Assignments

Today I received an assignment from my Sir, along with permission to do so. (The assignment contradicted one of his general rules, and so he gave me permission to do what I am normally not allowed to, in order to complete said assignment).

I am completely excited about it... I can't wait to carry it out for him, and I know that my write-up about it will satisfy him.

What kinds of assignments do your Dom/mes give you, subs?

And for the Dom/mes reading, what kind of assignments do you give?

A few examples are: I am not to play, ever, without his permission. It was not a rule from the beginning, but something he brought in as a way to tease me, and test me all at once.

I am also not to wear underwear, unless with pants. For hygeine's sake.

I am to write a journal of my day to him, so that he knows what his wench has been up to.



Tell me about your assignments.. and tell me whether you enjoy giving/receiving them, and what kinds of thoughts run through your mind as you perform them.

I only have one routine assignment. The rest I think of as rules.
The rules in general involve specifics about dress, personal grooming, how I address Him, and not being allowed to masturbate without permission.

My assignment:
On a daily basis, I write a letter to Master which sort of serves as a journal entry. In general, I enjoy this. I don't feel that my day is complete without sending Him my letter.

Some assignments are very basic, and for her own good, like drink more water(1 quart every 2 hours), and some are more specific...

Progression in Assignments

One interesting thing I have noticed is the subtle change in the kind of assignments Sir gives me. Towards the begninng of our relationship, the assignments were mostly sex-related- things like doing kegels and holding in Ben Wa balls a certain amount of time each day to strength my muscles, doing self-nipple play, etc.

Then we kind of progressed to stuff more designed to help me in my day-to-day life, things like getting the oil changed in my car by a certain date, having my long-put off dental check up, etc. Stuff I should do but normally procrastinate about.

Now, recently, he's started giving me assignments like "challenge your kids to say please and thank you as often as possible this week." Once again, designed to help me. To me, this kind of assignment is a sign of real caring; while I liked and benefitted from all the previous assignments, this type really makes me feel loved.

It's kind of funny, because in a vanilla relationship I would probably feel like the sex-related stuff was the most intimate; but with Sir, we started with that and it's when he now gets into the details of my so-called "private" daily life that I truly appreciate his well thought-out assignments.

- justina

The assignments I give my submissive have a meaning, always and there is a natural progression. Initialy, they often involved reading, writing, thinking about certain topics. In this manner, I was able to get into her head, so to speak. I could learn from her insights and thoughts and have a better idea what and how to proceed with her.

Now, in a short time btw, some assignments are simply to ensure she is thinking of me and sometimes, her assignments just make me feel good as we are not together and I miss her.

Most recently, on a whim, I told her to wear a special toy to work. She has a friend at work who knows about her lifestyle choices and me, and she was instructed to tell this vanilla friend what her assignment was

Also, I have sent her photos of positions and reviewed certain protocols with her. She is expected to practice these and does.

So, while some assignments seem assinine, in some respect, there is always a reason.

Justina? I want to interject that it is my feeling that a Dominant cares not only about our sexual selves but our non sexual selves as well. So, his giving you tasks and assignments to assist you to make your non sexual existance a bit better or easier is clearly an indicator of the depth of his care and concern for you.

A Dominant wants us to be the best submissive, woman, employee, mother etc.

I have a few assignments, most generated towards non-kink things that benefit my health. I appreciate her care in these matters very much, as I tend to slack on them otherwise and it is only harmful to me.

Occasionally I'll get writing assignments or random assignments of self-play or whatnot...and while few and far between, these assignments make me feel very close to her and especially for writing assignments, makes it more special. I often have essay ideas that I never get around to, and her prompting would make it easier for me to do them and do them well, knowing I was doing them for her. I love doing things simply to please her, even if they are not things I particularily want to do. It's a great feeling.

A good point, serijules.

I think that any task that is expected to have meaning, should not be something done every day or in too much of a routine.

For example, self play?
If one is expected to do so twice per week...it can become mundane and lose that specialness. Spontanaeity is a good thing.

serijules said:

I have a few assignments, most generated towards non-kink things that benefit my health. I appreciate her care in these matters very much, as I tend to slack on them otherwise and it is only harmful to me.

Occasionally I'll get writing assignments or random assignments of self-play or whatnot...and while few and far between, these assignments make me feel very close to her and especially for writing assignments, makes it more special. I often have essay ideas that I never get around to, and her prompting would make it easier for me to do them and do them well, knowing I was doing them for her. I love doing things simply to please her, even if they are not things I particularily want to do. It's a great feeling.

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This made me smile.


LadyHeart

Re: Progression in Assignments

Justina123 said:

One interesting thing I have noticed is the subtle change in the kind of assignments Sir gives me. Towards the begninng of our relationship, the assignments were mostly sex-related- things like doing kegels and holding in Ben Wa balls a certain amount of time each day to strength my muscles, doing self-nipple play, etc.

Then we kind of progressed to stuff more designed to help me in my day-to-day life, things like getting the oil changed in my car by a certain date, having my long-put off dental check up, etc. Stuff I should do but normally procrastinate about.

Now, recently, he's started giving me assignments like "challenge your kids to say please and thank you as often as possible this week." Once again, designed to help me. To me, this kind of assignment is a sign of real caring; while I liked and benefitted from all the previous assignments, this type really makes me feel loved.

It's kind of funny, because in a vanilla relationship I would probably feel like the sex-related stuff was the most intimate; but with Sir, we started with that and it's when he now gets into the details of my so-called "private" daily life that I truly appreciate his well thought-out assignments.

- justina

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I agree with you justina. I also felt that when I was first with Sir, though at the beginning, a lot of things I was told to do was sex-related - like I've always been given the rule of not being allowed to play with myself without his permission. But nowadays, I guess as our relationship progressed, no doubt things are still sexual, but then nowadays we also include a lot of non-sexual "assignments" that he tells me to do. And most of it, when i think about it is really for my own good. Does make you feel closer and appreciate the care he shows.

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