What stops you from "cheating" on your s.o. ?

[Jonjonjohnson]

Because it’s the wrong thing to do. That being said I have been having great sex with my neighbours wife, so I guess that makes me 2 faced. I have no issue in someone else cheating with me, I just won’t cheat in my own marriage. That being said my marriage ended due to my wife cheating.

 

[xxyyxx]

The fear of death

Hahaha Winner.

 

[RipleNStllWtr]

I Love her to damn much.

 

[MNGuy]

It wouldn't be morally right by my own personal moral code.

Plus I'm too damn lazy.

 

[Seadog777]

I'll just say.....it's not cheating if you have permission to have a FWB, which I do.
Anytime, Anyplace, Anybody.
Reasons aren't exactly a state secret either, LOL.

 

[Fermina_Daza]

I’m poly so no need to cheat.

 

[GoingBackToBed]

Single now. But when i have a girlfriend the answer is really quite simple - mutual love and trust.

 

[PMarky]

Loyalty - mainly, even on the bad days when I think, "why the hell did I marry her?" We had a great relationship for the first ten years we were married; a good one for the next eight; and then her health physical, and to some degree mental, went to pot. Sex is largely off the menu, so I tend to be horny and stressed a lot of the time, but I cannot convert that into an excuse to cheat. The odd thing is there is a woman I respect, admire, and have a close connection with, who I would ask to marry me if my wife was out of the picture, but I won't leave my wife for her because (a) that's no way to end a marriage, and (b) it is no way to start one.

 

[Dudeqwe]

My wife had an affair, but I can’t. My kids mean too much to me.

 

[Goldenfinger]

Love and trust.

 

[skyaura]

I'm divorced because my wife fell in love with another man. She told me she never slept with him but she didn't understand the emotional betrayal was worse than any physical betrayal.

I didn't cheat on her because when I about to get married a friend said "That's such a huge commitment to make to another person". I explained, I was making the commitment to myself. I would stick by this person, for richer or poorer, for better or worse, through the good and the bad. It would have been cheating on myself first and foremost, and then her. People don't seem to get that.

Yes. I put a lot of value in being able to trust the person who is looking back at me in the mirror.

 

[MarionsLover]

Even though the sex has gotten bad and I'm a horny old goat who'd love to fuck freely. I can't. It would hurt her too damn much and there's more to love than sex.
Thank God for porn and boxes of tissues. She understands that, but going to another woman's bed would be too much.

 

[mark_j]

In a word?

Respect.

Despite the fact that we had been in the Lifestyle for several years once that hall pass was cancelled, that was it. The rules and boundaries were very rigid. Once the decision was made to end that phase of the relationship it was over. We never looked back nor 'bent' the rules afterwards.

 

[RachelWalsh]

Just pure crippling guilt

I appreciate the support y'all. I am glad others relate and maybe it isn't just the guilt after all.

 

[myvoice420699]

My wife cheated on me years ago. Fortunately we got past it and moved on together. But I was crushed. I know if I was to cheated she’d be hurt ten times worse than I was. I couldn’t do that to her.

i experienced a similar situation. She cheated and di si for years but when I found out i stayed with her as she stated it was over but i will never know.

 

[Tigersman]

I was brought up to respect the marriage vows. If you want sex outside of your marriage then get a divorce.

 

[oneblueye]

Because it’s the wrong thing to do. That being said I have been having great sex with my neighbours wife, so I guess that makes me 2 faced. I have no issue in someone else cheating with me, I just won’t cheat in my own marriage. That being said my marriage ended due to my wife cheating.

"I have no issue in someone cheating with me, I just won't cheat in my own marriage."
That statement makes you not only twofaced but a liar as well; because whether you initiate or not so long as you are a participant you are as guilty and as culpable as the other person.

 

[Bbl87]

Lots of reasons.

Love, being the primary one. Also we have kids, so what it would do to them. I also take my marriage vows seriously, so there's that too.

That said, I've been unhappy with the frequency of intimacy for awhile and it's been a sticking point in our relationship. We're trying to work through it as well as improving some other aspects, it definitely takes work.

Cheating is something I've fantasized about (and write about) but isn't something I'd ever actually do.

 

[rockcasbah]

I always laugh at threads like this, because although something like 2/3 of Americans cheat on their spouses, nobody here on this erotic literature site ever has or ever would.

Its like driver surveys…. 85% of car drivers rate themselves as above average.

Eating off the menu has 2 simple rules:

1. Be considerate/classy enough not to get caught;

2. Only cheat with someone more attractive than your spouse.

That way, if it does come out, everyone will understand why.

 

[Jonjonjohnson]

I never s

"I have no issue in someone cheating with me, I just won't cheat in my own marriage."
That statement makes you not only twofaced but a liar as well; because whether you initiate or not so long as you are a participant you are as guilty and as culpable as the other person.

"I have no issue in someone cheating with me, I just won't cheat in my own marriage."
That statement makes you not only twofaced but a liar as well; because whether you initiate or not so long as you are a participant you are as guilty and as culpable as the other person.

 

[Strixaluco]

Respect. Decency.

I won't mess up the relationship with my S.O. like that. Even if I wasn't caught, it would mess MY head and thus probably how I act, and so forth.

Sex is better when there are emotions at play, anyway, random sex is seldom worth the hassle.

If I am not happy in my relationship, I either try to fix it, or then end it first before moving on.

 

[JoeBeans2751]

The FUCKING you get is NOT WORTH the fucking you got!@

 

[TomFoolery8]

The thought of her leaving me and someone else fucking her gorgeous body.

 

[albertaboy]

My wife has had a rough few years physically, breast cancer, some thyroid issues and near constant joint pain from a post cancer med she takes. Our sex life has pretty much disappeared, but I still love her.

I am a grown man, cheating on her would just be wrong.

 

[twister947]

It's just too much damn work.