Fira
*looks innocent*
- Joined
- Dec 2, 2009
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It has come to my attention that several people that I like and respect have been hurt by the actions of some on this site, whether directly or indirectly.
When I joined, I was under the impression that this site was for adults only. Unfortunately, I feel like I'm back in Junior High with all the backstabbing, two-faced actions, bickering, sniping, bitching, and petty insults.
Lit is an escape from life's REAL dramas and problems for many. However, because there are other REAL people on here, one must remember that their actions and words here often cut , maim, hurt, and even destroy others.
Role Playing is just that...a game, a play. And those friends of mine that I have grown to care about so much have no problem separating the RP stories from who they really are. The personal relationships between the various writers in the lounges, though, are very real to some.
Fira is a character. She is not a REAL person. She has many of the same issues as I do, and many of the same thoughts and feelings, but she is NOT real. She is a pen name. I enjoy playing Fira very much. She actually started out in anther game that she quickly outgrew. I found Lit for her to indulge herself. And she has really enjoyed her time here. Many of the others on this site are in the same situation as I am. We write as someone else, we play as someone else, and many times we forge friendships as this other person that seep into our real lives.
While Fira has enjoyed her foray into the world of Lit, I cannot in all honesty say that I have. I've enjoyed the writing, and I will forever treasure the friendships that I have forged here. But as far as it being a place that I can't wait to get to, can't wait to log into, I have to say...it's lost most of it's appeal to me.
There are those that think it's fun to stoop to childish levels to piss people off. To say things that aren't true to someone that doesn't know any better. To play games with the feelings of others. The little digs to hurt people.
I would like to make a suggestion to all that may possibly read this:
If someone tells you something about someone else that causes you to either dislike or distrust the person being spoken about...don't take them at their word. I have found that there is little to no truth to much of what gets said. If you don't personally know the person being talked about, wait until you get THEIR side of the story before placing a judgement on them. And ask yourself this, "WHY does this person want to speak so negatively about someone I don't even know? WHY are they so intent on getting me to turn my back on someone that I have never had any dealings with? WHAT is in it for THEM?"
I'm an easy person to get along with. I try to befriend everyone. Many times to the detriment of other friendships. But in my mind, if someone can't respect that I don't have an issue with someone they dislike for whatever reason, and that I'm willing to remain friends with both parties, then they aren't much of a friend. I don't mind listening to both sides bitch...just don't ask me to take sides, because it won't happen.
So much of the bullshit that goes on in the lounges and through various chats is nothing more than viscous gossip that is designed to hurt people. I want to urge everyone to stop and think about what you are saying before you say it. Stop and think about what others are saying before you believe it and spread it along. If someone tells you something that is mean or ugly about someone else...go to the other party and ASK them if it's true. Let them know that someone is trying to spread shit about them. Give them a chance to DEFEND themselves before you pass judgement on them.
Due to all the drama on here, and a few Real Life issues, I have decided to remove myself from Lit. Not completely...I will continue the threads that I have as I have time, but I will not be playing in the lounges any longer. I came here looking for fun and friends. And while I have found a lot of both, the drama and the bullshit has gotten to be too much.
For those that wish to "play" with Fira, please PM me. I have no problem enjoying play in private threads, but will no longer visit the public lounges.
When I joined, I was under the impression that this site was for adults only. Unfortunately, I feel like I'm back in Junior High with all the backstabbing, two-faced actions, bickering, sniping, bitching, and petty insults.
Lit is an escape from life's REAL dramas and problems for many. However, because there are other REAL people on here, one must remember that their actions and words here often cut , maim, hurt, and even destroy others.
Role Playing is just that...a game, a play. And those friends of mine that I have grown to care about so much have no problem separating the RP stories from who they really are. The personal relationships between the various writers in the lounges, though, are very real to some.
Fira is a character. She is not a REAL person. She has many of the same issues as I do, and many of the same thoughts and feelings, but she is NOT real. She is a pen name. I enjoy playing Fira very much. She actually started out in anther game that she quickly outgrew. I found Lit for her to indulge herself. And she has really enjoyed her time here. Many of the others on this site are in the same situation as I am. We write as someone else, we play as someone else, and many times we forge friendships as this other person that seep into our real lives.
While Fira has enjoyed her foray into the world of Lit, I cannot in all honesty say that I have. I've enjoyed the writing, and I will forever treasure the friendships that I have forged here. But as far as it being a place that I can't wait to get to, can't wait to log into, I have to say...it's lost most of it's appeal to me.
There are those that think it's fun to stoop to childish levels to piss people off. To say things that aren't true to someone that doesn't know any better. To play games with the feelings of others. The little digs to hurt people.
I would like to make a suggestion to all that may possibly read this:
If someone tells you something about someone else that causes you to either dislike or distrust the person being spoken about...don't take them at their word. I have found that there is little to no truth to much of what gets said. If you don't personally know the person being talked about, wait until you get THEIR side of the story before placing a judgement on them. And ask yourself this, "WHY does this person want to speak so negatively about someone I don't even know? WHY are they so intent on getting me to turn my back on someone that I have never had any dealings with? WHAT is in it for THEM?"
I'm an easy person to get along with. I try to befriend everyone. Many times to the detriment of other friendships. But in my mind, if someone can't respect that I don't have an issue with someone they dislike for whatever reason, and that I'm willing to remain friends with both parties, then they aren't much of a friend. I don't mind listening to both sides bitch...just don't ask me to take sides, because it won't happen.
So much of the bullshit that goes on in the lounges and through various chats is nothing more than viscous gossip that is designed to hurt people. I want to urge everyone to stop and think about what you are saying before you say it. Stop and think about what others are saying before you believe it and spread it along. If someone tells you something that is mean or ugly about someone else...go to the other party and ASK them if it's true. Let them know that someone is trying to spread shit about them. Give them a chance to DEFEND themselves before you pass judgement on them.
Due to all the drama on here, and a few Real Life issues, I have decided to remove myself from Lit. Not completely...I will continue the threads that I have as I have time, but I will not be playing in the lounges any longer. I came here looking for fun and friends. And while I have found a lot of both, the drama and the bullshit has gotten to be too much.
For those that wish to "play" with Fira, please PM me. I have no problem enjoying play in private threads, but will no longer visit the public lounges.