Why I give women false hope

[RoryN]

Add playing the guitar as well and you have limitless dexterity. It's difficult to have long nails, though.

The guitar was my first choice. And somehow, my parents sold me on the idea that learning to play something that wasn't portable would be a *much* better way to attract women.

So young, dumb, and impressionable, I was.

Something that's important someone else brought up, though: the "false hope" problem would cure itself if I communicated better.

 

[capricious_chic]

Would you still question it if he fed you a line as to why?

It would depend on the why.

If there is no potential of it going further I would see it as a friendly thing more than a date thing and quite honestly at that point I would question motivations even more.

Give me an honest, "I think your sexy and would love to fuck/have sex with/make love to you but I would also like to get to know you better first" and it would be all good.

 

[Metrodance]

The guitar was my first choice. And somehow, my parents sold me on the idea that learning to play something that wasn't portable would be a *much* better way to attract women.

So young, dumb, and impressionable, I was.

Yes, I hated the piano lessons as well but something clicked and I’m glad now.

 

[lizaveta]

Give me an honest, "I think your sexy and would love to fuck/have sex with/make love to you but I would also like to get to know you better first" and it would be all good.

That's the one.

 

[Winemaster]

reading the thread....

I have read this thread and felt that I could relate. I have had a one night stand and noticed it wasn't the "best" sex.....the women I got to know...now, there's "hot sex".....time is the best experience...in my twenties I would have thought it was great...but now...I want to get to know the person...just the feeling of knowing I can be with someone...is enough to make me feel good and know if I want to pursue....

 

[RoryN]

Yes, I hated the piano lessons as well but something clicked and I’m glad now.

I complain, but I agree. I'm just happy I got exposed to *some* musical instrument at an early age. I'll take up piano again if I can get a decent digital model.

I have read this thread and felt that I could relate. I have had a one night stand and noticed it wasn't the "best" sex.....

I never expect it to be mind-blowing. Hmm - maybe that's an issue. Maybe I'm indifferent because I expect a mediocre experience.

 

[capricious_chic]

That's the one.

Throws them off a bit when my interest in more in the fucking than the getting to know - but then that ties into the trust issues thing.

Don't get me wrong, while I have no problems w/one nighters, I am not necessarily advocating them either.

 

[tymeblind]

...because they assume that, like most men, I can preform at the drop of a hat, even though I don't know them well.

Problem is, I have trust issues. I envy people who can do one-nighters without second thoughts; however, mine cripple me (`least, they do at this point in time).

Thankfully, I played piano for a few years, and have nimble fingers. But it's not a perfect substitution by any means. *sigh*

have you been known to sob uncontrollably during sex?

 

[RoryN]

have you been known to sob uncontrollably during sex?

I haven't cried since I was 13; my dog and grandmother died within a week of one another.

No - I have no unsettling habits in the sack (that I'm aware of).

 

[Recidiva]

I once asked a god of a man who was talking to me why he was talking to me. I was feeling particularly inferior that evening.

He was so cool. He said "Why, because I'm gorgeous?"

He knew he was beautiful. He didn't have to make it a big deal and he put me at ease.

He just said "There's something about you."

I didn't sleep with him either. He was charming and wonderful and we spent the whole night talking and had a great time. I was too young and intimidated. But he didn't even get insulted and pissy. He taught me that being cool and rejection are choices we make. Not ready is okay.

Being cool with being not ready is also a choice you can make.

 

[rimmy]

...because they assume that, like most men, I can preform at the drop of a hat, even though I don't know them well.

Not only that but a lot of them suffer from GPS (Golden Pussy Syndrome). That's the condition wherein they think that their pussy is something special and that once you have them you'll be hooked for life. Ya right.

 

[lizaveta]

Not only that but a lot of them suffer from GPS (Golden Pussy Syndrome). That's the condition wherein they think that their pussy is something special and that once you have them you'll be hooked for life. Ya right.

You mean it's not? *lifts skirt to look*

 

[pinkstarfish]

My husband has had sex with one other woman besides me, and she was a long term relationship.

 

[Recidiva]

My husband has had sex with one other woman besides me, and she was a long term relationship.

My husband probably had sex with all the other women. He was a man whore. All the other women were really mad at me, too.

 

[tymeblind]

Not only that but a lot of them suffer from GPS (Golden Pussy Syndrome). That's the condition wherein they think that their pussy is something special and that once you have them you'll be hooked for life. Ya right.

GPS - lol. I like that.

 

[Recidiva]

You mean it's not? *lifts skirt to look*

*giggle*

 

[rimmy]

GPS - lol. I like that.

I made it up myself but feel free to use it.

 

[pinkstarfish]

My husband probably had sex with all the other women. He was a man whore. All the other women were really mad at me, too.

Hahaha!!!

I don't think any of the women notice my husband missing.

He's in disguise...

Nice guy on the outside, devil inside.

 

[pinkstarfish]

You mean it's not? *lifts skirt to look*

*checks mine*

Nope, mines gold.

 

[rimmy]

*checks mine*

Nope, mines gold.

But you are one of the exceptions. Trust me.

 

[rimmy]

You mean it's not? *lifts skirt to look*

I'll need to make that determination for myself. Please forward your pics

 

[lizaveta]

I'll need to make that determination for myself. Please forward your pics

Where do you think Ginny got her av?

 

[Recidiva]

Hahaha!!!

I don't think any of the women notice my husband missing. He's in disguise... Nice guy on the outside, devil inside.

Mine joined the Army a while back and worked on encryption for nuclear missiles during the day and then went to bars in Germany waiting for people to start drunken brawls so he could join in and beat people up until the MPs dragged him away.

He's kinda like that inside too.

 

[Lorelei_11]

I have read this thread and felt that I could relate. I have had a one night stand and noticed it wasn't the "best" sex.....the women I got to know...now, there's "hot sex".....time is the best experience...in my twenties I would have thought it was great...but now...I want to get to know the person...just the feeling of knowing I can be with someone...is enough to make me feel good and know if I want to pursue....

Cool, an example of how men get better with age.

 

[rimmy]

Where do you think Ginny got her av?

Hot. But looks can be deceiving. Just look at the Edsel.