The Isolated Blurt Thread IX: Insurrection

[Que]

Oh, and shut up, query.

I get that a lot...

It never works.

 

[dolf]

If two guys are "just joshing" a solitary male stranger, it sets up flight or, more likely fight. The lone male is deciding quickly which of the two guys he is going to put down quickly.

that old 'do unto others' thing. you know you wouldn't want guys following you in the street, telling you how much they like your sweet trouser bulge. there's just no need for it.

If I am interested enough to actually want to meet her, I am interested enough to observe and find some sort of neutral, friendly, nonthreatening opener. This best openers are non-verbal anyway. A smile, an eye-roll at someone else's boorish behavior, a polite shrug after a harried waitress overlooked you. It is always OK to speak to a women about any subject that you would speak to a man about who was also standing in line.

pretty much. if I feel like a guy is engaging with me as a person, I respond positively. if he speaks to me like all I am is tits & arse, I fantasise about him getting leprosy of the dick.

 

[Que]

that old 'do unto others' thing. you know you wouldn't want guys following you in the street, telling you how much they like your sweet trouser bulge. there's just no need for it.

pretty much. if I feel like a guy is engaging with me as a person, I respond positively. if he speaks to me like all I am is tits & arse, I fantasise about him getting leprosy of the dick.

One of the best ways to "get away with" approaching a woman is to be seen approaching and talking to couples and guys as well. (no homo)

 

[evesdream]

I believe that the term "harassment" has been broadened to cover the street stuff. It's easier for the cops around here to patrol for it when it sounds scarier. Of course some dude was following and raping women in a parking garage in daylight here the other day so it's pretty scary as it is, no matter the title.

The title is everything when it comes to the dissemination of and reaction to the clip. Words mean things even when the words are intentionally diminished.

I knew about this video making the rounds though today is my first time watching it. I think the story that followed the distribution of the video - the threats that she's reportedly receiving online, is more telling. I'm surprised no one's posted that.

 

[evesdream]

Need any oral sex right now?

To hell with you too.

 

[eyer]

To hell with you too.

You forgot the comma.

 

[Wife of Bath]

This is an interesting discussion. Honestly, the conceit of the video makes me a little bit irritated when I remember the actual harassment I got from ages 10 going on up.

An old man coming up behind me in his store, physical contact in parks, on the bus, cruel backhanded comments from boys my age, etc. and worse.

Being followed one night as a teen (to the point where I was afraid to go home because I didn't want him to know where I lived) by someone pretending to pee in the bushes for about 3 blocks - that night I went up to the well lit-house of someone who seemed to have a lot of guests and asked them to use their phone to call my mother and wait out the creep. And worse than that too.

I can't agree that the majority of what she experienced in that clip is harassment.

I did receive the irritating comments from boys along the lines of "what, I'm too ugly?/too black?" but I don't consider that harassment either even, though it was meant to get a rise out of me and it bothered and confused me. It's what it was, bravado, failed come-ons, their frustration.

"Smile"? Come on.

Oh, and shut up, query.

I think the goal is to show what a typical day might be like for a woman walking down the street- although I agree with you, the things she experienced were somewhat mild compared to situations I have been through literally just walking down the street.

Harassment, to me, is a border term- if she felt uncomfortable or unsafe as a result of their actions, I would say she had been harassed.

 

[Noor]

Today's the old man's 82nd...

...I haven't talked to him since his 78th.

Just tried calling the only home number he's had since 1968...

...it has been disconnected and is no longer in service.

Naturally, that makes me wonder...

...if that's not also the case concerning his life.

check the obits and ssi database.

It takes a while for a number to get disconnected esp if the bills are being paid by auto withdrawal.

 

[dolf]

check the obits and ssi database.

It takes a while for a number to get disconnected esp if the bills are being paid by auto withdrawal.

or, at his age, he could be in a residential home, or might have moved into sheltered housing.

 

[unregistered]

 

[snugglestruggle]

I can honestly say I don't think there are many men on the planet that would complain about the harassment in the video if the shoe was on the other foot. It would be seen as a compliment and therein lies the problem IMO.

Unless of course if you were getting in the way of his rascal scooter.

 

[dolf]

I can honestly day I don't think there is a man on the planet that would complain about the harassment in the video if the shoe was on the other foot. It would be seen as attention and therein lies the problem IMO.

Unless of course if you were getting in the way of his rascal scooter.

see, you imagine it by hot womens. how about imagining it by butch blokes instead.

 

[Que]

You forgot the comma.

It is possible that she didn't need a comma and misspelled "two."

FWIW, I ended up having a chance to reconnect with my dad shortly before he got ill and died.

It was worth it for me. Now it is easier to just remember the better parts of our relationship. I am glad he didn't get to take my resentment to the grave where it would have been of no consequence to him after that.

 

[Noor]

see, you imagine it by hot womens. how about imagining it by butch blokes instead.

Or fast moving feminine sumo wrestlers...

 

[phantom4533]

Bluefish and saltines for breakfast. Yum.

 

[Noor]

Bluefish and saltines for breakfast. Yum.

almonds and rice here.

 

[dolf]

I had chocolate for breakfast. ha!

 

[Lorilei]

Scrambled eggs with spinach and goat cheese.

 

[Sunshine]

battered fried green beans, beef stew, a bagel and left over pasta. A bit of everything I could find in the fridge.

It's no wonder I gained back the seven pounds I lost.

 

[Wings]

Avocado and cheddar omelette

 

[RobDownSouth]

Today's the old man's 82nd...

...I haven't talked to him since his 78th.

Just tried calling the only home number he's had since 1968...

...it has been disconnected and is no longer in service.

Naturally, that makes me wonder...

...if that's not also the case concerning his life.

So you're saying it's genetic?

 

[AllyRose]

Honey Nut Cheerios.

Blueberries.

And a shot of whiskey.

 

[Killswitch]

oy....

 

[Killswitch]

Well I am going to try to sell one of my houses. Not sortof looking forward to it but I hope it goes good and I get my moneys worth.

 

[snugglestruggle]

see, you imagine it by hot womens. how about imagining it by butch blokes instead.

I'm sure your right about the hot womens and how that would apply today.

I also think harassment was different and changes with societal attitudes. Some of the things I observe today, make me want to just punch the offender.There is such a thing as going too far. Get lost still means get lost.

I stopped catcalling back when I was in my early 20's. Why? At some point a guy either becomes secure in his sexuality/masculinity, stops being immature or he never gets a clue.