Some relationships are doomed from the start

cymbidia

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Okay. Y'all know i'm out beating the bushes for a new Dominant, right? It's not like i've made any secret of it. Since i'm pretty sure that Jesus Above isn't gonna crack Heaven open and toss one down so s/he'll fall right into my lap, i figure it's on me to make myself somewhat visible to whomever might be looking.

Such a scheme has its up sides and down sides. Such a scheme has its funny moments, too.

Here, for your amusement (cuz i love y'all too much to keep this one to myself) is an email excahnge i've had today - this very day- with one...uh...Master.

My stuff is in regular type, his is bold.

And remember: i did not make this up. I swear to all the gods out there (up there?), this is the way it flowed between us (personal details omitted, of course) when he responded to an ad i placed a few days ago out there in the slipstream somplace.

Enjoy! :D
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hello.im a 42 yr od white male.deviorced 5 8 150 green eyes brown hair n totally dominate.you sound very down to earth n fun loveing.where do you live?hope to be able to teach you.remember your submissive manners when e mailing me back.DO IT NOW!


Hello to you, too, Sir, and thank you for replying to my ad. I'm in the north bay, in [my town]. Is that anywhere near you? It's a real pity that the Bay area is *so* large. Much of the time we're too far from someone who could be interesting to be able to build anything of value.

I appreciate the time you took to reply.
Regards,
cym


no but if you truly want to serve a master then where i am wont matter.youll do as i say n join me when i say.by the way slave .the proper way to address me is by calling me master.NOW DO AS YOUR TOLD!


With humility, Sir, i give my respect to all those i happen across - simple human respect. My service and submission are things of value, things of my deepest self, and those i save for special people.

I've been in the lifestyle for many years, Sir, and have learned that all i meet are deserving of my respect but not all want or need or can handle or know what to do with the gift of my submission.

I do truly want to serve a Master, but not just any Master.

I'm having no difficulty finding Dominants, Sir, only finding one who is right for me in the way that i am right for him. That process of discovery is a thing that takes time, Sir, and in my mind, it takes physical proximity, too. We have to be physically close enough to each other to be able to spend the time necessary to come to know each other as humans, as a man and woman, and as Dominant and submissive.

The dance we do as BDSM'ers that are new to each other is convoluted and sometimes difficult. It requires a lot of trust and talking and honesty and tolerance for the small places that won't fit at first. That's a hard thing to effect from a distance, don't you think, Sir?

Regards,
cym


who in the hell are you trying to kid slave.you want a truly submissive relationship?well im offering.you not like,well thats your problem.i dont have time for games.


I think, Sir, with all respect, that we're probably not well matched. Thank you, anyway, for taking the time to reply to my ad.

I wish you well.
Good bye,
cym


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Okay, now, let's all say it together: this one's not gonna go *anywhere*!

~vastly amused~
b.
 
Have you noticed that with each exchange this "so called master" gets more and more abusive? I would say he has been reading too many Conan the Barbarian comic books. I say comic books because his command of the english language leaves a lot to be desired! "totally dominate?" Oh puleeze!!!!

This guy is not worth your sweat!!!

Ebony


cymbidia said:
Okay. Y'all know i'm out beating the bushes for a new Dominant, right? It's not like i've made any secret of it. Since i'm pretty sure that Jesus Above isn't gonna crack Heaven open and toss one down so s/he'll fall right into my lap, i figure it's on me to make myself somewhat visible to whomever might be looking.

Such a scheme has its up sides and down sides. Such a scheme has its funny moments, too.

Here, for your amusement (cuz i love y'all too much to keep this one to myself) is an email excahnge i've had today - this very day- with one...uh...Master.

My stuff is in regular type, his is bold.

And remember: i did not make this up. I swear to all the gods out there (up there?), this is the way it flowed between us (personal details omitted, of course) when he responded to an ad i placed a few days ago out there in the slipstream somplace.

Enjoy! :D
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

hello.im a 42 yr od white male.deviorced 5 8 150 green eyes brown hair n totally dominate.you sound very down to earth n fun loveing.where do you live?hope to be able to teach you.remember your submissive manners when e mailing me back.DO IT NOW!


Hello to you, too, Sir, and thank you for replying to my ad. I'm in the north bay, in [my town]. Is that anywhere near you? It's a real pity that the Bay area is *so* large. Much of the time we're too far from someone who could be interesting to be able to build anything of value.

I appreciate the time you took to reply.
Regards,
cym


no but if you truly want to serve a master then where i am wont matter.youll do as i say n join me when i say.by the way slave .the proper way to address me is by calling me master.NOW DO AS YOUR TOLD!


With humility, Sir, i give my respect to all those i happen across - simple human respect. My service and submission are things of value, things of my deepest self, and those i save for special people.

I've been in the lifestyle for many years, Sir, and have learned that all i meet are deserving of my respect but not all want or need or can handle or know what to do with the gift of my submission.

I do truly want to serve a Master, but not just any Master.

I'm having no difficulty finding Dominants, Sir, only finding one who is right for me in the way that i am right for him. That process of discovery is a thing that takes time, Sir, and in my mind, it takes physical proximity, too. We have to be physically close enough to each other to be able to spend the time necessary to come to know each other as humans, as a man and woman, and as Dominant and submissive.

The dance we do as BDSM'ers that are new to each other is convoluted and sometimes difficult. It requires a lot of trust and talking and honesty and tolerance for the small places that won't fit at first. That's a hard thing to effect from a distance, don't you think, Sir?

Regards,
cym


who in the hell are you trying to kid slave.you want a truly submissive relationship?well im offering.you not like,well thats your problem.i dont have time for games.


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Okay, now, let's all say it together: this one's not gonna go *anywhere*!

~vastly amused~
b.
 
H, or pierced_boy, please feel free to call me cym. The other name is a real workout for the fingers and everyone else might get jealous if you started calling me "darling".
:p

I think all y'all who are new around here can have a look at what we call each other, the short versions, and just jump right in and use those names. We're pretty friendly around here about stuff like that.


Ebonyfire? You got more worked up at what this guy was lacking than i did! I knew from the first quick reading of the first email that there wasn't going to be anything at all possible between him and me but, well, i can almost never pass up a chance to lecture someone on this kinda stuff. Too bad this fell on deaf ears. Oh well! There's someone out there for all of us, right?




General statement:
I've been incredibly fortunate in my life with regard to my being able to go to college for a long time and study stuff i liked and collect a few degrees. Many haven't had those advantages. The ability to spell correctly, to punctuate with ease, and to use the rules of grammar fluently, therefore, are never an indication (in my mind) of the basic worth of another person.

Here in the slipstream, however, that kinda stuff is the coin of the realm.

Here, we are our words in a way that is never true for most of us in our daily lives. Here, a bad speller or someone who has no clue regarding the inadvisability of ending a sentence with a preposition is at a distinct disadvantage. It doesn't mean they have no worth. It just means they aren't good in a written environment. That's all.

(Okay. I did the right kinda politically correct thing. Now let me say this: i, too, winced at his spelling and grammar and punctuation. ;) )
 
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~snickering wildly~

Okay... i just got this response from the dipshit:
tyipical web slut phony

I think i'll just not email him back.
He needs the last word, i guess.
:D
 
Cymbidia, what a charmer. Do you think he gets many takers with this tactic?

Geesh...
 
cymbidia said:
~snickering wildly~

Okay... i just got this response from the dipshit:
tyipical web slut phony

I think i'll just not email him back.
He needs the last word, i guess.
:D


Or you could be really wicked and keep posting his 'interesting' responses.:D
 
Darn, and he seemed so perfect too.

What a shame.


What an idiot! Though, to be honest. Does anyone here think there is someone good enough for our cymbidia? I don't. Though I hope she finds someone partially worthy soon. She needs a good spanking for treating such a Master as he in such a rude manner.
 
I had a flashback!!!

Like many dominants, I started as a submissive myself. I had the misfortune to meet a "maroon" like this. "Mr. big Shot Cyber Dom!" LOL I did not have to delawith him at all, cause I was under the protection of a true Master, and he did his ob. He lectured the guy for me. And then he "corrected" me cause it was my headstrong behaviour that brought this idiot in to my life. All ended well, and eventually I found out that my true calling was Dominance.

This guy, is probably not even into D/s he is just using it as his "sexual hook."

And yes, there is someone out there for all of us. The trouble is sometimes we have to put up withthe chaff before we get to the wheat!

Ebony


cymbidia said:
H, or pierced_boy, please feel free to call me cym. The other name is a real workout for the fingers and everyone else might get jealous if you started calling me "darling".
:p

I think all y'all who are new around here can have a look at what we call each other, the short versions, and just jump right in and use those names. We're pretty friendly around here about stuff like that.


Ebonyfire? You got more worked up at what this guy was lacking than i did! I knew from the first quick reading of the first email that there wasn't going to be anything at all possible between him and me but, well, i can almost never pass up a chance to lecture someone on this kinda stuff. Too bad this fell on deaf ears. Oh well! There's someone out there for all of us, right?




General statement:
I've been incredibly fortunate in my life with regard to my being able to go to college for a long time and study stuff i liked and collect a few degrees. Many haven't had those advantages. The ability to spell correctly, to punctuate with ease, and to use the rules of grammar fluently, therefore, are never an indication (in my mind) of the basic worth of another person.

Here in the slipstream, however, that kinda stuff is the coin of the realm.

Here, we are our words in a way that is never true for most of us in our daily lives. Here, a bad speller or someone who has no clue regarding the inadvisability of ending a sentence with a preposition is at a distinct disadvantage. It doesn't mean they have no worth. It just means they aren't good in a written environment. That's all.

(Okay. I did the right kinda politically correct thing. Now let me say this: i, too, winced at his spelling and grammar and punctuation. ;) )
 
Yep

They always want to have the last word. We all know what that means...<snickering>

Ebony

cymbidia said:
~snickering wildly~

Okay... i just got this response from the dipshit:
tyipical web slut phony

I think i'll just not email him back.
He needs the last word, i guess.
:D
 
He gives Doms a bad name

I do not know where you posted the ad or how the add read....
Context you know.......

However this asshole gives Doms a bad name......

It also is kind of like the good guys finish last
He will find someone......maybe even ruin there life or ruin them to the D/s relationships

As with any realtionship D/s starts by getting to know the person as a person........

I need to go shower and find a real life human bring........

I am raging over this butt hole........

Richard
Michigan
it is snowing here and cold
I need a cuddle buddy
 
Dear Cym,

I hate to say it because it sounds pessimistic but this is same experience I've relived over the last few years.

Finding the right Dominant proves more difficult than finding a husband!:D

Hang on. It's going to happen.

bright blessings and Happy Spring!
 
Y'all are funny...and warm and comforting and kind, too.
:)

I'm not sweating any interactions like this one. I find such things amusing, to be honest.

I posted it so others could have a giggle and so some of you who might be involved with a similar "looking for DominantRight" situation as me can see that we all get duds. The best thing to do in all such situations, the best thing for me to do, anyway, is to maintian my civility. Just cuz the person on the other end of the email is a dick doesn't mean i have to respond in kind, does it? I can keep to my principles, hold to my standards for interactions with others, and still say no. In that (i hope) i'm teaching that other person just a tiny bit about what real BDSM is, and how real submissives act and react and conduct themselves.

This guy probably didn't get any of that.
It probably just wizzed right over his head.
So what?
I still conducted myself according to what's important to me, didn't i? I still behaved in a manner i'd not be ashamed to hav anyone know about.

The next Dominant will be better.
Maybe still not who i'm searching for, but closer.
And the one after that will be closer yet.
In any case, i'm fine where i am for now. I'm coming to know my local group of perves through my munches and i'm fine.

One just has to keep the net out there, you know. You never really know who the gods are gonna toss your way, or when.
;)
 
Thought you had one

raindancer said:
Dear Cym,

I hate to say it because it sounds pessimistic but this is same experience I've relived over the last few years.

Finding the right Dominant proves more difficult than finding a husband!:D

Hang on. It's going to happen.

bright blessings and Happy Spring!

Hey...I thought you hada husband or is it a dom?

Richard
 
I did not know

MistressHoney said:
The language. The misguided spelling. The dreadful punctuation.

Oh... you were talking about his manner? Bah, that was nothing! ;)

Seriously, cym, I am in complete agreement with you. I've been looking for a sub for several months now with no luck. I marvel at my friends who lament the lack of good men in the vanilla world. They have *no* idea!

I did not know spelling and punctuations were requairments....
GGGGEEEEEEE

I'll never find a sub again
 
You are absolutely right, Cym

You will get what you want because you know what you want, and you refuse to let any negativity ruin your positive energy. I believe the universe is a positive place and you get what you project.

You projected a positive, confident, respectful submissive who did not let someone who was not as positive drag you down to his level. For that I commend you. That is why I know you will prevail!

Ebony

cymbidia said:
Y'all are funny...and warm and comforting and kind, too.
:)

I'm not sweating any interactions like this one. I find such things amusing, to be honest.

I posted it so others could have a giggle and so some of you who might be involved with a similar "looking for DominantRight" situation as me can see that we all get duds. The best thing to do in all such situations, the best thing for me to do, anyway, is to maintian my civility. Just cuz the person on the other end of the email is a dick doesn't mean i have to respond in kind, does it? I can keep to my principles, hold to my standards for interactions with others, and still say no. In that (i hope) i'm teaching that other person just a tiny bit about what real BDSM is, and how real submissives act and react and conduct themselves.

This guy probably didn't get any of that.
It probably just wizzed right over his head.
So what?
I still conducted myself according to what's important to me, didn't i? I still behaved in a manner i'd not be ashamed to hav anyone know about.

The next Dominant will be better.
Maybe still not who i'm searching for, but closer.
And the one after that will be closer yet.
In any case, i'm fine where i am for now. I'm coming to know my local group of perves through my munches and i'm fine.

One just has to keep the net out there, you know. You never really know who the gods are gonna toss your way, or when.
;)
 
Re: He gives Doms a bad name

See, I am not sure he qualifies as a Dom. I think a-hole is about his speed.

Ebony

Richard49 said:
I do not know where you posted the ad or how the add read....
Context you know.......

However this asshole gives Doms a bad name......

It also is kind of like the good guys finish last
He will find someone......maybe even ruin there life or ruin them to the D/s relationships

As with any realtionship D/s starts by getting to know the person as a person........

I need to go shower and find a real life human bring........

I am raging over this butt hole........

Richard
Michigan
it is snowing here and cold
I need a cuddle buddy
 
Re: Re: Some relationships are doomed from the start

Ebonyfire said:
Have you noticed that with each exchange this "so called master" gets more and more abusive? I would say he has been reading too many Conan the Barbarian comic books. I say comic books because his command of the english language leaves a lot to be desired! "totally dominate?" Oh puleeze!!!!

This guy is not worth your sweat!!!

Ebony



First warning sign is when someone uses "dominate" as a noun. That's a real pet peeve of mine.
 
Re: Re: He gives Doms a bad name

Ebonyfire said:
See, I am not sure he qualifies as a Dom. I think a-hole is about his speed.

Ebony


You insulted mine ;)
 
thanx 4 the laugh, cym!

What have i gotten myself into?

i wouldn't even know how to write an ad if i really get interested in acting on some of the things i've learned lately.

Ah...but i've got time.

Thanks for the preview of possible coming attractions. (or repulsions as the case may be)

So a preposition is a bad thing to end a sentence on? Does it bug you when someone chooses to stupidly split an infinitive? So many things to learn.

Seriously, best of luck in your search. You deserve the best, don't settle for less. Being alone is not for everybody.
 
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