BDSM Library

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BDSM Talk Library

LAST UPDATED ON 19 MAY 2012 AT 12:39 AM

As you may have guessed, our Library is comprised of threads relating to topics of a BDSM nature. All topics are in alphabetical order and the "Discussion" link will lead you to the gathered threads related to each topic. Please note the librarian will update these discussion links with new threads as they arise for each category.

You will also note a list of additional links under each topic. These links relate to their category and serve to provide further resources of information. Please note the additional links are not meant to be regarded as websites of expertise, nor are they conclusive of all the information available on the internet regarding each subject. While the goal is to provide the most accurately informative websites available, their accuracy (and authenticity) are still subject to the knowledge of those contributing to such websites. If there are reputable websites that you'd like to recommend for the various categories, please contact the librarian.

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We hope you find the BDSM Talk Library helpful and informative and we request your patience during the current Library Update & Revisions.

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Ab-Af

Bd - Br

Ca - Cu

Di - Ev

Fa - Gl

He - In

La - Lo

Ma - Or

Pe - Pu

Ra - Ro

Sa - Sy

Te - Tr

Ur - Wa

 

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Ab - Af

Abuse/Domestic Violence

DISCUSSIONS

"No one should suffer abuse unwillingly at the hands of another." - Monster666

Additional links:

Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network

The White Ribbon Campaign

National Leather Association - Domestic Violence Project

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Battered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence

After Care/Sub-drop

DISCUSSIONS

See Also: Subspace

"A few days after my first real "immersion" into sub-space, I was overwhelmed by a feeling of hopelessness, loss, and inexpressible despair." - RisiaSkye

Additional links:

BDSM 101: Subspace, Aftercare, and Sub-drop (and sometimes Top-drop)

Age Play

DISCUSSIONS

"My real Daddy was my first Master/Dom in a relationship that was consensual, educational, supportive, loving, and to me, perfect." - joi

Additional links:

DomSubFriends - Age Play Resources

Anal Play

DISCUSSIONS

See Also: Strap-Ons

"Lots of lube, lots of foreplay, and lots of patience." - seXieleXie

Additional links:

Rectal Foreign Bodies

A beginner's guide to anal sex

Avatars

DISCUSSIONS

"What is it your seeking to reveal about yourself or what's important to you via the adoption of an av?" - cymbidia

Additional links:

 

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Be - Br

Bestiality

Located in: NonCon/Rape/Reluctance Fantasy and RolePlay

BDSM

DISCUSSIONS

"for me it takes sex way beyond the idea of naked flesh, and an orgasm.
it delves into the part of your mind you feared, and then found out it turns you on." - ivantheterrible

Blood Play

Located in: Edge Play

Body Modification

DISCUSSIONS

"Some ppl like getting stuck with needles...and having their bodies modified...and imagine this one; some even like pain." - Kajira Callista

Additional links:

Fakir Musafar - Body Play

Body Modification Culture

Bondage

DISCUSSIONS

"A dream... to be made into a work of art by Mistress... and left bound in such beautiful wrappings and used as the centerpiece at her party." - Merelan

Additional links:

Rope Tutorial sites

Rope Vendors

Books - BDSM

DISCUSSIONS

See Also: Literature

"Sometimes I have to remind myself that just because someone says something (usually someone in authority) doesn't make it law, and it doesn't mean it's an educated intelligent statement. I think somewhere growing up I just thought if someone in charge said something, it must be so. Thankfully I've learned otherwise..but sometimes old habits are hard to break. I think it's good to keep in check where exactly information is coming from so as not to go down the wrong path." - Hisbabydoll26

Additional links:

The BDSM Book Club Discussion Thread

Reading Books For Pleasure

Branding

Located in: Edge Play

Brats/SAM's

DISCUSSIONS

However, I see a difference between being a brat and playful bantering or teasing. Daddy and I both enjoy this type of interaction. I know when he has a certain look on his face or tone of voice that it's time to stop and get back to immediate obedience. I also know what lines not to cross.

I don't see brat as being any more or less submissive than then any other pyls. In the end as long as the PYL gets what they want then the pyl is submissive. - ecstatic sub

Breast Play

DISCUSSIONS

"One of the things that makes me go almost instantly into subspace is to be tied with my back to the cross, blindfolded and having my breasts flogged."

Additional links:

Breath Play

Located in: Edge Play

Additional links:

Viewpoints Concerning Erotic Asphyxiation

An Overview on Breath Control Play

Bruises

Located in: Leftovers

 

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Ca - Cu

Caning

Located in: Impact Play

Checklists

DISCUSSIONS

See Also: Safety/Safe Words/Safe Calls

"Those checklist links were VERY helpful in allowing me to translate to MY-Sir-, what I am willing to submit to. And what really turns me on." - ~*sunkyssed_kym*~

Additional links:

A Submissives Journey - BDSM Checklist

DomSubFriends - Scene Questionnaire

Clothes/Costumes/Kink-wear

DISCUSSIONS

"I can't recall any article of clothing that's ever made me feel so utterly sexy." - superlittlegirl

Additional links:

Cafe Press - Fetish T-shirts

Westward Bound - Quality Alternate Clothing

Syren Latex Fetish Fashions[/font]

Clothed/Not Clothed (CFNM or CMNF)

DISCUSSIONS

Additional links:

Cock and Ball Torture (CBT)

Located in: Genitorture

Collars

Located in: Symbols of Ownership

Confinement

DISCUSSIONS

"I am totally into the idea of one of those type cages that they use to transport hunting dogs and the idea of caging as punishment." - rosco rathbone

Additional links:

Dungeon-Steel Cages

Contracts

DISCUSSIONS

"Every time you discuss limits, fantasies, fears, desires, and expectations, you're negotiating your contract." - RisiaSkye

Additional links:

D/s Lifestyle Example Contracts

Crossdressing

DISCUSSIONS

Additional links:

Cuckoldry

DISCUSSIONS

See Also: Humiliation

Additional links:

 

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Di - Ev

Dictionary

DISCUSSIONS

Additional links:

DomSub Friends

The Kinky Dictionary

Disabilities and BDSM

DISCUSSIONS

"How do you deal with disabilities in D/s and BDSM situations?" - Dustygrrl

Additional links:

ADA

Disability Studies and the Inclusion of Disability in Sex-Positive Communities

Discipline/Punishment

DISCUSSIONS

"Punishment does not help Me get the superior service I desire. Direction and control does." - Ebonyfire

Additional links:

Dominance/Domination

DISCUSSIONS

"My dominance is about being who I am, letting loose my hunger and needs and feeding them. It is about commitment with my partner, it is about love, passion, and sex as much as it is pain, control, and humiliation." - Francisco (catalina_francisco)

Additional links:

The Good Girl's Guide to Female Domination

Edge Play

DISCUSSIONS

Additional links:

BDSM Resources: Fire Play

Fire Cups and Vacuum Cupping

Scarification FAQ

Kiss of Fire - The ABC's of Branding

Electroplay

Located in: Edge Play

Events/Locales (BDSM)

DISCUSSIONS

"I go to a munch because I want to meet people and learn about the lifestyle. There's no way I would attend if I felt I had to adhere to certain rules of conduct beyond common courtesy, or be judged for my lack of knowledge and experience." - CarolineOh

Additional links:

BDSM - The Local Scene UK

Assessing Your Local Scene Essay

 

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Fa - Gl

Fantasy

Discussions

See Also: NonCon/Rape/Reluctance Fantasy and RolePlay

Additional links:

Feminization

DISCUSSIONS

Additional links:

The House of Sissify

Fetish

DISCUSSIONS

"I've had a major fetish for pretty female feet and toes since I can remember." - LovingDaddy

Additional links:

Fetish Information Exchange

Fetish Wear

Located in Clothing, Costumes, and Fetish Wear

Fire Play

Located in: Edge Play

Fisting

DISCUSSIONS

"The idea, and reality of taking a hand or a fist into the vaginal or anal cavities is powerfully suggestive of sadism for the fister, and provokes powerful images of masochistic surrender for the fistee." - sexielexie

Additional links:

Genitorture (Genital Torture)

DISCUSSIONS

"Hot wax on a hood ring is wonderful ..." - lilfrk

Additional links:

 

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He - In

Health

Discussions

Physical - Link

Mental -Link

"Personally, I hold to the "tend your own garden" model of psychiatry. In my experience, the people who spend the most time psychoanalyzing everyone around them are usually the people in greatest need of a little analysis themselves. It's the Freudian paradigm." - RisiaSkye

Additional links:

Humiliation

DISCUSSIONS

"As a Dom, I prefer concocting a theatre of sensation to scenarios degrading or humiliating (anything distancing to me undercuts the mutuality and intimacy of the pleasure)." - barcaboy

Additional links:

"Humiliation" and BDSM or "Why is it"Humiliation" if I *LIKE* it?

Humor

DISCUSSIONS

"You mean you actually like to be told what to do? Doesn't that make you feel subservient? DUH!!!" - il mio angelo

Additional links:

Impact Play

DISCUSSIONS

Additional links:

Infantalism

Located in: Age Play

 

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La - Lo

Labels

DISCUSSIONS

Additional links:

Law & BDSM

DISCUSSIONS

"I think most lawyers are more ethical about confidentiality than she is, but you're prudent to just not ever go back and tell people looking for a shrink not to go to her. I'd still talk to a lawyer and find out if it has to go to court, be public, etc. One good letter on letterhead talking about a federal mandate and removal of her license and I guarantee her day will suddenly be worse than yours." - Netzach

Additional links:

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Kink Aware Professionals

Leftovers

DISCUSSIONS

"I *love* left overs, they're tangible reminders of wonderful times. I hate when they fade." - foxy

Additional links:

Home Remedies For Bruises and Bruising

The Lifestyle/ 24/7

DISCUSSIONS

"I can't imagine NOT having BDSM for the basis of all my personal relationships. The way I relate to others (whether they are more or less Dominant than myself) is ingrained. I can't change that, nor do I want to. " - Luna_Wolf72

Additional links:

Limits

DISCUSSIONS

"He has pushed my limits from a few different angles, and shattered a couple of limits that used to be "hard limits." - AnelizeDarkEyes

See Also: Checklists

Additional links:

Literature

DISCUSSIONS

"Anyone know of autobiographies of dom/mes, subs, bdsm folk, or similarly aberrated persons?" - Pure

Additional links:

Long Distance Relationships (LDR's)/Online Experiences

DISCUSSIONS

"...distance domination is NOT a fantasy but a truth and that it is possible." - boobsqueeezer

Additional links:

AskMen.com: Long Distance Relationships

Surviving a Long-Distance Relationship

 

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Ma - Or

Masochism

DISCUSSIONS

"Why is it that just because you say you like to be beaten so many people assume that you like being made to crawl around on you knees on the end of a leash?" - katzeyez

Additional links:

Misc.

DISCUSSIONS

Additional links:

Munches

Located in: Events/Locales (BDSM)

Music

DISCUSSIONS

"I'm curious as to what sort of music people like to use for scenes. Is there a specific genre that people prefer? Specific songs, even?" - Lain

Additional links:

Non-consensual Fantasies and RolePlay

DISCUSSIONS

Additional links:

Obesity

DISCUSSIONS

See Also: Physical Health

Additional links:

Oral Sex

DISCUSSIONS

"There is not enough discussion here, in my opinion on what and how to please your Dom and his (oh my I can't believe I am saying this,) man-meat." - A Desert Rose

Additional links:

The 10 Cummandments of Giving a Man GOOD Oral

AskMen.com - Giving Her Oral Sex

Orgasms/Orgasm Control/Chastity Methods and Devices

DISCUSSIONS

"The idea of multiple is just completely foreign to me. The idea of so many that you have to beg for it to stop is completely alien to me. More power to you girls who can do it, though!" - Etoile

"I don't get the concept of forced orgasms. I also don't understand why a Dom would want to force an orgasm. I have watched sexandsubmission videos where a woman is brought to supposed orgasm with a vibrator. I, personally can't see how that can be pleasurable for her or the Dom. (I realize it is porn and not real life..but still ) I am multi-orgasmic. My Dom has been teaching me tantric sex. My orgasms have always been a series of peaks and valleys. Now they are peaks with plateaus, a level of orgasm that last for hours during continual sex. Why force something when getting there together and sustaining it is so damn amazing?" - ecstaticsub

Additional links:

 

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Pe - Pu

Personal Topics

DISCUSSIONS

"The feeling of being used is not necessarily a bad one, to someone of a submissive frame of mind, it can be a desirable state." - James Blandings

Additional links:

Pet Play

DISCUSSIONS

"I am a human with some animalistic traits, and I want to be cared for and owned by someone who I look up to, and who I'm loyal to. I am stubborn and willful and I want what I want, and I don't want what I don't, and I'm cuddly and I love being pet and scratched, and I always want attention, but I also want to make my Person happy, and I hate to see him sad or disappointed, and I want to please him, even if I'm not always that good at it." - 00Syd

Additional links:

Philosophy/Introspection

DISCUSSIONS

"How do you define/relate sex and service in regards to dominance and submission?" - Richard49

Additional links:

Photography/Art

DISCUSSIONS

"I absolutely love art photos/paintings like these, those that combine the essential sensuality of the subject with incredible kink." - cymbidia

Additional links:

Museum of Erotic Art - UK

PaintedlLady - The Art of Jack Henslee

Polyamory

See Also: Relationships

DISCUSSIONS

"I have to say being in a poly relationship is the hardest thing I've ever done. That being said it is also the happiest I've ever been." - Snoozebutton

Additional links:

The Polyamory Index

Popular Culture and BDSM

DISCUSSIONS

"I think the idea that there's a definite split between BDSM and Vanilla is misleading, BDSM has three elements [four, really] all of which a person can enjoy a little or a lot of. It's a continuum and defining what is or isn't BDSM is impossible." - Never

Additional links:

Pornography

DISCUSSIONS

"It isn't porn unless you take pictures, and show them to ME, as far as I'm concerned." - DRxBlue

Additional links:

Pregnancy/Parenting

DISCUSSIONS

So now he has it all. My love, my submission and this child. Dont think I can give him more than this, as he has all I can offer now. - BiaTcHiNFiRe

Additional links:

Professional BDSM

DISCUSSIONS

"Anyway - what I would like to hear are experiences or opinions re Pro Dommes." - Hecate

Additional links:

Max Fisch Domina Guide

Mistress Teresa May's Pandemos

Psychology

DISCUSSIONS

"The 'mind fuck' can be a useful tool at times. A chance to see just what the secret desires of a pet are and a chance to crush those desires and remind that pet of his place." - GoddessHelena

Additional links:

Public Scening/Exhibitionism

DISCUSSIONS

"I began topping in public as soon as I felt comfortable enough with the simple techniques I had down, and as soon as I had a plan and someone I wanted to try it out on." - Netzach

Additional links:

 

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Ra - Ro

Rape Fantasies and Role Play

Located in: Non-consentual Fantasies and Role Play

Relationships

See Also:Polyamory

DISCUSSIONS

"So adding D/s into an existing relationship is, um, difficult. Fortunately I have an open-minded lover." - FungiUg

Additional links:

Religion

DISCUSSIONS

Additional links:

Rituals

DISCUSSIONS

See Also: Collars/Symbols of Ownership

"Ritual in BDSM (Church too) is about taking the participants away from reality and into the theater of the mind (using the body as a conduit)." - pierced_boy

Additional links:

Role Playing

DISCUSSIONS

See Also: NonCon/Rape/Reluctance Fantasy and RolePlay

"This is how a good piece of BDSM role play should go." - KillerMuffin

Additional links:

 

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Sa - Sy

Sadism/Sadists

DISCUSSIONS

"Sexual submission, Domination, and violence go way back in our westernized literature." - RisiaSkye

Additional links:

Safety/Safe Words/Safe Calls

DISCUSSIONS

"The most important thing about a safe call is to make it and that you know that the person who you are making the safe call to will act if you do not call." - catalina_francisco (catalina)

Additional links:

Scenes

DISCUSSIONS

See Also: Public Scening

"Would [sic] you sort it all out beforehand and then go straight into the scene, would you take talking about it as part of the 'warm-up'" - petrel

Additional links:

Sensory Play

DISCUSSIONS

"As a Dom, I like to vary the sensation, even within a single scene. While i generally end with the sharpest pain, I think a good mix doesn't allow the sub to become complacent." - JohnnyMayberry

Additional links:

Sissification

Located in: Forced Feminization

Sounding

Located in: Genitorture

Spanking

Located in: Impact Play

Strap-ons

DISCUSSIONS

"I like to strap one onto my guy, being careful to cage his cock in a rubber gates of hell first....and let him use the strap-on on me." - Netzach

Additional links:

Elise Sutton's Guide to Loving Female Authority

Akasha's Web - Original Erotic Femdom Stories & Resources

Sub Drop

Located in: After Care

Submission

DISCUSSIONS

"So I suppose ultimately it is about surrender - my purpose is to surrender myself to Her, and calling that a service sounds too altruistic to me." - lark sparrow

Additional links:

Latches

Celebrate Male Submission

Subspace

DISCUSSIONS

"I think venturing into sub space is a dissociative process. While I am aware of my surrounds, I am at the same time dissociated from them." - cellis

Additional links:

Subspace VS Slavespace

Suspension

DISCUSSIONS

Additional links:

Switches

DISCUSSIONS

"I really admire those that can and do switch on a regular basis, I feel it takes a lot of strength to embrace those desires and make them work for them." - serijules

Additional links:

Symbols of Ownership

DISCUSSIONS

"A collar is what you and your Dom/me make ... Be it a ring, bracelet, necklace or even a collar ... It is a symbol of the bond you both share, something which you both think is the right symbol of the love and bonding." - ShadowDancer13

Additional links:

Eternity Collars

 

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Te - Tr

Techniques

DISCUSSIONS

"I regularly fist my SO, testing how far I can go - what her pain limits are. And we too go the whole way dilating the cervix." - jon.hayworth

Additional links:

The Punishment of Bastinado - UK Site

Bastinado & Falaka - History

Bastinado & Falaka

Hitting the Hands

Face Slapping

Face Slapping - Safety

Thought of the Day Calendars

DISCUSSION

Tit Torture

Located in: Breast Play

Topping From the Bottom

DISCUSSIONS

"The dynamic of "topping from the bottom" can be very detrimental to a BDSM relationship, especially in the long run." - zipman7

Additional links:

Taken in Hand - Topping from the bottom ?

Total Power Exchange (TPE)

DISCUSSIONS

"Anyway ... to you ... in the real world what does a 24/7 D/s relationship look like?" - Richard49

Additional links:

Internal Enslavement Article

Toys

DISCUSSIONS

"Here's the idea... this guide will be for describing the "tools of our trade" so to speak." - dixicritter

Additional links:

Heartwood Whips

Make It Yourself Bondage Equipment

Fetish Auctions

Extreme Restraints

J.T's Stockroom

BDSM Toybox

The BDSM Store

Google list of BDSM Gear/Toy Websites

Travel

DISCUSSIONS

"Well, the time is coming closer and closer to my move across the globe...and I am left wondering how on earth to get my 'bag of tricks' moved safely and discreetly!" - Mae13

Additional links:

 

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Ur - Wa

Urine Play

DISCUSSIONS

"Watersports is a prime example of how I have begun to truly explore my submissive side." - petrel

Additional links:

Dan Savage & Dr Barak Gaster on Urine Consumption

Wiki Reference - Urophagia

Urine Drinking Information[/font]

Vanilla

DISCUSSIONS

"How does one go about exploring the lighter aspects of BDSM within the confines of a very nilla relationship?" - pagancowgirl

Additional links:

Voyeurism

DISCUSSION

Additional links:

Wax Play

DISCUSSIONS

"Wax play is great, and even the taking off is fun.. especially if a whip is used ... " - SierraMoon

Additional links:

Liquid Fire Incorporated

BDSM Low Heat Candles

Erotic Wax Play

Albany Power Exchange - Hot Wax, the Intense Sensation

 

[MissTaken]

A link to our previous library thread.

Many thanks, anelize.



https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=289059

 

[catalina_francisco]

I would like to use this space to extend congratulations to S'lara for the new library and express gratitude for the incredible amount of work she has already done.

And I would like to thank anelize for setting up the original library.

Catalina.

 

[Brinnie]

"Matt Daemun" ​

 

[WriterDom]

The links to outside sources are pretty neat-o.

 

[Zenythmon]

What about slavery? Slavery isn't listed.

 

[northwoods_sub]

orgasm denial, forced orgasm?????

 

[Ne0phyte]

this is interesting

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I don't know whether it's just that stuff it being tinkered with today but there are only a few pages of the BDSM talk forum and cafe to look through. I was going to search for MrGGG's g spot 'report back' thread but it isn't there. Have I picked the wrong day or is there a cut off after a few pages of posts now?

 

[BDSM=Librarian]

Well apparently the keys have be thrown over as of today.

This is Rebecca, your friendly referenced thread collection keeper or decently intelligent bot if you prefer that kind of thang . Objectify me, I dare you : laughs :

Before commenting on the changes that will over take place over the next few months, I think this is a most appropriate time to pay particular thanks to NemoAlia, AnelizeDarkEyes and s'lara for the huge manifesto's of work they contributed to the Literotica BDSM Library. In my very limited experience to date, it's not until you start assessing the library more formally, that you truly realize the amount of work and careful thought that has been put into it.

Thank you to NemoAlia, Anelize & s'lara the legacy of your skills, time and dedication will remain the true foundations of this Library, in all it's evolutions

The updates and changes to the Library are going to take place in a rather convoluted fashion due to circumstances that currently prevail. On the outside initially it may appear that sweeping gains are not being attained. The majority of the work will take place out of view and then be set in place when of a reasonable standard. At which time the main body has been set up, a New Library Thread will be instituted and the current will be removed.

Notifications, stickies, board navigation hints, newbie packs and threads for Community suggestions will also be initiated at that time.

In the Interim, should you require any assistance please feel free to pm me.

Rebecca

 

[WriterDom]

The updates and changes to the Library are going to take place in a rather convoluted fashion due to circumstances that currently prevail. On the outside initially it may appear that sweeping gains are not being attained. The majority of the work will take place out of view and then be set in place when of a reasonable standard. At which time the main body has been set up, a New Library Thread will be instituted and the current will be removed.


Rebecca

Will you be throwing a party when it opens?