Distance Domination-Support Thread

[Homburg]

Back to LDR again. Three weeks is not long enough. No amount of time is long enough.



Still, I am incredibly thankful that we got those three weeks. My fervent hopes will be with those who have not been able to enjoy such visits with their long distance partners.

 

[myinnerslut]

im pissy and grumpy and in the wrong damn state!

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

im pissy and grumpy and in the wrong damn state!

I know the feeling.......

*hugg*

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

My fervent hopes will be with those who have not been able to enjoy such visits with their long distance partners.

*raises hand* Right here.

Six months, two weeks, and two days. But who's counting right?

 

[Homburg]

*raises hand* Right here.

Six months, two weeks, and two days. But who's counting right?

You were the primary person I was thinking of when I said that, bro.

Keep on keepin the faith.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

You were the primary person I was thinking of when I said that, bro.

Keep on keepin the faith.

Thanks.

As they say absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Or put more eloquently: "Absence extinguishes small passions and increases great ones, as the wind will blow out a candle, and fan a fire."

 

[ecstaticsub]

Our longest separation ever (more than 6 months) will finally be coming to an end next week (hopefully...to be honest I'm almost at a "I'll believe it when I am kneeling at his feet" state of mind. For the past few months something always seems to go wrong)

Talking/IMing/ camming every day helps. Of course it is not the same but in some ways it has brought us even closer.

 

[Homburg]

Our longest separation ever (more than 6 months) will finally be coming to an end next week (hopefully...to be honest I'm almost at a "I'll believe it when I am kneeling at his feet" state of mind. For the past few months something always seems to go wrong)

Talking/IMing/ camming every day helps. Of course it is not the same but in some ways it has brought us even closer.

Really happy for you, darlin!

 

[EmpressFi]

I cant believe it's just 2 weeks from Friday..and one of those I'll be in cleveland.. where the only internet I Have will be at the office.... gonna be a long week

 

[myinnerslut]

I cant believe it's just 2 weeks from Friday..and one of those I'll be in cleveland.. where the only internet I Have will be at the office.... gonna be a long week

sorry for the long weekend, but only two weeks isnt bad at all...

 

[ecstaticsub]

Really happy for you, darlin!

Thanks! I just found out today that the visit is definite! *** wicked happy dance***

 

[EmpressFi]

sorry for the long weekend, but only two weeks isnt bad at all...

No, it's not.. if we can handle 4 1/2 months.. 2 weeks is a cake walk

 

[Homburg]

Thanks! I just found out today that the visit is definite! *** wicked happy dance***

WooT!! That's so awesome!

 

[SubKekiLee]

Thanks! I just found out today that the visit is definite! *** wicked happy dance***

YAY! I am soooo happy for you ES... You so need time for you and with HIM... I hope it is the best..

 

[SubKekiLee]

Thanks.

As they say absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Or put more eloquently: "Absence extinguishes small passions and increases great ones, as the wind will blow out a candle, and fan a fire."

That it does Daddy2.. My Sir and I have been together now going on 8 months we have been thru the ringer and back as far as our personal lives.. with death, job loss and stress and family lives.... BUT we made it work we currently live more than 2400 miles apart, so I fully agree that Abscence makes the heart grow Fonder... LDRs are hard work, but if you work hard it makes the love all that much sweeter.... I am currently away at flight school which makes time even more at a premimum... BUT soon enough we will be back close enough to see one another fairly regularly and WE cannot wait..

Keep the faith.... I am sure it will be worth it.....

SKL

 

[Homburg]

I was talking with my Nala Cayenne, someone that I've been friends with about as long a sI've been on here, and the topic of LDR and visits came up. She and her Daddy are scheduled for a visit, their first, and she made a comment about how she was worried about that visit, and, more importantly, how she would feel afterwards, how much it would hurt to go back to "normal" afterwards, as well as the effects of a longer visit. I replied to her concerns, and she found my reply useful. We talked about it, and thought that others here might find some use in it. Here's what was said:

The short visits are a good thing. They keep us sane, and they are fun. Emotionally they are a roller coaster, as we are both deliriously happy friday when I arrive, through saturday, but saturday night usually has some sadness as going to sleep means the visit is essentially over. Sundays are frenetic, trying to get that last little bit of affection in.

The long visit was totally different, as the whole last week was like saturday night. The three of us alternated between feeling happy that she was still here, and sad because the visit was about to end. The last three or four days were awful, with all three of us randomly getting sad/crying.

It's harder now than it was before. She was here for three weeks. She fit in perfectly. Life became something that included [MIS]. Without her here we have this hole in our lives. So while I would not trade that visit for all the money in the world, those three weeks made the seperation from her that much harder.

Don't worry about the short visit. savour it. Love it. but if you get a chance at a long visit, prepare yourself for a LOT of pain afterwards. That said, I dearly hope you get the chance. The time you spend being with him will be worth the pain. It was in our case.

 

[Bandit58]

My first visit to Sir was originally going to be for two weeks, but because I didn't really have anything to hurry back to NZ for, I decided to extend it for an extra week. The three week visit also included an Aussie Lit Together the week after I arrived, so we had the chance to tell our friends that we were a couple and had plans for me to move in with Him permanently.

The first two weeks were great, but that last week we both had bouts of sadness that I had to leave soon. That last day....I didn't cry until I got on the plane, I'm sure some of the other passengers saw that I was upset. It was six weeks before I got back to Him - Christmas and New Years came in the middle of it and I felt very alone because my parents had recently moved away and my kids were spending the day with the ex's family.

However on 24th January 2004 I made the flight back to Him, and we've been together ever since apart from a couple of two week separations when my father became ill and when he died.

Being apart gets harder the longer we are together....He says I need to make a visit back to see family in the next few months but I'm reluctant because of His health...we will see

 

[minx1]

Talking/IMing/ camming every day helps. Of course it is not the same but in some ways it has brought us even closer.

In some ways I think my D and I were closer sharing that way than when we actually were able to be together in realtime *soft smile*

How does that work eh?

Amongst many contributing factors I guess the fact that real life gets in the way. There are more competing time factors and responsibilities now we share the same time zone.

I have loved the time we have been together physically I wouldn't change it for the world. But sometimes I miss what we shared.

Having said that I have done the ldr thing and hope you all get to see your PYLs/pyls really soon

 

[catalina_francisco]

In some ways I think my D and I were closer sharing that way than when we actually were able to be together in realtime *soft smile*

How does that work eh?

Amongst many contributing factors I guess the fact that real life gets in the way. There are more competing time factors and responsibilities now we share the same time zone.

I have loved the time we have been together physically I wouldn't change it for the world. But sometimes I miss what we shared.

Having said that I have done the ldr thing and hope you all get to see your PYLs/pyls really soon

I think in part when you are restricted to technology based ways of communicating, you are limited to sharing a lot more from the head and heart without physical closeness getting in the way...sort of compensating for that lack of physical contact and ease of being together. Once you are physically in the same vicinity, that sense or urgency, needing to share so much of what is happening inside you etc., sometimes gets laid aside and/or taken for granted, or worse, thought to be silly and to time consuming to do when face to face. It takes constant work to resist replacing one with the other and pushing for having it all...some days it works, some days it doesn't work so well. It is sort of like a feeling there is always tomorrow to talk, and sometimes tomorrow feels too long to wait and/or never comes in quite the way that is missed. I think it is the basis for a lot of relationships, vanilla and D/s, going off the rails...people grow apart, don't know each other so well anymore, don't share as much.

Catalina

 

[rida]

In some ways I think my D and I were closer sharing that way than when we actually were able to be together in realtime *soft smile*

How does that work eh?

Amongst many contributing factors I guess the fact that real life gets in the way. There are more competing time factors and responsibilities now we share the same time zone.

I have loved the time we have been together physically I wouldn't change it for the world. But sometimes I miss what we shared.

Having said that I have done the ldr thing and hope you all get to see your PYLs/pyls really soon

I am not in a LDR (sorry for the intrusion ) but have been using IM to chat with Hubby for the last year or so. (of course we still talk in person as well).

I know it might sound silly, but writing down my thoughts instead of blurting them out in a non consequitur mess forces me to think more clearly. And also allows for him to get his thoughts to me as when I am emotional, I tend to talk and talk and talk and not listen much.

Real life also with all the time consuming events and responsibilities make it harder to have time to sit down and talk (especially with kidlets roaming around), and we both ended up letting things fester in our mind.

Now, as ridicolous as it might sound, we IM at least once a day, mostly while the kidlets are watching their TV shows, and discuss both mundane and emotional and sometime sexual things. It is even easier to discuss touchy subjects. And this too has helped us grow much more closer .
Of course we still talk when we have the chance

To all the people in LDR ... been there, done that (writing letters on paper ... not e-mails) ... and it is hard but it is totally worth it

 

[myinnerslut]

i once thought i would slip rght back into the habbit of being alone after this visit. that it wouldnt bother me so much becuase i was so used to being by myself. i was wrong.

 

[SubKekiLee]

In some ways I think my D and I were closer sharing that way than when we actually were able to be together in realtime *soft smile*

How does that work eh?

Amongst many contributing factors I guess the fact that real life gets in the way. There are more competing time factors and responsibilities now we share the same time zone.

I have loved the time we have been together physically I wouldn't change it for the world. But sometimes I miss what we shared.

Having said that I have done the ldr thing and hope you all get to see your PYLs/pyls really soon

Minx that works cause it is you communicating with him.. as you know I am away at school.. BUT when school is done hopefully we will see each other.. and hopefully alot in the near future.. and for you LIL one... MAYBE youll meet someone again who will spark that for you

I think in part when you are restricted to technology based ways of communicating, you are limited to sharing a lot more from the head and heart without physical closeness getting in the way...sort of compensating for that lack of physical contact and ease of being together. Once you are physically in the same vicinity, that sense or urgency, needing to share so much of what is happening inside you etc., sometimes gets laid aside and/or taken for granted, or worse, thought to be silly and to time consuming to do when face to face. It takes constant work to resist replacing one with the other and pushing for having it all...some days it works, some days it doesn't work so well. It is sort of like a feeling there is always tomorrow to talk, and sometimes tomorrow feels too long to wait and/or never comes in quite the way that is missed. I think it is the basis for a lot of relationships, vanilla and D/s, going off the rails...people grow apart, don't know each other so well anymore, don't share as much.
B I N G O Cat.. couldnt have said it better myself.. these relationships bring you closer and LDR's force you to communicate and speak to one another.. and be honest with another.... I love what you said..
Catalina

Our longest separation ever (more than 6 months) will finally be coming to an end next week (hopefully...to be honest I'm almost at a "I'll believe it when I am kneeling at his feet" state of mind. For the past few months something always seems to go wrong)

Talking/IMing/ camming every day helps. Of course it is not the same but in some ways it has brought us even closer.

YES it does ES

 

[Homburg]

i once thought i would slip rght back into the habbit of being alone after this visit. that it wouldnt bother me so much becuase i was so used to being by myself. i was wrong.

*hugs*

I'm sorry, kitten.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

Just wanted to say that while Daddy has been great at easing my worries of going back to being without him after we see one another, these words from my closest friend were definitely a blessing and a much needed inspiration.

Hugs to you for your friendship, Homburg and knowing what I needed to hear

Don't worry about the short visit. savour it. Love it. but if you get a chance at a long visit, prepare yourself for a LOT of pain afterwards. That said, I dearly hope you get the chance. The time you spend being with him will be worth the pain. It was in our case.

 

[SubKekiLee]

Just wanted to say that while Daddy has been great at easing my worries of going back to being without him after we see one another, these words from my closest friend were definitely a blessing and a much needed inspiration.

Hugs to you for your friendship, Homburg and knowing what I needed to hear

Nala
Keep the faith. It isnt the easiest to walk away and say "see ya later" as my Sir always says... It is never goodbye.. Cherish the moments you have and enjoy them and youll be thankful for those times.. and remember them.. they will be worth while... You know we have been together now going on 8 months.. I am so happy to see you posting again and happy with Daddy.. Good luck..