What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

[barefootgirl69]

yes really actually. I posed this "would you rather" to about five people. "would you rather, swimming across a croc infested river, or walking in on on your father having an affair"

and then I followed up with the punchline ...which in your case was as follows.

"then he will be very mad at you for not instantly going with this option https://i.ibb.co/xtgsbG2z/crocs.jpg

I hope you bring him a fruit basket by way of apology."

And yes you genuinely were the only person to be offended. You're public shaming exercise doesn't change that fact

So, did you know these people or did you just pop into their PM and pose this scenario?

 

[Chillygirl]

yes really actually. I posed this "would you rather" to about five people. "would you rather, swimming across a croc infested river, or walking in on on your father having an affair"

and then I followed up with the punchline ...which in your case was as follows.

"then he will be very mad at you for not instantly going with this option https://i.ibb.co/xtgsbG2z/crocs.jpg

I hope you bring him a fruit basket by way of apology."

And yes you genuinely were the only person to be offended. You're public shaming exercise doesn't change that fact

You don’t know her. She has every right to find it offensive and be angry.

 

[Chillygirl]

Tried it on me. I am open minded enough to let people know when something is a turnoff without getting offended or angry. And the punchline was fucking worth it. I think you’re taking yourself a little too seriously…

Just because you didn’t find it offensive doesn’t mean it wasn’t.

 

[barefootgirl69]

So, did you know these people or did you just pop into their PM and pose this scenario?

@Touch_you_there

There's no need to pop into my PMs and say everything except the answer to my question.

ETA: since he won't post it here, it was an unsolicited PM. Make of that what you will.

 

[stressedsubject]

there's just always something wrong with my car

 

[barefootgirl69]

there's just always something wrong with my car

Did you put gas in it?

I had a lawn mower fail to start and had a friend and her hubby come over to look at it. It had oil in it, because I had checked that. It just didn't have gas.

 

[stressedsubject]

Did you put gas in it?

I had a lawn mower fail to start and had a friend and her hubby come over to look at it. It had oil in it, because I had checked that. It just didn't have gas.

No it's a leaking water pump
I don't mind fixing my car I just don't like not being able to use it until I fix it

 

[barefootgirl69]

No it's a leaking water pump
I don't mind fixing my car I just don't like not being able to use it until I fix it

Are you able to do the work yourself or do you have to pay someone? I'm at that stage where I will pay someone! It's too hot and I don't have the tools (or the ex) anymore.

 

[stressedsubject]

I'll work on it and if need help or extra tools. I can go to a family member or my friend who is a car enthusiast

 

[Saltfountain]

Tried it on me. I am open minded enough to let people know when something is a turnoff without getting offended or angry. And the punchline was fucking worth it. I think you’re taking yourself a little too seriously…

I'm wondering how he selected his 5 girls. I understand how he came across @MidwestPrincess23 as she's a fairly prolific poster, especially in the 'hey y'all, all my clothes appear to have fallen off. Again' sections of the site

But you? This is your first post mystery lady who's not said so much as 'boo' in 3 months. And you've never even reacted to anyone else's posts.

So I'm thinking either...

a) you're lying. He didn't send that to you
b) you know him off the site
Or
c) you're the same person and you're a catfish

 

[Saltfountain]

yes really actually. I posed this "would you rather" to about five people. "would you rather, swimming across a croc infested river, or walking in on on your father having an affair"

and then I followed up with the punchline ...which in your case was as follows.

"then he will be very mad at you for not instantly going with this option https://i.ibb.co/xtgsbG2z/crocs.jpg

I hope you bring him a fruit basket by way of apology."

And yes you genuinely were the only person to be offended. You're public shaming exercise doesn't change that fact

And therein lies your problem.

You have no idea who you're telling to as you don't participate on the site, and you've been here for all of 5 seconds...

Some folks, like @Lizlips, she of the red flags being waved higher and prouder than a MAGA gathering, will welcome any attention.

Some don't want your shit pick up lines.

And for some, you may inadvertently stumble across something triggering for them. I don't know @MidwestPrincess23 well enough to know if this is the case, but I do know she's a lovely lady who I've never seen react like that before.

Do you use lines like this on strangers in real life too? I'd imagine you get a lot of slaps if you do.

I'd probably just apologise and spend time getting to know people before sliding them or hitting on them. But equally, I don't have a humiliation kink...

 

[Lizlips]

you’re right about one thing. This is the first time that I’ve posted, and I immediately regret it… I will stick to private conversations with the people who know that I am real. This was the first interaction that I had with him, I don’t know anyone on the site in real life, and I have dealt with my fair share of catfish here. I understand the skepticism.

 

[Saltfountain]

you’re right about one thing. This is the first time that I’ve posted, and I immediately regret it… I will stick to private conversations with the people who know that I am real. This was the first interaction that I had with him, I don’t know anyone on the site in real life, and I have dealt with my fair share of catfish here. I understand the skepticism.

That's a shame, but your choice. At least ladies are generally welcomed by blokes when they slide them.

Most women on here tend to get more unwanted attention than they care to deal with, so don't appreciate sliders.

And if my comment that disagreed with your view is enough to make you stop posting publicly, then I can only apologise for being offensive enough to disagree with you

 

[barefootgirl69]

you’re right about one thing. This is the first time that I’ve posted,

This is what makes me curious.

If it's your first post and his first post, how did you find one another? I've tried to ponder it logically, but I can't come up with any type of scenario.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

This is what makes me curious.

If it's your first post and his first post, how did you find one another? I've tried to ponder it logically, but I can't come up with any type of scenario.

Certainly raises an eyebrow

 

[AmberLGreen]

Do people in Lit relationships actually love each other? Is that a thing?

Yes, it is very much a thing. If you have a sexual and emotional connection with somebody who you are sharing your life with, talking every day about all aspects of your life from what you are having for breakfast to what your neighbours are up to, for a sustained period of time, how can you not be in love with them?

For me it was a three and a half year relationship. Time and life took its toll. We are still friends but don’t talk every day now. I still love him but not in love anymore. I care for him like I do anybody I have been friends with for a while. It has taken a while to get to the point where he isn’t the main focus point of my day but we are both happy and just keep living our lives.

In a later post, you say you will never allow yourself to get close to another Lit man again. Why? You can’t live your life in constant fear of being hurt. That is what will truly stop you from finding happiness in anything.

Know what you want. Be honest about what you want. Give yourself a set of rules (no more than 5) and stick to them. Sometimes, you put those people on the “forbidden” list for a reason and no matter how good that temptation is, you have to resist it.

 

[EvaLane]

Give yourself a set of rules (no more than 5)

no more than 5 guys, right? Right?!

 

[AmberLGreen]

no more than 5 guys, right? Right?!

That is the gangbang productivity ratio

 

[desire30]

Yes, yes, yes! I've been single for many years so there's this innate desire to feel that connection with someone. When the emotional and sexual connection are mutual and lovely, why not go there? You're right - it's the perfect little fantasy love that we're on the same wavelength here heheh

it is amazing when it happens

 

[Bigbobnc]

no more than 5 guys, right? Right?!

Of course the first thing I thought of is that there are five fingers on a hand and leaves the other hand free for mischief

 

[CuriousRick]

If the idiots notice their posts were removed.

 

[Saltfountain]

If the idiots notice their posts were removed.

Yes I did

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

What an odd fucking thing to do.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Yes, it is very much a thing. If you have a sexual and emotional connection with somebody who you are sharing your life with, talking every day about all aspects of your life from what you are having for breakfast to what your neighbours are up to, for a sustained period of time, how can you not be in love with them?

This is spot on for me.
I personally can't mess around with someone even without falling for them a little bit. The ones that turn into a big deal with sharing all parts of my life and myself? Yes absolutely there is real love there.
Of course it's not always reciprocated. People get distracted by the next shiny new thing here and move on and it hurts but I can't let that deter me or close me off from the potential of what someone else could share with me.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Do people in Lit relationships actually love each other? Is that a thing?

Over my two decades here, I have been in 3 relationships with guys from Lit. All were lengthy, not just flings. We spoke constantly and I met all three of them in person. To this day, I still love and adore 2 of them although we only speak occasionally and are no longer “in love.” I believe they feel the same. One turned out to be a Lit Lothario, and I definitely loved him and had one of my best and most fun meet-ups with this guy, but I regret it all and would not talk to him again.