If You Knew Something

[pointless]

My but you like to follow me. I had in my sig line "the artist formally known as daedalus77. I just put it back to make you happy.

When did I piss in your cornflakes? Did I say something to upset you? Are you the harbinger of gloom to someone that changed their name?

I have over 3,300 posts under my current name. I am not claiming to be a noob.

Magic Merlin was before my time as daedalus.

I was simply asking what we should have learned from this. Do you know?

what a silly fucker.

 

[lovetoread]

Just for the record, I will gladly send my size info for some nice lingerie and spices.

 

[Recidiva]

Just for the record, I will gladly send my size info for some nice lingerie and spices.

cheap ass spices?

 

[lovetoread]

No, the expensive kind only.

 

[Noor]

20 years or so ago I was much more intertwined with the real lives of the people I played online with. Knew everybody's story. I'm much less inclined to do that just...well...it isn't a unique and small community now, it's huge. I suppose it's the difference between living in a small town where everybody knows your name and your business and moving to a big city where you avoid making eye contact on the street or you'll be there all day and can't get to where you're going.

You and I may have the same male friend.

I might be very, very manipulative and attempt to get someone to spill the beans publicly after being provoked. I've done that too. Possibly not morally superior, but effective.

My examples were from real life although my former best friend was on lit for a while, she followed me. I have quite a few friends/lovers who do that. Not sure if that male friend is on lit, but since he has been in tech for decades, I am sure he is online.

Yes, lit long ago was a very different place and most of the people I have met from here are from back then. When there were 20,000 members, most of them male and atleast 3/4 alts and lurkers it was easier to know people, also I suspect it was more self selecting since not evryone had the internet back then. There were also groups of people like the Ohio people who all seemed to migrate to Wisconsin. There have been many deaths over the years too.

I miss the laughter of the old lit sometimes, the crazy funny threads like my children are going to kill me thread and tree sex.

 

[FGB]

cheap ass spices?

I think that was "Cheap ass redneck spices!"

 

[Recidiva]

I think that was "Cheap ass redneck spices!"

Those are to treat ass cancer. *nods*

 

[Noor]

Regarding suicide threats and online.

The main mailing list I am on had a member who had threatened suicide once and was talked down by logistic questions, about 8 months letter he wrote that we didn't need to worry about the cat or anything, he had it worked out, we realized he was serious and we knew the circumstances leading up to it which were pretty bad.

So I tracked down him down and called his local sheriff, and then had to track down 3 possible locations he could be in. The sheriff was seriously surprised but did go find him, and was able to stop him/transport him to hospital, as soon as he had him. Several people called it in, and the sheriff's office was very surprised, and also realized that they needed to be online. The cat was okay, he had planned to gas himself and the cat together, and was stopped before serious damage was done.

I knew when I called it in that this guy might never speak to me again, but I figured better he get help. Surprisingly he did speak to me, thanked us and is much better now.

 

[Laurel]

There's a difference between discovering someone you're friendly with is a predator/liar/dangerous person and needing to inform those who may be harmed by them, and having a falling out with someone and publicly spreading their personal, private information and things shared in confidence just because you've now decided they're an asshole.

Anyone with any integrity at all keeps the deep secrets the gleaned from those they cared about, even when they no longer care. Untrustworthy people turn and share stuff the second they're able to do so. When you share personal info about other people who trusted you, you're saying more about yourself than you are about them. Others see this, and take note.

 

[Noor]

Just for the record, I will gladly send my size info for some nice lingerie and spices.

I can translate lingerie sizes world wide You guys may not have realized it but that was a multi continental train wreck

 

[run_silent]

Just for the record, I will gladly send my size info for some nice lingerie and spices.

You are a cheap and nasty little tramp. Do you want to get married? Please say yes.

 

[Noor]

There's a difference between discovering someone you're friendly with is a predator/liar/dangerous person and needing to inform those who may be harmed by them, and having a falling out with someone and publicly spreading their personal, private information and things shared in confidence just because you've now decided they're an asshole.

Anyone with any integrity at all keeps the deep secrets the gleaned from those they cared about, even when they no longer care. Untrustworthy people turn and share stuff the second they're able to do so. When you share personal info about other people who trusted you, you're saying more about yourself than you are about them. Others notice this, and take note.

Yes, I agree. Preventing harm is the only time. In my getting outed it was not intentional or malicious, and although I did not react as well as I could, I never thought it was. The 30 other ladies knew about me, just didn't know who. I did not know about them although I was under no illusions that I was the only one, the shock of it was finding out how someone felt after the fact, I just hate that!
I think the world would be so much easier if people would just communicate things as they happen and tell people how they feel.
That said it can feel a bit strange at times, and I usually need to get used to it.

 

[patient1]

The board did not need to be saved. It did need to know the truth though.

Yes. It was a public service. Thank you.

You have no way of knowing for certain if there are other victims here. By coming forward, you prevent this from happening to anyone else, and alerted anybody else who has or is making the same mistake.

Once somebody is outed as a con artist, and the board actually faces the fact, it minimizes the fraud's power to harm others.

 

[Lorilei]

There's a difference between discovering someone you're friendly with is a predator/liar/dangerous person and needing to inform those who may be harmed by them, and having a falling out with someone and publicly spreading their personal, private information and things shared in confidence just because you've now decided they're an asshole.

Anyone with any integrity at all keeps the deep secrets the gleaned from those they cared about, even when they no longer care. Untrustworthy people turn and share stuff the second they're able to do so. When you share personal info about other people who trusted you, you're saying more about yourself than you are about them. Others see this, and take note.

Laurel is wise.

 

[bronzeage]

Those are to treat ass cancer. *nods*

Superior treatments are available today, but I would have to reveal personal information, if I said how I learned this.

 

[neci]

If I had absolute proof that someone was fucking babies or killing people, yes. I would let someone know. Until then it's not my place to jump up into someone's shit.

 

[Sean]

There's a difference between discovering someone you're friendly with is a predator/liar/dangerous person and needing to inform those who may be harmed by them, and having a falling out with someone and publicly spreading their personal, private information and things shared in confidence just because you've now decided they're an asshole.

Anyone with any integrity at all keeps the deep secrets the gleaned from those they cared about, even when they no longer care. Untrustworthy people turn and share stuff the second they're able to do so. When you share personal info about other people who trusted you, you're saying more about yourself than you are about them. Others see this, and take note.

Meh.
.

 

[lovetoread]

You are a cheap and nasty little tramp. Do you want to get married? Please say yes.

Whoa, my second ever wedding proposal.

 

[parodyluvr75]

There's a difference between discovering someone you're friendly with is a predator/liar/dangerous person and needing to inform those who may be harmed by them, and having a falling out with someone and publicly spreading their personal, private information and things shared in confidence just because you've now decided they're an asshole.

Anyone with any integrity at all keeps the deep secrets the gleaned from those they cared about, even when they no longer care. Untrustworthy people turn and share stuff the second they're able to do so. When you share personal info about other people who trusted you, you're saying more about yourself than you are about them. Others see this, and take note.

A big difference but some people feel justified. The lies we tell ourselves to feel superior.

There was a woman I knew who was a friend/enemy of another woman for years. They were on and off again. I have to admit somethings she said the woman did to her were mean. The woman I knew claimed to be such a moral person. Her enemy/friend got some kind of very bad female cancer from a hpv. She was going through medical treatment but the prognosis wasn't good.

She happily snarked to me that the other woman got what she deserved because she had so many lovers. I was horrified and taken back for a second. Not moral or kind. I asked her how many times had she unprotected sex before she was married. I told her it only takes once, that could be you. She was so frustrated and angry she walked off. I thought she was ok but uptight until that moment. She knew we were no longer friends, I don't miss her.

I wouldn't tell her secrets, but I'll never be her friend.

 

[warrior queen]

The only time I would reveal something about another poster here was if I had absolute proof they were putting up pics of someone else without their knowledge.
Which is why I think pink was completely correct in outing KRC.
Everything else is none of my/anyone's business..... even the married status. Ffs, in real life people often get suckered into sleeping with someone they thought was single who later turns out to be married! Not as big a deal IMO.
But posting pics without consent? With the net, who knows where they could end up or what damage they could do.

 

[CHNOPS]

For what it's worth, and with no malice intended, I don't think Killswitch is wrong.

 

[VaticanAssassin]

^^^^KRC cyber buddy

 

[pink]

KS couldn't be more wrong.

 

[RickO'Shea]

I would let the person know that I knew and if they didn't permanently leave of their own accord and no come back with a new name, I would expose them on the board.

 

[CHNOPS]

^^^^KRC cyber buddy

I know you like to picture guys getting off, but as far as I know, KRC never cybered anybody, and I certainly never asked.

However if we had, the scenario would not have been, "How about I wait on line to gang rape you, then I can't get my dick up so I pour beer on your head and blame you for being raped." So you wouldn't have liked it very much.