Being autistic, adhd and random stuff

[Strixaluco]

EXACTLY!!!

Of course, I have always thought a sedate cocktail party in a good library might be a perfectly rational solution to that problem.

Oh that sounds very pleasant indeed. But a rowdy drunk part? I hope there's none closer than 100-200m from my home...

 

[PMarky2]

Rowdy drunk parties - urgh!

Oddly, I do not even remember too many of those from College. Mind you, I was arts faculty, and we were fairly sedate though we could certainly put the beer and cheap plonk away when the occasion offered we were not loud. The rowdy booze-ups were always in the education faculty - especially at the end of teaching practice weeks!

 

[Strixaluco]

I got out of parties before people got drunk and rowdy, so I still had fun. I didn't live in student housing, or even near the university of technology, but in a very calm neighbourhood.

 

[stickygirl]

Recent research at Kings College London found that 97% of autistic adults aged 60yrs+ and 89% of those aged 40-59 remain undiagnosed.
The study, taken from a review of 80 papers, was published through the NIHR Maudsley Biomedical Research Centre ( can't say I've heard of them and why aren't they called NIHRMBRC?! )

This goes a long way to explain the sudden 'epidemic' of autism, but lets blame Tylenol...

 

[Statius]

Recent research at Kings College London found that 97% of autistic adults aged 60yrs+ and 89% of those aged 40-59 remain undiagnosed.
The study, taken from a review of 80 papers, was published through the NIHR Maudsley Biomedical Research Centre ( can't say I've heard of them and why aren't they called NIHRMBRC?! )

This goes a long way to explain the sudden 'epidemic' of autism, but lets blame Tylenol...

It's just easier than digging into the truth, duh .

 

[PMarky2]

I got out of parties before people got drunk and rowdy, so I still had fun. I didn't live in student housing, or even near the university of technology, but in a very calm neighbourhood.

I lived in halls the first two years, then moved into digs around the back of the cathedral where it was quiet, but not too far from college. Living in halls was not too bad, as given the professional focus of many of the students, there was not much non-specific rowdiness. It was also in the days of grants, so most of us were skint.

 

[PMarky2]

Recent research at Kings College London found that 97% of autistic adults aged 60yrs+ and 89% of those aged 40-59 remain undiagnosed.
The study, taken from a review of 80 papers, was published through the NIHR Maudsley Biomedical Research Centre ( can't say I've heard of them and why aren't they called NIHRMBRC?! )

This goes a long way to explain the sudden 'epidemic' of autism, but lets blame Tylenol...

I suspect that such a long list of initials might induce brain cramp for many folks. I find acronyms annoying if they are not immediately obvious, and trigger some long buried memory as to what it stands for. I can take a stab at NIHR being National Institute of Health Research, but if it was longer than that

 

[stickygirl]

I suspect that such a long list of initials might induce brain cramp for many folks. I find acronyms annoying if they are not immediately obvious, and trigger some long buried memory as to what it stands for. I can take a stab at NIHR being National Institute of Health Research, but if it was longer than that

I have enough trouble on Lit when people use acronyms... Isn't there one called TLA = Three Letter Acronyms?!

 

[PMarky2]

Recent research at Kings College London found that 97% of autistic adults aged 60yrs+ and 89% of those aged 40-59 remain undiagnosed.
The study, taken from a review of 80 papers, was published through the NIHR Maudsley Biomedical Research Centre ( can't say I've heard of them and why aren't they called NIHRMBRC?! )

This goes a long way to explain the sudden 'epidemic' of autism, but lets blame Tylenol...

I'm in the 40-59 bracket and have two friends who I am pretty sure are ASD, but are undiagnosed. They (and their kids) are also among my safe people who I can stand to be around when I am getting overwhelmed! I am pretty sure about 20% of my colleagues are flying under the radar too. Historically, of course, non-diagnosis was common as the condition was only identified in the second quarter of the 20th century (IIRC). Came across an article the other day that suggested the Michael Ramsey, who was Archbishop of Canterbury 1961 - 74 was on the spectrum. I read a gloves-off biography of him about 30 years ago, and he did display many of the behaviours.

I got blind-sided by a short notice meeting at the weekend which ended up being a prolonged discussion of what had already been discussed. It stressed me out to the point where I had a meltdown afterwards and my ASD/ADHD has been kicking my backside ever since.

 

[stickygirl]

I'm in the 40-59 bracket and have two friends who I am pretty sure are ASD, but are undiagnosed. They (and their kids) are also among my safe people who I can stand to be around when I am getting overwhelmed! I am pretty sure about 20% of my colleagues are flying under the radar too. Historically, of course, non-diagnosis was common as the condition was only identified in the second quarter of the 20th century (IIRC). Came across an article the other day that suggested the Michael Ramsey, who was Archbishop of Canterbury 1961 - 74 was on the spectrum. I read a gloves-off biography of him about 30 years ago, and he did display many of the behaviours.

Hmm... it's a short walk from religion to child abuse. Google him

 

[PMarky2]

Hmm... it's a short walk from religion to child abuse. Google him

I came up almost empty. The one case I found was all too typical of the period in that he signed off on the ordination of someone who these days would not even be in the process. There was a touching, but misplaced, faith in those days that paedophiles could be reformed. We know better now. That sort of mistake was made just as often, perhaps more often, in education, health care, and elsewhere. When I look at the procedures we use now compared to when I was in training thirty years ago, things have changed considerably, and for the better.

 

[stickygirl]

I came up almost empty. The one case I found was all too typical of the period, and was probably repeated thirty times over in school system and elsewhere.

Letters from 1966 between the then Archbishop of Canterbury and a bishop show the Church agreed that a convicted p*dophile should be ordained.

 

[PMarky2]

Letters from 1966 between the then Archbishop of Canterbury and a bishop show the Church agreed that a convicted p*dophile should be ordained.

That is the case I found. The safeguarding procedures in those days were shit.

 

[stickygirl]

Funny to me... My GP suggested CBT to me for anxiety. I went to one meeting, realised I knew more than the person running the course, then found a therapist who unravelled my autism

 

[Strixaluco]

realised I knew more than the person running the course,

Such an autistic experience!

 

[stickygirl]

Such an autistic experience!

Is it? It was actually two girls and I got the impression they had revised their course book the night before. The comments from the other attendees were more helpful - maybe that's the idea? I knew it wasn't what I needed but I hope the other people got something out of it and I really appreciated the local health authority putting money and resources into it.

 

[Strixaluco]

Is it? It was actually two girls and I got the impression they had revised their course book the night before. The comments from the other attendees were more helpful - maybe that's the idea? I knew it wasn't what I needed but I hope the other people got something out of it and I really appreciated the local health authority putting money and resources into it.

I don't if it's typical regarding CBT (I've never done it in a group, one-person sessions are typical here), but in general. I've even gone to a professional course in one subject where a colleague of mine said I would have done it better - and the subject was new to me!

We delve easily deep into subjects (assuming not having intellectual disability). And we may learn fast. We might sound more professional after reading the material the night before than some often much more studying.

 

[PMarky2]

CBT for me would probably not work a lot of the time because I would be too frazzled. I have a therapist who is very gentle with me, and is gradually helping me to survey my particular ASD/ADHD landscape. The last month has been rather stressful in that I have had to deal with the blow back from some ill-advised PR engaged in by a colleague. I am generally pretty good at smoothing ruffled feathers, but this has been a tough one. I have been drained enough that my executive function has gone to pot.

Emotionally, things are mixed. BAF is still on the periphery of my existence. I think she'll be fully back eventually in the meantime things are friendly but distant. In the meantime, I have connected with her mother who seems to be a member of the ND tribe too. My wife is beginning to engage a bit more positively with my diagnosis too. So, not all bad.

 

[stickygirl]

Just for laffs

 

[Statius]

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[xXxplorher]

I've been thinking about starting this for a while, not as a vanity thread, but because there isn't one at Lit. So this is a first for Lit AFAIK.

Being autistic doesn't mean we like sex more or less than anyone else, but we probably think about it more, because we think about everything more. There are plenty of autistic forums - there are dozens on Reddit alone, but because auties have had to learn to behave and be prime and proper, they seldom get a chance to say 'a slow tendril hung from the heat of her sex, thick with lust and hungry for his hard flesh to consume her' without a Mod jumping in to censor you... autie chat rooms are uncomfortable with sex.

I keep finding out new things about being autistic, usually through someone else's experience or remarks. Here's a couple of facts I discovered recently -

• Autistic people represent a disproportionate number of victims of sexual abuse
• Alexithymia can leave you suddenly fighting back tears because you don't understand your own emotions.

Like any chat room, Lit provides the opportunity of walking away from a question, thinking about it for an hour, then coming back with a thoughtful answer. It can also mean you totally misunderstood the nuances in the discussion, the topic has moved on and your carefully written response was a wasted effort. My trash is full of brilliant and entirely irrelevant replies to the question I only thought I'd been asked.

TLDR
Just post stuff about autism

I'm going to add links to some resources and you're most welcome to PM me with more suggestions. I'll tidy them up as we go.

Mom on the Spectrum
What is Neurodivergent? a useful intro to typical traits that may prompt you to find out more.
Autism from the Inside
Why socialising can be painful explaining the accepted rules of socialising and how sometimes we find them difficult.
What Women With Autism Want You to Know interviewed women offer insightful thoughts on being autistic

The Autistic Quotient Test a score over 30 suggests you might be ASDsy, but I saw a talk by its main contributor and I thought he was a dick. Only saying. Just my view

Finally, since we're on an erotica site, I've written some stories where the MC is autistic
Under the Knife ( 2 chapters )
Under the Skin ( 5 chapters )

I remember this post (and person, sorta; observing them some)... from way back before there was a when.

Here's hoping this thread has not devolved into some ridiculous throughput for virtue signaling? Cuz I am QUITE sure that would truly piss that OP off...

 

[xXxplorher]

Hmm... it's a short walk from religion to child abuse. Google him

Aww c'mon...

wtf? A SHORT walk between random archbishop and... pedophile? Just becuz...

And the 'certifiable' is to Google him?

Yikes. My memory is clearly bad.

What... the...


OUT!

 

[EmmAgain]

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What a fascinating, thoughtful thread. While the topic doesn’t directly apply to me, thank you for taking the time to start and maintain it.

 

[PMarky2]

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And of course, half the Auties in the room immediately recognized the left hand image as being an enlargement of part of the "School of Athens" by Raphael which depicts Plato and Aristotle conversing!

 

[stickygirl]

I just Googled 'how to cope with neurotypicals doing stupid things?' and Reddit came up with a nice, supportive thread with loads of RL examples.

Don't bother to search but I posted in a thread recently in which someone drew a false conclusion from a YT they'd watched. The premise of the YT was light-hearted, but they took it as gospel to support a vague pet notion. I bailed out after a couple of posts, but it's so frustrating. I do, double, triple check my facts, but in the end realise I'm being gaslit. NTs like to play at expert, purely for small-talk discussion.

I could cite RL examples but they'd be too close to home. The trick I need to practise is walking away from stupidity that's masked as small-talk. Small-talk for them takes up the uncomfortable silence we welcome as peace.

It's always us that have to make the accommodation for their stupidity. It wears you down. Where's my fidget? Where's my man and his calm chest and strong arms?