As a Bi, Which Gender Do You Prefer?

At first, I accepted your apology, because we all misspeak at times. But then I read your edit... so how about you just leave bad enough alone and move along?
I don't know how you arrive at your interpretation. It seems like you're just looking for an argument. I suppose I shouldn't care. I will delete the original comment.
 
Maybe they aren't bi at all. Maybe they're pan, specifically one of those pans who say a potential partner's gender isn't important to them in any way at all.

Maybe that's why it doesn't even seem like a choice to them. To the rest of us, us bisexual people, every partner is a choice. But choosing isn't a burden, it's just choosing.

Also maybe they're militantly non-monogamous or non-committed. The whole notion of not ever having to choose pretty clearly ignores the choice which was made by anyone who is committed and monogamous.

Or maybe they just like perpetrating that slur, the one which says that bisexuals cannot be monogamous.
Yes, I'm pan. No to any of the rest of it.

There is an important question in the process of critical thinking: “Are we even asking the right question?”

I do forget sometimes (a) that the Internet, in general, is a culture that is not exactly devoted to critical thinking, and (b) that many people view the Internet as a place for combat, and therefore questioning someone is seen as an essentially combative action.

None of this was that important. I'm going to fulfill the op’s wishes and get the hell out of Dodge.
 
I am married and love my wife very much. She is the only woman I have ever had sex with. Before we were married I had only touched one other girl's tits, and that was very briefly. However, if my wife were more interested in sex, I would much prefer having sex with her. Since that is the case, I have turned to stroking and sucking cock. I really enjoy the feel of another man's hard cock in my hand stroking him and feeling him cum! I also like to suck a nice looking cock from time to time.
I am exactly like you. I could have wrote this as every detail is just like me. Stroking and sucking men, love my wife, but the infrequent activity in bed is an issue for me so I turned to cock.
 
I still prefer women and a true life partner would be female. Being with guys is purely sexual and short term, I would not develop feelings or anything of the sort, it just doesn't work that way for me. I don't make out with guys, just their guy parts.
 
Well friday when fucking my wife in the shower I prefered women.Now im aching for a cock in my ass to fuck me so I prefer a man or woman with strap on
 
I prefer women now. But once upon a time, with the right man, I was always willing to be the woman :) ... During my boys hostel days, when girls were not allowed into our hostel building... I used to enjoy my room mate's company. His horniness excited me. After dinner, I would be in bed in my room and he would walk in naked with a big hard-on and jump onto my bed and put it in my mouth. I used to enjoy his raw energy and watching his relaxed demeanour after he ejaculated into my mouth. I used to like that I was making him happy.
 
I’ve only been with women.
But after working a lot on all the heteronormative ideas in my head I now recognize I am capable of being attracted to all genders almost equally… romantically and sexually…
I do call myself bisexual and not pansexual just because…
 
For me, it's one of those 'it depends ' answer.
Guys are fun. So, when I'm in the mood for some playfull ' fun sex' I'll get together with one of my guy friends. I mean sometimes a girl just needs a good fun fuck. 😃
But, when I'm in the mood for some slow tender loving it's one of my bi girlfriends. In my opinion only a woman knows how to make love to another woman.
Or maybe it’s just me.
I don’t think it’s just you — I’m with you 100 percent. I’m polysexual and my answer to the question posed by the OP is also “it depends”. I’m not as clear as you are as to what I want, when and why. I can go six weeks while wanting only women. I’ll watch female masturbation or lesbian scenes for hour after hour, day after day. Then something switches inside my brain and I want nothing but cock — men with cocks, transgender women with cocks and fembois with cocks. I want to pump those cocks with my hand, suck on them with my mouth, and swallow every bit of cum that I can coax out of them. Sometimes my need to be fed is uncontrollable. Other times I want to be in bed with a woman in my arms whose small breasts I can arouse just by sucking on her tender nipples, whose luscious lips and playful tongue I can French kiss all day, and even a glimpse of whose rigid shaft makes me want to get down on my knees and worship.

I can’t explain these sudden shifts in desire, don’t understand them. If anyone can offer an explanation or

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I don’t think it’s just you — I’m with you 100 percent. I’m polysexual and my answer to the question posed by the OP is also “it depends”. I’m not as clear as you are as to what I want, when and why. I can go six weeks while wanting only women. I’ll watch female masturbation or lesbian scenes for hour after hour, day after day. Then something switches inside my brain and I want nothing but cock — men with cocks, transgender women with cocks and fembois with cocks. I want to pump those cocks with my hand, suck on them with my mouth, and swallow every bit of cum that I can coax out of them. Sometimes my need to be fed is uncontrollable. Other times I want to be in bed with a woman in my arms whose small breasts I can arouse just by sucking on her tender nipples, whose luscious lips and playful tongue I can French kiss all day, and even a glimpse of whose rigid shaft makes me want to get down on my knees and worship.

I can’t explain these sudden shifts in desire, don’t understand them. If anyone can offer an explanation or

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I have an explanation. I think you are a normal human being who is open to the different possibilities in life.
 
I do call myself bisexual and not pansexual just because…
Just because?

I mean, I'm similar but I can 100% articulate why I don't call myself pansexual. It has nothing to do with ruling out certain genders or gender identities.

What's that about, for you? Maybe you're an older person who just grew up with that term and find "pansexual" to be too newfangled to identify with it? That's a small part of it for me. But just a very small part.
 
Just because?

I mean, I'm similar but I can 100% articulate why I don't call myself pansexual. It has nothing to do with ruling out certain genders or gender identities.

What's that about, for you? Maybe you're an older person who just grew up with that term and find "pansexual" to be too newfangled to identify with it? That's a small part of it for me. But just a very small part.
I am not that old (40’s) but what I grew up, there was no knowledge of even bisexuality…

I recently (7 years) realized I really liked more than women. And recently figured out I like more than men and women and I do physically, sexually, erotically, romantically… even if I have experience only with women… one to be exact…

Why Bisexual and not Panasexual for me? Well, it is hard enough to go from heterosexual to bisexual and to explain that to my wife and few family Ive came out… I accepted myself as bisexual and I am now getting comfortable calling myself bisexual and queer… I just did not wanted to add another term… maybe in the future but maybe not as for me, bisexual feels the right term…

In 1991, the magazine “Anything that Moves” on the inaugural edition published the bisexual manifesto:

"We are tired of being analyzed, defined and represented by people other than ourselves, or worse yet, not considered at all. We are frustrated by the imposed isolation and invisibility that comes from being told or expected to choose either a homosexual or heterosexual identity.

Monosexuality is a heterosexist dictate used to oppress homosexuals and to negate the validity of bisexuality.

Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have "two" sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don't assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone's sexuality, including your own."


When I read it, that is exactly what defines me. The idea I subscribe…

Pansexual is not a bad term at all and there are plenty people that might subscribe to it and that is perfectly fine…

But for me, it meant the same thing and calling myself Pansexual just introduced more complications on my comming out…

Just my two cents 😉😊
 
What about your reason?
I wrote a long thing but then I decided it's off topic for this thread.

But it started with this, and I'll leave it at that, as far as this thread is concerned:
I came out as bi back in 1989. That's a long time to have invested in an identity label, so, there's some inertia.

But that's just a small part of it. I have always embraced fluidity, and in the past several years my immediate family has experienced several other coming-outs, resetting of pre-existing identities and orientation labels, and withdrawal from all manner of conditioned expectations and presentations and priorities.

By comparison, pansexuality is rather new on the block, as far as well-known sexual orientations go. In the same period of time since pansexuality awareness has been spreading, I have understood that my bisexuality does not mean that people of "only two" genders or gender identities are attractive to me, which you might think would move me away from "bi" and toward something that superficially sounds less exclusionary.

But it doesn't. For reasons which don't have to do with the inertia we talked about.

Beyond that, I've
discussed it
a little bit,
elsewhere,
previously.
 
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Hi all. I'm Charlie. I have a thread that chronicles my recent foray into bisexuality. Actually need to update it, because I sucked off my new buddy the other night. Only the third time I've sucked, and just the second guy. And I'm currently talking with a Lit friend, who's currently only bi-curious. But a thought occurred to me when I was talking to him. That I'm still much more attracted to women. I just happen to have found that I love cock, especially making a guy cum in my mouth. Haven't ventured into anal yet, but I definitely want to experience everything.

Anyway, I was curious how all of you feel about your gender preferences, if you have any. I want to know if those of you who have always been bi are more likely to enjoy men and women and others equally. And for those like me who were straight their entire lives, do you still prefer the opposite sex, even though you now enjoy same sex relationships? Or do you guys now prefer other men over women?

Hoping everyone shares their experiences and preferences here.
I haven't had a mouth or face full of cum yet. It is my goal but I can cum with a good deep jab, lol
 
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