Endless Curiosity

[Inspirinious]

Lit, once you’ve been here a while, is something of a small community. You get to know people. Some well, some just familiar faces on the board. Where are your boundaries - hypothetical or real - when it comes to picking playmates?

Is anyone fair game? Do you draw the line at interfering with Lit couples? What if you suspect you and a friend are interested in the same person? What about friend’s exes?

... Mostly, I'm just me. If someone is in a Lit relationship then they'll either let me know or show no interest in taking things farther. ...

Ricky's response generally reflects my own thoughts. I just try to be friendly with people and if they have no interest in me, they will tell me or ignore me. I am only here for some safe flirting and fun, not for a serious relationship. So I don't consider myself to be a threat to any existing (or past) relationships. I trust other people to tell me if they are off limits. And I never knowingly interfere with other relationships here on Lit.

 

[ViciousTease]

Gurrrl.. Are you gonna ask a question I haven't, at some point, already answered?

Nope. Well, maybe. Are you gonna submit a question?

 

[Endless_Night]

Lit, once you’ve been here a while, is something of a small community. You get to know people. Some well, some just familiar faces on the board. Where are your boundaries - hypothetical or real - when it comes to picking playmates?

Is anyone fair game? Do you draw the line at interfering with Lit couples? What if you suspect you and a friend are interested in the same person? What about friend’s exes?

Hmmm. I would avoid friends’ exes like the plague. Other exes, it would depend on circumstance. A discreet Lit liaison, probably not such a big deal. Someone from a publicized Lit relationship that’s gone south? Between rebounds, potential jealousy, and the sheer publicness of it all I can’t say the idea holds much appeal. All that potential drama. No thank you.

Perhaps a general boundary for me would be to avoid situations where I knew two parties had played. Well, unless, perhaps they were both casual players who, ahem, moved around a lot. But…would that situation really be relevant, since I’m not a casual player?

It’s too early…. I need caffeine…. Or possibly just more sleep….

 

[SassySheDevil]

Lit, once you’ve been here a while, is something of a small community. You get to know people. Some well, some just familiar faces on the board. Where are your boundaries - hypothetical or real - when it comes to picking playmates?

Is anyone fair game? Do you draw the line at interfering with Lit couples? What if you suspect you and a friend are interested in the same person? What about friend’s exes?

I try and avoid lit couples just because I've not had good experiences with them. One of my best friends became part of a Lit couple and I had thought our friendship would survive.
Friends exes are no different here. I wouldn't do it in real life, and I don't want to do it here. Friends are different. We are adults, we shouldn't have to choose.
When a friend and I parted ways, I was hurt that so many people felt they had to choose sides. I had to remind myself we weren't in Jr High, so it was their loss.

 

[Endless_Night]

Gurrrl.. Are you gonna ask a question I haven't, at some point, already answered?

There is a solutions to that!

*points at VT's inbox*

Nope. Well, maybe. Are you gonna submit a question?

You beat me to it!

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Nope. Well, maybe. Are you gonna submit a question?

There is a solutions to that!

*points at VT's inbox*




You beat me to it!

I'd be happy to provide topics, just don't want discuss sex, kink, relationships, Lit Romance. Or how to deal with messing around with married people.

We can talk about igneous rocks? Or NC mountain foliage versus Texas flatness...

I was teasing VT, and I'm pretty sure she knows it. If I offended you, Darlin', it was not intentional.

But, if I get another PM telling me I sound like I'm in a bad mood, woke up on the wrong side of the bed, or I'm not being helpful and should be more supportive, then please, say a prayer that my internet goes out or I'm liable to respond to one of them.

(((Hugs to VT)))
You have friends here, that's for sure. Perhaps a bit misguided and quixotic in their defense, but definitely a circle of friends.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Lit, once you’ve been here a while, is something of a small community. You get to know people. Some well, some just familiar faces on the board. Where are your boundaries - hypothetical or real - when it comes to picking playmates?

Is anyone fair game? Do you draw the line at interfering with Lit couples? What if you suspect you and a friend are interested in the same person? What about friend’s exes?

I am not close to many women on Lit in this regard. Friendly, yes. Close enough to know who they're interested in or playing with, no. I trust my men to be honest with me and to use good judgement, discretion, and behave with a certain amount of integrity. I am careful about who i choose to get close to, and it pays off.

I wouldn't knowingly interfere with a couple who was being exclusive, and the one time I had the opportunity to hook up with a friend's ex, it wasn't something I wanted to pursue.

I'm not really aware of too many Lit couples... either I'm out of the loop, or I'm just oblivious. No surprise there.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

...casual players who, ahem, moved around a lot.

I snorted.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Honestly - is there anything more sickening than a loved up couple. Especially when they're clearly intelligent, witty, urbane and good looking. Their passion for each other and their zest for life leaking from every pore. I do all I can to avoid such types.

Leave me to my bitterness....

lol!

Long, long ago, I was part of a publicly loved-up couple for about five minutes.
We put it in our profiles and everything. *gag*
It was fun while it lasted... which wasn't very long.

Once was enough for me, I much prefer to fly under the radar.

 

[Endless_Night]

I snorted.

Honestly - is there anything more sickening than a loved up couple. Especially when they're clearly intelligent, witty, urbane and good looking. Their passion for each other and their zest for life leaking from every pore. I do all I can to avoid such types.

Leave me to my bitterness....

This^ made me snort.

< I'm not really aware of too many Lit couples... either I'm out of the loop, or I'm just oblivious. No surprise there. >

This. Verbose as I am on the board, I don't chat with many people privately. For me to realize Litsters aren't just flirting and are actually coupled up it has to be in my face obvious. Like declarations of love in threads, or cutesy tags in the profiles.

I can be a bit oblivious.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

... For me to realize Litsters aren't just flirting and are actually coupled up it has to be in my face obvious. Like declarations of love in threads, or cutesy tags in the profiles.

I may be misunderstanding what you've said here, but if I am noticeably flirting with someone on the boards, there is an excellent chance that I am not playing with them.

I feel there's a question for discussion in there somewhere...

 

[ViciousTease]

I'd be happy to provide topics, just don't want discuss sex, kink, relationships, Lit Romance. Or how to deal with messing around with married people.

We can talk about igneous rocks? Or NC mountain foliage versus Texas flatness...

I was teasing VT, and I'm pretty sure she knows it. If I offended you, Darlin', it was not intentional.

But, if I get another PM telling me I sound like I'm in a bad mood, woke up on the wrong side of the bed, or I'm not being helpful and should be more supportive, then please, say a prayer that my internet goes out or I'm liable to respond to one of them.

(((Hugs to VT)))
You have friends here, that's for sure. Perhaps a bit misguided and quixotic in their defense, but definitely a circle of friends.

Of course I knew you were teasing. I was teasing you back. (Teasing is kind of my thing )

I know nothing of igneous rocks or NC mountain foliage. *glances down* I don't know much about Texas flatness either. However, I've got google on standby. I can discuss whatever you wish, madam.

I'm not really aware of too many Lit couples... either I'm out of the loop, or I'm just oblivious. No surprise there.

I'm also clueless about Lit couples. I keep my connections private, so I tend to assume public flirting is just flirting.

 

[*Twisted*]

Of course I knew you were teasing. I was teasing you back. (Teasing is kind of my thing )

I know nothing of igneous rocks or NC mountain foliage. *glances down* I don't know much about Texas flatness either. However, I've got google on standby. I can discuss whatever you wish, madam.



I'm also clueless about Lit couples. I keep my connections private, so I tend to assume public flirting is just flirting.

I'm with you on being clueless about couples and about public flirting being just flirting.

Lit couples come and go so it's hard to keep track of the players sometimes.

 

[Endless_Night]

I may be misunderstanding what you've said here, but if I am noticeably flirting with someone on the boards, there is an excellent chance that I am not playing with them.

I feel there's a question for discussion in there somewhere...

LOL! Excellent point! If I am wildly flirting with someone (not that I ever do that ), chances are I'm not...well, doing much else with them. 'Cause, privacy.

There absolutely is a question in there somewhere!

 

[ViciousTease]

I'm with you on being clueless about couples and about public flirting being just flirting.

Lit couples come and go so it's hard to keep track of the players sometimes.

*tickle tackle*

Someone who knows about such things should make a master list that we can all reference.

LOL! Excellent point! If I am wildly flirting with someone (not that I ever do that ), chances are I'm not...well, doing much else with them. 'Cause, privacy.

There absolutely is a question in there somewhere!

Many, but the only one I can think of would require naming names.

 

[ydahecnot]

I would just as soon not know. Am not a fan of BDA

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I would just as soon not know. Am not a fan of BDA

shouldn't this be posted on the Unpopular Opinions thread?

 

[ydahecnot]

shouldn't this be posted on the Unpopular Opinions thread?

Roo, I am thinking it's an opinion more popular than not

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Roo, I am thinking it's an opinion more popular than not

oh, I hate it. I'd like to find a forum with less cutsie cutsie PDA..

Seriously, I'd rather swallow a tack most days...

 

[ydahecnot]

I could hug you for th....oops

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I could hug you for th....oops

hahahaha! You wouldn't be the first to jump for joy at the idea of me choking on a sharp object..lol

 

[Inspirinious]

Uh? This conversation appears to have wondered way off course.

But there are no rules.

So nevermind. ​

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

shouldn't this be posted on the Unpopular Opinions thread?

*fist bump*

 

[ydahecnot]

At least I haven't posted lyrics, photo dude

 

[Endless_Night]

At least I haven't posted lyrics, photo dude

Isn't there a thread for that?