Distance Domination-Support Thread

[the captians wench]

Thanks for the advice and the egar helpfulness, but the cost isn't as much an issue as our schedules are.

My work schedule isn't set, so I work all kinds of hours, and while for the most part he's a 9-5er, he has had his share of later shifts lately. My job doesn't involve me being anywhere near a computer, and his doesn't have any sort of IM or email access. Then there is the 5 hour time difference and it all just adds up to not enough hours in the day.

I just envy the ability to be able to text freely. Even when I'm super busy at work, as long as it's not durring lunch rush, I can usually pull off and spare a moment to send a text or two. But that gets terribly expencive quickly.

This faze will pass I'm sure. Just right now we're both working a lot of nights and it has our whole rutine in shambles. But I'm being transfered to a new store, so I'll be working earlier shifts, and it looks like I might even be going back to "my dublin 9-5" for a bit durring the summer months.

We'll work through it like we always do. I just wish sometimes that texting and phone conversations were more of a posibility to us.

 

[tastychococakes]

New to lit

Hi all, my name is tastychococakes, and I am slave to Master Califblk. I am a new slave who was lucky enough to find a kind and compassionate Master who was willing to train and guide me. The biggest challenge that we face is being long distance (he's in CA, I'm in CT). It will be months before we're able to meet in person. I'm definitely looking forward to it, but in the meantime, I know I'll be faced with difficulties because he is not close. He suggested that I read and take part in this thread so that I know I'm not alone in what I'm going through, and I think it was a very wise decision. My hope is to talk to other subs/slaves who can offer support and understanding. As I can be shy, please don't hesitate to say hello.

 

[myinnerslut]

Hi all, my name is tastychococakes, and I am slave to Master Califblk. I am a new slave who was lucky enough to find a kind and compassionate Master who was willing to train and guide me. The biggest challenge that we face is being long distance (he's in CA, I'm in CT). It will be months before we're able to meet in person. I'm definitely looking forward to it, but in the meantime, I know I'll be faced with difficulties because he is not close. He suggested that I read and take part in this thread so that I know I'm not alone in what I'm going through, and I think it was a very wise decision. My hope is to talk to other subs/slaves who can offer support and understanding. As I can be shy, please don't hesitate to say hello.

hi tastychococakes!

welcome to lit.

im glad you found this thread. its a fabulous resource for those of us in a LDR.

while reading the whole thread is time consuming, there have been a lot of good ideas and strategies mentioned in it. or, of course, if you have a more specific question you can just ask and we will try to answer it now.

 

[the captians wench]

hi tastychococakes!

welcome to lit.

im glad you found this thread. its a fabulous resource for those of us in a LDR.

while reading the whole thread is time consuming, there have been a lot of good ideas and strategies mentioned in it. or, of course, if you have a more specific question you can just ask and we will try to answer it now.

That's probably the best plan of attack. There's so much here looking for answers to a question might prove a never ending search.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Hi all, my name is tastychococakes, and I am slave to Master Califblk. I am a new slave who was lucky enough to find a kind and compassionate Master who was willing to train and guide me. The biggest challenge that we face is being long distance (he's in CA, I'm in CT). It will be months before we're able to meet in person. I'm definitely looking forward to it, but in the meantime, I know I'll be faced with difficulties because he is not close. He suggested that I read and take part in this thread so that I know I'm not alone in what I'm going through, and I think it was a very wise decision. My hope is to talk to other subs/slaves who can offer support and understanding. As I can be shy, please don't hesitate to say hello.

Welcome. My Dominant and I lived 2500 miles away from each other for the first 2 yrs. It took us about 5 months before we first met in person. I have moved a little closer no but still a plane ride away. We have been together for almost 4 years now seeing each other 2-4 times a year. It's not easy, but he and the relationship is well worth it.

 

[sinnocence]

Hi all, my name is tastychococakes, and I am slave to Master Califblk. I am a new slave who was lucky enough to find a kind and compassionate Master who was willing to train and guide me. The biggest challenge that we face is being long distance (he's in CA, I'm in CT). It will be months before we're able to meet in person. I'm definitely looking forward to it, but in the meantime, I know I'll be faced with difficulties because he is not close. He suggested that I read and take part in this thread so that I know I'm not alone in what I'm going through, and I think it was a very wise decision. My hope is to talk to other subs/slaves who can offer support and understanding. As I can be shy, please don't hesitate to say hello.

Hey, welcome to lit. As others have said, this thread is full of information, ideas, and stories to help you through the struggles that long distance sometimes brings. We can all relate so don't feel bad about asking us anything. We'll all be happy to help anyway we can.

 

[the captians wench]

Well, looks like with the new store I'm going to be working more earlier shifts, but most just aren't early enough.

I'll have a better chance of time with him, but still for the most part I won't be getting off work until 1am his time, then I have a 45 min drive home. *sigh*

6 weeks until my birthday vacation, then another 6 weeks and I'll be with him again. That's my focas.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

*hugs wenchie in sympathy*

I don't know what I would do without the communication that Master and I have so I really feel for you and others that don't have this luxury.

I am spoiled by how much we do communicate, but I know not to take it for granted because anything can change either one of our situations and not make things as easy- lack of technological communication would not be good with a little over a year before moving to him permanently.

This I envy. I have yet to find a plan that encludes Ireland, and the mobile companies there are even more expencive. We do endulge from time to time, usually not going over $10 on my end (roughly 50 messages) in a month but it's spaced out. I buy phone cards so that I can call him more cheaply than if I used my phone straight, but even that has limits, usually only 20 to 30 minutes at a time. *sigh*

I'm very thankful for the IM feature on my phone. He can IM with me not costing him anything, and I just pull from my monthly text pool. IM is our main source of comunication for this reason. I know it's best, but it does limit the amount of time I get with him so I'm always a bit envious of those who can chat so freely.

 

[misty82]

Uh oh. Ok, so I took too long to find some kinky videos for my lover. As a punishment I have to come to EVERY thread I've posted in and beg you all to visit our thread.

We'd love to read your comments and if any of you have any ideas to suggest to him for future dares / punishments for me, please send them to him!

I should have known better than to earn a punishment from him.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=637611

 

[the captians wench]

*hugs wenchie in sympathy*

I don't know what I would do without the communication that Master and I have so I really feel for you and others that don't have this luxury.

I am spoiled by how much we do communicate, but I know not to take it for granted because anything can change either one of our situations and not make things as easy- lack of technological communication would not be good with a little over a year before moving to him permanently.

*huggles*

It's easier than it once was, but some times it's harder than others. Like 3 particular days every month. damn hormones.

He spoils me while I'm there letting me obsorb all of the attention I want. He's one of the very few people that I've met who didn't eventually push me away. I can be rather smothering at times.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

*huggles*

It's easier than it once was, but some times it's harder than others. Like 3 particular days every month. damn hormones.

He spoils me while I'm there letting me obsorb all of the attention I want. He's one of the very few people that I've met who didn't eventually push me away. I can be rather smothering at times.

I can be too...at least I think so

I have decided to share a quirk that I just started that keeps me from being as depressed as I usually get because of the distance between Master and I.

A few days ago I was particularly upset about not being home and while waiting for my bus after work, I stopped in CVS and bought his deodorant. Now I own Master's scent. Strange to do, I know, but I also know quite a few folks who could relate to this with me.

I carry this in my purse and sleep with it under my pillow and believe it or not, it actually helps. While I have generally been having a hard time sleeping without him being near, the scent of him makes it easier, and if I have a really down day, I take the deodorant out of my purse and take a whiff and it's instantly calming.

Okay...so I'm weird

 

[myinnerslut]

tommorow im up at 4 in the morning to catch a 5 o clock train to make a 7 o clock bus to get to dc for a three hour car ride to be home.

im excited. and horny. and tired. and have to finish packing. and did i mention horny?

i cant wait for this visit. its been needed.

 

[the captians wench]

I can be too...at least I think so

I have decided to share a quirk that I just started that keeps me from being as depressed as I usually get because of the distance between Master and I.

A few days ago I was particularly upset about not being home and while waiting for my bus after work, I stopped in CVS and bought his deodorant. Now I own Master's scent. Strange to do, I know, but I also know quite a few folks who could relate to this with me.

I carry this in my purse and sleep with it under my pillow and believe it or not, it actually helps. While I have generally been having a hard time sleeping without him being near, the scent of him makes it easier, and if I have a really down day, I take the deodorant out of my purse and take a whiff and it's instantly calming.

Okay...so I'm weird

It's not weird at all. If Jounar wore anything sented then I would be doing the exact same thing, but his sent is very soft and all him. This is why I begged him for a shirt of his every birthday and christmas we've had together. When I was there I looked at him one day and said "so, are you going to give me a shirt, or are you going to find one missing when you unpack?" *giggles* He did give me a shirt, and I took it home and used it as a pillow case. It was the only thing that got me thru that first month back, major depression. But the shirt doesn't smell anymore. So I'm going to steal another when I visit in May.

 

[JupitersGirl]

I can be too...at least I think so

I have decided to share a quirk that I just started that keeps me from being as depressed as I usually get because of the distance between Master and I.

A few days ago I was particularly upset about not being home and while waiting for my bus after work, I stopped in CVS and bought his deodorant. Now I own Master's scent. Strange to do, I know, but I also know quite a few folks who could relate to this with me.

I carry this in my purse and sleep with it under my pillow and believe it or not, it actually helps. While I have generally been having a hard time sleeping without him being near, the scent of him makes it easier, and if I have a really down day, I take the deodorant out of my purse and take a whiff and it's instantly calming.

Okay...so I'm weird

Well then, I think it's a quirk that a lot of us share. Aromatherapy is big business!

 

[ecstaticsub]

Less than two weeks and I leave to see Daddy! Yea, it's been way , way too long since we last saw each other.

 

[tastychococakes]

I can be too...at least I think so

I have decided to share a quirk that I just started that keeps me from being as depressed as I usually get because of the distance between Master and I.

A few days ago I was particularly upset about not being home and while waiting for my bus after work, I stopped in CVS and bought his deodorant. Now I own Master's scent. Strange to do, I know, but I also know quite a few folks who could relate to this with me.

I carry this in my purse and sleep with it under my pillow and believe it or not, it actually helps. While I have generally been having a hard time sleeping without him being near, the scent of him makes it easier, and if I have a really down day, I take the deodorant out of my purse and take a whiff and it's instantly calming.

Okay...so I'm weird

Not weird at all. Actually, it's a great idea that I probably never would've thought of. You do what you have to do to survive, right.

I commend you on finding ways to keep your Master close. I have yet to meet my Master, but we communicate on a daily basis. I know that things will occur that will prevent us from speaking so often, and when that happens, I hope to have some part of him that keeps me from missing him too much.

 

[kittenartist]

Less than two weeks and I leave to see Daddy! Yea, it's been way , way too long since we last saw each other.

Awesome! Happy for you!

 

[Homburg]

My house is complete again, if only for a few days.

 

[wildone28]

so what
who gives a fuck

 

[the captians wench]

Are you sure that's not an alt of some one close to you?

if she's not, then damn you have a very talented stalker!

 

[KayKat]

Haven't been here for a while..I get on and read the thread every once in a while..seems to be hopping..

MP and I are doing great...Looking forward to our first meeting..I can't wait to be with him..I am nervous, excited and scared all rolled into one...

 

[SubKekiLee]

Welcome Tasty Chococakes. LDR can be complicated but it is well worth it My Sir and I have lived as close as 3 miles apart and as far as 2500 miles going on 16 months now and I wouldnt change a thing we are all here for you to help support you the rough days..

Welcome to LIt.

 

[tastychococakes]

Welcome Tasty Chococakes. LDR can be complicated but it is well worth it My Sir and I have lived as close as 3 miles apart and as far as 2500 miles going on 16 months now and I wouldnt change a thing we are all here for you to help support you the rough days..

Welcome to LIt.

Thanks SubKekiLee for the support. It's much appreciated.

 

[myinnerslut]

Are you sure that's not an alt of some one close to you?

if she's not, then damn you have a very talented stalker!

i wondered that. its certainly not me or viv so i have to assume the latter.

***

i am so happy to be back. every time i come home to the whirlwind crazy, chaotic, loud, energized, house filled with life (i joke sometimes, 1 Master, 2 slaves, 3 cats, 4 kids) i am more at peace then i have for weeks before.

 

[Adakgirl]

QUOTE=wildone28;30127005]so what
who gives a fuck[/QUOTE]

Ok, wildone28 I'm pretty sure I know the reason behind your unusually nasty attitude now. If I am way off base here then I apologize .IF I am wrong. I don't know what happened..but this is what I think may have happened and if it did then my heart goes out to you,
I can't even imagine the kind of pain you must have gone through then and probably still feel now. I know that you have been badly hurt and damaged deeply inside yourself, by a man that you loved very much.

I see very clearly what lies at the core of your hate.
This hate and anger is not about innerslut ..it's about the love you see she has for her Master to be, and him for her.
Nor is it about all the other people you have attacked since you returned to lit. It's about you projecting your pain and anger on others here because Lit is where you met him.
Lit is where he courted you, seduced you and told you that he loved you. Lit is where you fell in love with him.

You two had probably been posting back and forth before this...but I picked your story up from 4-02 and ran with it.
He started you your very own thread on 4-14-02, in celebration of your 500th post. There you two flirted , talked dirty to each other
..and he said he loved you. That's where you fell in love with him . You two planned to meet, you counted down the weeks days and hours,
you couldn't wait to meet him.

He flew out to your place and you spent a week together... the week of 11-01-02 to 11- 8 -02 whereabouts.and then he flew home.
You posted here 11-11-02, 11-20-02, 11-23-02 & 11-28 -02 all seemed well, you were excited and joyous and full of love for him.
You thanked him and told him it was the best week of your life. You apologized for "having a cow" about how much you missed him.

He didn't reply until 12-03-03. You probably communicated with him by phn or IM's who knows.
Three months later 2-26-03 he stopped posting in your thread, didnt come back until what? 5 months later? 7-28-03

So somewhere between 2-03 and 7-03 that love of your life relationship all went to shit.

Throughout that whole thread from 4-02 until it ended 7-28-03 he was still calling u sweetpea and saying Love ya.
Then you both stopped on 7-28-03, he never came back and made his nic N/A.
You didn't come back until 3 YEARS later at the end of 2005 the day before Thanksgiving. You came back for one reason only, to wish
Him and his WIFE a Happy Thanksgiving. You said it should be their 1st Thanksgiving together as married couple. I could feel the residual pain in that post.

After that your posts in 06, 07 & 08 up until now have been filled with nothing but hate and anger towards others.
When you came here in 02 you were a very nice sweet person, you showed love and concern for friends you had met here.
You were completely different then... than you are now. THAT was the REAL you wildone28...
not this spiteful, foul mouthed nasty bitch of a person that you have morped into...because you lost him and you are alone
he ended up marrying another and he's not alone.

I am saddened and was taken aback when I realized at least the basics of what happened
It's a tragic thing when a man can take a extremely sweet, loving, caring woman and affect her life in such a drastically negative manner.
Don't continue to let him do that to you, it's been over a long time..you need to drop that luggage and get yourself back wildone28.