tiny_tits journal and random thoughts

[tiny_tits]

First of all...this is a great thread!

Now I haven't read every post, so I'm not sure If I will be repeating anyone but.....

When I was your age I was very much less confident in the bedroom as well. I could barely hold a conversation about certain aspects of sex, like toys and masturbation. (This forum stuff didn't exist then, Much easier now when you have a laptop to hind behind)

This confidence develops over time with the right partner. In my early 20's I would barely even own up to masturbating in private. Now, at 41, Im like "Fuck it! You only live once!" And my hub loves this way of thinking. This leads to some very exciting spontaneous occurrences. Like on the road

tip #1 Be comfortable touching yourself in front of him. If HE loves it than whats there to lose right? Men LOVE to watch this! and mutual masturbation sessions are fun and hot as hell!

tip #2 When giving oral pleasure, don't act like its a chore. Embrace it. Focus on what you are doing and how he is responding. Learn and study every centimeter of his parts. Tell him how much you love pleasuring him; how good he looks, smells, tastes. Ask him for feedback here. It's not so much about technique as it is the enthusiasm of the giver.

tip #3 Give that same feedback when you're on the receiving end.

tip #4 Go toy shopping together. Find a couple simple things to start with that can give you both pleasure.

tip #5 Chat about it in a slightly distracted place, like in the car....sometimes that can ease the conversation.

Thanks- all wonderful points!

 

[tiny_tits]

Happy Sunday Morning everyone!

 

[albertaboy]

Happy Sunday Morning everyone!

Right back at you Tiny!!

 

[omgitselaine]

Years ago I had the same concern and issue as you Tiny. I grew up in a strict catholic family with parochial school and church every Sunday.

When i got married to my husband Joe and we started to actually discuss and get comfortable with one another's sexuality i soon learned that it's " okay " to ummm let go in bed and enjooooy so to speak !!!

Think of it this way ..... its good to be that prim and proper lady on the outside and that ummm " freak " behind close doors Being comfortable with my sexuality and knowing i can be that so called " slut "in my bedroom allows me to be much more sexual and enjoy being ummmm nauuughty

Hope that helps a bit and good luck !!!

 

[LWulf]

Being comfortable in your own skin is probably the hardest thing people have to learn about themselves. Being comfortable in your own skin and feeling relaxed to share that with another person is the second.

On a more literal note, there is an example I can give about this one lady who used to, while bent over the knee, getting a light consensual spanking; bored, waiting for her spanking to be over and having idle hands, would tie her spanker's shoe laces together. After said spanking, they would get up and... Oopsie! He would fall over and back she would go for more firmer spankings.

What can you gain from that little anecdote? It's all about attitude.
You have to be willing to do whatever you have to, to get what you ultimately want.

 

[tiny_tits]

A guy at work today said
"Almost every stripper has a bad Father/Daughter relationship".

What do you think?

#2- Honestly, now- do you think posting naked pics here can be related to strippers in a club?

 

[James Kirkland]

Thoughts...

Words and how they're said can stoke the fires. Some men (me for example) are especially moved by pretend reluctance and playful coyness.
Examples:

"You're going to make me suck your big cock, aren't you?" while already on your knees, unzipping his jeans.

"You are such a naughty boy, making my pussy so wet" while looking back, on your hands and knees, waving your ass at him, "You're going take advantage and doggy fuck me, aren't you? You are so bad..."

Or maybe;
"You're going to fuck my poor little ass again, aren't you?"

"Oh no, you bad man, you're making me cum all over your cock again."

And so on. Silly I know but erotic as hell...

 

[Que]

I don't think all of the above are necesarilly interwoven.

Exhibitionism as a fetish isnt as related to exotic dancers as Voyerism is to their customers.

Unless there's a rebellious streak to it, I don't see exhibition as being dependant on daddy issues either.

 

[jtx122]

One thing I really like to see is my partner masturbating (penetrating herself) with a dildo.
ideally one that looks visually imposing.

What I like about it is the rythm of her arms/hands as she pushes it in and out.
It's about the same rythym as a fuck or head or hand job.

I also like to see her tits swinging in time.

If she uses a vibrator she tends to just move the point where it feels best and cums easy.

With the dlido I get a nice show and she doesnt cum for ages - and this is about lookin g good for him right?

If you're really brave bring another man, woman or couple.
I love having my cock sucked licked by a team - especially a female team.
And I love watching them kiss, fondle and finger, lick and fuck each other (dildo or strap on).


As for the guy, Most guys want tos see their girl get fucked, I think, so fuck someone for him.

 

[tiny_tits]

I don't think all of the above are necesarilly interwoven.

Exhibitionism as a fetish isnt as related to exotic dancers as Voyerism is to their customers.

Unless there's a rebellious streak to it, I don't see exhibition as being dependant on daddy issues either.

Thanks Q.
I'm still pushing the boundaries on exhibitionism.
I don't think I have Daddy issues...

 

[Que]

Thanks Q.
I'm still pushing the boundaries on exhibitionism.
I don't think I have Daddy issues...

Darn. kidding

 

[photobuff56]

I try to get my wife to do more but she refuses, I ask her to masturbate for me and she says no, I ask why and she just says because I don't want to. Just try and be yourself and let loose, if you don't like doing something then don't do it again but at least try it.

 

[tiny_tits]

Darn. kidding

Don't worry, I don't need Daddy issues to get moist for you

 

[tiny_tits]

Cheating

Do you think there are degrees of cheating?

Let's say, for hypothetical purposes, it occurred once and only once.

Would you think a blowjob would be just as bad as fucking?

Or if it happened on a girls night out of drinking be equally as bad as a one time office affair?

 

[fafhrd09]

Nope, I don't think there are degrees of cheating - either you are knowingly betraying someone's trust or you aren't. If you can't tell them about it, its probably something you should avoid.

That said, there are many degrees which are allowed in a relationship by mutual discussion and consent; for example, my SO was allowed to sext/storytell/erotic chat in the online game she played, and it wasn't a betrayal of our relationship - we'd talked about it and agreed it was fair game.

 

[tiny_tits]

Nope, I don't think there are degrees of cheating - either you are knowingly betraying someone's trust or you aren't. If you can't tell them about it, its probably something you should avoid.

That said, there are many degrees which are allowed in a relationship by mutual discussion and consent; for example, my SO was allowed to sext/storytell/erotic chat in the online game she played, and it wasn't a betrayal of our relationship - we'd talked about it and agreed it was fair game.

Right, so this question refers to something not 'agreed to'.

 

[The_Volunteer]

Cheating is cheating. If you want to be able to do things with others, you have to secure permission from your significant other. If you don't do that, you are cheating. If you don't get caught and you can live with it, then don't tell ever. It's yours to own at that point.

 

[mlooking4f2005]

Do you think there are degrees of cheating?

Let's say, for hypothetical purposes, it occurred once and only once.

Would you think a blowjob would be just as bad as fucking?

Or if it happened on a girls night out of drinking be equally as bad as a one time office affair?

Based on this post and one of your others, you seem to have some guilt buildling up. Come on, come clean......at least on here.

 

[Acktion]

As far as strippers having daddy issues, not always. Probably some do. But, I've known several who had their heads on straight.

In one particular instance, a young lady of my acquaintance was a stunning redhead. And I mean spectacular. Not only that, but she was almost on the edge of savant she was so smart. I could not for the life of me figure out why this girl would want to take her clothes off and let a bunch of creepy boozehounds ogle her goodies and I had heard the same thing about "daddy issues". Fortunately, I was close enough to ask her. Here's what she said;

"Don't worry about it. I get that a lot. No, I don't think I do. I just look at it like this. I'm comfortable nude. And I don't mind when guys look at me. So, I could either make a little money for them looking at me while I dance which I enjoy or I could work as a receptionist somewhere, which I'd hate, and have my boss and his cronies ogling me without getting paid for it."

The conversation degenerated from there, so I will spare you my blushes since that was the more pertinent part. (But, daaaaammmnn she could dance! )

As for the question about cheating, I'm a pretty simple guy. Flip the situation around in your head and have the SO getting the same. If it would bug ya, don't.

On the other hand, not a whole lot bugs me, so I've had a few gravel roads in my past.

The way I see it though, any "relations" as Ms. Willis used to call it, is a meal. Sometimes, you need a little fast food. Sometimes you need a good five star restaurant meal. Sometimes you diet. Sometimes you starve. And sometimes you binge. But, if you aren't hungry for SOMETHING, why are you reading the menu?

 

[tiny_tits]

Based on this post and one of your others, you seem to have some guilt buildling up. Come on, come clean......at least on here.

Okay, I've fessed up to a few of you already anyway...

Recently, I ran into a guy I work with at a bar on a girls night out.
They wanted to go home, I didn't. Guy said he would take me home later.
My friends didn't think this was a good idea, because they know I kinda like this guy, its kind of obvious at work, and they know I don't make the best decisions when I drink. But I insisted, and I wasn't DRUNK drunk, so they left.

Bit of background: Guy has an ex wife and a kid. They got a divorce a year ago, but have been trying to fix it. For a while it looked like they would remarry, then not, back and forth. We flirt at work, and my boyfriend once accused me of fucking him. It was untrue, we had a big argument, and Kevin apologized.

Anyway, we had a few more drinks, he drove me home, I let him come in, stupid. Drink more. We make out a bit, he gets my top off, but I finally get some self control and hit the breaks. To Guy's credit, he doesn't get upset, takes no for an answer. We talk a bit more, but he still had this massive erection. I teased him about it, we laugh, and losing a bit of that control I had gained, I gave him a blow job.

 

[TheOlderGuy]

Do you think there are degrees of cheating?

Let's say, for hypothetical purposes, it occurred once and only once.

Would you think a blowjob would be just as bad as fucking?

Or if it happened on a girls night out of drinking be equally as bad as a one time office affair?

Dearest Tiny,

We all do things we regret, things we wish we could undo. But, of course, we can't. We are left to find the best way forward, because dwelling in the past will not solve anything. Labeling it as cheating or not cheating is not going to bring any clarity to the situation either. Furthermore, because our actions are so personal it can be very hard to find good answers in a forum like this.

Here's what I suggest: To start with, forgive yourself. You need your self-respect in order to make the best of a bad situation. Then examine the "why" of how it happened. We are all desperately seeking connection. More than anything else, that's why we come to places like Lit. It's why we flirt. It's why we end up doing things we later regret. Accept the reality of that, and try to figure out what is lacking in your current relationship that may have caused your indiscretion. In the end communication is the only thing that can save a damaged relationship. Speak clearly about your needs, even when it's uncomfortable. Avoiding it will only lead to misunderstandings and regrets. And don't be afraid to move on if it's clear you're not going to have your needs met. Don't be afraid to be alone--some of your finest moments and most cherished lessons will come from knowing yourself through loneliness.

I just wanted to add that you are a really beautiful creature. I know that you've heard that here a lot, and even though I have been following your threads from the beginning, I didn't feel I needed to add anything to the chorus of praise you're found here, at least until now. But you are stunning, both in the physical beauty of your body, and in the courage and desire to learn that you have shown here. I wish you all the best, and I welcome any private communication you might wish to have with me.

 

[tiny_tits]

Dearest Tiny,

We all do things we regret, things we wish we could undo. But, of course, we can't. We are left to find the best way forward, because dwelling in the past will not solve anything. Labeling it as cheating or not cheating is not going to bring any clarity to the situation either. Furthermore, because our actions are so personal it can be very hard to find good answers in a forum like this.

Here's what I suggest: To start with, forgive yourself. You need your self-respect in order to make the best of a bad situation. Then examine the "why" of how it happened. We are all desperately seeking connection. More than anything else, that's why we come to places like Lit. It's why we flirt. It's why we end up doing things we later regret. Accept the reality of that, and try to figure out what is lacking in your current relationship that may have caused your indiscretion. In the end communication is the only thing that can save a damaged relationship. Speak clearly about your needs, even when it's uncomfortable. Avoiding it will only lead to misunderstandings and regrets. And don't be afraid to move on if it's clear you're not going to have your needs met. Don't be afraid to be alone--some of your finest moments and most cherished lessons will come from knowing yourself through loneliness.

I just wanted to add that you are a really beautiful creature. I know that you've heard that here a lot, and even though I have been following your threads from the beginning, I didn't feel I needed to add anything to the chorus of praise you're found here, at least until now. But you are stunning, both in the physical beauty of your body, and in the courage and desire to learn that you have shown here. I wish you all the best, and I welcome any private communication you might wish to have with me.

Thank you for the kind words.
You and I posted at the exact same time- see my post above yours for details

 

[Stackeydreams]

Okay, I've fessed up to a few of you already anyway...

Recently, I ran into a guy I work with at a bar on a girls night out.
They wanted to go home, I didn't. Guy said he would take me home later.
My friends didn't think this was a good idea, because they know I kinda like this guy, its kind of obvious at work, and they know I don't make the best decisions when I drink. But I insisted, and I wasn't DRUNK drunk, so they left.

Bit of background: Guy has an ex wife and a kid. They got a divorce a year ago, but have been trying to fix it. For a while it looked like they would remarry, then not, back and forth. We flirt at work, and my boyfriend once accused me of fucking him. It was untrue, we had a big argument, and Kevin apologized.

Anyway, we had a few more drinks, he drove me home, I let him come in, stupid. Drink more. We make out a bit, he gets my top off, but I finally get some self control and hit the breaks. To Guy's credit, he doesn't get upset, takes no for an answer. We talk a bit more, but he still had this massive erection. I teased him about it, we laugh, and losing a bit of that control I had gained, I gave him a blow job.

Damn!! Thanks for fessin up! Thats a hot story!

 

[DallasDonna]

Okay, I've fessed up to a few of you already anyway...

Recently, I ran into a guy I work with at a bar on a girls night out.
They wanted to go home, I didn't. Guy said he would take me home later.
My friends didn't think this was a good idea, because they know I kinda like this guy, its kind of obvious at work, and they know I don't make the best decisions when I drink. But I insisted, and I wasn't DRUNK drunk, so they left.

Bit of background: Guy has an ex wife and a kid. They got a divorce a year ago, but have been trying to fix it. For a while it looked like they would remarry, then not, back and forth. We flirt at work, and my boyfriend once accused me of fucking him. It was untrue, we had a big argument, and Kevin apologized.

Anyway, we had a few more drinks, he drove me home, I let him come in, stupid. Drink more. We make out a bit, he gets my top off, but I finally get some self control and hit the breaks. To Guy's credit, he doesn't get upset, takes no for an answer. We talk a bit more, but he still had this massive erection. I teased him about it, we laugh, and losing a bit of that control I had gained, I gave him a blow job.

Like TheOlderguy said, you don't read the menu if you aren't hungry. Do you plan on seeing 'Guy' again?

 

[tiny_tits]

Damn!! Thanks for fessin up! Thats a hot story!

I admit, it was exciting. He has a HUGE cock! That's what started the joking around after. It came up past his belt buckle. I wanted to see it...