I’m a mature confused straight woman

[Talemaker67]

I'm 64 years old, married for 42 years and I need some answers. I am a very conservative, modest, and pretty private woman. I'm a little overweight, probably by about 20 pounds or so. I really enjoy sex and I have only been with one man my entire life, my husband. We were high school sweethearts. We have great sex even after all this time. We always laugh and ask each other how it can still be this good after all this time, but it is! My husband and I love to masturbate for each other, I love to suck him, and he loves to eat me. We really do make each other happy. I have 2 vibrators; 2 different sized dildo's and we use them all. I still fuck my husband in at least 6 or 8 different positions, but when he's eating me, or fingering me, my mind pretends it's another woman. Is that wrong?

My question is this, why is it when we watch porn, (we usually watch either threesomes, Masturbation compilations, or lesbian videos) do I find myself watching the women more than the men. I always picture myself in a threesome, but with another woman, not another man. Also, when we watch masturbation videos, I love to see the women playing with themselves more than the men, but my favorite is a hot lesbian video. I never admitted this to my husband, but I can't take my eyes off the screen when it's a woman, or a woman on a woman. Like I said in the beginning, I'm a very conservative and pretty modest woman.

Am I alone in this or are there more women who hide this feeling? My ideal situation would be to be in bed with my husband and another woman, and have him tell us what to do, because I know it would involve a lot of pussy eating and playing with each other's pussy's. I would also love to watch my husband fuck another woman from behind while she was eating me out. I would get the benefit of having my pussy eaten while watching him put his cock in another woman. The other thing I love is a woman with small perky tits, I would love to feel her up and suck on her little nipples.

Another thing I would love, would be to be present in a room while two women were having sex. I would just sit in a very comfortable chair, turn on my vibrator and play while watching them go at it.

I would also love to be the one calling the shots, have them do whatever I wanted to see. I think I would start off by having them sit side by side and masturbate for me. When I was satisfied, I would have them give each other a sensual massage, but only the front. At that point I probably would have had about ten orgasms, but I still wouldn't be satisfied and would need to see them go down on each other. I would be the one to decide who was better. I just love a womans body, including my own, that why I masturbate a lot.

I'm afraid that if I ever brought this up to my husband, he might feel like he's not getting the job done, but believe me, he does. I know he would love to watch me with another woman, but if I ever did give in to these feelings, I think I would have to be alone with her. I would need to completely explore my feelings, before I could have him with me. I'm not sure if it would be another woman similar in age and size to me who has the same conservative feelings that I do, or one of those wild young hotties who would be open to teaching me.

I'm totally conflicted about my feelings. it's not something I would ever be able to discuss with anyone that I know, but I do feel the need to talk about it. I have never had the chance to be with another woman, but if I ever did, I'm not sure what I would do. I would like to hear any thoughts from women who feel like me, assuming there are any out there. Also, if any have actually acted on their feelings at an older age. Please no men, this is an issue for another older woman. feel free to email me or leave a comment... This is a true story or maybe just a hopeful thought, but either way, I'm a confused Straight older woman.

 

[Buffy47]

Sounds like you sensibly realise that porn and real Life (marriage/love) are separate. Just because you enjoy a certain porn it doesn't mean when you home you want to actually do the same.

Plenty of people in Lit express exaggerated levels of porn likes and many have a over the top expectation of how good they are and truth is at home with a partner they are timid and quiet and just normal.

Enjoy porn and imagination for what it is a place to escape realism and just have fun.

 

[Talemaker67]

Sounds like you sensibly realise that porn and real Life (marriage/love) are separate. Just because you enjoy a certain porn it doesn't mean when you home you want to actually do the same.

Plenty of people in Lit express exaggerated levels of porn likes and many have a over the top expectation of how good they are and truth is at home with a partner they are timid and quiet and just normal.

Enjoy porn and imagination for what it is a place to escape realism and just have fun.

Yes I do know the difference, but my feelings are starting to bubble to the surface and being with another woman is all I think about…it won’t matter to me if it was including my husband, I would just like to try it, just not sure I would be able to, or if my conservative nature would stop me…still confused!

 

[Buffy47]

Yes I do know the difference, but my feelings are starting to bubble to the surface and being with another woman is all I think about…it won’t matter to me if it was including my husband, I would just like to try it, just not sure I would be able to, or if my conservative nature would stop me…still confused!

If it becomes so bad it's all you can think about then you may either need to change the porn you watch and give your self a break from the idea (if affecting relationship with mind distracted) or seriously think about just trying it. I'm sure most guys want their wives to say they would like to try Lesbian for a night

 

[NancyPan]

Wow! Sounds like you and your husband are great friends and wonderful lovers and he experiences both your love for him and that he is very able to get you off and that you enjoy sex with him. If I wa him, I would want to know your fantasies, and in fact they would arouse me, not scare me. You can have bisexual fantasies or desires and still be his lover. Tell him. I predict it brings you closer.

 

[OlderFitterWiser]

Hint strongly to him while watching a lesbian video.
Most men would jump at the opportunity.

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

I'm 64 years old, married for 42 years and I need some answers. I am a very conservative, modest, and pretty private woman. I'm a little overweight, probably by about 20 pounds or so. I really enjoy sex and I have only been with one man my entire life, my husband. We were high school sweethearts. We have great sex even after all this time. We always laugh and ask each other how it can still be this good after all this time, but it is! My husband and I love to masturbate for each other, I love to suck him, and he loves to eat me. We really do make each other happy. I have 2 vibrators; 2 different sized dildo's and we use them all. I still fuck my husband in at least 6 or 8 different positions, but when he's eating me, or fingering me, my mind pretends it's another woman. Is that wrong?

My question is this, why is it when we watch porn, (we usually watch either threesomes, Masturbation compilations, or lesbian videos) do I find myself watching the women more than the men. I always picture myself in a threesome, but with another woman, not another man. Also, when we watch masturbation videos, I love to see the women playing with themselves more than the men, but my favorite is a hot lesbian video. I never admitted this to my husband, but I can't take my eyes off the screen when it's a woman, or a woman on a woman. Like I said in the beginning, I'm a very conservative and pretty modest woman.

Am I alone in this or are there more women who hide this feeling? My ideal situation would be to be in bed with my husband and another woman, and have him tell us what to do, because I know it would involve a lot of pussy eating and playing with each other's pussy's. I would also love to watch my husband fuck another woman from behind while she was eating me out. I would get the benefit of having my pussy eaten while watching him put his cock in another woman. The other thing I love is a woman with small perky tits, I would love to feel her up and suck on her little nipples.

Another thing I would love, would be to be present in a room while two women were having sex. I would just sit in a very comfortable chair, turn on my vibrator and play while watching them go at it.

I would also love to be the one calling the shots, have them do whatever I wanted to see. I think I would start off by having them sit side by side and masturbate for me. When I was satisfied, I would have them give each other a sensual massage, but only the front. At that point I probably would have had about ten orgasms, but I still wouldn't be satisfied and would need to see them go down on each other. I would be the one to decide who was better. I just love a womans body, including my own, that why I masturbate a lot.

I'm afraid that if I ever brought this up to my husband, he might feel like he's not getting the job done, but believe me, he does. I know he would love to watch me with another woman, but if I ever did give in to these feelings, I think I would have to be alone with her. I would need to completely explore my feelings, before I could have him with me. I'm not sure if it would be another woman similar in age and size to me who has the same conservative feelings that I do, or one of those wild young hotties who would be open to teaching me.

I'm totally conflicted about my feelings. it's not something I would ever be able to discuss with anyone that I know, but I do feel the need to talk about it. I have never had the chance to be with another woman, but if I ever did, I'm not sure what I would do. I would like to hear any thoughts from women who feel like me, assuming there are any out there. Also, if any have actually acted on their feelings at an older age. Please no men, this is an issue for another older woman. feel free to email me or leave a comment... This is a true story or maybe just a hopeful thought, but either way, I'm a confused Straight older woman.

I have similar feelings. I’ve never done anything with another woman, and for years my fantasies were purely straight.

Lately, however I’ve been finding myself attracted to women in addition to men and even writing some lesbian smut.

 

[Talemaker67]

I have similar feelings. I’ve never done anything with another woman, and for years my fantasies were purely straight.

Lately, however I’ve been finding myself attracted to women in addition to men and even writing some lesbian smut.

Yes, hard to explain unless it’s happening to you..

 

[SoCalAshley]

I have similar feelings. I’ve never done anything with another woman, and for years my fantasies were purely straight.

Lately, however I’ve been finding myself attracted to women in addition to men and even writing some lesbian smut.

I have not been with a woman since my college days (almost eight years ago), but I also have those feelings. The only explanation I have is that when I was with those women in college, I felt only tenderness with no pressure to perform.

 

[Talemaker67]

That’s an aspect I’ve never thought about, the no pressure to preform part….Hmmmm that only makes me want to even more…… thank you for that bit of info…. I’ll have to factor that into my fantasies …

 

[tristantrotsky]

That’s an aspect I’ve never thought about, the no pressure to preform part….Hmmmm that only makes me want to even more…… thank you for that bit of info…. I’ll have to factor that into my fantasies …

Pussy is beautiful, soft, moist and succulent.
The desire to lick pussy and tease clit with your tongue-tip is natural and healthy.
The need to bring another woman to orgasm with your mouth is entirely understandable.
The only way to fully satisfy your need is to enjoy mutual and consensual sex with another woman.
If you fail to do that, for whatever reason, you will live with regret and remorse...

 

[girlsmiley]

Talk to your husband. If he’s okay with you exploring that side of yourself then get an escort. Explain to her what you want and live out your little fantasy.

As far as imagining someone else while you’re fucking your husband, I’d keep that to yourself.

42 years is a long time. Longer than I’ve been alive. I’m happy you met such a man you’re lucky.

 

[YesIamReal]

Take some care in this.
You have a beautiful relationship so far and I am very jealous.

Yes, he would likely be interested, especially if you are both watching FFM and lesbian scenes. But in reality there is ALWAYS a risk when you get another real person involved. Will there be an attachment or attraction between you and the other woman? Between him and the other woman? What jealousies, what attractions, are you introducing?

You are risking the undoing of a great balance.

Try to find more advice on here from people who have gone through this both successfully and unsuccessfully.

 

[Noor]

I’ve seen studies about why women watch men in porn more than watching the men. It’s because women imagine themselves in the woman’s position and her experience more than fantasizing about the men. In one study, the women, who were all straight, couldn’t even describe the men, they could describe the woman’s reactions but not her actual portions or anything.

 

[YesIamReal]

I’ve seen studies about why women watch men in porn more than watching the men. It’s because women imagine themselves in the woman’s position and her experience more than fantasizing about the men. In one study, the women, who were all straight, couldn’t even describe the men, they could describe the woman’s reactions but not her actual portions or anything

I never understood why the woman's reaction is shown. The best, (and so often missed) is those moment of first penetration of an extremely aroused woman. Why would they not show her face? It is such an exquisite moment. I don't look down at the penetration... I look in her eyes as I do, and enjoyr the effect.

 

[Noor]

I never understood why the woman's reaction is shown. The best, (and so often missed) is those moment of first penetration of an extremely aroused woman. Why would they not show her face? It is such an exquisite moment. I don't look down at the penetration... I look in her eyes as I do, and enjoyr the effect.

There was no mention in these studies or my post of the woman’s face not being shown, are you referring to actual porn you’ve seen?

 

[YesIamReal]

There was no mention in these studies or my post of the woman’s face not being shown, are you referring to actual porn you’ve seen?

Yes, in actual porn there might be a genuinely aroused woman, but they will show the penetration instead of the reaction. I am not talking about the hyper-produced, sex-starts-in-the-first-minutes, guy-barely-pleasures-her type stuff either. Granted it is hard to get everything you want in the picture, but to me, that is the shot to be had, the one that shows personality, difference, reality.

 

[Talemaker67]

Talk to your husband. If he’s okay with you exploring that side of yourself then get an escort. Explain to her what you want and live out your little fantasy.

As far as imagining someone else while you’re fucking your husband, I’d keep that to yourself.

42 years is a long time. Longer than I’ve been alive. I’m happy you met such a man you’re lucky.

That’s the problem, I don’t have the nerve to do that, he would love to watch me with another woman if he suggested it, but I don’t think he has any idea I like to try it….. I need to drop hints, but then the problem is who do I sleep with? Not sure about an escort, but I know a few women I would sleep with in a heartbeat, but not sure they would agree….very risky, but with enough hints, I guess it’s possible

 

[YesIamReal]

That’s the problem, I don’t have the nerve to do that, he would love to watch me with another woman if he suggested it, but I don’t think he has any idea I like to try it….. I need to drop hints, but then the problem is who do I sleep with? Not sure about an escort, but I know a few women I would sleep with in a heartbeat, but not sure they would agree….very risky, but with enough hints, I guess it’s possible

I doubt very much he needs a subtle hint or encouragement.
You might even get months of mutual fantasies out of it without ever having to involve someone else.
Just don't take it to another level without actually speaking to each other about the risks of actually going through with it. At least with communication you will both be aware and it might reduce the risks. (No promises.)

 

[girlsmiley]

That’s the problem, I don’t have the nerve to do that, he would love to watch me with another woman if he suggested it, but I don’t think he has any idea I like to try it….. I need to drop hints, but then the problem is who do I sleep with? Not sure about an escort, but I know a few women I would sleep with in a heartbeat, but not sure they would agree….very risky, but with enough hints, I guess it’s possible

As a gay woman, I think it’s important to be true to yourself. I’m not married, but I think that if I were, it would be to someone I love and can talk to about anything. Build the nerve. Talk to your therapist. Talk to your husband.

I say an escort because I cannot imagine a conservative 64 year old woman approaching other women for casual sex. I would not do it myself. In saying that, every person is different.

 

[Noor]

That’s the problem, I don’t have the nerve to do that, he would love to watch me with another woman if he suggested it, but I don’t think he has any idea I like to try it….. I need to drop hints, but then the problem is who do I sleep with? Not sure about an escort, but I know a few women I would sleep with in a heartbeat, but not sure they would agree….very risky, but with enough hints, I guess it’s possible

Hints are always messy. I like the escort idea, no strings just payment.

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

I’ve seen studies about why women watch men in porn more than watching the men. It’s because women imagine themselves in the woman’s position and her experience more than fantasizing about the men. In one study, the women, who were all straight, couldn’t even describe the men, they could describe the woman’s reactions but not her actual portions or anything.

This. I don't watch much porn because the instant there's a whiff of misogyny it's an instant turn-off. I want to be able to imagine the woman is me -- young and sexy and having a great time. Even if it's rough, it's because she clearly likes it rough.

 

[schism666]

you have a man who eats your geriatric pussy. count your blessings and orgasms.

 

[girlsmiley]

you have a man who eats your geriatric pussy. count your blessings and orgasms.

Let me guess.

You don’t.

As for counting orgasms, she’ll have a lot more to count if she finds a woman LOL

 

[Rob_Royale]

Over time I've come to recognize that there is a world of sexuality between straight and gay and it is not set in stone. I've seen several posts like yours in the year I've been here now. Usually, from older men who are surprised when they start thinking about naked men when they have been straight all their lives.

Not knowing you or your husband I cannot advise you on how to approach him. You have to decide how important this is to you and how much of a risk it would be to broach the subject.