Please Teach me about Sex

[Under_Sun]

I am no virgin, but I do have difficulty getting certain information out of my lovers for one reason or another.

Can you help me?

After years of reading, watching, listening and my favorite, hands on experimenting... and still all these questions!!

Please feel free to answer, lurk, hijack or ignore. Please join me with your questions as well. I might talk to myself too if you know what I mean

I am hoping this is an appropriate place to put this thread. Poets are usually so open and honest with everything, especially here. I thought I could get some good answers here. I know you have a big contest going on, but maybe you could take a break to help out a girl stranded by the side of the road, holding the "lug nut loosening thinggie" looking very confused.

 

[Under_Sun]

First Question: Post orgasm phenomenon

Okay. One of my favorite things in the whole wide is a penis that is in the process of going soft after orgasm. I love the stickiness, the changing feel, everything about it. Another one of my favorite things is a soft one getting hard...I think it is the amazing transition of it all.

But back to the other side. I get quite the reaction (seems good, like they like it, but maybe no? Too intense?) from the gentlemen when I touch, or press up against, or kiss, cuddle, any kind of attention to aforementioned penis.

Tell me gentlemen, should I just leave it alone? Ladies, do you have any thoughts? How about you? How do you feel after orgasm, do you want to be touched or not?


Sometimes I think that there is something left, some wonderful post-orgasmic sensation that still needs to be released. But am I really just annoying the hell out of them and they do not want to tell me because they are too nice and know how much I love it?

Thank you for your honesty. I really really appreciate it.

 

[WickedEve]

Too bad you didn't ask about dildos.

 

[Under_Sun]

Too bad you didn't ask about dildos.

are they much different than the penis?



does your dildo get annoyed if you jiggle it around after climax?

 

[WickedEve]

are they much different than the penis?



does your dildo get annoyed if you jiggle it around after climax?

They usually don't survive long enough to be annoyed.

 

[Safe_Bet]

are they much different than the penis?



does your dildo get annoyed if you jiggle it around after climax?

Mine doesn't even complain when I toss it in a drawer and then slam it shut...... try that with a penis!

(it is also dishwasher safe, BTW )

 

[WickedEve]

Hugo washing some of the toys:

http://www.eveshabit.com/sink.jpg

 

[Under_Sun]

Mine doesn't even complain when I toss it in a drawer and then slam it shut...... try that with a penis!

(it is also dishwasher safe, BTW )

damn! ouch! y'all are tough on your toys!

 

[Under_Sun]

Hugo washing some of the toys:

http://www.eveshabit.com/sink.jpg

ooh the habit is back up??? goodie goodie!

this is a cool photo. It reminds me of a sink of pale sausages from my days of butchering. I may become a vegetarian again.

 

[WickedEve]

ooh the habit is back up??? goodie goodie!

this is a cool photo. It reminds me of a sink of pale sausages from my days of butchering. I may become a vegetarian again.

Yeah, it's in the works. I've been working on it for the past couple of weeks. It's been down since '06. You remember it? hmm...

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

I think a lot is up to personal preference. Some men do not like to be touched at all after orgasm. Some are more than happy to allow me to lick off their cocks afterwards.

As for me personally, I'm multi-orgasmic, so hell ya! Keep touching me! After the first orgasm, I'm halfway to the next.

I am also drawn to cocks in the process of getting hard. Ain't nothing like feeling a cock get harder in my mouth.

 

[PandoraGlitters]

Dr. Ian Kerner has two authoritative books on sex that I would recommend to anyone. The first of these is "She Comes First: a thinking man's guide to pleasuring a woman." Its companion is "Passionista: an empowered woman's guide to pleasuring a man." Kerner is an extremely knowledgeable source as well as being candid and funny. Great reads. There is a lot in Passionista about reinstating passion into a long-term relationship. (Helpful for you married folks, I'd imagine.)

Best of luck with your quest, under_sun.

-D.

 

[AoNoDoY]

After much sex, a long night and day, several climaxes, I have been known to tell my friend that old Pedro needs a little breather. I get to developing a sensation of sensitivity mixed with a slight used-and-abused feeling. I'm very proud of my member, especially when erect, but flaccid? After lots of sex? It just doesn't feel (or look) all that mighty. It's nothing permanent or bad, it's just I feel there's plenty of other ground that can be touched and I'm sure to let her know when things are perking up again, but it might require some kissing, caressing (elsewhere), naughty talk, a snack, drink of water? a nap? whatever, before full attention can go back to where it belongs.
Now that's pretty much after a long sort of extended romp. And it might be different for men who are proud of their cocks no matter what they've been up to...

Oh, but after a quickie? Feel free to play away. Well, I might still ask you to stop, I mean I think I would be kind of ticklish and playful about it, it just depends. Some guys maybe don't like the feeling of oozing onto their partner's skin, even if the partner likes that. I don't know, do you? I've had girlfriends who love to leave it in long after climax, and I like that, too. Sometimes it's fun to just leave it in a while and start again, minutely, when soft. That only works if you're not using a condom, with a condom, you pretty much have to pull out right away or the damn thing gets stuck in there, and I hate that...

 

[UnderYourSpell]

Anyone get the after shocks? I feel cheated if I don't get mine!

 

[Angeline]

ooh the habit is back up??? goodie goodie!

this is a cool photo. It reminds me of a sink of pale sausages from my days of butchering. I may become a vegetarian again.

Hahahaha. I thought they were disembodied doll parts at first. Uh, arms and legs. I never had any dolls that were quite so anatomically correct.

 

[annaswirls]

Anyone get the after shocks? I feel cheated if I don't get mine!

mmmmm aftershocks....

oksy I am going to try to answer your question as best I can. I think the best you can get is that "it depends" From personal experience, most times, after, I am peaceful, easy, lovie dove snuggley...

Mostly I say, like LadySt, keep going, take me to the next one please, or UYS and her aftershocks, yes that is very nice (tremble tremble pant pant) but sometimes, after the multiples, after the aftershocks I get to the point where pleasure turns violent and I swear something triggers in my brain and I just want to punch on my husband's chest. Poor guy!

I just have this incredible urge to beat the crap out of him. So much for the peaceful eazies.

Maybe that is what happens to your men too. Sometimes it is a wonderful after pulse of mmmm but sometimes he might just be trying to stay away from that trigger....? I think AoNoDoY has a good point.

And Eve has a sink of polymers that is scaring me.

Why do you need so many? Do you invite friends? Do you have them labeled Monday, Tuesday, Wed... like those panties in the 70's?

 

[bflagsst]

You ever eat so much that afterwards you actually feel like you don't ever have to eat again? Not like a sick feeling, but a boredom with something that moments before was the center of your existence. There's nothing like a post-orgasmic aftershock in men that i know of, so we can pretty much be completely done after we extricate ourselves. A lot of the time it coincides with a sensitivity that's so subtle that it's painful just for the sheet to touch shrinky--forget about a female who's still muddled/silly from her orgasm trying to yank your cock off yer body. The logic goes, 'he liked it before and it made him hard, he'll like it now and make him hard.' Even if it's still hard it can be that sensitive.

Anyway, on the boredom afterwards... That's pretty much the only way I've found that you can test like a little scientist if you're in love with your partner. If you've just had excellent sex and have hit that wall and you're thinking 'Gee, I bet I can go months without sex, what was that insane feeling I had all day at work?' then you can ask yourself if the sex boredom continued--would you still want to spend all your time with the person trying to suffocate you cuz they wanna go to sleep on your chest.

So i think the equivalent of Anna wanting to beat up her husband is just being really unhappy/maybe horrified that you're lying next to who you are--and even then that might not be honest, it might just be the body saying 'leave me alone'. That's cool though, getting off so much that you wanna beat up the person doing it to you.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

mmmmm aftershocks....

oksy I am going to try to answer your question as best I can. I think the best you can get is that "it depends" From personal experience, most times, after, I am peaceful, easy, lovie dove snuggley...

Mostly I say, like LadySt, keep going, take me to the next one please, or UYS and her aftershocks, yes that is very nice (tremble tremble pant pant) but sometimes, after the multiples, after the aftershocks I get to the point where pleasure turns violent and I swear something triggers in my brain and I just want to punch on my husband's chest. Poor guy!

I just have this incredible urge to beat the crap out of him. So much for the peaceful eazies.

Maybe that is what happens to your men too. Sometimes it is a wonderful after pulse of mmmm but sometimes he might just be trying to stay away from that trigger....? I think AoNoDoY has a good point.

And Eve has a sink of polymers that is scaring me.

Why do you need so many? Do you invite friends? Do you have them labeled Monday, Tuesday, Wed... like those panties in the 70's?

Perhaps some have more ooomph than others like start off slow then ummmm pump up the volume

 

[WickedEve]

And Eve has a sink of polymers that is scaring me.

Why do you need so many? Do you invite friends? Do you have them labeled Monday, Tuesday, Wed... like those panties in the 70's?

Invite friends? Ha! Like I'm going to share...

That's just his collection for me. I have my own sinkful at home. Hmm, you know, I really don't need that many, do I? Dildo Sale!

 

[WickedEve]

Hahahaha. I thought they were disembodied doll parts at first. Uh, arms and legs. I never had any dolls that were quite so anatomically correct.

You saw doll limbs in that photo? I think ee needs to get you some toys.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

Invite friends? Ha! Like I'm going to share...

That's just his collection for me. I have my own sinkful at home. Hmm, you know, I really don't need that many, do I? Dildo Sale!

Can't exactly advertise them as only used once by a careful owner can you?

 

[WickedEve]

Can't exactly advertise them as only used once by a careful owner can you?

Low miles. I only drove them to church.


oh, I feel bad even writing that -- leftover religious hangups.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

Bet that rang the vicar's bell

 

[RunningJib]

We're all different

Okay. One of my favorite things in the whole wide is a penis that is in the process of going soft after orgasm. I love the stickiness, the changing feel, everything about it. Another one of my favorite things is a soft one getting hard...I think it is the amazing transition of it all.

But back to the other side. I get quite the reaction (seems good, like they like it, but maybe no? Too intense?) from the gentlemen when I touch, or press up against, or kiss, cuddle, any kind of attention to aforementioned penis.

Tell me gentlemen, should I just leave it alone? Ladies, do you have any thoughts? How about you? How do you feel after orgasm, do you want to be touched or not?


Sometimes I think that there is something left, some wonderful post-orgasmic sensation that still needs to be released. But am I really just annoying the hell out of them and they do not want to tell me because they are too nice and know how much I love it?

Thank you for your honesty. I really really appreciate it.

I can only speak to my own experience.

When I am with a long-time lover, we take turns. That is, a given session will be about her or me. If it’s her turn’, then we focus on her needs and wants. When it’s my turn, then it’s what I want and need.

Occasionally, I’ve given really fantastic head. She takes all of me, she bites my cock and fingers my ass. When I explode and my body is shivering and bucking, my cock is electric and, while extremely wonderful, too intense to be touched. But she does. Gently. Listening to my reaction, she continues over time. And when I soft and still engorged, it turns into true cock worship. She cuddles me and comforts my dick with her hands, face and breasts.

I love good foreplay. Personally, sometimes I think after-play is the very best.

 

[annaswirls]

You saw doll limbs in that photo? I think ee needs to get you some toys.

who needs toys? Doll limb are much more kinky.