Litiquette3

[All_4_Love]

IF I had the chance, I wouldn't change a thing about my life. There are some events that I wish could have turned out differently. However, it wouldn't be *my* life if anything has been altered. Regret is not a sentiment that I choose to live with. Too painful and unnecessary.

All you can do is move forward and vow to do better.

Then do better.

Life is a given, but living is optional.

Hear, hear.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

IF I had the chance, I wouldn't change a thing about my life. There are some events that I wish could have turned out differently. However, it wouldn't be *my* life if anything has been altered. Regret is not a sentiment that I choose to live with. Too painful and unnecessary.

All you can do is move forward and vow to do better.

Then do better.

Life is a given, but living is optional.

Beautifully said!

Regret and jealousy are two emotions I try to live without as much as possible.

 

[ChainedUp]

Sunday. Is it really fun day? I like Saturday a whole lot more. That's just me though. Maybe i go against the norm on this one. What things do you do that go against the norm and that you embrace?

 

[rubydlite]

Sunday. Is it really fun day? I like Saturday a whole lot more. That's just me though. Maybe i go against the norm on this one. What things do you do that go against the norm and that you embrace?

I like Sunday more, only because Saturday is spent running errands....but that wasn't the question.
I'm not so sure I go against the norm on much...publicly. I suppose embracing a non conventional desire for certain things sexual might be against the norm. Although I actually think these desires are more normal than I had thought, only admiring them publicly goes against the grain.
I also don't embrace much...I like to disect everything and know the why, everything must have a purpose.
Hmm...I'm not sure I answered the question at all...lol

 

[Mindfondler]

Sunday. Is it really fun day? I like Saturday a whole lot more. That's just me though. Maybe i go against the norm on this one. What things do you do that go against the norm and that you embrace?

Generally, I try to present myself as conventional in order to fit in and protect myself from being singled out for being different. Deep down, I'm anything but conventional in the way that I think and perceive the world, but you have to know me well to see this. My formative years at school were rather painful as I was unable to relate to most of the interests of my peers until I eventually learned to bluff my way through. Now I'm in the middle of a process of rediscovering what's really me and what's just an artifact of my manufactured mask.
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[All_4_Love]

I don't give much attention to most of society's norms, at least, unless it's something I feel strongly about. It's a mixture. There are some norms that I fit into, and many that I don't, but I don't make a concerted effort either way.

I don't believe in the agenda and a lot of the ideals put forth by modern-day feminists, and I don't live by them. I'm not your stereotypical soccer mom, but I am a great mom. I don't go to church on Sunday but I am deeply spiritual. I'm not a big people person, but I genuinely love people. I'm not good at the superficial world, so I mostly remain to myself and appear antisocial, but I am a warm and caring friend to those who know me. I don't dress to impress, but the clothes that I love oftentimes mean I'm not fitting in with the latest fashions.

The list is long. I've never fit in, and this isn't because I'm trying to stand out, although that is inevitably what seems to happen. It feels like being a walking contradiction. When you're at a kid's party and you spend more time playing with the kids and the family dog than socializing with the adults, people notice whether you like it or not.

I embrace it. It doesn't bother me as bad as it used to.

I love Sundays. They are my favorite day of the week. I just love the feeling. There is just something about the day where life slows down it's pace and we get to breathe and relax, the day where most everyone can be together, no time constraints, no pressure, no mandatory things to do unless we choose...time to just stop "doing" in our fast paced and busy society, and just "be".

 

[sweetsophie512]

Sunday. Is it really fun day? I like Saturday a whole lot more. That's just me though. Maybe i go against the norm on this one. What things do you do that go against the norm and that you embrace?

Any day that isn't spent AT work is a fun day for me.

I don't go out of my way to be different or go against the grain. The older I get the more comfortable I am with myself. I've never been one to assimilate, it bores me to death. However I understand that there are social norms that we need to follow or else your ass gets thrown in jail or committed. *smirk*

The biggest challenge I've ever had was being comfortable showing people who I really am. I'm still working on it.

I didn't really answer the question.

 

[ChainedUp]

Doing things we'd rather not do. It happens to us all. We do it because we like the person asking, out of obligation, out of fear of repercussion. But for every act done there is someone asking. Which means we all ask things of people they'd rather not do. Are you aware when it happens? I realize there are times that it just has to be done, but do you take the other person's feelings into consideration when asking?

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I must say.. your questions lately are written in a way that invites quite an array of responses. This one, in particular, is very thought provoking.
It's a little early.. I'm still having my first cup of coffee.. and I'm about to work my third shift in a row (unexpectedly)
so.. this is the first thing that comes to my mind. It might be my answer after my coffee too - so I'll post it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KEXQkrllGbA

 

[Lord Pmann]

Doing things we'd rather not do. It happens to us all. We do it because we like the person asking, out of obligation, out of fear of repercussion. But for every act done there is someone asking. Which means we all ask things of people they'd rather not do. Are you aware when it happens? I realize there are times that it just has to be done, but do you take the other person's feelings into consideration when asking?

I do try to take people's feelings in consideration. It goes two ways. One is just out of respect. I know how I like to be asked when I'm tasked to do something shitty. I try to extend the same courtesy.

On the more selfish side, there is the old saying that you attract more flies with honey than vinegar. It's kind of a gross analogy and, for the life of me I can't figure out why you would want flies, but it's true. If you want people to like you or scratch your back at some point, presentation can go a LONG way.

And usually, a job done willingly is done far better than a job done begrudgingly.

 

[Paul_Chance]

The short answer is I try too...

The longer answer is it depends on the circumstances - there are times when it's necessary to cajole, convince or badger people into doing certain things. I think it's an imposition on a friendship and a coin you can only spend a few times without jeopardizing the relationship - but it is a coin that has to be spent every now and then.

 

[All_4_Love]

Yes, I do take other people's feelings into consideration, very much so. I also take into consideration someone's level of receptivity to things. It would depend on the person and what was being asked.

If I know with certainty that this person wouldn't want to do what I was asking them to do, I wouldn't ask. I wouldn't want to put someone in a position to do something they didn't want to do. Also, to me, it would feel forceful on my part, so my feelings also come into play. I'm not sure whether this is genuinely taking someone's feelings into consideration, or whether it's my feelings that take precedence. The latter doesn't make me feel very good.

If someone is receptive or more of a helpful type of person, and the level of inconvenience wasn't too much, then I would approach them and tell them I really needed a favor. I wouldn't like asking but I would do it. If it's something that would push that person past their level of comfort, I wouldn't ask.

I have one friend in the entire world that I can lean on for anything. I hope that I never have to depend on her to the extent that her feelings would get pushed aside. Even so, she would. Damnit, I know she has many times. Who am I kidding? I am very grateful for her friendship. I don't just love her. I need her. She is my one true friend.

Thank you, my dear friend, for loving me. Thank you for your friendship. I pray that through the years, you have felt I've given the same to you.

All of this feels very backwards to me. Is this the origin of the saying "We always seem to hurt the ones we love the most"?

 

[rubydlite]

Doing things we'd rather not do. It happens to us all. We do it because we like the person asking, out of obligation, out of fear of repercussion. But for every act done there is someone asking. Which means we all ask things of people they'd rather not do. Are you aware when it happens? I realize there are times that it just has to be done, but do you take the other person's feelings into consideration when asking?

I try to ..maybe too much. I used to be a yes girl...never wanting to dissapoint people...so i always tried to not to ask people to do stuff and put them in a situation I was to chicken to say no to.
However, this year I think I've found a nice balance. Asking only when I really need help and agreeing to only that which I truly want to do.

 

[sweetsophie512]

Doing things we'd rather not do. It happens to us all. We do it because we like the person asking, out of obligation, out of fear of repercussion. But for every act done there is someone asking. Which means we all ask things of people they'd rather not do. Are you aware when it happens? I realize there are times that it just has to be done, but do you take the other person's feelings into consideration when asking?

I hate when that happens.

*deep sigh*

One of the things that I tryto do is not regret anything. The person doing the asking has a lot to do with whether or not I will agree to helping them out. On the flip side, if one does not ask, the answer will always be no. The same can be said of us wanting the people we love to do things for us.

I'm not one that is comfortable with asking for anything. If I can't do it myself, then it can't be done. I've learned how to trust people and with that, I've gotten more comfortable with asking for what I want and need. Openness begets openness, etc, etc. You get my drift.

I am aware when I'm asking for something that might push someone's boundaries. It's all about your relationship with that person that determines how well you two relate and compromise.

 

[ChainedUp]

Happy Trudeau day Canada! I know it's not really a holiday but any leader named Justin sounds like a hip guy, so celebrate that

As I travel around I'm impressed with the world knowledge the rest of the world has and am shocked at how self-centered we are in the States. I don't know that that means but I just notice it.

When you notice things, are you moved to change your ways or do you just notice and move on? What would it take for you you to affect change(of yourself)? or are you happy with the way things are?

 

[Lord Pmann]

Americans do tend to be incredibly unaware of how the rest of the world works. I remember talking to a guy about a trip to Norway. I mentioned how expensive it was. He said, "Do they accept American currency as well?" Why would the wealthiest nation on earth (or at least one of) want our money? I mean, I'm happy as hell to be an American, but I found that question to be the height of self centered ignorance.

I do try to be pliable when it comes to learning. I'm not always successful. I fail at it due to stubbornness or pride, at times. Small minded people live small lives. It's amazing to me how inward some people are.

 

[Paul_Chance]

It all depends on what I notice - what we believe and think is often a product of a life time of experience. Often our apparent differences come from the incredible diversity of experiences we have - often two people can share the same event and draw radically different life lessons from what. What is life changing for one person may be ordinary for another.

That said, if I notice that what I believe is out of sync with some observation, I will consider if the observation is something that would necessitate my redrawing my mental map of the universe. I am very curious and when I encounter someone who has a radically different view that I do, I will try to get to the "why" of that difference.

 

[All_4_Love]

Americans do tend to be incredibly unaware of how the rest of the world works. I remember talking to a guy about a trip to Norway. I mentioned how expensive it was. He said, "Do they accept American currency as well?" Why would the wealthiest nation on earth (or at least one of) want our money? I mean, I'm happy as hell to be an American, but I found that question to be the height of self centered ignorance.

I had no idea that Norway was one of the richest countries in the world. I bet it's one of the most beautiful, though. So, you're saying that because of this, our currency has no worth there? As in, there is no exchange value? I didn't know that either.

Not everyone understands those types of things, the way the world works, the stock exchange, politics, currency, even the way our own country works for that matter.

I didn't even realize that this lack of knowledge was the basis for someone to be deemed as having self-centered ignorance. I would have probably asked the same type of question just out of curiosity.

 

[All_4_Love]

So, I just read an article and apparently Bill O'Reilly feels the same way about Americans. I'm gonna jump on the O'Reilly bandwagon with this one and just say, if Mr. O'Reilly said it, then I'll believe it.

I've been meaning to read a few of his books. Perhaps, I should take that idea more seriously and get educated. If most Americans are like me, then we are in trouble. I'm sure Mr. O'Reilly would agree. His show is really the only reason I miss watching the news.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I had no idea that Norway was one of the richest countries in the world. I bet it's one of the most beautiful, though. So, you're saying that because of this, our currency has no worth there? As in, there is no exchange value? I didn't know that either.

Not everyone understands those types of things, the way the world works, the stock exchange, politics, currency, even the way our own country works for that matter.

I didn't even realize that this lack of knowledge was the basis for someone to be deemed as having self-centered ignorance. I would have probably asked the same type of question just out of curiosity.

Maybe I'm just a prick.

But why would another country accept our currency? I mean, one that's first world, anyway. I mean, imagine going into the grocery store and trying to lag with Euro. Or UK pounds.

I guess my thought is this... Why would we think American currency has value elsewhere?

Norway is gorgeous. Excruciatingly expensive. For my wife and I to eat fast food, small meals, it set us back over $40 US.

But the girls there...

 

[Endless_Night]

Maybe I'm just a prick.

But why would another country accept our currency? I mean, one that's first world, anyway. I mean, imagine going into the grocery store and trying to lag with Euro. Or UK pounds.

I guess my thought is this... Why would we think American currency has value elsewhere?

Norway is gorgeous. Excruciatingly expensive. For my wife and I to eat fast food, small meals, it set us back over $40 US.

But the girls there...

How much did they set you back? US?

 

[Lord Pmann]

How much did they set you back? US?

More than I could fucking afford.

 

[Endless_Night]

More than I could fucking afford.

Oh, my. Such language.

 

[All_4_Love]

I guess my thought is this... Why would we think American currency has value elsewhere?

Well, I really don't know. From what I can gather, it seems to have value in many places, like the Middle East? I am truly nowhere near having the intellect to discuss such things, so I'll take your word for it (and on the beautiful girls, too). *smile*

 

[Lord Pmann]

Well, I really don't know. From what I can gather, it seems to have value in many places, like the Middle East? I am truly nowhere near having the intellect to discuss such things, so I'll take your word for it (and on the beautiful girls, too). *smile*

I can't speak to the Middle East, but many third world countries will take our currency. A lot of places in the Caribbean do as well, usually because of the tourism that runs through there. I don't know about all of Mexico, but the two places I've been have accepted American money.

But first world countries typically wouldn't accept our cash. Especially those Scandinavian countries who have much stronger currencies than ours.

I assure you... The girls there are just perfect. It's like they have big boob chemicals in their water.