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Happy HumpDay…it’s my day and I share with everyone! 🤣. Weather is here, but I’m on nursing duty. Going to call in reserves today so I can have a little break. She Who is Laid up in Recovery isn’t too happy bout that. We’ll see…it’s time for a granddaughter visit to cheer her up.

Everyone hunker down. Halfway through! Santa Fe Bataan memorial MZ…

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There was a large separation in ages between me and my siblings. They didn't see the polished father he was to me. They experienced the steel sharpening steel side of him while he was learning to be a dad. When he died, I never cried so much as when they were reliving and disparaging him after the funeral.

I felt sorry for what they went thru. I felt guilty for what I received from him. I felt hatred toward their betrayal. I felt their relief of his death. So, damn, I felt like a stranger towards them. I still do.
I feel both sides of this. Neither of my siblings are really talking to my dad these days. And he's disinherited both. I'm the oldest, the blackest of the sheep, and the one my dad learned how to be a parent on. So there are scars from the past that are part of who I am. There's also the knowledge that in many ways he did his best with the tools he had. And the knowledge that he's not going to change at this point. So...I can choose to cut off my past and go forward without him, or I can acknowledge that he is who he is and respect the journey he's on.
 
Happy HumpDay…it’s my day and I share with everyone! 🤣. Weather is here, but I’m on nursing duty. Going to call in reserves today so I can have a little break. She Who is Laid up in Recovery isn’t too happy bout that. We’ll see…it’s time for a granddaughter visit to cheer her up.

Everyone hunker down. Halfway through! Santa Fe Bataan memorial MZ…

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I was just watching "The Battle of Okinawa" yesterday.
 
Happy HumpDay…it’s my day and I share with everyone! 🤣. Weather is here, but I’m on nursing duty. Going to call in reserves today so I can have a little break. She Who is Laid up in Recovery isn’t too happy bout that. We’ll see…it’s time for a granddaughter visit to cheer her up.

Everyone hunker down. Halfway through! Santa Fe Bataan memorial MZ…
I've been curious about the "MZ" part of your posts. What does that stand for?
 
Another day, another catch-up! Today was a good day. We took a walk to a park near my brother's house then walked the park.

We also went to Costco. I love to see the regional differences.

My brother is lifeguarding tomorrow. We will probably go with him. It remains dry, hot, and windy here. There are red flag warnings. 🚩🔥😰

Have a wonderful Wednesday, everyone! 💖✨💝
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Tell me what phone you have.... I need to replace my android s9+
 
Your siblings learned a lesson as I did from my not so great mother, what not to do in life or as a parent. When they get past the anger, hopefully they will understand that.
I had to change my expectations of my parents and understand that they did the best they could..... and love them.for all the good things they did for me.... and forgive their short comings....

They taught me how to be independent and do the right thing. They taught me work ethic and that kindness is important but to be kind isnt always nice... they taught me to stand up.for myself and how to handle a bully..
The stuff they lacked was stuff they weren't taught so how can I expect them to teach me....

My dad is 85 my mom.is 86.... they aren't gonna be here forever......
 
I had one of my famous wall of texts describing my two siblings currently and how different they are now but decided to not waste the space.

Suffice it to say that one let my dad's death be a closure and one did not. Their level of success followed accordingly.

Man, do I have stories. Heh.
 
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Oooo, I found a box of hazelnut Folgers coffee pods in the walk-in pantry this morning. Opened but not even close to expired.

I'm guessing it went like this:

Sister - "I'll try hazelnut coffee because everyone says it's good even though it's different and I don't like change." **Sip** "Ugh! Gross! Why did I try that? And why did I buy such a large box of it?"

Proceeds to make Folgers coffee and adds hazelnut flavored creamer to it.

"Aaah! Much better. Why do they even sell that other stuff? Don't they know I don't like it that way?"

Seriously though, she is that self absorbed. I'm not exaggerating even a little bit. When I point it out that people are allowed to like different things than her, she kind of shuts down and goes quiet like she can't process it as fact.
 
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