Three Dates

[ace_high]

Meeting someone and having sex on your first encounter can be a wonderful experience.

Given that, I would say that the sexual experience with a partner becomes much more of a powerful experience once you have built a relationship. The emotional aspect of making love, or even a simple kiss becomes much more meaningful if you genuinely understand and care about your partner.

Best wishes for finding that special someone

Thank you, your thoughts are very much appreciated.

 

[ace_high]

Here's something that will stimulate the conversation:

I remember sitting in Sexual Education class when I was fifteen years old, (and because it bears on this conversation I will say yes, at that time I had already decided to remain abstinent until I was married). The teacher began class one day by saying, "I'm supposed to get up here and say 'abstinence is the best policy'...but that's just not realistic

That was twelve years ago and that statement still makes absolutely no sense to me.

 

[toshiskitten]

Here's something that will stimulate the conversation:

I remember sitting in Sexual Education class when I was fifteen years old, (and because it bears on this conversation I will say yes, at that time I had already decided to remain abstinent until I was married). The teacher began class one day by saying, "I'm supposed to get up here and say 'abstinence is the best policy'...but that's just not realistic

That was twelve years ago and that statement still makes absolutely no sense to me.

Abstinence is best but it's unrealistic cause of the sexual urges teen experience. I didn't have sex until this year but I did fool around in my teens years. Sometimes those urges are too much to ignore. That's why they also teach us how to protect ourselves.

 

[pornstarwannabe]

Here's something that will stimulate the conversation:

I remember sitting in Sexual Education class when I was fifteen years old, (and because it bears on this conversation I will say yes, at that time I had already decided to remain abstinent until I was married). The teacher began class one day by saying, "I'm supposed to get up here and say 'abstinence is the best policy'...but that's just not realistic

That was twelve years ago and that statement still makes absolutely no sense to me.

Makes perfect sense to me. While abstinence is the best policy (100% effective against STDs, pregnancy, etc), it is not realistic because people to do not practice it. So Sex Ed. has to teach topics for those that do not want to follow the best policy.

Lowest common denominator thing.

 

[richard_daily]

I am waiting to share the most intimate experience two people can share with the love of my life.

Just curious... but how do you know it's the most intimate experience that two people can share... if you've never done it?

 

[ace_high]

I should place an addendum to my last post: What I meant to say was yes, we need to learn safe sexual practices, regardless of what our choices are in life, however, what I didn't like was actually the tone she used, it was like, "Yeah, abstinence is the best policy but you won't be abstinent so I'm not even going to talk about it."

 

[ace_high]

Just curious... but how do you know it's the most intimate experience that two people can share... if you've never done it?

Well, to me, literally 'becoming one' with someone both physically and psychologically simultaneously is quite intimate.

 

[toshiskitten]

Well, to me, literally 'becoming one' with someone both physically and psychologically simultaneously is quite intimate.

Don't forget emotionally.

 

[sasaou]

Well, to me, literally 'becoming one' with someone both physically and psychologically simultaneously is quite intimate.

You're sweet in a very romance novel kind of way. Are you expecting this sex to change you both? How exactly does it work becoming one?

 

[ace_high]

Don't forget emotionally.

Yes, thank you! Physically and emotionally - that's the word for which I was looking.

 

[firespin]

That was twelve years ago and that statement still makes absolutely no sense to me.

I can't help with your language comprehension problem, but we do have some survey results for you.

"A 2002 survey of about 12,500 men and women found that 97 percent of people who were no longer virgins at age 44 had sexual intercourse for the first time before they married.

By age 20, only 12 percent of people interviewed had married, but 77 percent had sex, and 75 percent had sex before marriage. By age 44, 99 percent of people were no longer virgins, 95 percent reported having had premarital intercourse, and 85 percent had married at some point. "

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/12/19/AR2006121901274.html

 

[richard_daily]

Well, to me, literally 'becoming one' with someone both physically and psychologically simultaneously is quite intimate.

And anyone who's having sex for any other reason, isn't doing it "the right way", according to you, is that correct?

What I find odd; is that someone who's never had sex, wants to wait until marriage, and looks down on people who partake in sexual acts for enjoyment or anything less than "becoming one", is farting around on an erotica website...

 

[toshiskitten]

And anyone who's having sex for any other reason, isn't doing it "the right way", according to you, is that correct?

What I find odd; is that someone who's never had sex, wants to wait until marriage, and looks down on people who partake in sexual acts for enjoyment or anything less than "becoming one", is farting around on an erotica website...

He isn't looking down on anyone. He has not once judged anyone one here.

 

[firespin]

He isn't looking down on anyone. He has not once judged anyone one here.

Say what?

You know you can scroll back to page one of the thread, right?

Ok, I need a shovel. It's getting deep.

My palate is a bit, well actually, a lot more sophisticated than that.

No I have not, nor do I plan to do so.

 

[toshiskitten]

Say what?

You know you can scroll back to page one of the thread, right?

Yeah I know but these don't prove that he judged anyone.

 

[ace_high]

You're sweet in a very romance novel kind of way.

*Blushes* Aw shucks. Thank you!

Are you expecting this sex to change you both?

Yes, I do. Specifically it will change our relationship. During sexual intercourse, at the point of orgasm, the chemical dopamine is released which studies have shown causes bonding to occur between the two - an oversimplified explanation might be that dopamine tells us, "Wow, we had sex with this person, we must have feelings for them. This bonding allows the two to co-parent and create environments conducive to group living i.e. families.

 

[sasaou]

*Blushes* Aw shucks. Thank you!


Yes, I do. Specifically it will change our relationship. During sexual intercourse, at the point of orgasm, the chemical dopamine is released which studies have shown causes bonding to occur between the two - an oversimplified explanation might be that dopamine tells us, "Wow, we had sex with this person, we must have feelings for them. This bonding allows the two to co-parent and create environments conducive to group living i.e. families.

Are you fucking kidding me?

 

[pornstarwannabe]

Say what?

You know you can scroll back to page one of the thread, right?

I can see his point. After 9 hours of contact (in this example), she gives up the goods. Women at least need to act like the guys have to work for it. Means a lot to us.

 

[bronzeage]

Well, to me, literally 'becoming one' with someone both physically and psychologically simultaneously is quite intimate.

Okay, get back to me after you have wiped a woman's ass and pussy, while she sat on the toilet and cried on your shoulder from the pain of carpal tunnel surgery in both arms.

Your imaginary intimacy is silly, but you've got women responding to you. Good show.

 

[pornstarwannabe]

Are you fucking kidding me?

That may be why ecstasy works the way it does. Hits the pleasure receptors of the brain. Just guessing.

 

[firespin]

Yeah I know but these don't prove that he judged anyone.

What would it look like if he did judge somebody?

The three responses I posted were (respectively) dismissive, condescendingly snobbish, and self-righteous.

 

[pornstarwannabe]

The three responses I posted were (respectively) dismissive, condescendingly snobbish, and self-righteous.

That par for the course for a lot of posters here

 

[sasaou]

*Blushes* Aw shucks. Thank you!


Yes, I do. Specifically it will change our relationship. During sexual intercourse, at the point of orgasm, the chemical dopamine is released which studies have shown causes bonding to occur between the two - an oversimplified explanation might be that dopamine tells us, "Wow, we had sex with this person, we must have feelings for them. This bonding allows the two to co-parent and create environments conducive to group living i.e. families.

I think you're living in a fantasy world. And furthermore what if she doesn't feel this way? You're screwed then.

 

[ace_high]

Originally Posted by ace_high View Post
Ok, I need a shovel. It's getting deep.


This was a reference to my not believing they had tremendous amounts of video showing they had had their cock in their date's mouth 'ten minutes into it'

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Originally Posted by ace_high View Post
My palate is a bit, well actually, a lot more sophisticated than that.

This was in reference to my not wanting to see said supposed it tapes portraying them having had their cock in their date's mouth 'ten minutes into it.'

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Originally Posted by ace_high View Post
No I have not, nor do I plan to do so.

This was a response to the following post:

What? You've never met someone in a bar, started chatting, started dancing, gone outside and made out, taken them home (or been taken home), did some more dancing (horizontal), woke up with a smile and kiss, had coffee and shared phone numbers both knowing you'd never call or be called?

I was simply stating that in fact, I had never done such a thing and did not intend to do such a thing.

 

[ace_high]

I think you're living in a fantasy world. And furthermore what if she doesn't feel this way? You're screwed then.

Well, depending on how differently she feels, she may not be the love of my life and I would rather find that out now than five years down the road.