Dear Litster... (continued)

[Sexybritches69]

Dear Litsters,

As I'm sure so many of you know and for those who do not, you will now.

When I first joined here, I had no clue what to expect. This being an adult site and all. Adding in being married, happily or unhappily, I wanted to protect my RL the best I could. So yes, I hid the fact that I was married, and yes in a way I agree is deplorable and will admit, unforgivable. My actions were never meant to hurt anyone, but I know that they have. To those that they have I truely apologize.

I came here initially to escape what has become of my marriage, even if only in my mind, for the stories and possibly to pursue the idea of writing my own and publishing them. That is when I found the forums. After a few months here, as well as meeting some, how can I put it, not so good people initially, I had already created this lie, and most people here were aware of it. Never in a million years would I have thought I'd meet some of the best people ever in my life on a porn site.

My marriage went a direction that saddens me. It was something that over the last 5 years has become more distant than anything imaginable. Who would have ever had thought I'd know more about people here than my own wife. But, when you spend everyday talking with people and your wife is not present due to work schedules and her own decisions, one can see how that is possible. See 5 years ago, we fostered and eventually adopted 3 kids, a 4 year old and newborn twins. My wife had always wanted to be a stay at home mom and we sat down discussed this, crunched the numbers and agreed it was best. I ended up taking a position at my job working over night due to a differential that would help us financial once we lost her income. When she went to resign from her job, they offered her a promotion to stay. Without even discussing this with me, she accepted the position, which ironically is nights, pretty much opposite of mine.

After 5 years it is what it is. We see each other maybe 3 hours a day unless vacation is used and rarely is. Guess the thing I struggle with the most is, she found her job more important than our marriage and even our kids. My kids are my world and my life. I nursed them on my own as infants, which is a chore with twins. I have a special bond with the three of them that I would not trade for anything in the world.

Well this turned out to be a ramble, but I'll leave it. I know in the eyes of many I am scumb here and will never be accepted again, and will I take that. I could have returned under an alt, but didn't. Deciding to face the demons I created. Again, I am truely sorry to those I have hurt, and hope everyone here all the best in whatever you seek. There are some great people here.

Signed,

Elvis has left the building.

:-( this is very disappointing. I felt so badly for you. And now I still do, but for different reasons.

Man, stuff like this makes me feel so stupid. I don’t want to be a cynical person. I want to be helpful and kind but then this sort of thing makes me feel dumb for believing people. Idk. Maybe I am dumb. I must be because this has happened so often.

I do hope that you get the help you need.

~Gullible

 

[JJonah]

Dear Confessing -

I dont know you but that sucks pretty majorly.
I will say there is bravery in coming clean. I hope those that matter to you can forgive and move forward.

Best wishes
Nobodys perfect

This. Well said.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Dear Nobody's Perfect,

Bravery?

Coming clean after you've done a crime is not bravery. That's called trying to save face to get a reduced sentence.

While I agree that nobody is perfect, it is perfectly unacceptable to gain friends through deceit.

Signed,
Even when I was married and hated my marriage I didn't lie about it...

 

[Kimleigh]

Dear not so subtle,

That's the story I was given.

Signed,
Not too surprised

Ha! Didn’t realize so many women were played.

Add another +1!

 

[JJonah]

Dear Queen,

Nobody used the word “acceptable.” Not even him. Nor did anyone force him to post this tonight.

Signed,

A guy who’s not walked that particular mile in someone else’s moccasins.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Dear Sleepy Litster,

I can't wait until you wake and I get to hear your sweet voice. I love the time we spend together sharing our day, laughing together, setting the world to rights.

Nine months ago you told me to take a chance and get to know you. I'm so very glad I did. I've no regrets and nothing but affection for you.

Waiting to win the Lottery,

Your bfg

 

[SoulAssasin247]

Dear Litsters,

As I'm sure so many of you know and for those who do not, you will now.

When I first joined here, I had no clue what to expect. This being an adult site and all. Adding in being married, happily or unhappily, I wanted to protect my RL the best I could. So yes, I hid the fact that I was married, and yes in a way I agree is deplorable and will admit, unforgivable. My actions were never meant to hurt anyone, but I know that they have. To those that they have I truely apologize.

I came here initially to escape what has become of my marriage, even if only in my mind, for the stories and possibly to pursue the idea of writing my own and publishing them. That is when I found the forums. After a few months here, as well as meeting some, how can I put it, not so good people initially, I had already created this lie, and most people here were aware of it. Never in a million years would I have thought I'd meet some of the best people ever in my life on a porn site.

My marriage went a direction that saddens me. It was something that over the last 5 years has become more distant than anything imaginable. Who would have ever had thought I'd know more about people here than my own wife. But, when you spend everyday talking with people and your wife is not present due to work schedules and her own decisions, one can see how that is possible. See 5 years ago, we fostered and eventually adopted 3 kids, a 4 year old and newborn twins. My wife had always wanted to be a stay at home mom and we sat down discussed this, crunched the numbers and agreed it was best. I ended up taking a position at my job working over night due to a differential that would help us financial once we lost her income. When she went to resign from her job, they offered her a promotion to stay. Without even discussing this with me, she accepted the position, which ironically is nights, pretty much opposite of mine.

After 5 years it is what it is. We see each other maybe 3 hours a day unless vacation is used and rarely is. Guess the thing I struggle with the most is, she found her job more important than our marriage and even our kids. My kids are my world and my life. I nursed them on my own as infants, which is a chore with twins. I have a special bond with the three of them that I would not trade for anything in the world.

Well this turned out to be a ramble, but I'll leave it. I know in the eyes of many I am scumb here and will never be accepted again, and will I take that. I could have returned under an alt, but didn't. Deciding to face the demons I created. Again, I am truely sorry to those I have hurt, and hope everyone here all the best in whatever you seek. There are some great people here.

Signed,

Elvis has left the building.

It may be horrible lie, if you said your wife was dead, bit it's n irredeemable. There are many who have done horrible acts and spent their whole life making it up and finally seem as a redeemed human being. Yes you hurt people and told a lie, but only by actions and kind acts you can be redeemed. You're not the first or the last person to lie online or in person. I don't know what your future will be, but just know if you start doing the right thing almost anyone can be redeemed publicly and in the eyes of God

 

[Deacon_Voss]

Dear Moccasin boy,

I don't need to walk ten feet in a guy's shoes, to know that deceit is the wrong path, ever. Some of us tell the truth, which I guess is becoming a strange concept.

Signed,

I don't give a shit, he gives us all a bad name.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

Dear Moccasin boy,

I don't need to walk ten feet in a guy's shoes, to know that deceit is the wrong path, ever. Some of us tell the truth, which I guess is becoming a strange concept.

Signed,

I don't give a shit, he gives us all a bad name.

Not trying to argue with you and I agree it was a scumbag move, but to suggest he's irredeemable is ridiculous( not saying you accused him of being irredeemable ). The guy deserves the backlash, but he's apologizing and admitting he's wrong. Now only time and actions will tell if he means it and is worthy of redemption.

 

[JJonah]

Dear non-Shitgiver,

You’re preaching to a choir that doesn’t need the lesson. But explanations aren’t the same thing as excuses.

Signed,

Moccasin boy

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Dear Moccasin wearer

I used the word "unacceptable" because that's the word I choose to describe this behavior. Matters not to me whether anyone agrees or disagrees with me.

And while people can believe that the aforementioned, heartfelt confessional could have been born out of remorse, the fact remains had the truth not come to light, the post above would not exist.

Not unsympathetic to his plight, just prefer people to own their pain instead of making shit up. Anyone who's in a bad relationship, who is doing all they can to make it better (or definitively end it) will get infinitely more support than those who pretend there's not a problem.

Signed,
I'm not heartless but I guess Lit is just one great big LARP

 

[JJonah]

Dear Moccasin wearer

I used the word "unacceptable" because that's the word I choose to describe this behavior. Matters not to me whether anyone agrees or disagrees with me.

And while people can believe that the aforementioned, heartfelt confessional could have been born out of remorse, the fact remains had the truth not come to light, the post above would not exist.

Not unsympathetic to his plight, just prefer people to own their pain instead of making shit up. Anyone who's in a bad relationship, who is doing all they can to make it better (or definitively end it) will get infinitely more support than those who pretend there's not a problem.

Signed,
I'm not heartless but I guess Lit is just one great big LARP

Dear Queen,

Agree 99%.

More like 99.8%.

Good night,

Moccasins

 

[SoulAssasin247]

Dear non-Shitgiver,

You’re preaching to a choir that doesn’t need the lesson. But explanations aren’t the same thing as excuses.

Signed,

Moccasin boy

No one ever thinks they need a lesson, until years down the road and they gain perspective. For all I know he could be full of shit, I don't know, but he's not irredeemable. Almost no one is irredeemable. Only actions will tell

 

[HBergeron]

Dear Litsters,

As I'm sure so many of you know and for those who do not, you will now.

When I first joined here, I had no clue what to expect. This being an adult site and all. Adding in being married, happily or unhappily, I wanted to protect my RL the best I could. So yes, I hid the fact that I was married, and yes in a way I agree is deplorable and will admit, unforgivable. My actions were never meant to hurt anyone, but I know that they have. To those that they have I truely apologize.

I came here initially to escape what has become of my marriage, even if only in my mind, for the stories and possibly to pursue the idea of writing my own and publishing them. That is when I found the forums. After a few months here, as well as meeting some, how can I put it, not so good people initially, I had already created this lie, and most people here were aware of it. Never in a million years would I have thought I'd meet some of the best people ever in my life on a porn site.

My marriage went a direction that saddens me. It was something that over the last 5 years has become more distant than anything imaginable. Who would have ever had thought I'd know more about people here than my own wife. But, when you spend everyday talking with people and your wife is not present due to work schedules and her own decisions, one can see how that is possible. See 5 years ago, we fostered and eventually adopted 3 kids, a 4 year old and newborn twins. My wife had always wanted to be a stay at home mom and we sat down discussed this, crunched the numbers and agreed it was best. I ended up taking a position at my job working over night due to a differential that would help us financial once we lost her income. When she went to resign from her job, they offered her a promotion to stay. Without even discussing this with me, she accepted the position, which ironically is nights, pretty much opposite of mine.

After 5 years it is what it is. We see each other maybe 3 hours a day unless vacation is used and rarely is. Guess the thing I struggle with the most is, she found her job more important than our marriage and even our kids. My kids are my world and my life. I nursed them on my own as infants, which is a chore with twins. I have a special bond with the three of them that I would not trade for anything in the world.

Well this turned out to be a ramble, but I'll leave it. I know in the eyes of many I am scumb here and will never be accepted again, and will I take that. I could have returned under an alt, but didn't. Deciding to face the demons I created. Again, I am truely sorry to those I have hurt, and hope everyone here all the best in whatever you seek. There are some great people here.

Signed,

Elvis has left the building.

Who even knows how much of THIS shit is true? Maybe it seems that by incurring wrath by 'coming clean' it lends authenticity, but why even believe his 'explanation'? I heard about the phony 'dead wife' guy months and months ago, so some people knew - maybe only now did his shit blow up so much that he'll throw anything out to mitigate his deplorable actions. "Coming to Jesus" for redemption my ass...

 

[Deacon_Voss]

I never said he was unforgivable. I just dont need to walk in his shoes.

He also has a profile that says he's single.

 

[Farawyn]

I never said he was unforgivable. I just dont need to walk in his shoes.

He also has a profile that says he's single.

Low,

No one can change their profiles.
MMW has one that says CJ’s girl. She corrected it with her signature.
And that’s all I’m gonna say about this.

Signed,
Oh so tired.

 

[Deacon_Voss]

Low,

No one can change their profiles.
MMW has one that says CJ’s girl. She corrected it with her signature.
And that’s all I’m gonna say about this.

Signed,
Oh so tired.

Sorry, my short answers never work

I know we cant change our profiles, which was my point.

 

[Jada59]

Dear Litsters,

As I'm sure so many of you know and for those who do not, you will now.

When I first joined here, I had no clue what to expect. This being an adult site and all. Adding in being married, happily or unhappily, I wanted to protect my RL the best I could. So yes, I hid the fact that I was married, and yes in a way I agree is deplorable and will admit, unforgivable. My actions were never meant to hurt anyone, but I know that they have. To those that they have I truely apologize.

I came here initially to escape what has become of my marriage, even if only in my mind, for the stories and possibly to pursue the idea of writing my own and publishing them. That is when I found the forums. After a few months here, as well as meeting some, how can I put it, not so good people initially, I had already created this lie, and most people here were aware of it. Never in a million years would I have thought I'd meet some of the best people ever in my life on a porn site.

My marriage went a direction that saddens me. It was something that over the last 5 years has become more distant than anything imaginable. Who would have ever had thought I'd know more about people here than my own wife. But, when you spend everyday talking with people and your wife is not present due to work schedules and her own decisions, one can see how that is possible. See 5 years ago, we fostered and eventually adopted 3 kids, a 4 year old and newborn twins. My wife had always wanted to be a stay at home mom and we sat down discussed this, crunched the numbers and agreed it was best. I ended up taking a position at my job working over night due to a differential that would help us financial once we lost her income. When she went to resign from her job, they offered her a promotion to stay. Without even discussing this with me, she accepted the position, which ironically is nights, pretty much opposite of mine.

After 5 years it is what it is. We see each other maybe 3 hours a day unless vacation is used and rarely is. Guess the thing I struggle with the most is, she found her job more important than our marriage and even our kids. My kids are my world and my life. I nursed them on my own as infants, which is a chore with twins. I have a special bond with the three of them that I would not trade for anything in the world.

Well this turned out to be a ramble, but I'll leave it. I know in the eyes of many I am scumb here and will never be accepted again, and will I take that. I could have returned under an alt, but didn't. Deciding to face the demons I created. Again, I am truely sorry to those I have hurt, and hope everyone here all the best in whatever you seek. There are some great people here.

Signed,

Elvis has left the building.

I don't know you. I don't think we ever talked. But I appreciate your coming clean. It must have been hard to do that. Hopefully those who did get hurt can forgive you.

*Hug*

 

[Jada59]

Dear Litsters. I am wearing moccasins. I really am! Brown ones. Old Friend Peace Mocs. Somehow I feel the need to confess this.

These mocs do not lie! Unless of course I am in the thread about posting baseless lies. Then I will lie. But it will be baseless!

And dear one particular Lister (you know who you are), I am happy, happy, happy and you know why!

 

[Icy1]

Dear Litsters,

As I'm sure so many of you know and for those who do not, you will now.

When I first joined here, I had no clue what to expect. This being an adult site and all. Adding in being married, happily or unhappily, I wanted to protect my RL the best I could. So yes, I hid the fact that I was married, and yes in a way I agree is deplorable and will admit, unforgivable. My actions were never meant to hurt anyone, but I know that they have. To those that they have I truely apologize.

I came here initially to escape what has become of my marriage, even if only in my mind, for the stories and possibly to pursue the idea of writing my own and publishing them. That is when I found the forums. After a few months here, as well as meeting some, how can I put it, not so good people initially, I had already created this lie, and most people here were aware of it. Never in a million years would I have thought I'd meet some of the best people ever in my life on a porn site.

My marriage went a direction that saddens me. It was something that over the last 5 years has become more distant than anything imaginable. Who would have ever had thought I'd know more about people here than my own wife. But, when you spend everyday talking with people and your wife is not present due to work schedules and her own decisions, one can see how that is possible. See 5 years ago, we fostered and eventually adopted 3 kids, a 4 year old and newborn twins. My wife had always wanted to be a stay at home mom and we sat down discussed this, crunched the numbers and agreed it was best. I ended up taking a position at my job working over night due to a differential that would help us financial once we lost her income. When she went to resign from her job, they offered her a promotion to stay. Without even discussing this with me, she accepted the position, which ironically is nights, pretty much opposite of mine.

After 5 years it is what it is. We see each other maybe 3 hours a day unless vacation is used and rarely is. Guess the thing I struggle with the most is, she found her job more important than our marriage and even our kids. My kids are my world and my life. I nursed them on my own as infants, which is a chore with twins. I have a special bond with the three of them that I would not trade for anything in the world.

Well this turned out to be a ramble, but I'll leave it. I know in the eyes of many I am scumb here and will never be accepted again, and will I take that. I could have returned under an alt, but didn't. Deciding to face the demons I created. Again, I am truely sorry to those I have hurt, and hope everyone here all the best in whatever you seek. There are some great people here.

Signed,

Elvis has left the building.

Is Elvis a clue as to who you will be on your next time around lit?

 

[emmy_christina]

Dear you..

Are you the one who lied about having a dead wife?

There is already so much scum, I'm trying to keep up with who's who.

Signed,
Not one for Subtlety

Hey sweetie, yes he was.
He told me in a pm, that his wife died of breast cancer, while I was going through it.
So reading his post, make me sick to my stomach. You can hide that you are married, but making up a sob story about a dead wife, that is sick. Specially with so many persons going through the F*** you cancer.

 

[Angedesoleil]

Dear Nobody's Perfect,

Bravery?

Coming clean after you've done a crime is not bravery. That's called trying to save face to get a reduced sentence.

While I agree that nobody is perfect, it is perfectly unacceptable to gain friends through deceit.

Signed,
Even when I was married and hated my marriage I didn't lie about it...

Yep. +1 to this.
I've taken a ton of sideways comments about my relationship status, and explained it politely to those who cared to ask.
In the end, those to whom it mattered either accepted life as I chose to live It, or they walked.
Never once have I lied.
The problem is that people that it would matter to are people who are trying to form a lasting bond with you. With this particular lie it isn't innocent. It is manipulative with no possible explanation but that you were just playing with emotions.
You CAN'T have been trying to form a lasting bond with anyone if you lied about this.
That's not to say us married folks who have no reasonable expectation or intention of leaving our spouses aren't in it for the long haul... we can be. But at a minimum we are clear that that is off the table.

Not only did it tick men off because it paints them with a broad brush... but myself as a married Litster too.

Signed;
I'm already cranky so meh. Take my grrr with a grain of salt.

 

[Jada59]

Oh boy. Are we all having fun yet?

I am. But I'm not a part of this tomfoolery.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Oh boy. Are we all having fun yet?

I just wandered in and I'm like "uh I gotta go". Lol

 

[Angedesoleil]

Dear Litster with the most awesome thread;
You made my day. We'd never spoken, but I'm kinda non bi girl crushing on you right now.

Ok ♡
~ Broadway babe in hiding