New faces, come say hello...

[LokiLorien]

I must say I envy your position, because I think back of when I was where you are. Like anything new, it didn't seem that special then, but if I had more direction, I would have made it more memorable. But, I was very young when I finally understood BDSM.

Actually, we all probably have the same problems, when we start something new. We don't know where to begin. And that's partly the reason for this site, and many of the threads within. So reading is very much a part of learning.

And, to help you to get a better understanding of just what excites you, we have a library to help you find your particular areas of interest.

Yes, you may have seen me boost the library more than once, but I've seen it blossom into a very helpful thing for someone new to BDSM. It gives you a jump start on finding the threads that interest you. Just click with your mouse and you're on your way to reading and maybe learning about yourself.

Other than the library, I'd say you're on the right track. Reading storys of interest can go a long way in learning about yourself. Just take things slow, until you know more about what interests you. Even then, there are those out in the real world who will take advantage of your newness, if you let them. Knowing about them is just a part of knowing about this lifestyle. But, the library has threads about that, too.

And don't forget to post to the threads here and in the cafe. We're a nice group of people, and we have all been where you are. This forum is for learning about yourself and asking questions about BDSM, etc. The cafe, is for casual conversations and just having sexy fun.

So, read, learn, explore your mind...and your body, and have fun.

well i would first like to start off with saying thank you to all that have welcomed me so far. Also DVS thank you for the link to the library. I have not had the oportunity to check out a lot of the threads yet. One of my highest rated questions that I have for everyone is, In a D/s relationship where does family fall into place i.e children. I myself have a daughter that will be two in October. I know that from the things that I have read I havent seen this situation arise, but I also take into consideration that while sex and children normally come hand in hand, that it isnt necessarily considered something that is sexy. I've been debating for months probably longer as to whether I should go forward with my interest or not, because of my daughter, so any information or insights would be appreciated. thank you

 

[armoredhedgehog]

Hello everyone. I've been aware of literotica for years and years and have put off joining until today (okay, so I guess I'm shy, or maybe just lazy).

I'm quite new to all this: though I've been interested in BDSM and alt-sex since I was in middle school,

At this point I understand myself to be fundamentally submissive, though I have some sadistic tendencies. The woman whom I love

is quite dominant but has submissive moments, which are fine with me. She and I have been together for a month as of this week, though we have known each other for almost seven years.

I am an engineering student and a post-modern renaissance man, an eagle scout and a queer, a poet and a lifelong pervert.

I like tea, fur, leather, dressage, primping, unpainted metal, and silliness. I'm interested in most topics of fandom (and geekdom otherwise), and am a fan of gratuitous sex and violence in art, literature and music.

I disdain self-obsessed people, know-it-alls, zealotry in all forms, poor grammar in published documents, social mores, and politicians.

I'm unsure what to share about myself next, so I'll end this here, but if anyone has any questions, don't hesitate to ask.

Love,
E. amurensis

 

[armoredhedgehog]

Well, truth be told, losing your virginity for a male isn't quite the same as it is for a female.

And, I'm thinking with a male mind about a female experience, so maybe I'm doing it all wrong, but I wouldn't want to live that role more than once.

That depends of what you mean by a male losing his virginity, and also depends on the male. Losing my virginity *was* a big deal, both times, if you catch my drift. The second time was really a bigger deal than the first, and I think I know what you mean for by it not being the same for a male as for a female; though I think we should be talking about 'giving' and 'receiving', not male and female.

One could also argue that it is not ever the same for any two people, regardless of the type of fleshy accouterments.

 

[FurryFury]

Welcome Armoredhedgehog.

 

[MissChristine]

I'm always telling my husband that I'm a good lil girl and innocent. I say I'm a perpetual virgin.
.

I like this. I always tease my boyfriend and tell him I'm a "good girl." He doesn't believe it for a second.

 

[Harmony_1985]

Welcome folks!!

 

[FurryFury]

I like this. I always tease my boyfriend and tell him I'm a "good girl." He doesn't believe it for a second.

That's so strange that they don't seem to believe it. It's perfectly true!

 

[MissChristine]

That's so strange that they don't seem to believe it. It's perfectly true!

I know, really. I mean, I make him dinner, we go out in my car, I get him off. What more could a guy want?!

 

[FurryFury]

I know, really. I mean, I make him dinner, we go out in my car, I get him off. What more could a guy want?!

I can't imagine!

 

[curiousirish]

What I dont understand is why most people dont put anything on their profile page...?

I mean you can put a bit of info there without incriminating yourself, I find it off putting to be messaged by people with blank profiles, or am I just being fussy?

 

[FurryFury]

What I dont understand is why most people dont put anything on their profile page...?

I mean you can put a bit of info there without incriminating yourself, I find it off putting to be messaged by people with blank profiles, or am I just being fussy?

People are lazy. What can I say. There are some nice lazy people and some not nice lazy people.

It's up to you to feel anyway you want to about that.

I'd say at least 75% of the PM's I've gotten have been of the "Let me throw some shit against the way and see what sticks" variety.

What I mean by that is someone who is bored or lonely PM all the females he has the energy to on a given night, hoping that something will develop that he can wank off to.

But there are some really great people here as well.

 

[curiousirish]

the messages I hate are the "hi how are you?" variety...........and a blank profile...???

 

[the captians wench]

I never look at the profile. *shrug*

I have one filled out on my other account, but it's outdated. *shrug*

 

[FurryFury]

the messages I hate are the "hi how are you?" variety...........and a blank profile...???

Sounds like lazy, lonely folk.

 

[FurryFury]

I never look at the profile. *shrug*

I have one filled out on my other account, but it's outdated. *shrug*

I not only look at the profile, I often check their posting history. IF, and this is a big if, I'm interested. You often see contradictory things right there and that's a red flag for me.

 

[the captians wench]

I not only look at the profile, I often check their posting history. IF, and this is a big if, I'm interested. You often see contradictory things right there and that's a red flag for me.

If I haven't talkd to them on the boards, then I don't answer. *shrug* I figure if they had anything worth talking about they would have said it out there.

 

[RawHumor]

What I dont understand is why most people dont put anything on their profile page...?

I mean you can put a bit of info there without incriminating yourself, I find it off putting to be messaged by people with blank profiles, or am I just being fussy?

Most women are annoyed by them. You're not being fussy at all.

 

[blackpoolred]

As a newbie,introducing myself,Hi There! I'm Tim,almost ancient,almost an adult!! I'm into-wearing Panties(and stuff!),spanking,mutual male masturbation,cock-sucking,anal, and absolutely anything with either males or females. So that probably makes me either desperate or a male slut....depending on if i'm currently getting any or not!!! lol.

 

[FurryFury]

Welcome Blackpoolred.

 

[fionagrad]

Hi there!

Another newbie! I'm 23, F, from Chicago. While I'm new to the world of posting and such, I've dreamt for a long time of being dominated by a man that I have given complete control to. Open to a lot of things, willing to discuss many others.

Going back to school for my master's starting in January (hopefully!) and have recently decided that I want to suck every bit of fun I can from life.

-Fionagrad

 

[FurryFury]

Welcome Fionagrad.



I hope you get that Master while back in school.

*wink*

 

[katistoey]

hello, newish here and newer still to posting. i've done more reading than participation in bdsm. with that said it would seem i'm a bit into most things. been described as a lite dom/switch. i'm off now to do something about my profile after reading a few posts on here. if, on the off chance i can't figure it out, i will be back to assail you with all the hilarious details-kat

 

[FurryFury]

Welcome Katistoey.

 

[AppleButter]

Hello. Im Applebutter. AKA Dina

Im 20 female. Im a submissive girl to Males but for some reason its hard for me to feel Submissive to girls> Maybe I havent meet the right one. Anyways.
Just stop by to say hi. Has this Account for about a year and I just now started useing it.
^_^ so. hello

 

[FurryFury]

Welcome AppleButter.