Straight guys who like gay sex

[markchamberlain]

(this is my first post on LGBTQIA+ forum)

There is such a thing as heterosexual people who can enjoy homosexual activity. I've been strongly heterosexual my entire life, but I have also shared BJ, HJ, and even anal intercourse with other guys, and enjoyed it (sometimes). I say "strongly" heterosexual because ever since I was a child, from before I even knew what sex was, girls made me feel a certain way. When I was young, I got nervous and tongue tied. They seemed like a magically fascinating, magnetically attractive, other species. Boys seemed unremarkable, like simply the same species. As I got older, I felt soul-wrenching emotional pull towards women, in addition to raging physical desire. Holding a woman in my arms can feel like "being whole." I never have, and never could, feel anything remotely like that towards a male.

But some years ago I started j/o to porn with a friend. At first we just got naked, watched (straight) porn, and masturbated. But eventually we started sharing BJs. It was easy to immediately enjoy the feeling of slowly kissing and licking a hard cock. It took a bit longer to get accustomed to cum, but eventually I loved that too. I can definitely get turned on by feeling cum shooting into my mouth, or all over my face, or splashing on my body. Also, I have many times experienced frotting, with him and others. That is my favorite MM activity. It's so sexy masturbating with another guy, with a bit of massage oil and our cocks rubbing together. It's an absolutely amazing feeling, just breathtaking. It makes me hard as a rock feeling another warm, erect, oiled cock slipping and sliding against mine. And it is so delicious cumming that way, and seeing and feeling another cock throbbing and squirting all over mine and his. I've also penetrated another guy a handful of times, and had OK-to-excellent orgasms that way. I've also felt a guy cum inside me, but didn't get much sexual feeling from that. But sex with another man, no matter how great, feels like masturbation. It doesn't feel like making love, and never could for me.

I hesitate to call that "bisexual" because "bi" implies some kind of equivalence. To me, they are not remotely similar. One is an emotional, spiritual attraction, with many dimensions. The other is like an enjoyable sex toy, with one dimension. I love it and sometimes crave it, but it's still one-dimensional. I don't know the proper word for this orientation, or if there even is one.

There are some who deny that this is even a thing. But it is. And I'm not sure how to respond when I try to explain my sexuality, and somebody who isn't me, and doesn't have my orientation, tells me I am incorrect. What does that even mean? I'm telling them firsthand my experience, and they're telling me my experience doesn't exist? It defies logic, I just give up.

 

[easyoff]

(this is my first post on LGBTQIA+ forum)

There is such a thing as heterosexual people who can enjoy homosexual activity. I've been strongly heterosexual my entire life, but I have also shared BJ, HJ, and even anal intercourse with other guys, and enjoyed it (sometimes). I say "strongly" heterosexual because ever since I was a child, from before I even knew what sex was, girls made me feel a certain way. When I was young, I got nervous and tongue tied. They seemed like a magically fascinating, magnetically attractive, other species. Boys seemed unremarkable, like simply the same species. As I got older, I felt soul-wrenching emotional pull towards women, in addition to raging physical desire. Holding a woman in my arms can feel like "being whole." I never have, and never could, feel anything remotely like that towards a male.

But some years ago I started j/o to porn with a friend. At first we just got naked, watched (straight) porn, and masturbated. But eventually we started sharing BJs. It was easy to immediately enjoy the feeling of slowly kissing and licking a hard cock. It took a bit longer to get accustomed to cum, but eventually I loved that too. I can definitely get turned on by feeling cum shooting into my mouth, or all over my face, or splashing on my body. Also, I have many times experienced frotting, with him and others. That is my favorite MM activity. It's so sexy masturbating with another guy, with a bit of massage oil and our cocks rubbing together. It's an absolutely amazing feeling, just breathtaking. It makes me hard as a rock feeling another warm, erect, oiled cock slipping and sliding against mine. And it is so delicious cumming that way, and seeing and feeling another cock throbbing and squirting all over mine and his. I've also penetrated another guy a handful of times, and had OK-to-excellent orgasms that way. I've also felt a guy cum inside me, but didn't get much sexual feeling from that. But sex with another man, no matter how great, feels like masturbation. It doesn't feel like making love, and never could for me.

I hesitate to call that "bisexual" because "bi" implies some kind of equivalence. To me, they are not remotely similar. One is an emotional, spiritual attraction, with many dimensions. The other is like an enjoyable sex toy, with one dimension. I love it and sometimes crave it, but it's still one-dimensional. I don't know the proper word for this orientation, or if there even is one.

There are some who deny that this is even a thing. But it is. And I'm not sure how to respond when I try to explain my sexuality, and somebody who isn't me, and doesn't have my orientation, tells me I am incorrect. What does that even mean? I'm telling them firsthand my experience, and they're telling me my experience doesn't exist? It defies logic, I just give up.

Is this like "It's only gay if you are on the bottom"? What if I ride it on top, does that make it not gay?

 

[Dreamer110]

I'm just confused. Lol

 

[markchamberlain]

Is this like "It's only gay if you are on the bottom"? What if I ride it on top, does that make it not gay?

I don't know what this is or isn't like. It is whatever it is. I don't know of a one-word label that describes my sexuality, and I wonder if attempting to summarize sexual orientation with a one-word label is even helpful in the first place. It seems a bit pointless.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

I'm more than a little confused. How can one be straight and like gay sex, that makes you bi at a minimum. I've been a sissy all by life, and I'm married to a wonderful woman, but being married to a woman doesn't make me straight.

 

[Escierto]

I'm more than a little confused. How can one be straight and like gay sex, that makes you bi at a minimum. I've been a sissy all by life, and I'm married to a wonderful woman, but being married to a woman doesn't make me straight.

Yes, indeed. I am a bottom for my trans girlfriend but I have given up holding onto the "Straight" label. If you are sucking cock and getting fucked you are not straight.

 

[Wag_that_tail86]

I don't know what this is or isn't like. It is whatever it is. I don't know of a one-word label that describes my sexuality, and I wonder if attempting to summarize sexual orientation with a one-word label is even helpful in the first place. It seems a bit pointless.

There probably isn't a precise word that describes many of us. Labels aren't helpful, humans are complex and I believe there are degrees of sexuality in people.

 

[Britva415]

There are some who deny that this is even a thing. But it is. And I'm not sure how to respond when I try to explain my sexuality, and somebody who isn't me, and doesn't have my orientation, tells me I am incorrect. What does that even mean? I'm telling them firsthand my experience, and they're telling me my experience doesn't exist? It defies logic, I just give up.

My experience is mostly like yours but I identify as bisexual.

I think if you wanted to be out and clear without anyone having any way to tell you your story is wrong, might be to just identify as "MSM" and not get into the label debate when they ask you "well, what kind?"

"MSM" is accurate and precise, and nobody can tell you it's wrong even if they want to make you either name or accept a more familiar identity.

(You probably know, but it's short for "men who have sex with men," and it developed in the medical/mental health profession in order to give clinicians ways to discuss this stuff without labeling their patients with labels they don't identify with. MSM is just a statement of fact without any further exploration into identities and labels.)

 

[curiousitieskill]

(this is my first post on LGBTQIA+ forum)

There is such a thing as heterosexual people who can enjoy homosexual activity. I've been strongly heterosexual my entire life, but I have also shared BJ, HJ, and even anal intercourse with other guys, and enjoyed it (sometimes). I say "strongly" heterosexual because ever since I was a child, from before I even knew what sex was, girls made me feel a certain way. When I was young, I got nervous and tongue tied. They seemed like a magically fascinating, magnetically attractive, other species. Boys seemed unremarkable, like simply the same species. As I got older, I felt soul-wrenching emotional pull towards women, in addition to raging physical desire. Holding a woman in my arms can feel like "being whole." I never have, and never could, feel anything remotely like that towards a male.

But some years ago I started j/o to porn with a friend. At first we just got naked, watched (straight) porn, and masturbated. But eventually we started sharing BJs. It was easy to immediately enjoy the feeling of slowly kissing and licking a hard cock. It took a bit longer to get accustomed to cum, but eventually I loved that too. I can definitely get turned on by feeling cum shooting into my mouth, or all over my face, or splashing on my body. Also, I have many times experienced frotting, with him and others. That is my favorite MM activity. It's so sexy masturbating with another guy, with a bit of massage oil and our cocks rubbing together. It's an absolutely amazing feeling, just breathtaking. It makes me hard as a rock feeling another warm, erect, oiled cock slipping and sliding against mine. And it is so delicious cumming that way, and seeing and feeling another cock throbbing and squirting all over mine and his. I've also penetrated another guy a handful of times, and had OK-to-excellent orgasms that way. I've also felt a guy cum inside me, but didn't get much sexual feeling from that. But sex with another man, no matter how great, feels like masturbation. It doesn't feel like making love, and never could for me.

I hesitate to call that "bisexual" because "bi" implies some kind of equivalence. To me, they are not remotely similar. One is an emotional, spiritual attraction, with many dimensions. The other is like an enjoyable sex toy, with one dimension. I love it and sometimes crave it, but it's still one-dimensional. I don't know the proper word for this orientation, or if there even is one.

There are some who deny that this is even a thing. But it is. And I'm not sure how to respond when I try to explain my sexuality, and somebody who isn't me, and doesn't have my orientation, tells me I am incorrect. What does that even mean? I'm telling them firsthand my experience, and they're telling me my experience doesn't exist? It defies logic, I just give up.

you're a dreamboat.

 

[LanaBehave]

I understand. Great first splash into the forums, by the way. I find myself agreeing with you. And agreeing with those who disagree with you. Hmm?

I have the same kinds of thoughts. I'm fundamentally straight, but crave...more. Straight doesn't mean "not kinky", right?

Also, I agree that labels fall short, in so many ways.

At the same time, labels are so handy for starting a conversation. For establishing an initial category, for pointing your mind in an interesting direction.

Labels have so much wrong with them, yet are so convenient for discussion.

Label me.

 

[Nekidinaz]

There probably isn't a precise word that describes many of us. Labels aren't helpful, humans are complex and I believe there are degrees of sexuality in people.

I believe you're right, on the "...degrees of sexuality..." issue ...
I love females, in fact I'm married to a female for a long time now and only feel attractions to females and have never experienced an attraction to another male.
I do however enjoy varying degrees of sexuality, some of which cannot be provided by a female...hence my desire for a different sexual experience leads me to selectively choose a handsome penis to either masturbate or put into my mouth or my ass and just for the pure sexual enjoyment and gratification I get from my own sexual pleasure...nothing more than a friend with benefits...
DM me here and let me know your thoughts

 

[EasyGuy1025]

(this is my first post on LGBTQIA+ forum)

There is such a thing as heterosexual people who can enjoy homosexual activity. I've been strongly heterosexual my entire life, but I have also shared BJ, HJ, and even anal intercourse with other guys, and enjoyed it (sometimes). I say "strongly" heterosexual because ever since I was a child, from before I even knew what sex was, girls made me feel a certain way. When I was young, I got nervous and tongue tied. They seemed like a magically fascinating, magnetically attractive, other species. Boys seemed unremarkable, like simply the same species. As I got older, I felt soul-wrenching emotional pull towards women, in addition to raging physical desire. Holding a woman in my arms can feel like "being whole." I never have, and never could, feel anything remotely like that towards a male.

But some years ago I started j/o to porn with a friend. At first we just got naked, watched (straight) porn, and masturbated. But eventually we started sharing BJs. It was easy to immediately enjoy the feeling of slowly kissing and licking a hard cock. It took a bit longer to get accustomed to cum, but eventually I loved that too. I can definitely get turned on by feeling cum shooting into my mouth, or all over my face, or splashing on my body. Also, I have many times experienced frotting, with him and others. That is my favorite MM activity. It's so sexy masturbating with another guy, with a bit of massage oil and our cocks rubbing together. It's an absolutely amazing feeling, just breathtaking. It makes me hard as a rock feeling another warm, erect, oiled cock slipping and sliding against mine. And it is so delicious cumming that way, and seeing and feeling another cock throbbing and squirting all over mine and his. I've also penetrated another guy a handful of times, and had OK-to-excellent orgasms that way. I've also felt a guy cum inside me, but didn't get much sexual feeling from that. But sex with another man, no matter how great, feels like masturbation. It doesn't feel like making love, and never could for me.

I hesitate to call that "bisexual" because "bi" implies some kind of equivalence. To me, they are not remotely similar. One is an emotional, spiritual attraction, with many dimensions. The other is like an enjoyable sex toy, with one dimension. I love it and sometimes crave it, but it's still one-dimensional. I don't know the proper word for this orientation, or if there even is one.

There are some who deny that this is even a thing. But it is. And I'm not sure how to respond when I try to explain my sexuality, and somebody who isn't me, and doesn't have my orientation, tells me I am incorrect. What does that even mean? I'm telling them firsthand my experience, and they're telling me my experience doesn't exist? It defies logic, I just give up.

Living around Vero beach Florida, I’ve only been into pussy. But I’ve e really wanted to suck a cock. The fantasy has come over me over the last few years, but I haven’t had the opportunity. I’d just like a forceful guy to put me on my knees and tell me that I’m gonna suck his dick. And I do it. Let him cum wherever he wants. I just really want to do it.

 

[bouncer225]

Eh, it's a continuum, and labels are too limiting in my opinion. I'm definitely heteroromantic, but have thoroughly enjoyed every encounter I've had with men sucking my cock, and open to the idea of topping with the right one.

 

[CambridgeBi]

Dictionary definition of bisexual ( emphasis mine )
Bisexual: romantically or sexually attracted to people of your own gender and people of a different gender.

The fact your interest in men is purely erotic and not emotional doesn't mean you're not bi

 

[Wageslave]

Dictionary definition of bisexual ( emphasis mine )
Bisexual: romantically or sexually attracted to people of your own gender and people of a different gender.

The fact your interest in men is purely erotic and not emotional doesn't mean you're not bi

Makes sense to me

 

[MagicFlute]

I have often wondered similar things. I am not sexually attracted to cocks. I don't particularly enjoy sucking them. I don't particularly like giving hand jobs. I definitely don't like receiving anal!
However, I do enjoy being sucked by a guy as much as I do from a girl. Same as I'm happy to fuck a guys ass as much as I am happy fucking a girls ass. My preference is eating and fucking pussy. I am 100% attracted to pussy.

But am I bi? Or another label?

 

[CambridgeBi]

But am I bi?

Yes, you like fucking females and males too so you're bi.
It's really not complicated.

 

[saintcero]

We are all in the curve somewhere. Some are exclusively hetero and some are exclusively homosexual. Many of us can enjoy both when the situation is right.

 

[Twincam1550]

Is this like "It's only gay if you are on the bottom"? What if I ride it on top, does that make it not gay?

It makes you lucky. LOL

 

[nostuff]

I hesitate to call that "bisexual" because "bi" implies some kind of equivalence. To me, they are not remotely similar. One is an emotional, spiritual attraction, with many dimensions. The other is like an enjoyable sex toy, with one dimension. I love it and sometimes crave it, but it's still one-dimensional. I don't know the proper word for this orientation, or if there even is one.

I've never understood the aversion to labels. For most my life, I said I was straight, and now, I consider myself bi. And I'm comfortable doing so, because it helps me better understand who I am.

Having said that, labels should never become a trap. It's for you to define yourself. And if others say you're wrong, ignore them.

 

[SmoothAndSweet]

Very interesting thread. I am very interested in your thoughts about this. I've had my share of straight guys going down on me in college but I did go down on them first. And most believed I was really a girl and very shy. I still wonder what happened to a few of them.

 

[Sunnyade]

I have one "straight" friend who I meet regularly for mutual cocksucking. It's best just to ignore the labels and enjoy the fun.

 

[saintcero]

I have one "straight" friend who I meet regularly for mutual cocksucking. It's best just to ignore the labels and enjoy the fun.

Lucky you. I have a vanilla wife and I get zero kink from her. We still fuck twice a week but only missionary and nothing else.

I want more but I don’t want to hurt her. I feel incomplete by not experiencing more of my bi side.

Too bad for me right as I realize that I have it better than many.

Thanks for letting me vent

 

[Nekidinaz]

I have one "straight" friend who I meet regularly for mutual cocksucking. It's best just to ignore the labels and enjoy the fun.

I totally agree...If you need the label to understand who you are, that's great. There are, however, a goodly number of us who simply enjoy "alternate" forms of sexual pleasure and, speaking for myself only, I simply label it "fun" ...dm me and let me know what you think...

 

[Ciceri]

I befriended a gay man after my divorce (from a woman) and decided to let myself go sexually. In the privacy of his home where there was trust and respect.. I was his wife for two years. But I never felt an attraction to him or any other man. I just liked the sexual attention - and his control over me