Found video of someone I know...tell them?

[goud21]

So, long story short, I was browsing around my favorite adult movie sites (I tend to like homemade stuff more than the professional porn that's out there). As I'm browsing, I find a homemade video of a girl masturbating on camera. Her body has a similar shape to my sister-in-law (we'll call her Kelly) and I've always been attracted to her so I watched thinking it would keep up with my own fantasies.

For most of the video, you can't see her face. Basically looks like it was shot with a phone or webcam propped up shooting up at her pussy and you can see up her stomach, but her massive chest blocks her face as she lays back. At the end of the video, it pans up and shows her face as she licks her fingers clean. Turns out, it actually is Kelly.

So, do I tell her about this? My wife is very reserved and I'm not sure how I'd explain that I found it while browsing different porn sites (She'd be pissed I'm looking at porn probably). If Kelly took this video and posted it online herself, then it's no big deal and no reason to bring it up. If Kelly sent this to a boyfriend/fuck buddy and that person posted it online without her knowledge, I would think she would want to know it was floating around the internet.

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

 

[Eilan]

I'd STFU.

 

[twister947]

I'd STFU.

Yup. This is a no-brainer.

 

[Sugarfoot10]

I wouldn't say anything to anyone!!!!

 

[Miles Long]

What good could possibly come from you telling anyone about this?

 

[willlph]

What good could possibly come from you telling anyone about this?

There is that one remote possibility and I mean that one in a million chance..... The sister in law might just say "Wanna see the real thing?"

I realize the best thing to do is remember Mum's the word.... but if the sister-in law is HOT..... IT would be difficult not to inquire

If he choose's to let her know.... I think the best way would be to have her over and say let me show you something I found on the internet that I really like

 

[goud21]

What good could possibly come from you telling anyone about this?

Honestly, I'm not ever going to approach this like, "Hey, I found this, want to show me in person."

The only reason I'd bring it up is if it's some ex-boyfriend of hers that posted it, I think she'd want to know it's out there and take the steps to have it taken down (if she didn't approve it being on the websites).

 

[Miles Long]

There is that one remote possibility and I mean that one in a million chance..... The sister in law might just say "Wanna see the real thing?"

I realize the best thing to do is remember Mum's the word.... but if the sister-in law is HOT..... IT would be difficult not to inquire

If he choose's to let her know.... I think the best way would be to have her over and say let me show you something I found on the internet that I really like

Yeah even if it goes the porn fantasy route and she's like yeah that was me now let's fuck... Now he has fucked his wife's sister and in the long run that's probably not going to work out well considering wife isn't down with it.

Honestly, I'm not ever going to approach this like, "Hey, I found this, want to show me in person."

The only reason I'd bring it up is if it's some ex-boyfriend of hers that posted it, I think she'd want to know it's out there and take the steps to have it taken down (if she didn't approve it being on the websites).

Ok but how is she going to get it taken down? Once something is out on the web it can be really hard to get it removed from every single site. And even if you do get it removed, someone could have it saved somewher and upload it again after she thinks she got them all down.

There's no way for you to know if she posted it or if she's cool with it being up. And even if she would want it to come down its difficult to do and difficult to keep it down forever.

This just seems like all risk and no reward.

 

[dutchrain]

Yes, all risk and no reward. In no possible scenario this is going to end well. Not even if you keep quiet. It'll bugger you forever (or for a long time at least) then. But still I think keeping it quiet is the best way to handle this.

And be very careful to not change how you behave around your sister-in law!

 

[Primalex]

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Masturbate to it and hack her phone.

 

[lovecraft68]

Hmmm my knee jerk reaction is to go with the majority and let it lie

But....here is what nags at me....

Does she know its there? Could this be something she made for her husband and the tool stuck it on the net without her knowledge, that is happening a lot lately and people are getting arrested for it at this point.

So maybe...it could be worth mentioning discreetly to her as in send the link to her from a toss away e-mail address and say

"I saw this, did you know it was up there"

Don't sign your name. If the thing is still there maybe she knows and doesn't care.

But I would not confront her directly nor would I tell anyone.

 

[Harold_Hill]

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

If I were in your shoes, I would mention to her casually, (in private), that I saw a video of a women that could be her twin, then judge her reaction. If it is her, her body language will betray her, and if it is not her, she will be curious, but clueless. How you react after that depends on how she reacts. If she acts like she is ok with you knowing, then you might pursue the conversation, but if she acts like she wants you to disappear and die, take the hint. If it is her, I seriously doubt she will tell your wife. More likely, it will be your and her secret.

 

[dutchrain]

Hmmm my knee jerk reaction is to go with the majority and let it lie

But....here is what nags at me....

Does she know its there? Could this be something she made for her husband and the tool stuck it on the net without her knowledge, that is happening a lot lately and people are getting arrested for it at this point.

So maybe...it could be worth mentioning discreetly to her as in send the link to her from a toss away e-mail address and say

"I saw this, did you know it was up there"

Don't sign your name. If the thing is still there maybe she knows and doesn't care.

But I would not confront her directly nor would I tell anyone.

A one-time email account! Yes. And delete the address as soon as you sent the mail. You don't want her responding and getting into a conversation. One slip and the shit is burning.

 

[midwestyankee]

I can't think of a better way to prove your utter stupidity than to let her know you saw this. Your concern trolling that the vid might have been posted against her will is transparently weak sauce.

 

[Primalex]

If I were in your shoes, I would mention to her casually, (in private), that I saw a video of a women that could be her twin, then judge her reaction.

Yes, great idea. Just let's mention "casually" that you watched porn videos on the net and found a look alike.

"Oh, Kelly, as you've mentioned apple pie - I just recently saw a porn video and she looked a lot like you. I really just thought it would be a great topic before the appetizers and don't want to hint at anything."


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she will be curious, but clueless

First of all, she will be clueless no matter what, because even if it would be her, how would she make the connection that it really is her, without describing what the video shows? So it comes down to "Uhm...my brother-in-law drags me in a conversation about his porn watching habits and is hitting on me." - which is guaranteed to end up with the sister-in-law asking the sister (in private), what is wrong with you, which is guaranteed to end up with your wife asking you (in private) what is wrong with you.

 

[Primalex]

A one-time email account! Yes. And delete the address as soon as you sent the mail.

It is slightly amusing (and seriously disturbing) how people recommend behavior I would use for a story about a creepy stalker that tries to give his victims serious nightmares.

 

[dutchrain]

It is slightly amusing (and seriously disturbing) how people recommend behavior I would use for a story about a creepy stalker that tries to give his victims serious nightmares.

I have to say that was why I reacted so enthusiast. My imagination ran wild (is still doing it BTW, notes have been made).

But I still think it is a valuable option if OP really wants to bring the video to her attention.

 

[Primalex]

But I still think it is a valuable option if OP really wants to bring the video to her attention.

There is only one option to do it:

Straightforward and honest and accepting the fallout.

"Hey Kelly, I've seen a homemade porn video with a woman that looks like you and I'm worried that some guy uploaded private stuff without your consent. Want me to send you the link to the video? Oh and it would be nice if you wouldn't mention to my wife that I've watched porn on the net."

Any form of subtlety will just result in miscommunication and misinterpretation, which will exponentially increase the fallout.

 

[dutchrain]

There is only one option to do it:

Straightforward and honest and accepting the fallout.

"Hey Kelly, I've seen a homemade porn video with a woman that looks like you and I'm worried that some guy uploaded private stuff without your consent. Want me to send you the link to the video? Oh and it would be nice if you wouldn't mention to my wife that I've watched porn on the net."

Any form of subtlety will just result in miscommunication and misinterpretation, which will exponentially increase the fallout.

And this is sound advice. OP, do it this way, or let it be.

 

[lovecraft68]

There is only one option to do it:

Straightforward and honest and accepting the fallout.

"Hey Kelly, I've seen a homemade porn video with a woman that looks like you and I'm worried that some guy uploaded private stuff without your consent. Want me to send you the link to the video? Oh and it would be nice if you wouldn't mention to my wife that I've watched porn on the net."

Any form of subtlety will just result in miscommunication and misinterpretation, which will exponentially increase the fallout.

In a perfect world, this works.

In reality...if "Kelly" reacts badly, says something to hubby, and Kelly also tells the "OPs" wife "Your husband is surfing porn and was nice enough to tell me he found me....bet he is jacking off to me....

and let's say Hubby was a d-bag and did this without her approval, now he is royally screwed and who is he blaming-certainly not himself

Wife and brother in law are seriously unhappy with OP....sis in law is too I imagine...

Sometimes upfront is not always as good in reality as it is on paper. I would go anon with this.

 

[Primalex]

Sometimes upfront is not always as good in reality as it is on paper. I would go anon with this.

It always comes down to what your focus is.

Making a choice in all conscience that allows you to be proud of it and to stick it out, no matter what the result is; or making a choice that focuses on protecting your own sorry ass.

I know what my choice would be and we know now what your choice would be.


In the end, people don't listen anyway and just pick what reinforces their initial position.

 

[lovecraft68]

It always comes down to what your focus is.

Making a choice in all conscience that allows you to be proud of it and to stick it out, no matter what the result is; or making a choice that focuses on protecting your own sorry ass.

I know what my choice would be and we know now what your choice would be.


In the end, people don't listen anyway and just pick what reinforces their initial position.

First I very much agree with your last statement....

But you're being shallow and short sighted-and as always trying to be "tough". There would be more than my 'sorry ass' on the line; this is a sister in law meaning there is a lot of asses in the mix and on the line.

If he lets her know anonymously some shit will still hit the fan, but it doesn't have to be everyone's ass.

My wife and I have a couple of videos on the net...we're wearing party masks, but I have several identifiable tattoos...I'll post back here if anyone ever contacts us.....of course in our case....its both of us and I don't think we would be too upset.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

If your impetus is truly that someone has put her integrity at risk, you'll swallow your pride and share with your wife that her sister may be the victim of something that concerns you. It should be your wife that approaches her sister. Never, especially if you haven't shared this with your wife, should you be the one who initiates this conversation.

 

[lovecraft68]

If your impetus is truly that someone has put her integrity at risk, you'll swallow your pride and share with your wife that her sister may be the victim of something that concerns you. It should be your wife that approaches her sister. Never, especially if you haven't shared this with your wife, should you be the one who initiates this conversation.

This is a good suggestion...letting the wife handle it

Providing the OP is not in the type of marriage that he is not 'supposed' to be on porn sites.

As for it being up without her knowledge(maybe/maybe not)

I have gotten to a point where every amateur video makes me wonder if the woman knows its up and even many of the pic threads here. Especially the ones "this is my wife...."

 

[krissive69]

this is why there are Darwin Awards....