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There was a large separation in ages between me and my siblings. They didn't see the polished father he was to me. They experienced the steel sharpening steel side of him while he was learning to be a dad. When he died, I never cried so much as when they were reliving and disparaging him after the funeral.

I felt sorry for what they went thru. I felt guilty for what I received from him. I felt hatred toward their betrayal. I felt their relief of his death. So, damn, I felt like a stranger towards them. I still do.

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Our parents, like us, made the best decisions that they could make given what they knew.

I am glad you saw a side of your dad that your siblings couldn’t or wouldn’t see.

Like lil said, he sounds like a pretty amazing man to me! Self made in many ways.
 
Thanks OM for the memes.

Grandpa taxi runs this warm morning. It’s going up to 70 F today. Then the storms come in and down go the temperature again. It’s March so it’s expected.

After taxing then brunch with my life partner, a massage and on the patio for dinner!

Enjoy your day as each is precious!
 
Another day, another catch-up! Today was a good day. We took a walk to a park near my brother's house then walked the park.

We also went to Costco. I love to see the regional differences.

My brother is lifeguarding tomorrow. We will probably go with him. It remains dry, hot, and windy here. There are red flag warnings. 🚩🔥😰

Have a wonderful Wednesday, everyone! 💖✨💝
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Nice moon, lil!! 😂
 
That is so sad. I have found as I get older I don’t see my parents as parents but as people and how wonderful they were in that respect. My mum, nearly 90, and fighting to keep going through everything still is just amazing, frustrating as hell but amazing nonetheless!
Think about what our parents did and had to go thru. Great Depression, the blitz, ww2, Korea, Vietnam wars.

The 1970s… 😂

Love em while ya got em. (Even when they are a pain…)
 
Happy HumpDay…it’s my day and I share with everyone! 🤣. Weather is here, but I’m on nursing duty. Going to call in reserves today so I can have a little break. She Who is Laid up in Recovery isn’t too happy bout that. We’ll see…it’s time for a granddaughter visit to cheer her up.

Everyone hunker down. Halfway through! Santa Fe Bataan memorial MZ…

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There was a large separation in ages between me and my siblings. They didn't see the polished father he was to me. They experienced the steel sharpening steel side of him while he was learning to be a dad. When he died, I never cried so much as when they were reliving and disparaging him after the funeral.

I felt sorry for what they went thru. I felt guilty for what I received from him. I felt hatred toward their betrayal. I felt their relief of his death. So, damn, I felt like a stranger towards them. I still do.
I feel both sides of this. Neither of my siblings are really talking to my dad these days. And he's disinherited both. I'm the oldest, the blackest of the sheep, and the one my dad learned how to be a parent on. So there are scars from the past that are part of who I am. There's also the knowledge that in many ways he did his best with the tools he had. And the knowledge that he's not going to change at this point. So...I can choose to cut off my past and go forward without him, or I can acknowledge that he is who he is and respect the journey he's on.
 
Happy HumpDay…it’s my day and I share with everyone! 🤣. Weather is here, but I’m on nursing duty. Going to call in reserves today so I can have a little break. She Who is Laid up in Recovery isn’t too happy bout that. We’ll see…it’s time for a granddaughter visit to cheer her up.

Everyone hunker down. Halfway through! Santa Fe Bataan memorial MZ…

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I was just watching "The Battle of Okinawa" yesterday.
 
Happy HumpDay…it’s my day and I share with everyone! 🤣. Weather is here, but I’m on nursing duty. Going to call in reserves today so I can have a little break. She Who is Laid up in Recovery isn’t too happy bout that. We’ll see…it’s time for a granddaughter visit to cheer her up.

Everyone hunker down. Halfway through! Santa Fe Bataan memorial MZ…
I've been curious about the "MZ" part of your posts. What does that stand for?
 
Another day, another catch-up! Today was a good day. We took a walk to a park near my brother's house then walked the park.

We also went to Costco. I love to see the regional differences.

My brother is lifeguarding tomorrow. We will probably go with him. It remains dry, hot, and windy here. There are red flag warnings. 🚩🔥😰

Have a wonderful Wednesday, everyone! 💖✨💝
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Tell me what phone you have.... I need to replace my android s9+
 
Your siblings learned a lesson as I did from my not so great mother, what not to do in life or as a parent. When they get past the anger, hopefully they will understand that.
I had to change my expectations of my parents and understand that they did the best they could..... and love them.for all the good things they did for me.... and forgive their short comings....

They taught me how to be independent and do the right thing. They taught me work ethic and that kindness is important but to be kind isnt always nice... they taught me to stand up.for myself and how to handle a bully..
The stuff they lacked was stuff they weren't taught so how can I expect them to teach me....

My dad is 85 my mom.is 86.... they aren't gonna be here forever......
 
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