The "Fuck you cancer!" thread

[DeepGreenEyes]

Today is the second month anniversary of my brother's death. I miss him terribly and still have the moments when I forget he is gone. I actually think, "I need to call B" or "I need to tell B"...and then it hits me again.

I HATE this "new normal"...I truly hate it.

That awareness is so painful. I get it all the time for my mom, and it's been more than a year. I expect her to call or think I'll drop by and see her garden. Then it hits you. I'm sorry.

You are such a comforting influence on this thread and I just wanted you to know how nice it is sometimes to see other survivors who simply get it....

I second this. The av is Tigger, but the reassurance is Kanga.

 

[Babyslave]

I don't know of anyone, save one (perhaps two) kind soul(s) will remember me here, but I wanted to send love and support, hugs and hand holding to everyone here who is hurting, has hurt, will hurt.

2016 was rough, and 2017 is not appearing to be an improvement. So many friends and loved ones diagnosed; so many others have passed.

I DO want to mention something that DGE has imparted to many - Save First Base.

Sigh.

My sister was diagnosed with breast cancer. She'd known something was seriously wrong for over a year. OVER A YEAR people. Fear kept her from going to the doctor or sharing her fears with anyone. She is currently undergoing a very harsh intense treatment, though the fear now is that it is too late. My sister is a raging bitch, and after finally being forced to face the - situation she is like a terrier with a bone. Relentless. Perhaps that tenacity will help the fight.

I digress. My sister is not the point of this ramble. The point is - we all know our bodies, and if something feels off, Please, for the love of whatever you believe in - GO - ask - get tested - get answers. Do not wait a year, a month, a week. Go now. Right now.

Furthermore - if you, or your loved one, friend or yourself receive a brush-off, or you feel as though the doctor you are seeing doesn't take your concerns seriously - go to someone else and get the attention and tests you need. Doctors are mortal beings like the rest of us. YOU must be your own advocate. Push, insist, demand. Get what you need to find answers. Find a friend to lean on, to have your back, to give a shove should you need that. There is nothing wrong with needing someone.

I will go now, while shouting at the top of my lungs, Fuck You Cancer!

xoxo - bsv

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Babyslave! Such wise words. I'm sorry about your sister, but glad to hear she is resolute.



FYC!

 

[cmslt2326]

I don't know of anyone, save one (perhaps two) kind soul(s) will remember me here, but I wanted to send love and support, hugs and hand holding to everyone here who is hurting, has hurt, will hurt.

2016 was rough, and 2017 is not appearing to be an improvement. So many friends and loved ones diagnosed; so many others have passed.

I DO want to mention something that DGE has imparted to many - Save First Base.

Sigh.

My sister was diagnosed with breast cancer. She'd known something was seriously wrong for over a year. OVER A YEAR people. Fear kept her from going to the doctor or sharing her fears with anyone. She is currently undergoing a very harsh intense treatment, though the fear now is that it is too late. My sister is a raging bitch, and after finally being forced to face the - situation she is like a terrier with a bone. Relentless. Perhaps that tenacity will help the fight.

I digress. My sister is not the point of this ramble. The point is - we all know our bodies, and if something feels off, Please, for the love of whatever you believe in - GO - ask - get tested - get answers. Do not wait a year, a month, a week. Go now. Right now.

Furthermore - if you, or your loved one, friend or yourself receive a brush-off, or you feel as though the doctor you are seeing doesn't take your concerns seriously - go to someone else and get the attention and tests you need. Doctors are mortal beings like the rest of us. YOU must be your own advocate. Push, insist, demand. Get what you need to find answers. Find a friend to lean on, to have your back, to give a shove should you need that. There is nothing wrong with needing someone.

I will go now, while shouting at the top of my lungs, Fuck You Cancer!

xoxo - bsv

Thank you SO much for saying this Babyslave....it needed to be addressed and I could not agree more... I am a firm believer that we know our bodies better than ANYONE else and I genuinely pray that if something does not feel right it is taken seriously....

Be your own best advocate and please know how sorry I am that your sister is fighting this horrible battle....Sending her and you strength and hugs...

 

[need_2_cum]

Well damn...

Have been lucky for the last few years . No family or friends with cancer . Have supported a few on this thread but lost a good friend...fellow teacher , card mate & fishing buddy to this fucking disease last week . Fuck you cancer .

 

[cmslt2326]

Have been lucky for the last few years . No family or friends with cancer . Have supported a few on this thread but lost a good friend...fellow teacher , card mate & fishing buddy to this fucking disease last week . Fuck you cancer .

So very sorry sweetheart...wish I could say something to make it easier for you but the truth is this disease just plain sucks....

Sending hugs...FYC

 

[scotluvsoral]

You are such a comforting influence on this thread and I just wanted you to know how nice it is sometimes to see other survivors who simply get it....

This thread provides such a safe place for us... those who have a battle ongoing, those lucky enough to have won but must stay vigilant and those who love us, support us and sometimes mourn us. It is sincerely a blessing to be among you and see all the courage and faith here and to feel the support here. I am genuinely touched that you feel I have helped here. Thank you cmslt *big hug*

 

[scotluvsoral]

That awareness is so painful. I get it all the time for my mom, and it's been more than a year. I expect her to call or think I'll drop by and see her garden. Then it hits you. I'm sorry.



I second this. The av is Tigger, but the reassurance is Kanga.

Thank you DGE! I love Kanga too!

 

[scotluvsoral]

I don't know of anyone, save one (perhaps two) kind soul(s) will remember me here, but I wanted to send love and support, hugs and hand holding to everyone here who is hurting, has hurt, will hurt.

2016 was rough, and 2017 is not appearing to be an improvement. So many friends and loved ones diagnosed; so many others have passed.

I DO want to mention something that DGE has imparted to many - Save First Base.

Sigh.

My sister was diagnosed with breast cancer. She'd known something was seriously wrong for over a year. OVER A YEAR people. Fear kept her from going to the doctor or sharing her fears with anyone. She is currently undergoing a very harsh intense treatment, though the fear now is that it is too late. My sister is a raging bitch, and after finally being forced to face the - situation she is like a terrier with a bone. Relentless. Perhaps that tenacity will help the fight.

I digress. My sister is not the point of this ramble. The point is - we all know our bodies, and if something feels off, Please, for the love of whatever you believe in - GO - ask - get tested - get answers. Do not wait a year, a month, a week. Go now. Right now.

Furthermore - if you, or your loved one, friend or yourself receive a brush-off, or you feel as though the doctor you are seeing doesn't take your concerns seriously - go to someone else and get the attention and tests you need. Doctors are mortal beings like the rest of us. YOU must be your own advocate. Push, insist, demand. Get what you need to find answers. Find a friend to lean on, to have your back, to give a shove should you need that. There is nothing wrong with needing someone.

I will go now, while shouting at the top of my lungs, Fuck You Cancer!

xoxo - bsv

Sometimes, when I read someone's wise counsel...I just want to say Amen...this is one of those times! FUCK YOU CANCER!!!!

 

[scotluvsoral]

Have been lucky for the last few years . No family or friends with cancer . Have supported a few on this thread but lost a good friend...fellow teacher , card mate & fishing buddy to this fucking disease last week . Fuck you cancer .

Sorry for your loss of a dear friend, it is never easy FUCK YOU CANCER!

 

[Shankara20]

I digress. My sister is not the point of this ramble. The point is - we all know our bodies, and if something feels off, Please, for the love of whatever you believe in - GO - ask - get tested - get answers. Do not wait a year, a month, a week. Go now. Right now.

Furthermore - if you, or your loved one, friend or yourself receive a brush-off, or you feel as though the doctor you are seeing doesn't take your concerns seriously - go to someone else and get the attention and tests you need. Doctors are mortal beings like the rest of us. YOU must be your own advocate. Push, insist, demand. Get what you need to find answers. Find a friend to lean on, to have your back, to give a shove should you need that. There is nothing wrong with needing someone.

YES! We must be our own healthcare advocate. Well stated.

I wish for you strength and light going forward...

 

[cmslt2326]

This thread provides such a safe place for us... those who have a battle ongoing, those lucky enough to have won but must stay vigilant and those who love us, support us and sometimes mourn us. It is sincerely a blessing to be among you and see all the courage and faith here and to feel the support here. I am genuinely touched that you feel I have helped here. Thank you cmslt *big hug*

Big hug right back scotluvsoral...you are always so eloquent and I feel exactly the same way about this thread...Such a comforting place to come and freely engage with those affected by Cancer...

By the way...

FUCK
YOU
CANCER....I fucking hate you but refuse to waste energy doing anything other than trying to annihilate you for myself, my friends and family, and all the others you have fucked with...

 

[cascadiabound]

FUCK YOU CANCER. FYC FYC FYC FYC FYC FYC FYC.

GDI FUCK YOU CANCER.

You are trying to take another friend of mine. Ovarian cancer.

I have no words.
I have seen this story play out too many times and it does not have a good ending.

FYC​

 

[midwestyankee]

I digress. My sister is not the point of this ramble. The point is - we all know our bodies, and if something feels off, Please, for the love of whatever you believe in - GO - ask - get tested - get answers. Do not wait a year, a month, a week. Go now. Right now.

I will go now, while shouting at the top of my lungs, Fuck You Cancer!

xoxo - bsv

Babyslave, I'm sorry to hear of your sister's condition and especially so that her procrastination may have made things worse. I am a cautionary tale in this regard.

My diagnosis was Stage III-B. That means that the tumor had grown deep into the wall of my colon but was still contained by the outermost layer of tissue. Just a few months more and the tumor's growth would have broken through that layer and enabled cancer cells to migrate throughout my body. It would have taken me from we-can-fix-this-95%-of-the-time to 80%-of the-people-in-this-stage -die-in-two-years. That was three years ago and I am incredibly grateful that I got so lucky.

I learned a year ago that the median length of time between discovering a problem to seeing a doctor and receiving a diagnosis of testicular cancer is 28 months. This is made worse by the fact that testicular cancer must often strikes young men under 35, and they still think they're immortal at that age. It ain't so.

 

[midwestyankee]

FUCK YOU CANCER. FYC FYC FYC FYC FYC FYC FYC.

GDI FUCK YOU CANCER.

You are trying to take another friend of mine. Ovarian cancer.

I have no words.
I have seen this story play out too many times and it does not have a good ending.

FYC​

That's a tough one, cb. I hope she beats the odds. {{{{HUG}}}}

 

[seela]

Babyslave, I'm sorry to hear of your sister's condition and especially so that her procrastination may have made things worse. I am a cautionary tale in this regard.

My diagnosis was Stage III-B. That means that the tumor had grown deep into the wall of my colon but was still contained by the outermost layer of tissue. Just a few months more and the tumor's growth would have broken through that layer and enabled cancer cells to migrate throughout my body. It would have taken me from we-can-fix-this-95%-of-the-time to 80%-of the-people-in-this-stage -die-in-two-years. That was three years ago and I am incredibly grateful that I got so lucky.

I learned a year ago that the median length of time between discovering a problem to seeing a doctor and receiving a diagnosis of testicular cancer is 28 months. This is made worse by the fact that testicular cancer must often strikes young men under 35, and they still think they're immortal at that age. It ain't so.

Sometimes the symptoms are hard to notice as cancer, though. J's mom's case was like that. The only symptom she had was that she'd start getting fever regularly. Like once a week she'd get a relatively high spike of fever for a few hours and then it was back to normal again. This was right around the time when she had a stressful period at work and then her mother passed away, so the first month or so she just wrote it off as a weird thing caused by the crazy amount of stress she was under.

Then she went to see a doctor and was diagnosed with colon cancer, stage IVA, metastasis in her liver. Not exactly something anybody in the family expected it to be, considering she really only went in because of the fever. It's been a rough year for us, especially as the doctors didn't seem too hopeful at first.

She's been through a lot and has had crazy amounts of chemo, she has switched from one drug to another and back again several times over this past year. Last week she was operated and is currently recovering in the hospital. She had quite a bit of parts of her removed and there will be another operation in March or April depending on how fast she recovers where she will have even more stuff removed.

Right now the prognosis looks pretty good, though, so everybody's been able to relax a little, at least until last night when she suddenly developed a high fever again. Time will tell.

 

[LallyH]

Update on my brother's friend....

Following a second scan, it seems that the colonic mass is contained and they are confident that surgery will be the main part of his treatment, followed by appropriate chemo. The lung shadow has been dismissed.

Hurray!!!

 

[Shankara20]

and they still think they're immortal at that age. It ain't so.

So so true....

 

[Shankara20]

Time will tell.

(((hugs)))

 

[Shankara20]

Update on my brother's friend....

Following a second scan, it seems that the colonic mass is contained and they are confident that surgery will be the main part of his treatment, followed by appropriate chemo. The lung shadow has been dismissed.

Hurray!!!

Good news!!!

 

[midwestyankee]

Sometimes the symptoms are hard to notice as cancer, though. J's mom's case was like that. The only symptom she had was that she'd start getting fever regularly. Like once a week she'd get a relatively high spike of fever for a few hours and then it was back to normal again. This was right around the time when she had a stressful period at work and then her mother passed away, so the first month or so she just wrote it off as a weird thing caused by the crazy amount of stress she was under.

[snip]

Right now the prognosis looks pretty good, though, so everybody's been able to relax a little, at least until last night when she suddenly developed a high fever again. Time will tell.

Seela, I'm glad to hear that your mother's prognosis is good. You're so very right about the challenges of recognizing some symptoms as being serious. In my own case, I went to see my doctor about what I thought was vertigo and then, as an afterthought just before leaving his office mentioned that I wondered if I might have hemorrhoids. That led to the colonoscopy that found my cancer. Life is never a straight line.

 

[midwestyankee]

Update on my brother's friend....

Following a second scan, it seems that the colonic mass is contained and they are confident that surgery will be the main part of his treatment, followed by appropriate chemo. The lung shadow has been dismissed.

Hurray!!!

Excellent news!

 

[cookiecat]

FUCK YOU CANCER. FYC FYC FYC FYC FYC FYC FYC.

GDI FUCK YOU CANCER.

You are trying to take another friend of mine. Ovarian cancer.

I have no words.
I have seen this story play out too many times and it does not have a good ending.

FYC​

Oh cascadia.

 

[cookiecat]

Right now the prognosis looks pretty good, though, so everybody's been able to relax a little, at least until last night when she suddenly developed a high fever again. Time will tell.

Hoping the fever is a fluke and for more time to relax.

 

[cookiecat]

Update on my brother's friend....

Following a second scan, it seems that the colonic mass is contained and they are confident that surgery will be the main part of his treatment, followed by appropriate chemo. The lung shadow has been dismissed.

Hurray!!!

Good news!!