Daddy fetish (New)

[EvaRimes]

*waves shyly*

I've lurked on lit for long enough, I figure it's time to introduce myself and join in the friendly chat! That said, the welcoming atmosphere y'all have here seems like the best place for a newly Daddy-less little to step out of the shadows and hopefully make some new friends.

Fellow littles, I have a question for you - how do you deal with separating from a Daddy? My Daddy and I ended a three year relationship this last week, and I'm finding myself at a loss for how to really come to terms with it. He was my best friend and boyfriend, so the 'outside' world understands some of my anguish, but this is a deeper hurt than previous breakups I've experienced.

-lost

It's cliche but give it time and it'll get better.. And in the meantime, you can just post random ramblings on here like us x

 

[INeedLove]

*waves shyly*

I've lurked on lit for long enough, I figure it's time to introduce myself and join in the friendly chat! That said, the welcoming atmosphere y'all have here seems like the best place for a newly Daddy-less little to step out of the shadows and hopefully make some new friends.

Fellow littles, I have a question for you - how do you deal with separating from a Daddy? My Daddy and I ended a three year relationship this last week, and I'm finding myself at a loss for how to really come to terms with it. He was my best friend and boyfriend, so the 'outside' world understands some of my anguish, but this is a deeper hurt than previous breakups I've experienced.

-lost

First, HUGS! Losing your Daddy is a heart wrenching experience. You need to give yourself time to grieve. We let our daddies into some of the deepest, most hidden places in our hearts and minds. That connection is more intense than most vanilla relationships. Take it easy on yourself during this time. There are many of us here who will give you hugs or smiles when you need them.

Thank you lovely one. I hope you get it all accomplished expediently. hugs!
:

Hi sweet friend. I didn't get as much accomplished as I had hoped but it was a good day. How about yours? Hugs!

It's cliche but give it time and it'll get better.. And in the meantime, you can just post random ramblings on here like us x

Welcome to the thread Eva.

 

[lostlilgirl]

Thank you all for the kind words, I know that time will be the surest way through, along with supportive friends.

INL - You're so right about the depth of the connection, it is a truly special thing, and one I'd not found before him. I'm sad that we decided to end it, but also happy that I got to experience it.

 

[tiedtits4me]

Something I read and thought i'd share

"Care and feeding of Daddies:

1. Daddies may seem stalwart and invincible but often in the pursuit of providing for our Little Ones we need to be reminded to sit down/eat/sleep/breathe.

2. Daddies need praise. Often we act as a filter between you and the harshness of the world we want to spare you from. Telling us what a good job we are doing makes it all better.

3. Daddies need to be asked what they need sometimes Especially if your Daddy is a bit addled in the brain…

4. You are one of Daddy’s biggest sources of stress relief. Learn him. Interpret him. Let him know you delight in unwinding him.

5. Our community tends to tailor towards fun social activities where Littles get to interact with each other. It can be a bit different for Daddies. Encourage him to make friends with other Daddies when possible. We are a great support group for each other.

6. Play with your Daddy. Not just sexytimes. Try and understand his hobbies. Watch that bring out a smile in him.

7. He’s already wrapped around your little finger. Make that a safe stable place for him to be. Be the place he can retreat to as well.

8. When he does something manly…praise him for it. That goes right to our heads

9. Remind your Daddy why he is your Daddy. Do this periodically.

10. Always tell him the truth. Truth is the foundation of any solid relationship. Fibbing about getting into the cookies or where you hid his birthday presents do not count.

..I imagine this will not apply to every Big/Little relationship out there…but I hope it serves as a good reminder. Please feel free to spread this around and add your own take on things. I am sure I forgot many important issues (see number 3)."

 

[Miasorrow]

Good morning all, I have been not very talkative lately, just observing, enjoying the silence. I hope you are all well.
TT "the feeding of Daddies" was great..especially 7^^
p.s. waiting for my opponent to come around..

 

[peachesmelba]

"Hi again y'all! Just a note in passing to let you know that the Midwest Deep Freeze continues (as does the lack of internet). High temps for the week are expected to be in the 20s with more snow expected. I am SOOOOOO over winter! Love and Hugs to my beautiful Sister BGs and to the Daddies too!"

 

[Horus_rules]

Lostlilgirl, it's hard losing someone you love and let into places you didn't let anyone else into. But the hardest part is putting it behind you and living again, trusting again, or opening up again. It has taken me three years and a few failed relationships, because I held back and wasn't over her enough. I won't ever be over her completely because I did give her my heart.

Just remember to breathe your next breath and move forward, however you can. Find yourself again and grow to love who you are. The right person will come into your life, but you have to be looking forward and not clinging to the past behind you.

If you ever need an ear of someone who has been there, send me a message.

 

[ace195008]

Good morning all

 

[roughenedhands]

Happy Sunday daddies and girls! It seems that lots of us have "real life" stuff going on. I wish you strength to deal with any adversities, grit to keep fighting the good fight and smiles to light your way.


I'm feeling lazy and like this today. Despite having lots to do.
https://24.media.tumblr.com/f22d0ca364320cfd86a9efffb640b168/tumblr_mghbee2avh1rwfklfo1_500.jpg

This daddy knows how to motivate bad girls who don't get their tasks done.

 

[mutato]

Good afternoon/evening/morning to all the lovely littles and the Daddies that adore them. Just passing through and saying hi.

TT: "The Care and Feeding of Daddies" was great. There are quite a few things that list that pertain to me. Thank you for sharing it. I hope life is going well with you. (((hugs)))

Peaches: it's great to see you and know you're ok. May things get better for you soon. And for spring to get here much sooner than later!

A warm and happy welcome to you, lostlilgirl The ladies here are wonderful and a great source of support should you need it. May you enjoy your time here.

 

[RjThoughts]

Afternoon everyone

Good to see Peaches saying she's alive.

 

[peachesmelba]

Something I read and thought i'd share

"Care and feeding of Daddies:

1. Daddies may seem stalwart and invincible but often in the pursuit of providing for our Little Ones we need to be reminded to sit down/eat/sleep/breathe.

2. Daddies need praise. Often we act as a filter between you and the harshness of the world we want to spare you from. Telling us what a good job we are doing makes it all better.

3. Daddies need to be asked what they need sometimes Especially if your Daddy is a bit addled in the brain…

4. You are one of Daddy’s biggest sources of stress relief. Learn him. Interpret him. Let him know you delight in unwinding him.

5. Our community tends to tailor towards fun social activities where Littles get to interact with each other. It can be a bit different for Daddies. Encourage him to make friends with other Daddies when possible. We are a great support group for each other.

6. Play with your Daddy. Not just sexytimes. Try and understand his hobbies. Watch that bring out a smile in him.

7. He’s already wrapped around your little finger. Make that a safe stable place for him to be. Be the place he can retreat to as well.

8. When he does something manly…praise him for it. That goes right to our heads

9. Remind your Daddy why he is your Daddy. Do this periodically.

10. Always tell him the truth. Truth is the foundation of any solid relationship. Fibbing about getting into the cookies or where you hid his birthday presents do not count.

..I imagine this will not apply to every Big/Little relationship out there…but I hope it serves as a good reminder. Please feel free to spread this around and add your own take on things. I am sure I forgot many important issues (see number 3)."

"TT this is excellent - and even though the SO and I don't have a more traditional D/bg relationship so much of this still applies. Thanks for sharing."

 

[peachesmelba]

Good afternoon/evening/morning to all the lovely littles and the Daddies that adore them. Just passing through and saying hi.

TT: "The Care and Feeding of Daddies" was great. There are quite a few things that list that pertain to me. Thank you for sharing it. I hope life is going well with you. (((hugs)))

Peaches: it's great to see you and know you're ok. May things get better for you soon. And for spring to get here much sooner than later!

A warm and happy welcome to you, lostlilgirl The ladies here are wonderful and a great source of support should you need it. May you enjoy your time here.

"From your lips to God's ears Daddy M! I figure I should see my lawn again about June.....MAYBE!" (Giggles)

 

[peachesmelba]

Afternoon everyone

Good to see Peaches saying she's alive.

"es for Daddy RJ."

 

[peachesmelba]

*waves shyly*

I've lurked on lit for long enough, I figure it's time to introduce myself and join in the friendly chat! That said, the welcoming atmosphere y'all have here seems like the best place for a newly Daddy-less little to step out of the shadows and hopefully make some new friends.

Fellow littles, I have a question for you - how do you deal with separating from a Daddy? My Daddy and I ended a three year relationship this last week, and I'm finding myself at a loss for how to really come to terms with it. He was my best friend and boyfriend, so the 'outside' world understands some of my anguish, but this is a deeper hurt than previous breakups I've experienced.

-lost

"Welcome to the thread. My sisters have excellent advise. I can only add...or emphasize....give yourself time. Don't tell yourself you should be 'over it'. Allow yourself to grieve when and how you need. Don't rush into ANYTHING and never settle for less than your dreams. It may take time to welcome someone new into your heart and your life again but try to view the time alone as a positive thing. Hugs to you and again, welcome..."

 

[peachesmelba]

Hi. I'm very new to a DDlg relationship. What a surprise to find this precious princess and for the two of us to connect in this way so naturally. I've been reading through this thread to maybe understand it better, but I'm kind of finding that the relationship is just us. Which is really amazing. Makes me want to spend more time with her and let what we have bloom.

I'm just thankful she has changed my life.

Anyway, great thread and thanks to everyone who posts.

It's cliche but give it time and it'll get better.. And in the meantime, you can just post random ramblings on here like us x

Lostlilgirl, it's hard losing someone you love and let into places you didn't let anyone else into. But the hardest part is putting it behind you and living again, trusting again, or opening up again. It has taken me three years and a few failed relationships, because I held back and wasn't over her enough. I won't ever be over her completely because I did give her my heart.

Just remember to breathe your next breath and move forward, however you can. Find yourself again and grow to love who you are. The right person will come into your life, but you have to be looking forward and not clinging to the past behind you.

If you ever need an ear of someone who has been there, send me a message.

"Welcome all!"

 

[RjThoughts]

"es for Daddy RJ."

Peaches

 

[AriadneImmortal]

"Welcome to the thread. My sisters have excellent advise. I can only add...or emphasize....give yourself time. Don't tell yourself you should be 'over it'. Allow yourself to grieve when and how you need. Don't rush into ANYTHING and never settle for less than your dreams. It may take time to welcome someone new into your heart and your life again but try to view the time alone as a positive thing. Hugs to you and again, welcome..."

Well put! Needed to hear this too.

 

[AriadneImmortal]

When one lurker comes out, it is only appropriate for there to be more.
I am fairly new to understanding myself and my needs as a little. I'm having a tough time understanding whether my feelings are because I am still getting my feet wet, or if I just crossed paths with a not so daddy like daddy. Figured the expertise rolling around this thread would be able to help.

What my main concern is whether a daddy can truly be a daddy if he doesn't make you feel emotionally safe? Can this type of a intimacy work in a non committed relationship? Anyone willing to lend their brilliance will be rewarded by... uhh yeah I have nothing haha

 

[RjThoughts]

When one lurker comes out, it is only appropriate for there to be more.
I am fairly new to understanding myself and my needs as a little. I'm having a tough time understanding whether my feelings are because I am still getting my feet wet, or if I just crossed paths with a not so daddy like daddy. Figured the expertise rolling around this thread would be able to help.

What my main concern is whether a daddy can truly be a daddy if he doesn't make you feel emotionally safe? Can this type of a intimacy work in a non committed relationship? Anyone willing to lend their brilliance will be rewarded by... uhh yeah I have nothing haha

the Little Ones here will help you immensely.

 

[INeedLove]

When one lurker comes out, it is only appropriate for there to be more.
I am fairly new to understanding myself and my needs as a little. I'm having a tough time understanding whether my feelings are because I am still getting my feet wet, or if I just crossed paths with a not so daddy like daddy. Figured the expertise rolling around this thread would be able to help.

What my main concern is whether a daddy can truly be a daddy if he doesn't make you feel emotionally safe? Can this type of a intimacy work in a non committed relationship? Anyone willing to lend their brilliance will be rewarded by... uhh yeah I have nothing haha

Welcome to the thread. We are a supportive group of people. Sort of like a family.

There is a lot of variance in how people experience this dynamic. There are some girls who like an edgy sort of daddy who pushes limits and leave them off balance. Others of us need a protective, loving, safe daddy. It's important to think about what YOU need from a daddy. If you don't feel safe, and that is a need, then you should move on. Your submission is a gift to be given to your one. You are precious and deserving of respect and care.

Can this daddy/little dynamic work in a non committed relationship? Possibly. For me, this dynamic is incredibly personal and intimate. It would be hard for me to give my all to someone if I didn't feel some sort of commitment. But everyone is different. Would you be comfortable having a daddy in a non committed relationship? If so, then that's fine. Knowing your boundaries is an important aspect of any D/s relationship. There is no right or wrong way.

Sorry, I feel like I've gotten on a soap box.

I'm sure some of the other gals will chime in soon too.

 

[INeedLove]

the Little Ones here will help you immensely.

Hi daddy Rj!

 

[RjThoughts]

Hi daddy Rj!

Hi INL

 

[AriadneImmortal]

Welcome to the thread. We are a supportive group of people. Sort of like a family.

There is a lot of variance in how people experience this dynamic. There are some girls who like an edgy sort of daddy who pushes limits and leave them off balance. Others of us need a protective, loving, safe daddy. It's important to think about what YOU need from a daddy. If you don't feel safe, and that is a need, then you should move on. Your submission is a gift to be given to your one. You are precious and deserving of respect and care.

Can this daddy/little dynamic work in a non committed relationship? Possibly. For me, this dynamic is incredibly personal and intimate. It would be hard for me to give my all to someone if I didn't feel some sort of commitment. But everyone is different. Would you be comfortable having a daddy in a non committed relationship? If so, then that's fine. Knowing your boundaries is an important aspect of any D/s relationship. There is no right or wrong way.

Sorry, I feel like I've gotten on a soap box.

I'm sure some of the other gals will chime in soon too.

By far the most supportive and welcoming group of people on the forums. Thank you so much for that.

I always just assumed it would be so hard to find someone I would be able to trust enough to enjoy this type of relationship with, that I was willing to accept any terms. I do need to feel safe and loved, with the edginess there when needed. Hard part is that I'm not sure how I would go about finding a daddy. How do you girls go about approaching men or when do you bring this up?

 

[TwistingEther]

By far the most supportive and welcoming group of people on the forums. Thank you so much for that.

I always just assumed it would be so hard to find someone I would be able to trust enough to enjoy this type of relationship with, that I was willing to accept any terms. I do need to feel safe and loved, with the edginess there when needed. Hard part is that I'm not sure how I would go about finding a daddy. How do you girls go about approaching men or when do you bring this up?

This thread tends to be a good place to start. There's plenty of us guys here looking for our own li'l girl.