sleep yet, but I hope all is well in the world today.

A good cup of tea in the evening can improve ones mood as well !

 

[pikmin1388]

Morning everyone I'm not a tea drinker or coffee lol
I prefer juice ,
anyone up to anything more exciting than doing chores ?