AQuietGentleman
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I know this is long for a Literotica personals post. As I’ve gotten older I have gained a good sense of who I am and what I desire, and I think the best way to find my match it is to be open and detailed from the start.
I am a 50 year old white male, single, childless, and unattached; a highly educated professional. I live a quiet life of simple pleasures. I have a lot of time to devote to a special woman. I would be fine with an online-only relationship, although ideally we would eventually be together in person.
I am seeking a long-term relationship, not merely play. I want to develop a genuine bond where we both care very deeply for each other. I am willing to take my time to do that. We would begin as friends and get to know each other, talking about anything and everything. Hopefully in time we would establish deep trust and respect for each other, and of course find that we really like one another. Ideally the relationship would naturally evolve to include sexual intimacies.
When I am in a long-term, online relationship, the connection I feel with my partner is very real. It is easy for me to feel very close to her, think about her all the time, and want to have frequent interactions. I do not shy away from someone who is “needy” because that term is aptly applied to me. You would be my first thought when I woke up in the morning and I can imagine texting you first thing each day to let you know I’m thinking about you. I might do the same just before going to bed at night. In between there would be frequent messages, even if I am busy at work, to check in with you or just say hello.
I love to provide my partner a lot of attention, affection, and support. I will be very interested in those things you’re passionate about, and would hope that I could provide encouragement as you strive to be the best person you can possibly be. I’ve enjoyed serving my partner through words of encouragement and nudges and other ways to help hold her accountable and achieve her goals.
A few traits my ideal partner would possess:
Personal Traits. Your age, height, race, hair, and measurements are not important to me. If they are important to you, I am 50, white, have brown hair (it is receding up front), blue eyes, am 5’9” and weigh 135. I am in excellent health and could believably claim to be 10 years younger than my true age. I desire a partner who, like me, is fit and physically active. I enjoy being outdoors and walk/hike a lot. An unattached woman is not a necessity, although practically speaking my ideal relationship, even if online only, would be difficult for a woman with a partner. I require a lot of your time and would not be satisfied as the person you used for gratification only when your significant other was unavailable. If attached you would also have to have room in your heart for me because, again, I want our relationship to involve genuine and deep affection and caring.
Intelligence. I am very much a sapiosexual, that is, I am very attracted to brainiacs. The relationship I seek is not all about sex, so I would like to have thoughtful conversations about many topics of mutual interest. Food, books, current events, etc.
Commitment. Again, I am not seeking a plaything. I need my partner to genuinely keep me in her heart and want to interact frequently. A woman who disappears in the middle of a conversation with no warning or explanation, or vanishes for days when her life gets interesting to return only when life becomes dull again, is not going to work for me. Imbalance kills a relationship, so I need to be with a woman who needs me as often and as deeply as I need her. I live on the U.S. West Coast, so someone within one or two time zones is probably a must, although I am early to bed (9) and early to rise (5), so an East Coaster whose life skews later could work too.
Exhibitionism. I do need to be with a woman who loves to show herself in photos and videos. I don’t necessarily mean nudes, by the way. It can simply be a way to say hello or show me what you’re wearing. If you do enjoy getting more risqué, I understand this would not occur until trust had been fully established. I would want to see your face during live interactions but accept that you would not show your face when providing intimate photos or videos. At any time you may ask that I delete anything you’ve shared and I would do so immediately. I do not want to save anything that you do not want me to have. You will have to take my word for this, of course, but I have behaved honorably toward every woman who has shared photos and videos with me in the past.
Submissiveness. This is not necessary, but I have previously enjoyed interactions with women who identify as submissive. I admit I am on the gentle end of the D/s spectrum, probably more accurately described as a ‘daddy dom’ or ‘service top’ rather than a ‘Dominant.’ I have little interest in the accoutrements of D/s; floggers, ropes, etc., etc. But I am drawn to the emotional and psychological aspects of the dynamic and would enjoy talking more about this with you.
Humor. I know this ad has a serious tone, but that actually isn’t me, or at least not all the time, or even most of the time. I prefer silly to serious, have a dry wit, and don’t mind being teased. I’d love for you to laugh easily and often. If you think you’re funny, gentle, sweet, and kind, we’re a good match.
I understand I have been very specific and am essentially seeking a needle in a haystack. But I have often been said to have “the patience of Job.” So I am willing to post this ad and bump it from time to time with the hope that eventually my match will come along. I likely won’t monitor posts to this thread, so please send me a private message if you would like to get in touch.
I am a 50 year old white male, single, childless, and unattached; a highly educated professional. I live a quiet life of simple pleasures. I have a lot of time to devote to a special woman. I would be fine with an online-only relationship, although ideally we would eventually be together in person.
I am seeking a long-term relationship, not merely play. I want to develop a genuine bond where we both care very deeply for each other. I am willing to take my time to do that. We would begin as friends and get to know each other, talking about anything and everything. Hopefully in time we would establish deep trust and respect for each other, and of course find that we really like one another. Ideally the relationship would naturally evolve to include sexual intimacies.
When I am in a long-term, online relationship, the connection I feel with my partner is very real. It is easy for me to feel very close to her, think about her all the time, and want to have frequent interactions. I do not shy away from someone who is “needy” because that term is aptly applied to me. You would be my first thought when I woke up in the morning and I can imagine texting you first thing each day to let you know I’m thinking about you. I might do the same just before going to bed at night. In between there would be frequent messages, even if I am busy at work, to check in with you or just say hello.
I love to provide my partner a lot of attention, affection, and support. I will be very interested in those things you’re passionate about, and would hope that I could provide encouragement as you strive to be the best person you can possibly be. I’ve enjoyed serving my partner through words of encouragement and nudges and other ways to help hold her accountable and achieve her goals.
A few traits my ideal partner would possess:
Personal Traits. Your age, height, race, hair, and measurements are not important to me. If they are important to you, I am 50, white, have brown hair (it is receding up front), blue eyes, am 5’9” and weigh 135. I am in excellent health and could believably claim to be 10 years younger than my true age. I desire a partner who, like me, is fit and physically active. I enjoy being outdoors and walk/hike a lot. An unattached woman is not a necessity, although practically speaking my ideal relationship, even if online only, would be difficult for a woman with a partner. I require a lot of your time and would not be satisfied as the person you used for gratification only when your significant other was unavailable. If attached you would also have to have room in your heart for me because, again, I want our relationship to involve genuine and deep affection and caring.
Intelligence. I am very much a sapiosexual, that is, I am very attracted to brainiacs. The relationship I seek is not all about sex, so I would like to have thoughtful conversations about many topics of mutual interest. Food, books, current events, etc.
Commitment. Again, I am not seeking a plaything. I need my partner to genuinely keep me in her heart and want to interact frequently. A woman who disappears in the middle of a conversation with no warning or explanation, or vanishes for days when her life gets interesting to return only when life becomes dull again, is not going to work for me. Imbalance kills a relationship, so I need to be with a woman who needs me as often and as deeply as I need her. I live on the U.S. West Coast, so someone within one or two time zones is probably a must, although I am early to bed (9) and early to rise (5), so an East Coaster whose life skews later could work too.
Exhibitionism. I do need to be with a woman who loves to show herself in photos and videos. I don’t necessarily mean nudes, by the way. It can simply be a way to say hello or show me what you’re wearing. If you do enjoy getting more risqué, I understand this would not occur until trust had been fully established. I would want to see your face during live interactions but accept that you would not show your face when providing intimate photos or videos. At any time you may ask that I delete anything you’ve shared and I would do so immediately. I do not want to save anything that you do not want me to have. You will have to take my word for this, of course, but I have behaved honorably toward every woman who has shared photos and videos with me in the past.
Submissiveness. This is not necessary, but I have previously enjoyed interactions with women who identify as submissive. I admit I am on the gentle end of the D/s spectrum, probably more accurately described as a ‘daddy dom’ or ‘service top’ rather than a ‘Dominant.’ I have little interest in the accoutrements of D/s; floggers, ropes, etc., etc. But I am drawn to the emotional and psychological aspects of the dynamic and would enjoy talking more about this with you.
Humor. I know this ad has a serious tone, but that actually isn’t me, or at least not all the time, or even most of the time. I prefer silly to serious, have a dry wit, and don’t mind being teased. I’d love for you to laugh easily and often. If you think you’re funny, gentle, sweet, and kind, we’re a good match.
I understand I have been very specific and am essentially seeking a needle in a haystack. But I have often been said to have “the patience of Job.” So I am willing to post this ad and bump it from time to time with the hope that eventually my match will come along. I likely won’t monitor posts to this thread, so please send me a private message if you would like to get in touch.
