Happily Married, Sexually Unfulfilled

[L8tnIt]

Welcome to the club! I think this may be the only club where everyone apologizes to, and feels sorry for, every new member who joins.

SOOO very frustrating!!!

I agree... This isn't exactly a collection of people you WANT to be a part of.
But here we are.
At least we can take solace in each other's company, in one fashion or another

 

[Hubs_in_hose]

We all describe being in marriages where the sex is lacking- what are ypu doing to improve this situation?

Just think about it...

I realized that my approach over the years was probably wrong. As a person heavily involved in the Internet world I relied too much on email. I'd write these long messages trying to express my thoughts to my wife about our sex life and things I'd like to change.

She'd never reply.

Over and over I'd send different types of messages

She'd still never reply.

I didn't realize that regardless how sincere and loving I was trying to be in the messages, she was taking them as "something is wrong and it is her fault". She also had those email messages to remind her each time she went to her email box.

Finally, instead of writing, we talked. I expressed to her how much I love her and that I know our sex life hasn't been that great recently. We talked. I said to her, that if there was anything that she wanted to do, sexually, that as long as we were both involved there was nothing that I wouldn't be willing to try. My only regret would be that if we grew old and didn't try the things we wanted to when we were still younger (we are in our early to mid 40's now).

I have shared my Lit stories with her. I wrote another with her help. We have bought some sex toys together (still haven't used them). Still nothing much has changed. Even this weekend we made a bet when her favorite football team was playing mine. If my team won she agreed to the wager. I still don't know what she won (her team won) as she couldn't decide before the game. I told her ok, whatever you want me to do, that is the bet, I can't refuse. Sadly, I doubt she will ever collect her winnings.

I love my wife. We have a great life and family together. Our sex life is driving me crazy. I have never cheated on her. I probably look at way too much porn now. When we do have sex, my brain is in over-drive trying to think of new ways to try to get her to do something other than the usual. Because I am thinking about it too much, my performance sucks. Add that to my thought process and I am a fucking basket-case.

 

[L8tnIt]

Dissapointed
Very much so

Distracted
Just the same

Basket-case
Only by listening to some old-school Green Day

I would just say that you are human, and that you are very concerned for her libido... As her husband, you should be. Sexual health os as much a part of being healthy as is a proper diet.

At least you are doing something, which is a Hell of a lot better than doing nothing. Somethimg will click for you both- it happened once, and that is how you two began making a beautiful family together. It just seems to take time to figure out how to do so again

But that is enough of my Amateur Psychology. I wish you the best, as I wish the best for all of us on this thread

 

[Porkwarrior]

Heh would it be wrong to start a list of the Top 3 things you dislike about your spouse?

1) In-laws
2) Not being on the receiving end of gloriously self indulgent non-cheating head since 2001
3) Her unique ability to know what I want to do, and have an innate ability to get in the way. Not just sex...everything. If I want a glass of milk, she will walk to the kitchen and stand infront of the fridge, if I want to open a drawer...like a ninja she will suddenly be there standing infront of it.

1a) Addendum -- ITALIAN in-laws. A herd is coming in an hour...they believe in God, I believe in whisky....may the Sixteen Men of Tain grant me strength.

 

[Longtallhubby]

Today ... actually starting last night ... I'm trying an experiment. I took off my wedding ring and I'm waiting to see how long before she notices. Don't get me wrong, I'd rather be married to her than not, but I do wonder if she pays attention at all.

 

[L8tnIt]

Heh would it be wrong to start a list of the Top 3 things you dislike about your spouse?

1) In-laws
2) Not being on the receiving end of gloriously self indulgent non-cheating head since 2001
3) Her unique ability to know what I want to do, and have an innate ability to get in the way. Not just sex...everything. If I want a glass of milk, she will walk to the kitchen and stand infront of the fridge, if I want to open a drawer...like a ninja she will suddenly be there standing infront of it.

1a) Addendum -- ITALIAN in-laws. A herd is coming in an hour...they believe in God, I believe in whisky....may the Sixteen Men of Tain grant me strength.

Try having In-laws of Irish descent- just as bad, and worse when you add alcohol

 

[Longtallhubby]

Today ... actually starting last night ... I'm trying an experiment. I took off my wedding ring and I'm waiting to see how long before she notices. Don't get me wrong, I'd rather be married to her than not, but I do wonder if she pays attention at all.

It's now been over 48 hours without the ring on my finger. She doesn't notice. It feels so wrong without it. I'm tempted to put it on and forget about this experiment.

 

[ejredlady]

I know for me, being sexually unfulfilled would not lead to me saying I was happily married. It is all part of the package.

 

[Domesticity]

I'm another member of the club but, surprisingly, it doesn't frustrate me all of the time. It sucks but I can compartmentalize, if you will, and kind of push it to the back of my mind and I'm ok. When I'm ovulating it is harder to deal with because I'm like a cat in heat with no reciprocation but, otherwise, as long as he's being loving and interactive in our day-to-day life I can handle it.

For years I'd nag, I'd cry, I'd talk, I'd buy sexy lingerie and walk around the house in it, offer blow jobs, pounce on him and start fooling around with him, masturbate in front of him with the open invitation to join, ignore him, not touch him for weeks at a time (hoping ignoring might work), do little nice, thoughtful things, offer to help him at work to take stress away, always have hair and make-up done and the house clean when he came home from work, etc, etc, etc.

At that point our relationship wasn't strong. He was neglectful, didn't talk to me, didn't help around the house, didn't help with the kids, spent most of the time at the in-law's. We were virtual strangers. I was lonely.

I began talking to another man just in a friendly fashion but then we started sexting, etc. long story short, my husband found out about our emotional affair but didn't want to leave and asked for a second chance because he realized he had pushed me away.

My husband started having way more sex with me immediately following it all. I feel like he was trying to fuck me back to him. That was great but didn't last more than about 3 months. He also started treating me better, being a good spouse, loving me, being a good dad. I was ready to leave but he asked me for a chance to prove he can be the husband I want and need.

I had to do a lot of soul searching. He is so wonderful in every aspect besides the sex aspect, and when we do have sex it's off the charts amazing, that I decided I couldn't give my kids the gift of a broken home just so I can get my rocks off. If one day they asked why I divorced and I said it was so I could get more dick even though their dad was great I'd feel like a horrible mom.

So, I deal with less sex than I'd like but in exchange I have a good friend and partner and my kids see a loving example of partnership. They will never know we don't have a ton of sex and we are very affectionate so they see us being physically loving to one another.

Last night we were fooling around and he picked up the remote and started channel surfing while I was giving him a BJ. I said that killed my mood and left him laying there with a hard on. He was so angry. I was angry. We ended up having sex anyhow and afterwards we talked about it and he said he felt rejected. I explained that's how I feel every single time I come on to him and he shoots me down. He looked at me and said he finally understands. Today he has been all over me.

Hopefully him feeling the rejection will be enough to make him start to pick up the pace. I won't have another emotional affair and I even feel guilty masturbating lately. It's funny you mention catholic guilt in the original post. I'm not religious but have total guilt about everything. I feel like I betrayed my best friend and I feel like a douche bag for not being able to stop loving the other guy. I wish there was a switch to turn it off.

I'll let you guys know if the latest will lead to more sex and maybe I can graduate from the under sexed club.

ETA: I didn't post to solicit partners. I received a pm inviting me to post here and I enjoy the company of others in similar situations who can kind of understand.

 

[Deprived_in_AZ]

Welcome, Miss Domesticity

This is the place to rant, rave, and commiserate. It's even been known to get a little silly around here!

 

[Domesticity]

Welcome, Miss Domesticity

This is the place to rant, rave, and commiserate. It's even been known to get a little silly around here!

Thank you! Silly is always good. I tend to be corny. Hopefully that's well tolerated, too!

 

[Porkwarrior]

ETA: I didn't post to solicit partners. I received a pm inviting me to post here and I enjoy the company of others in similar situations who can kind of understand.

Thank you.

It is even nicer hearing from women that are in the same situation, instead of the usual anti-male "all men are dogs, leave her or suck it up" bias.
I am in exactly the same situation...only my wife hasn't initiated sex in...half a decade? I can't even remember. Even longer since she worshipped my cock in a long slow blowjob that didn't feel like mechanical obligation sex.

And for those at home counting it has been a month since we last fucked. We snuggle on the couch, still sleep naked with each other, and usually I can lock sex up into that part of my brain and forget about it. Because it doesn't look like the situation will improve anytime soon.
I have given up on things "just over the horizon", there were always excuses, financial stress, work stress, home stress...but now things are the most stable they have ever been, we have our dream house mortgage free, enough money that neither of us have worked full time all year.

And still nothing in the bedroom. "Cat climbing the walls" indeed.
My problem is I was never a cat person.

 

[Domesticity]

Thank you.

Thank YOU for the rose, the welcome and for sharing. It's hard to explain the real turmoil it can cause in a relationship. Here's to hoping some miracle happens and their sex drive shoots through the roof tomorrow (forever)

 

[tallman1970]

I'm another member of the club but, surprisingly, it doesn't frustrate me all of the time. It sucks but I can compartmentalize, if you will, and kind of push it to the back of my mind and I'm ok. When I'm ovulating it is harder to deal with because I'm like a cat in heat with no reciprocation but, otherwise, as long as he's being loving and interactive in our day-to-day life I can handle it.

For years I'd nag, I'd cry, I'd talk, I'd buy sexy lingerie and walk around the house in it, offer blow jobs, pounce on him and start fooling around with him, masturbate in front of him with the open invitation to join, ignore him, not touch him for weeks at a time (hoping ignoring might work), do little nice, thoughtful things, offer to help him at work to take stress away, always have hair and make-up done and the house clean when he came home from work, etc, etc, etc.

Finally I just gave up. I gained a lot of weight, about 40 pounds, because at least that way I got a bit less attention from other men (when I'm heavier I feel less attractive so I flirt less) and was resigned to a life of being sexless and feeling unattractive. I was a decade in to my marriage and in my early 30's. At that point our relationship wasn't strong. He was neglectful, didn't talk to me, didn't help around the house, didn't help with the kids, spent most of the time at the in-law's. We were virtual strangers. I was lonely.

After living like that for a while I realized I was cutting my life short by gaining so much weight so I started exercising. The exercising made me even more horny. I lost all the weight plus about 20 more. I belonged to an mmorpg community and while playing I met someone there who I clicked with very well.

We began speaking every day, then eventually started cybering, talking on the phone, texting pictures, video chatting. We fell in love. He was a church leader. I'm not religious at all. He told me from the beginning that he'd never leave his family. I said the same. Eventually, though, he started to make comments about leaving his family and careers he could do if he left his congregation to support a life with me. It gave me cold feet. I loved him deeply but it made me pull away a bit. I didn't want to divorce because of my kids and because I really did and do love my husband.

Then my husband found the pics, the texts, the emails. I was very frank, explained that I had threatened for a decade that I'd cheat if he didn't start giving me more and I finally went through with it. It was cheating because it was an emotional affair. I loved and still do love the man I formed a connection with. I snuck around a little afterwards and kept talking to him but finally cut off communication.

My husband started having way more sex with me immediately following it all. I feel like he was trying to fuck me back to him. That was great but didn't last more than about 3 months. He also started treating me better, being a good spouse, loving me, being a good dad. I was ready to leave but he asked me for a chance to prove he can be the husband I want and need.

I had to do a lot of soul searching. He is so wonderful in every aspect besides the sex aspect, and when we do have sex it's off the charts amazing, that I decided I couldn't give my kids the gift of a broken home just so I can get my rocks off. If one day they asked why I divorced and I said it was so I could get more dick even though their dad was great I'd feel like a horrible mom.

So, I deal with less sex than I'd like but in exchange I have a good friend and partner and my kids see a loving example of partnership. They will never know we don't have a ton of sex and we are very affectionate so they see us being physically loving to one another.

Last night we were fooling around and he picked up the remote and started channel surfing while I was giving him a BJ. I said that killed my mood and left him laying there with a hard on. He was so angry. I was angry. We ended up having sex anyhow and afterwards we talked about it and he said he felt rejected. I explained that's how I feel every single time I come on to him and he shoots me down. He looked at me and said he finally understands. Today he has been all over me.

Hopefully him feeling the rejection will be enough to make him start to pick up the pace. I won't have another emotional affair and I even feel guilty masturbating lately. It's funny you mention catholic guilt in the original post. I'm not religious but have total guilt about everything. I feel like I betrayed my best friend and I feel like a douche bag for not being able to stop loving the other guy. I wish there was a switch to turn it off.

I'll let you guys know if the latest will lead to more sex and maybe I can graduate from the under sexed club.

ETA: I didn't post to solicit partners. I received a pm inviting me to post here and I enjoy the company of others in similar situations who can kind of understand.

Thank you for your very honest and moving story. I hope things work out between you and him. I have recently separated and will soon be divorced and the main reason is the sexual differences between my wife and I. And we have small kids. But I'm convinced that she and I will ultimately be happier apart, and our kids will benefit from this increased happiness. We are both in their lives quite a lot, and my soon to be ex wife and I get along quite well.

Do what you need to do to be happy!

 

[Domesticity]

Thank you for your very honest and moving story. I hope things work out between you and him. I have recently separated and will soon be divorced and the main reason is the sexual differences between my wife and I. And we have small kids. But I'm convinced that she and I will ultimately be happier apart, and our kids will benefit from this increased happiness. We are both in their lives quite a lot, and my soon to be ex wife and I get along quite well.

Do what you need to do to be happy!

I'm glad you have managed to stay friends even through the difficult decision to divorce. If he hadn't started treating me differently I would have left, too, because I don't think an unhealthy relationship is better for the kids than divorce. I wish you the best of luck

 

[L8tnIt]

I am astonished that no one on this thread has taken a momentto wish everyone a Merry Christmas...

But then again, most everyone here is probably with their family, and have been busy

So I will say it
MERRYCHRISTMAS!

 

[jhuson]

Hubs in Hose and Pork Warrior, we live parallel lives.

I'm still in the same boat I was in when I started this thread 7 years ago -- actually a bit worse.

The "happiness" in my marriage is now not as constant as it once was. It's up and down. It will stay that way for the meantime because my kids are still somewhat young so I am not going anywhere (always been the responsible, do the right thing guy).

My wife butchered our finances and kept it a secret until it got insurmountable and we had to work together to get it resolved. (So much detail here that I'd prefer not to list it all but I'll share one: She didn't pay our city taxes for two years. So I had to take care of it. She didn't understand why I was so mad....with the penalty they assessed I had to pay more than double what we owed).

We both work full time now (she was part time and out of the home before) and 40 hrs a week is her capacity. She can't do much else beyond that. So I work my 50-80 a week and handle laundry, cleaning, homework, lunches, getting kids to school, etc. She cooks and pays bills. Even her sister said to her the other night "What do you actually do then? He seems to do pretty much everything." She giggled. Because having other people bail you out or do stuff for you has been her MO (sadly I am just seeing this now after nearly 20 years together). She has even said "if you are going to play martyr then I'm going to take full advantage of it."

It's not that she is an awful person -- she isn't, i'm just spotlighting those things that infuriate me -- and I am certainly not perfect.

But the resentment about our sex life -- combined with some of these recent things -- has reached a frightening level. I never imagined us NOT growing old together. Now, I fantasize about just disappearing from the house in 9 years when my youngest is 18.

Frankly, if we never had sex again I wouldn't really care or miss it. It's never been that good and never will be. We're just wired differently.

 

[jhuson]

Heh would it be wrong to start a list of the Top 3 things you dislike about your spouse?

1) In-laws
2) Not being on the receiving end of gloriously self indulgent non-cheating head since 2001
3) Her unique ability to know what I want to do, and have an innate ability to get in the way. Not just sex...everything. If I want a glass of milk, she will walk to the kitchen and stand infront of the fridge, if I want to open a drawer...like a ninja she will suddenly be there standing infront of it.1a) Addendum -- ITALIAN in-laws. A herd is coming in an hour...they believe in God, I believe in whisky....may the Sixteen Men of Tain grant me strength.

OMFG I thought I was the only one whose spouse seems to have this super power. LOL.

Even this morning, I'm trying to post on LIT and there she is. Damnit woman, can't I complain about you on a porn board without you hovering about?

Now add that my inlaws all have it this knack for being in the way as well and you have the makings of an outstanding holiday season.

Do you know how irritating it is to have a house full of them on Christmas Eve and I can barely get the prime rib from stove to the cutting board because they are hovering around and completely oblivious to being in the way. And it's not just one of them...it's ALL of them. You can be carrying something, walking through a narrow area right toward them, and they will see you coming and not move. You have to say "excuse me I really need to get by here." If you don't give detailed instruction they won't move. WTF. And when they do move, it's at the pace of continental drift.

Then they all have to study me as I carve. I have to Kevin Garnett them with my elbows to have adequate space.

Then of course, you have to love them trying to give me tips. I cooked professionally for 7 years and have deboned hundreds of prime ribs. I really don't need a suggestion from something you saw on the Food Network.

OK sorry....just venting.

And for the record, it actually was a decent Christmas Eve -- mainly because I got drunk and made myself and a few others laugh with some inside jokes and double entendres. None of them got my "manscaping" comment when I got a new trimmer for Christmas. I even stood and made the buzzing sound as I mimed trimming up my pubes. Oh well. At least i made the best of it.

 

[Porkwarrior]

Haa haa well another holiday over and no permanent damage done.
We've become the "hosting couple", three dinner parties in a week for friends & family, not quite sure how I made it through without stabbing somebody. Was a fun festive time, but I am glad it is over. Three separate times we were congratulated on being a "cute couple", she revelled in it, I cringed. No wife nookie for me over the holidays. At all. We snuggled a bunch, we snogged a bunch, last night with my family over it was getting crowded and she even spent some time sitting in my lap rubbing her ass on my hard on...but in the bedroom, nada.

I am not sure about the parallel lives, atleast in the beginning. We didn't start out like this, but she hit an early menopause and that put an end to a once very active sex life. Which makes it all the more frustrating.

 

[lacandy]

Hubs in Hose and Pork Warrior, we live parallel lives.

I'm still in the same boat I was in when I started this thread 7 years ago -- actually a bit worse.

The "happiness" in my marriage is now not as constant as it once was. It's up and down. It will stay that way for the meantime because my kids are still somewhat young so I am not going anywhere (always been the responsible, do the right thing guy).

My wife butchered our finances and kept it a secret until it got insurmountable and we had to work together to get it resolved. (So much detail here that I'd prefer not to list it all but I'll share one: She didn't pay our city taxes for two years. So I had to take care of it. She didn't understand why I was so mad....with the penalty they assessed I had to pay more than double what we owed).

We both work full time now (she was part time and out of the home before) and 40 hrs a week is her capacity. She can't do much else beyond that. So I work my 50-80 a week and handle laundry, cleaning, homework, lunches, getting kids to school, etc. She cooks and pays bills. Even her sister said to her the other night "What do you actually do then? He seems to do pretty much everything." She giggled. Because having other people bail you out or do stuff for you has been her MO (sadly I am just seeing this now after nearly 20 years together). She has even said "if you are going to play martyr then I'm going to take full advantage of it."

It's not that she is an awful person -- she isn't, i'm just spotlighting those things that infuriate me -- and I am certainly not perfect.

But the resentment about our sex life -- combined with some of these recent things -- has reached a frightening level. I never imagined us NOT growing old together. Now, I fantasize about just disappearing from the house in 9 years when my youngest is 18.

Frankly, if we never had sex again I wouldn't really care or miss it. It's never been that good and never will be. We're just wired differently.

WOW!! You are in the male version of my life!! Where do you want to meet in 9 years?? That's when I can run away too! Top of the Empire State Building?

We don't have the financial issues so much, more of some depression issues on his part that he won't take care of and make him very hard to live with. And he does all of the outside work on the house - I take care of the inside.

But after 20+ years that happiness thing has gone from about 80/20 to about 50/50. I've come to the conclusion that "okay" is good enough, and that I have to make myself happy that other 30% of the time.

 

[jhuson]

Haa haa well another holiday over and no permanent damage done.
We've become the "hosting couple", three dinner parties in a week for friends & family, not quite sure how I made it through without stabbing somebody. Was a fun festive time, but I am glad it is over. Three separate times we were congratulated on being a "cute couple", she revelled in it, I cringed. No wife nookie for me over the holidays. At all. We snuggled a bunch, we snogged a bunch, last night with my family over it was getting crowded and she even spent some time sitting in my lap rubbing her ass on my hard on...but in the bedroom, nada.

I am not sure about the parallel lives, atleast in the beginning. We didn't start out like this, but she hit an early menopause and that put an end to a once very active sex life. Which makes it all the more frustrating.

We got it on over the holidays but it was the same old thing -- except she actually initiated it by rubbing my cock while I was waking up.

Sadly, it's too little too late. I don't even want to have sex with her anymore because it's always the same thing. I will never ever suggest anything new after some of the looks she has given me after I've tried something new or suggested we try something. A couple times she actually said "ewwwwwwwww." To which I replied, "Ya know what? You couldn't be any unsexier right now if you tried. Thanks." Then I got up and left.

My wife is beautiful. Looks amazing for being in her mid 40s. But she really doesn't know how to be sexy other than taking her clothes off and laying on the bed.

Cute couple? We're going to friends tonight and the one wife there always comments on how we are "the perfect couple", still look great for our age and "still so in love". I don't know where she gets that. But if everyone thinks that, then my wife is happy.

Like I've posted before, one time I complained about our sex life and my wife actually said, "Well my friends think we have a great sex life." I guess I stand corrected.

 

[jhuson]

WOW!! You are in the male version of my life!! Where do you want to meet in 9 years?? That's when I can run away too! Top of the Empire State Building?

We don't have the financial issues so much, more of some depression issues on his part that he won't take care of and make him very hard to live with. And he does all of the outside work on the house - I take care of the inside.

But after 20+ years that happiness thing has gone from about 80/20 to about 50/50. I've come to the conclusion that "okay" is good enough, and that I have to make myself happy that other 30% of the time.

Empire State Building? My isn't that a nice phallic reference.

How about the Holland Tunnel?

I hear you on 80-20. I'm not sure where I'm even at these days.

 

[lacandy]

Empire State Building? My isn't that a nice phallic reference.

How about the Holland Tunnel?

I hear you on 80-20. I'm not sure where I'm even at these days.

Hmmmmm...didn't even think of the phallic representation of The Empire State Building, but given my current situation - makes sense! (was going for classic movie ideas )

 

[Porkwarrior]

Happy New Year, all the married & unlaid, every one!

We had fun, and I am still tripping on the buzz. It took a bit of work, but any marriage worth anything deserves the effort right? My wife is Italian, as in born in Italy and speaks Italian as her first language (always fun when I get her mad and she starts with the never ending sentence, I don't know who the "Fun Ghoul" is, but my wife is a fan)......

Anywho, as much as she loves my mungicake family, and they adore her (especially my father) the Christmas turkey just doesn't do it for her. She misses her Catholic Christmas Eve seafood table (like "only fish on Friday", Catholic households only eat fish before Christmas Mass). Soooo it has become our NYE tradition to have a seafood dinner together on New Year's. Just us together.

My only commandment was "dress like you would if we were going out", and she did. A two piece dress my mother bought her years ago that she loves, showing off her belly button & cleavage, with a drape of small gold chains off her left shoulder. Absolutely stunning, I stopped breathing for a minute or two. If there was a way to describe someone you desire in an "off the charts" way as eating crab & lobster delicately...it would have been her last night. She caught me staring at her fingers picking apart crab legs and blushed, I don't know how she does it but she is the most graceful crustacean eater I have ever encountered, and I become entranced with just watching her fingers pick apart the shells, pluck the meat out, and slide a leg or tail between her red painted lips. And then her small dainty tongue pokes out and licks any flesh or juices that had the gall to be stuck on her chin.

Haa haa sounds silly, but it's what gets me about her in the moment and is fun to watch.

After dinner we danced to Sinatra songs, she would occasionally shift my hard on to a more comfortable place on her hip & smile, we watched a dirty French movie together and for most of it she was stroking my cock through my favourite pair of Italian tailored pants, and we made out like a pair of teenagers on the leather sofa. Was delicious.

A half hour before the ball dropped we made our way over to our friends house where the party was happening, beat everyone away from the sound system and danced again to "My Way", well occasionally danced but mostly just kissed. I had forgotten how wonderful my wife's tongue felt sliding into my mouth. Then the ball dropped and we just made out like teenagers standing in the middle of our friends living room, even got a few cheers when we passed the two minute mark, haa haa.

Made our way the two blocks back to our home (she walked, I mostly stumbled), we drank & laughed on our front stoop giving out Pick-Me-Up shots of champagne to all the other couples that were walking by for an hour (I drank, she smoked her once a year indulgent doobie), laughed with our neighbours when they stumbled home...

All in all was a great New Year's Eve...and it gave me a reminder of why I chose to be married to the woman I love.
No intercourse, but we ended the evening with a great handjob, and the whole while she was over me smiling listening the slick naughty sounds of her hand sliding over my cock. Was just great.



Just wanted to say, while I am still tripping off the NYE buzz, there are reasons we all chose to be wed to the people we love, and even though we or they may change as the years go on, it is still awesome having them in our lives. And sometimes we need reminding of that, and even better telling THEM that. Even if we don't get laid as often as we like, haa haa.

Happy New Year everyone.



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[Porkwarrior]

Like I've posted before, one time I complained about our sex life and my wife actually said, "Well my friends think we have a great sex life." I guess I stand corrected.

Haa haa how did I miss that part, ouch, that hurt just to read.


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Edited for the sake of all concerned, you can share too much. Even here.


For the record, not going through with it. Maybe I am just too Vanilla these days. But the Spousal Unit has conceded to let me jerk off with her home and not roll her eyes (too much )