An identification thread Please

Seems I have made some very bad conclusions about people going by thier names and what I thought was thier gender. My apologies to Frouwa_Aph and Sandia.

I was just wondering if it would be to much to ask a few simple questions so I don't assume anything and make another Ass of me again.

What I was hoping to know was:


Gender: {this is where I screwed up most about some of you my bad }

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: {B, D, S or M, soft, medium or hard}

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: {i.e, Frouwa_Aph uses a foriegn word is she willing to explaim in PM if neccessary}

Years involved: {actuall skin to skin}

Any changes of style: {started as a sub are now a dom, started hard, now are soft, etc.}

Age: {optional, just a reference point for me.}




My definitions of soft and hard incase you were wondering.

Soft - no cutting, no hard whipping caning, only mild pain types, no humiliation style stuff, stuff a nilla could take part in and not feel to uncomfortable.

Medium - in the middle

Hard - Full court, no wimps need apply, stand back safe only to save you.


Thanks in advance, hopefully this will keep me straight from now on.


Oh on me:

Gender: Male

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: Probably sub maybe Dom most definately soft

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: Any time, publically as well

Years involved: Zip, nada, nilch, none, still virgin

Any changes of style: started with dry hump masterbation , went to the one hand method, and now use the two handle fondle technique

Age: 27

Well, Todd, since it's all public domain info anyway...

Physical Sex: Male (I'll leave emotional and mental gender to others to guess)

BDSM type: B/D D/S Switch, with some S/M, though it goes from medium to soft and all over in each of those categories depending on mine and/or my partner's current needs and moods.

Availability for Education: Anytime you need some info I got, bub, you just let me know. Same goes for opinions. And If I need ya, I know where to find ya.

Years involved: Less than a full year: though the relationship lasted for more than two years; the last eight months were the BDS/m part of it. That was almost nine years ago. (I finally remembered how to count!)

Changes of style: Started as sub male, became dom male, figured out I was both.

Gender: {this is where I screwed up most about some of you my bad }

~female~

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: {B, D, S or M, soft, medium or hard}

~BDM, and somewhat hard, from what i've been told
i have been called a "pain slut"~

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: {i.e, Frouwa_Aph uses a foriegn word is she willing to explaim in PM if neccessary}

~definately available to clear up any questions about any of my posts... through pm, or email~

Years involved: {actuall skin to skin}

~ummm, couple months, since finding out there were actual terms for what i've been doing for most of my adult life..... ~

Any changes of style: {started as a sub are now a dom, started hard, now are soft, etc.}

~have been sub/switch all my life, just didn't know there were names for what i liked doing~

Age: {optional, just a reference point for me.}

~35~

try reading the Newbies thread - most of us 'oldies' signed up there too and it should give you a good idea of who's who - the questions are pretty similar

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=81549

Gender: female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: submissive

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: Any time, publically as well though i wouldn't ask me if i was you

Years involved: gulps....7...i'm gettin old

Any changes of style: just started knowing nothing at all, experimented, read, read some more, experimented some more and here I am. I wouldn't call it a change, more of an evolution.

Age: 28

petrel said:

try reading the Newbies thread - most of us 'oldies' signed up there too and it should give you a good idea of who's who - the questions are pretty similar

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=81549

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i tried that once, got lost in there for a month, Laurel had to come from SoCal to Canada to show me where the door out was

Todd-'o'-Vision said:

i tried that once, got lost in there for a month, Laurel had to come from SoCal to Canada to show me where the door out was

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ROFLMAO


I thought I was the only one who got lost in there!!! But Laurel didn't come save me - I just stumbled on the exit by sheer luck!!!

to you, Todd

Gender: Female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: Definately sub. with Hubby as Master. Med I suppose...don't really fit in hard or soft catagory.

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: If I have the answers sure...I'll clear up any of my own posts anytime, pm me if questions.

Years involved: Less than a year, we are still "new" to the lifestyle, learning more everyday.

Any changes of style: I figure I've always been a sub, just didn't know it until recently....at least didn't know how I felt had a title.

Age: 36

Gender: oh so female LOL

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: bdsm fairly hard; I like the physical (flogging, paddling, etc) more so than the mental BUT! enjoy it all in the right setting;
Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: oh sure, no prob - ask away, I always have an answer LOL ...ok, I can be serious

Years involved: 15 ...yeah yeah ancient I know LOL

Any changes of style: Switch - more Top than Mistress/Domme, more bottom than sub/slave; BUT! I've probably experienced most aspects


Age: 37

MLP

Gender: Female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: sub, medium i think

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: you know where to reach me

Years involved: none yet (and that's getting really annoying to have to admit)

Any changes of style: i've always been sub, just took me a long time to figure it out and accept it

Age: 33 but i'm gonna discount the ten years i put myself in storage and go back to 23......... any objections? i didn't think so

Gender: Female

BDSM: Definitely B&D, definitely submissive, and a healthy dosage of masochism. I have qualities of both soft and hard, I think. I revel in the mental pain while I shy away from anything other than wimpy physical pain, though perhaps a large part of the latter is lack of limit pushing.

Questions: Send 'em my way, all and/or sundry. It makes me feel special.

Years: Been dabbling for two years. Don't know if I even consider that being in the lifestyle anymore, since recently I've realized that I was mostly pretending to be who I naturally am, which is an unpleasant revelation.

Changes: Well, I've fluctuated between sub and switch, but right now there is no place I'd rather be than kneeling.

Age: 19 and a day!

Gender: Female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: All of the above HARD


Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: Sure if I have the answer I will share it

Years involved: {actuall skin to skin} 21-22 yrs

Any changes of style: started as a maso. submissive, will end as a maso. submissive


Age: 36

Todd-'o'-Vision said:

Seems I have made some very bad conclusions about people going by thier names and what I thought was thier gender. My apologies to Frouwa_Aph and Sandia.

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No worries Todd, most germans would have the same problem, since Frouwa is an old high german word (we're talking about the years 800-1100 here), it means Lady, woman of high birth.
Old german and language history was my main topic in university, so I figured it would be a nice touch to use this instead of the "usual" Mistress or Lady.
I use the nick Aphrael (from a book from David Eddings, Aphrael is a Goddess) in other chats and everyone there calls me Aph.
And there you are: Frouwa Aph
I even registered a domain with that name.

Gender: female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: B - YES. D - YES. S - I'm not submissive, but a sadist. M - I'm not really masochistic, but I enjoy being bitten my an obidient slava/sub.
I'm in the medium range, but a lot depends on the partner

Years involved: 6 years, skin to skin, but my fantasies started earlier

Any changes of style: I'm dominant, and with growing abilities my play style got harder. When I started out some things I enjoy now, would have freaked me out.
I remember distinctly when I had to admit to my sadistic side, surpised and shocked me for sure.

Age: 39

Monika

my 100th post. how excited am I?

Female

bdsm anything you can throw at me really cos i switch AND more importantly im greedy.

5 years (on and off)

i switch, i'll do anything really...my limits have got broader as time goes on.

pm me, no problem.

I'm 25.

Okay! i'll play!

Gender: Good question!!-- i know that when i first appeared here, MANY people (including cym) thought that i was a woman. Truth be told, i'd LIKE that! i've always wanted to be a lesbian. But i DO have that pesky (really bothersome) Y chromosome. Male, that is. (that's me in the av, the wrinklier one)

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: {B, D, S or M, soft, medium or hard} Purely a spectator as far is sex, in any form, is concerned, for many, many years now. Not a virgin, (though i can respect that) perhaps a "conscientious objector" in the Battle of the Sexes.

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: {i.e, Frouwa_Aph uses a foriegn word is she willing to explaim in PM if necessary} If i ever say or do anything that intrigues you, feel very free to PM me. i'll be more than happy to write a treatise on any subject. You seem like a person worth telling things to. You have obviously paid attention to many answers in the past.

Years involved: {actuall skin to skin} My 'nilla sex life lasted roughly 8 years. From 1970-79. i dont' think BDSM had been invented then. (lol) In any case nobody ever told ME about it.

Any changes of style: {started as a sub are now a dom, started hard, now are soft, etc.} Not Applicable

Age: {optional, just a reference point for me.} 50

Hope that helps, nice to see you over here Todd. Did you know that perversion is contagious?

Female

submissive

feel free to PM

learning for about about 5 yrs skin to skin but always had feelings which i couldn't lable until I was introduced to castlerealm

thought I was dominant but realised very quickly that my attitude in the nilla world had no relation to my need to submit

26

(right now learning the hard way that online situations, even when RL play exists along side it requires alot of skill that makes me a total novice and hurting badly after falling for a player)

yayyy i get to talk about myself!

gender: happily female

bdsm mode: submissive

availability: i LOVE to give advice (its just that no one likes to listen to me <sniffle>) you can reach me anytime by PM

years involved: "Zip, nada, nilch, none, still virgin" diddo

changes?: nope, allways been a sub, allthough some days im a dominating sub (weird? i know!)

age: 19 (though i've been told im 19 going on 50 )

if you see me anywhere, give me a shout, i love to talk at people!

Gender

I'm a woman. Honest.

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: {B, D, S or M, soft, medium or hard}

Bondage - Oh please, yes. The tighter the better, too, and could you please use real locks so i can't get out even if i get a teensy bit uncomfortable?
Discipline - Check. Oh yeh. Love that head trip. Control me, baby.
Sadism - Uh, me? Doing it to someone? Nope. I mean, thank you for the offer but i think i'll pass.
Masochism - Oh yes, please. And may i have a second helping while you've got the serving dish right here next to me?
Dominition - Me? Of someone else? Sexual? Emotional? Psychological? People that aren't 8th grade science students? Oh gods no!
Submission - Check. Double check. Triple check. Quadruple check. But only to my dominant; the rest of y'all will never see me in true sub mode.

I'm a hard player. I can be soft and tender, sweet and silly, cuddly and serious, but i love to play as hard, need toplay hard, and do play as hard as almost anyone you know - and harder than many.

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts

NO! Stop pm'ing me immediately. All of you!


Years involved: {actuall skin to skin}

30.
Thirty.
The big three-oh.
That's longer than many of you have been alive, i know.

I started along the BDSM sexuality path when i was 15 and have been doing it pretty much without pause since then (except for those three years in my early 20's when i tried really hard to go nilla).

I guess it wouldn't be 30, then would it?

Okay then - 27.

Any changes of style: {started as a sub are now a dom, started hard, now are soft, etc.}

Nope.

Age: {optional, just a reference point for me.}

45 last November.

Gender: {this is where I screwed up most about some of you my bad }

- male
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BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: {B, D, S or M, soft, medium or hard}

- submissive, "medium" physically, "hard" psychologically
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Availability for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: {i.e, Frouwa_Aph uses a foriegn word is she willing to explaim in PM if neccessary}

- certainly...........i would welcome courteous PMs
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Years involved: {actuall skin to skin}

- 5 years since "vanilla" marriage breakup
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Any changes of style: {started as a sub are now a dom, started hard, now are soft, etc.}

- i have been submissive since i was a young child.....few changes......except now i am more focused and aware of what my needs, strengths and weaknesses are..........
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Age: {optional, just a reference point for me.}

- 48

Gender: Female

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: B/D D/S with some S/M medium to soft

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: any time anyone wishes to PM me is ok with me and if I can be of any help to anyone all the better

Years involved: Married to my Dom for almost 14 years but we have only been in the lifestyle for about 5 years

Any changes of style: I started out as a sub but now consider myself a switch

Age: 31

Gender: I'm female, and very much so. As to whether I'm "feminine," well that's a whole 'nother issue.

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: {B, D, S or M, soft, medium or hard}
Hmmm...how to answer?
Bondage: alrighty, but I prefer to put others in it than to be there myself, unless there's a good reason I need to be restrained.
Discipline: oh, yes, have some.
D/s: pretty evenly 50/50 Switch
Sadism: oh, hell yes
Masochism: you betcha. Got crop?

Medium to hard player, depending on the day, the role, the partner, and the scene. Occasionally, I go soft loving Domme, too. But, there'll be no soft Tops for me, thanks. I need a little structure and a little fucking discipline.

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: Well, I'm a person of limited knowledge, but I'm willing to give it a shot.

Years involved: One year fully sub, five or six years of increasingly kinky B&D/S&M sex, 2 or 3 years lifestyle Tantric BDSM. About a decade, give or take.

Any changes of style: started sub, always had Domme desires also, now Switch

Age: I'll be 27 in October.

Gender Female... never wanted to be anything else... never wanted a penis... ok now I want one... but just for play!

BDSM Play Medium to hard and getting harder all the time. Learning each time to push the limits just a little more.

BDSM Type

B[b/] Most definitely... there is nothing like the feel of being bound with rope.
D Oh yes and Himself does it so well.
S I have found that I a little of that in me... kind of surprised me. I kind of like it.
M I like what cym said... just give me seconds and thirds!

Availability for educating through PM If you have a question just ask. PM me any time. And just for those inquiring minds that want to know... Yes that is me on the AV and Himself took the photo.

Years involved I realize now that I was into some aspects of BDSM before I even knew it had a name or all the nuances available. We were practising bondage in the 70's... ok some I'm a late bloomer! More formalized in the last year or so.

Any changes in style It is funny that this should come up. On my first ad at alt.com I listed myself as a switch, not even really realizing what that meant. I went back and changed it to sub after doing some investigation. When we redid the ad as a couple looking, I changed it back to a switch. This is the me I am comfortable with.

Age 48

Todd-'o'-Vision said:

Gender: {this is where I screwed up most about some of you my bad }

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Female.

BDSM Play/lifestyle Type: {B, D, S or M, soft, medium or hard}

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BD - yes. yes please (gosh where are my manners this morning? (Though sometimes my arthritis gets in the way )
D/s - I am submissive, married to my Dom for almost 26 years.
SM - I suppose I would describe as as soft to medium ... but we are pushing boundaries as we learn.

Avaialbility for educating through PM, if the need comes up from one of your posts: {i.e, Frouwa_Aph uses a foriegn word is she willing to explaim in PM if neccessary}

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Please ask if there is something in any of my posts you don't understand. Sometimes my British English confuses people.

Years involved: {actuall skin to skin}

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When Robuck and I first saw this thread, we tried to work it out. We 'played' with bondage for years. I have been submissive all my life .... but it has only been a couple of months since we discovered that what we enjoyed had a name. So - not really sure how to answer this one honestly. 2 months going on 15 years?

Any changes of style: {started as a sub are now a dom, started hard, now are soft, etc.}

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Getting harder as we experiment.
Always been submissive - I am hopeless at being in charge. Make a good deputy though.

Age: {optional, just a reference point for me.}

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*sigh* I was 45 last April. (Do you realise just how many cool 40ish people there are here!)



edited because I didn't get the formatting right!

Thank you everyone for the moments of time it took to answer my questions, it has already cleared up at least 5 errors I had about some people.

AGain thank you very much, your a great bunch of people.

Spanks and chains and whips to all

Well, if I try to cut and paste all those questions, Ill fuck it up so Ill just answer that I am a 35 year old lesbian Domme (but I do play with men) who plays pretty hard usually, but can go easy on a learner.
Ive been involved for about 12 years, always as a dominant. Anybody who ever wants to ask me about anything can feel free.