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PrettyLilPussy19 said:
Itā€™s been a little while since Iā€™ve had a little PLP Blog Post and while I know this isnā€™t at all why anyone visits this thread, it is the 5% tariff I put on all the sexy, silly fun stuff. And look, it has the option of being a reciprocal tariff because Iā€™d love to read your thoughts in thematic essay form!

Iā€™ve been thinking a lot lately about the idea of ā€œthe straw that broke the camelā€™s backā€ or ā€œdeath by a thousand papercutsā€ or ā€œbleeding out from a thousand pin pricksā€ and how very true those idioms are specifically about our relationships with other people but how difficult it is to see from either side until itā€™s far too late - until the camel is paralyzed per se.

Youā€™re probably a pretty specific type of person if you are someone who chooses to endure small hurts over and over and find a way to forgive, stay, or dismiss the ouch. You probably choose to see the best in someone else, focus on a preferable past or the hope of a better future ā€“ but slowly, those little acts (whatever they are - they will be different in every scenario) add up and then itā€™s all you can think about. Each new papercut hurts more and for longer. But each one, independently, is so small that itā€™s not worth a conversation or a fight. You know that bringing up every occurrence will only make you seem like a bitter, vindictive person. How do you say ā€œIā€™m hurt and Iā€™ve been hurt for a long timeā€ without feeling like youā€™re blindsiding a person who is perfectly happy with the insufficient state of things. Itā€™s hard when you let it go on for so long. This is the exact reason why you shouldnā€™t fake orgasms, ladies!

If youā€™re the person causing the hurt and no one tells you that what youā€™re doing is causing them even a little pain - how are you supposed to know and adjust your behavior? Would you actually want to know every time you did something to cause someone else to get a ā€˜paper cutā€™? I imagine for a person who cared that would feel like an overwhelming amount of negativity and if you didnā€™t really care, the point is moot anyway, right? Iā€™d imagine grouping up a few instances at once would feel more productive (ā€œhey youā€™ve used this word a few times and it hurts meā€ ā€œyou keep forgetting things I tell you and it makes me feel like you donā€™t value meā€ ā€œI keep asking you not to do this and you keep doing itā€). But there is the type of person, and this is largely who Iā€™m referring to, who simply cannot take the criticism. It makes them spiral out with defensive anger or turn into a self-loathing mope ā€” which becomes part of the papercut injury > ignore/forgive > papercut > ignore > repeat until dead cycle.

Ultimately, when someone has had enough, itā€™s over the smallest, most inconsequential of things and it takes both parties by surprise. Both parties feel like the end came over nothing, when it was actually a cumulation of thousands of selfish, thoughtless things. I donā€™t know if this is relatable to anyone and I donā€™t know if there is any real actionable advice or thoughts here - but - I certainly dwell on the ever-passive, overlooking harm end of the spectrum and I know Iā€™ve been on the thoughtless hurts end of the spectrum. I guess acknowledging it and contemplating if you want change, if itā€™s possible and if the relationship (familial, romantic, or friendship) is one you want to keep investing in is worth the contemplation. Speak up more often, be open to constructive criticism, walk away when a relationship no longer serve you or makes you happy and ā€” never fake orgasms!

If you read this, thank you for paying your tariff, youā€™re pretty cool and you deserve an orgasm today!
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I am absolutely the type of person who can excuse or forgive or ignore a type of behaviour towards me until I'm completely done.
I've talked on Lit occasionally about a particularly awful past relationship and how often I'd internalise my hurt in the hope of change - either in his behaviour to what it used to be or my ability to cope with it.
But that's an extreme example I think.

I have friends whose behaviour towards me isn't great. One in particular is flaky and unavailable and rude for 90% of the time but then all of a sudden the nice side comes through and she apologises and I delude myself into thinking she means it this time because I missed her.

I have family members who I've never been able to try to talk to about how their actions hurt me because I know nothing would change and do I really actually want to risk losing them?

I pride myself on being a good friend. Available, understanding, empathetic. But am I being a good friend to myself by not holding people to account when they hurt me? I'd want to know if I was upsetting anyone. Shit I apologise constantly for things I haven't done! But would they?

My biggest insecurity is that people don't like me enough to change and the thought of driving them away completely is terrifying because I'm incredibly lonely but I think I'm being unfair to them and me. It doesn't make me a better person to suffer in silence - no matter what Sunday School or my parents taught me. "Compromise, don't argue". "Put others before you". Well who's gonna put me first if not me?
 
RosewoodTulip said:
But am I being a good friend to myself by not holding people to account when they hurt me? I
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Well who's gonna put me first if not me?
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I think these two thoughts sum it up more succinctly and beautifully than anything I said.

I've had to learn from an early age to find everything I need from within myself and when I depend or wait on others - I just let myself down.

Thanks for sharing Rosie šŸ’‹
 
derekthe2nd said:
Some people are too political. We all have positions or causes we are passionate about, and I'm not saying anyone is right or wrong. The news media is no longer something you can even halfway trust...both sides.

At the end of the day politics are still gonna be politics and society is going to be all the worse for it. Not trying to stir anybody's pot here, but no matter how passionate each side becomes... what will be, will be whether it's for the better or the worse.
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Cool. This isn't the thread for you then probably?
Politics affects people in real life or death ways - increasingly and with less respect to privilege. I'm respectful but have no time for anything remotely MAGA adjacent here or IRL. Thanks for dropping in. I hope you find a thread that better agrees with you. šŸ‘
 
derekthe2nd said:
I'm respectfully not looking to argue. You shared an opinion with the meme you posted, I was just sharing an opinion I have. I'm not MAGA and I'm really confused how you get that after reading what I posted. After re reading it I think I shit on both sides equally.
I will respectfully refrain from posting any further in this thread...about anything. I wish you a pleasant day. :kiss:
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If you think both sides are equally bad.... bud, I don't even know where to start.
 
PrettyLilPussy19 said:
Just... let... me...
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If you insistā€¦
PrettyLilPussy19 said:
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I love this! Mixed media is so fun.
PrettyLilPussy19 said:
If you read this, thank you for paying your tariff, youā€™re pretty cool and you deserve an orgasm today!
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As a chronic people pleaser, this definitely resonates. No essay response today. Just hugs šŸ«‚
PrettyLilPussy19 said:
If only I had a twin šŸ‘€
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If onlyā€¦ šŸ˜œ.

(Except my boobs are much bigger, proportionally, than my bum. Itā€™s cute but kinda small. Maybe not twins there. Iā€™d have to see yours to be sure šŸ¤­)
PrettyLilPussy19 said:
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Youā€™re so fucking beautiful.
 
morelikeasong said:
If you insistā€¦

I love this! Mixed media is so fun.

As a chronic people pleaser, this definitely resonates. No essay response today. Just hugs šŸ«‚

If onlyā€¦ šŸ˜œ.

(Except my boobs are much bigger, proportionally, than my bum. Itā€™s cute but kinda small. Maybe not twins there. Iā€™d have to see yours to be sure šŸ¤­)

Youā€™re so fucking beautiful.
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One of these days, little fairy.... šŸ˜
 
PrettyLilPussy19 said:
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I kind of need to go to Spain now I guess.
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Unfortunately, Casa Lleo Morera isn't open to the public. Which kinda broke my heart. But it's still gorgeous from the outside. These pics were taken in December 2023. The one view of the cupola is from the rooftop terrace of Casa Batllo. (Yes, I'm subjecting you to some of my vacation pics.)
 

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AngelicaS1780 said:
Unfortunately, Casa Lleo Morera isn't open to the public. Which kinda broke my heart. But it's still gorgeous from the outside. These pics were taken in December 2023. The one view of the cupola is from the rooftop terrace of Casa Batllo. (Yes, I'm subjecting you to some of my vacation pics.)
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Omg no subjecting at all! Thank you for sharing. That's stunning šŸ˜
 
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