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shit how is it that I always sign on just after everyone puts their clothes on
 
Thankyou this is not doing my nerves any good I keep having visions of me getting screen freeze just as I am about to change it back and himself walking in the room !
 
This is all your fault and you are a verrrrrrrrrrry bad influence on quiet English ladies like myself who wouldn't dream of flashing ermmmmm well not to so many people at once anyway
 
This is all your fault and you are a verrrrrrrrrrry bad influence on quiet English ladies like myself who wouldn't dream of flashing ermmmmm well not to so many people at once anyway

You may blame me if you like, because i will always admit to being a terrible influence on people's behavior, but anyone who takes for their moral compass someone with Amoral Squalor as a motto probably doesn't have too much to kvetch about...

I'm just helping people find and own their True Nature.

That's what I'm going to tell them when they come to burn me at the stake.

Think it'll work?

bj
 
Erm I've just been floating around the BDSM threads so what is rainbow play and impact/edge play please?
 
Erm I've just been floating around the BDSM threads so what is rainbow play and impact/edge play please?

Edge play has been discussed earlier in this very thread. Scan back a few pages.

Impact play is anything involving impact. Spanking, caning, flogging, etc. If it hits, it's impact.

I will not discuss rainbow play here. PM if you really must know.
 
needing to vent.. and breathe..

I went through a very hurtful break up a little over a month ago. I am still dealing with a lot of pain from it. In fact, some of my recent poetry has been inspired by it, including my last villanelle.
The hurt is compounded by the fact that he still talks to me. Sometimes, he'll say bullshit things like he's not ready for a relationship, and he'll alude that he may choose to be wih me at some point in the future. Other times, he'll mention that he had a date or whatever. I've asked him not to disuss those things with me at all. I'm hesitant to cut off all ties with him, because I do love him and he has been a source of support for me when I'm feeling depressed.

He text me today. He lost his job. He is a truckdriver, so not only had he lost his job, but he was stuck there at his place of employment. He also needed to store some of his stuff from the truck somewhere. He asked me to bail him out. He asked if I culd pick him up, store his stuff, and let him stay at my house tonight. So, I suppose I'm not good enough for him to be with, but good enough to rescue him.

I wanted to help him so bad! I want to hold him and tell him that everything is going to be fine. BUT, I know I would only end up in more pain. I have no doubt that if I rescued him, he would spend a considerable amount of time tonight on the phone with the girl he is seeing. I already have enough pain.

I asked why she couldn't help him. He said he hadn't told her about it yet.. and I have a feeling he isn't going to ask her for help. So, he's stuck there.. and I feel it. I feel so bad for him that I have to remind myself to breathe. But, I know that I can't help him and open myself up to more hurt.

I'm wondering if anyone at all can understand how I feel right now. I am proud of myself for saying "no." But, I'm still feeling too much of his stuff right now.. anxiety mostly.

-Sheila
 
be strong, you made the right discision, right now you need some good energy, go to a place that is filled with postive energy and the right kind of people, you might want to go for a walk in the park, or if it is too hot, perhaps to a coffee house or the movies, the point is to feed yourself some good vibes.
 
I went through a very hurtful break up a little over a month ago. I am still dealing with a lot of pain from it. In fact, some of my recent poetry has been inspired by it, including my last villanelle.
The hurt is compounded by the fact that he still talks to me. Sometimes, he'll say bullshit things like he's not ready for a relationship, and he'll alude that he may choose to be wih me at some point in the future. Other times, he'll mention that he had a date or whatever. I've asked him not to disuss those things with me at all. I'm hesitant to cut off all ties with him, because I do love him and he has been a source of support for me when I'm feeling depressed.

He text me today. He lost his job. He is a truckdriver, so not only had he lost his job, but he was stuck there at his place of employment. He also needed to store some of his stuff from the truck somewhere. He asked me to bail him out. He asked if I culd pick him up, store his stuff, and let him stay at my house tonight. So, I suppose I'm not good enough for him to be with, but good enough to rescue him.

I wanted to help him so bad! I want to hold him and tell him that everything is going to be fine. BUT, I know I would only end up in more pain. I have no doubt that if I rescued him, he would spend a considerable amount of time tonight on the phone with the girl he is seeing. I already have enough pain.

I asked why she couldn't help him. He said he hadn't told her about it yet.. and I have a feeling he isn't going to ask her for help. So, he's stuck there.. and I feel it. I feel so bad for him that I have to remind myself to breathe. But, I know that I can't help him and open myself up to more hurt.

I'm wondering if anyone at all can understand how I feel right now. I am proud of myself for saying "no." But, I'm still feeling too much of his stuff right now.. anxiety mostly.

-Sheila

Hang on in there girl you are better than that it reminds me of a Reba song "She's not good enough for him" but you bloody well are you are better than him and his playing mind games with you
 
be strong, you made the right discision, right now you need some good energy, go to a place that is filled with postive energy and the right kind of people, you might want to go for a walk in the park, or if it is too hot, perhaps to a coffee house or the movies, the point is to feed yourself some good vibes.

Your suggestions are good, but I isolate. I don't really have a positive place, and I am a bit afraid of people right now (due to the recent sexual assaults). I think, however, that I will take some time to meditate and watch one of my favorite movies after I do a writing assignment that needs done.
 
I'm wondering if anyone at all can understand how I feel right now. I am proud of myself for saying "no." But, I'm still feeling too much of his stuff right now.. anxiety mostly.

-Sheila

Of course we can; I suspect there are very few here who haven't caved to an ex once or twice and regretted it.

You are absolutely doing the right thing. If his support system is so small that he has to impose on an ex-girlfriend to help him out of a jam, well, that says something about him too, doesn't it? Why should you be the one to step in and clean up a mess?

Say this to yourself:
I am doing the right thing. I deserve better and I will find it. I owe him nothing.

Repeat, as many times as necessary. We'll help. Won't we grrrls? (and boys, of course. I bet they haven't always been immune to that sort of manipulation either).

bj
 
You may blame me if you like, because i will always admit to being a terrible influence on people's behavior, but anyone who takes for their moral compass someone with Amoral Squalor as a motto probably doesn't have too much to kvetch about...

I'm just helping people find and own their True Nature.

That's what I'm going to tell them when they come to burn me at the stake.

Think it'll work?

bj

Heh heh...

Joan is that you? I meant to send you an invite to the bonfire being held in your honor tonight......but I'm guessing you heard about it. :eek:
 
Your suggestions are good, but I isolate. I don't really have a positive place, and I am a bit afraid of people right now (due to the recent sexual assaults). I think, however, that I will take some time to meditate and watch one of my favorite movies after I do a writing assignment that needs done.

*crosses arms, blinks and nods, a la "I Dream of Jeanie*
(positive place appears in the form of the bistro)

For whatever it's worth, this is safe ground. You can't see us, but we are plenty real, and we root for you just the same. :cattail:
 
Heh heh...

Joan is that you? I meant to send you an invite to the bonfire being held in your honor tonight......but I'm guessing you heard about it. :eek:

And just in time, too. That's why I quickly went Someplace Else.

My voices told me to.


Me and Gilles, we're living comfortably in an obscure part of the midwest now, raising Rice Krispies on our small farm.

bj
 
*crosses arms, blinks and nods, a la "I Dream of Jeanie*
(positive place appears in the form of the bistro)

For whatever it's worth, this is safe ground. You can't see us, but we are plenty real, and we root for you just the same. :cattail:

KWL! Did it make that 'boinggg' sound like she does?

I just twitch my nose ala Samantha in Bewitched, and it goes 'twinka-twinka-twink'. And shit happens, although I never can predict what. I haven't gotten to that chapter in the book yet.

bj
 
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