It's Like You're Doing It Just To Do It, Just To Get It Over With

[Que]

It's not that simple with her. She is feisty and crazy. She is the type that you got to fuck her brains out, then get up and leave. Because if you stay she will find a reason to start a fight. Everything you say to other balls down to that other bitch. I can say something like " I got to go pick up my kids". She will say "What you got to go get that other bitch?"

She is territorial. She is thinking if she fucks you good enough it will grow into more than it is. My buddy's little 19 year old clingy girlfriend did that. He realized she is just as immature, just as interested in picking meaningless fights as his then 19 year old ex wife was. So he did the honorable thing and told her it was not a good match.

She blew up his phone for like 2 hours. Then she meekly says, "The sex was good so if you ever want to hookup..."

He said no for less than a day. Now she lives here, he is having to move to make some space for her the cat, the two puppies she made him get. He barely takes a shit on his own. I am pretty sure she holds his dick when he pees, he hasn't showered alone in months, he was outside with his 4x4 doing manly shit with me pulling a tree out of the ground and she comes out and pouts. She is by his side every moment.

She wormed her way in with sex.

This girl is frustrated cause that isn't working and she knows it, I think. She is just thinking it is "not fair" because she is putting effort into the sex and some mythological girl is somehow fucking that up for her, she thinks.

 

[smoothg103rd]

No man knows the why of women or what makes them tick, but I do know that them getting off or not is not what makes them see it as a good lay. Counter-intuitive, I realize.

I mean, look at this conversation. She got off. She is not laying there with a smug satisfied look thinking, 'Fuck it, I got mine!" was she? No, her post coital concern is that you did not. That makes her feel not-sexy and that feeling overrode the post-coital glow.

I know you are just FWBs by agreement with her, but she clearly cares about pleasing you and being the sexiest you have, and you also care about her feelings or you would not be asking.

We been involved for a couple of years now. So I'll be lying if I said I didn't care for her satisfaction. But Neci with this limp dick shit. I know I didn't perform to my usual, but I know it was still decent.

 

[Que]

We been involved for a couple of years now. So I'll be lying if I said I didn't care for her satisfaction. But Neci with this limp dick shit. I know I didn't perform to my usual, but I know it was still decent.

Not literally limp, no. But sh are clearly was not emotionally satisfied with the fuck. keep in mind she got off because she had it in mind at the time that even if you didn't seem that into it, you would pick up the rhythm as far as your emotional investment in it, that you were going to get into it anytime. When (this time) you actual never really got into it, that is what made it disappointing. An after the fact thing, not a during thing.

You ever been with a girl that has a really hard time getting off, but still loves it anyway, even when she doesn't get off? (hypothetical, such a thing would never happen to such Lotharios as ourselves, mind.)

A girl like that thrives on the intensity of sex. The emotional intensity is pretty powerful and often what is craved more than the orgasm.

 

[toubab]

True.

Just like a man can tell if a woman is giving him an obligatory fuck, a woman can tell when she's getting one. Maybe not every time, if you're good at faking it, or she is, but that gets old.

Smoove, I'm stepping out of this conversation because I don't think I can add any more to it that will be helpful. I wish I could.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Looks she has to know about the deaths, so tell her that. If she is one of your baby momma's also tell her your mind is on the future, you can spin it positively.

I am reminded of what an older mom type person said to me when Clinton was discovered to be getting blow jobs under his desk while on the phone working.

She was disgusted because his mind wasn't giving full attention to either.

That is what you are doing, so be better than Clinton, choose one and give it your all.

She isn't not one of my baby mothers. I get what you're saying Noor, and you're right. If I was going to put forth that effort, then I shouldn't have fuck her at all. (NOT THAT I WAS LIMP DICK NECI) It wasn't lousy, it wasn't my best. And I should give my best every time.

 

[Que]

She isn't not one of my baby mothers. I get what you're saying Noor, and you're right. If I was going to put forth that effort, then I shouldn't have fuck her at all. (NOT THAT I WAS LIMP DICK NECI) It wasn't lousy, it wasn't my best. And I should give my best every time.

You can never be sure about whether your mind is gonna suit up for the game, because it tends to go where it goes, but she did give you some feedback about the specific acts and little touches that, at least to her, tells her you are "present" in the moment.

You add some of that back in next time and she will at least feel you heard her when she expressed her concerns. I like that she speaks up about her needs. Much better than the type that prefers you guess.

 

[Que]

Mostly, I should say something to distract you because you are up two games, and I do not want you going three for three this set. I think I have the third game won.

 

[Emerson40]

If ya struggling with a case of the limpy-dicks Schmoops, I hear buttermilk can help.


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[Que]

If ya struggling with a case of the limpy-dicks Schmoops, I hear buttermilk can help.


http://41.media.tumblr.com/f705b5131ae9eb13799bd6952cc85e39/tumblr_nktqweL2Yy1qzjw8go1_1280.jpg

Uh, do ya take that internally, or apply topically?

-I am asking for a friend....

 

[Emerson40]

-I am asking for a friend....

Does his name rhyme with Snoopy, and does he gots 'Aqua Girl' written on his hand?

 

[smoothg103rd]

She is territorial. She is thinking if she fucks you good enough it will grow into more than it is. My buddy's little 19 year old clingy girlfriend did that. He realized she is just as immature, just as interested in picking meaningless fights as his then 19 year old ex wife was. So he did the honorable thing and told her it was not a good match.

She blew up his phone for like 2 hours. Then she meekly says, "The sex was good so if you ever want to hookup..."

He said no for less than a day. Now she lives here, he is having to move to make some space for her the cat, the two puppies she made him get. He barely takes a shit on his own. I am pretty sure she holds his dick when he pees, he hasn't showered alone in months, he was outside with his 4x4 doing manly shit with me pulling a tree out of the ground and she comes out and pouts. She is by his side every moment.

She wormed her way in with sex.

This girl is frustrated cause that isn't working and she knows it, I think. She is just thinking it is "not fair" because she is putting effort into the sex and some mythological girl is somehow fucking that up for her, she thinks.

I can't see myself being with her. She has some good traits tho. She cook, cleans, stay to herself, doesn't fuck a lot of people, isn't like the rest of these Newark girls and she likes that wild crazy sex. I just can't see myself answering to "that bitch" all the time. I can see it now. It's about to get hot, so I'm know imma be playing ball a lot and I know she going to be asking "You was with that bitch, huh?" And her being my girlfriend imma have to answer and feed into the bullshit. See now I just tell her to go the fuck head ( meaning I tell her to stop the bullshit, chill out.) I really don't have to feed into it. And I like it that way. I can strongly say that I will never be with her.

 

[Que]

Does his name rhyme with Snoopy, and does he gots 'Aqua Girl' written on his hand?

Uh, no...Um you don't know him ...uh his name is "Beery," and he has "Aquagirl" written on his dick, as God intended.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Just like a man can tell if a woman is giving him an obligatory fuck, a woman can tell when she's getting one. Maybe not every time, if you're good at faking it, or she is, but that gets old.

Smoove, I'm stepping out of this conversation because I don't think I can add any more to it that will be helpful. I wish I could.

Nah you have said enough already. I like talking to you and Query, because yall are older and wiser than me. So naturally yall know more. I'm still young, and I like the fact that I can get the opinion of people who are more knowledgeable than me.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Mostly, I should say something to distract you because you are up two games, and I do not want you going three for three this set. I think I have the third game won.

Not if I have anything to do with it. Which I do.

 

[Emerson40]

Uh, no...Um you don't know him ...uh his name is "Beery," and he has "Aquagirl" written on his dick, as God intended.

Oh, then topical application.

Apply liberally to affected area several times a day.

 

[Que]

I can't see myself being with her. She has some good traits tho. She cook, cleans, stay to herself, doesn't fuck a lot of people, isn't like the rest of these Newark girls and she likes that wild crazy sex. I just can't see myself answering to "that bitch" all the time. I can see it now. It's about to get hot, so I'm know imma be playing ball a lot and I know she going to be asking "You was with that bitch, huh?" And her being my girlfriend imma have to answer and feed into the bullshit. See now I just tell her to go the fuck head ( meaning I tell her to stop the bullshit, chill out.) I really don't have to feed into it. And I like it that way. I can strongly say that I will never be with her.

A guy could do worse these days. That's the trifecta right there my friend. But yeah the jealousy thing is a deal breaker especially when you are not exclusive.

I was seeing a girl that had an actual boyfriend. Sometimes we just spent time, sometimes it was sex, but not always. I get the idea it had to do with how she and the boyfriend were getting on, or maybe whether he was taking care of business. Whichever, not my problem. She knew (as did the other girl) that I also spent quality time with a girl she worked with. That girl was single, but active and not always available.

Once, girl 1 goes into me about, "I heard that....." regarding my doing something for the other girl. It happened to be partially true. I just sent back, "You girls sure like to gossip." I don't know why some seem to like to be involved in a soap opera. If they aren't in one they will write the whole script.

If she is like this without commitment, I would assume it would be worse with. On the other hand sometimes not. My ex-father-in-law is an incorrigible flirt. He and I were having a friendly man to man after my divorce about how his wife is cool about it, because I saw her just grin when he got his flirt on once. He tells me, "You can pretty much do what you want as long as they are quite sure you are always coming home to them." I asked him why the advice so late. He says, "Well before, you were married to my daughter."

 

[Que]

Oh, then topical application.

Apply liberally to affected area several times a day.

Do you know if the acidity of buttemilk acts as a solvent to sharpie ink? I kind of..I mean...he kinda promised someone that he would never wash his dick again.

 

[toubab]

Nah you have said enough already. I like talking to you and Query, because yall are older and wiser than me. So naturally yall know more. I'm still young, and I like the fact that I can get the opinion of people who are more knowledgeable than me.

Well, experience counts for something, but I assure you there's a lot I don't know about women. And I'm sure that will always be the case, unfortunately. No, strike that last word. I don't think I would like it if I did know a lot more about them. Well, fuck. I hope you get what I'm trying to say.

 

[smoothg103rd]

A guy could do worse these days. That's the trifecta right there my friend. But yeah the jealousy thing is a deal breaker especially when you are not exclusive.

I was seeing a girl that had an actual boyfriend. Sometimes we just spent time, sometimes it was sex, but not always. I get the idea it had to do with how she and the boyfriend were getting on, or maybe whether he was taking care of business. Whichever, not my problem. She knew (as did the other girl) that I also spent quality time with a girl she worked with. That girl was single, but active and not always available.

Once, girl 1 goes into me about, "I heard that....." regarding my doing something for the other girl. It happened to be partially true. I just sent back, "You girls sure like to gossip." I don't know why some seem to like to be involved in a soap opera. If they aren't in one they will write the whole script.

If she is like this without commitment, I would assume it would be worse with. On the other hand sometimes not. My ex-father-in-law is an incorrigible flirt. He and I were having a friendly man to man after my divorce about how his wife is cool about it, because I saw her just grin when he got his flirt on once. He tells me, "You can pretty much do what you want as long as they are quite sure you are always coming home to them." I asked him why the advice so late. He says, "Well before, you were married to my daughter."

Lol @ the ex father in law. But yeah, she does have some great traits. It's the only reason why we been involved so long. On and off tho, she had a couple of boyfriends in between. But I knew one of her ex, and he told me how insecure she is. I couldn't deal with it. Trust mean a lot to me, I'm big on loyal. And I don't like to be accused for shit I don't do, and with her I know it will happen everyday.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Well, experience counts for something, but I assure you there's a lot I don't know about women. And I'm sure that will always be the case, unfortunately. No, strike that last word. I don't think I would like it if I did know a lot more about them. Well, fuck. I hope you get what I'm trying to say.

Lol, yeah I got it.

 

[Que]

Lol @ the ex father in law. But yeah, she does have some great traits. It's the only reason why we been involved so long. On and off tho, she had a couple of boyfriends in between. But I knew one of her ex, and he told me how insecure she is. I couldn't deal with it. Trust mean a lot to me, I'm big on loyal. And I don't like to be accused for shit I don't do, and with her I know it will happen everyday.

How old is she? It isn't outside of the possible that she develops some maturity, some self-confidence and becomes keeper material. Not going to happen by just time. She needs accomplishments in her life that make her feel OK in her own self, and not dependent on the validation of being wanted.

 

[smoothg103rd]

How old is she? It isn't outside of the possible that she develops some maturity, some self-confidence and becomes keeper material. Not going to happen by just time. She needs accomplishments in her life that make her feel OK in her own self, and not dependent on the validation of being wanted.

I know she is older than me. So maybe 23,24 or 25. I know she is not older than 25, because she went to school with one of my cousins, and he is 24 (I think). She told me her age before, but that was a little while ago.

 

[smoothg103rd]

@Toubab, what happened to Nova?

 

[smoothg103rd]

Imma be here all morning. It's 4am, and I gotta take my daughter to school, so there is no point in sleeping.

 

[Colonel Hogan]

I can't see myself being with her. She has some good traits tho. She cook, cleans, stay to herself, doesn't fuck a lot of people, isn't like the rest of these Newark girls and she likes that wild crazy sex. I just can't see myself answering to "that bitch" all the time. I can see it now. It's about to get hot, so I'm know imma be playing ball a lot and I know she going to be asking "You was with that bitch, huh?" And her being my girlfriend imma have to answer and feed into the bullshit. See now I just tell her to go the fuck head ( meaning I tell her to stop the bullshit, chill out.) I really don't have to feed into it. And I like it that way. I can strongly say that I will never be with her.

Sorry to jump in late, but of all the things on your mind I don't think you should minimize the fact that a significant one of those mind fucks is that if you're saying "never her" to yourself and NOT sharing the FINALITY of that information with her, then you know you're compromising your own integrity, and you can't help but not feel good about that.

If you think there is even a remote chance that she's hoping for a degree of intimacy you are not willing to give, then you KNOW there is at least a wee bit of a scam you're working.

Living even the littlest bit of a lie builds pressure you don't want or need. The only way to relieve the pressure of hiding something is to not hide it anymore. That usually means having a conversation you'd rather not have and admitting things you'd rather not admit.

Sucks, but there it is.