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Submissive's Purpose

Like most other human beings I think our senses of purpose are internally arrived at. I have no more insight into a submissive's purpose than a bus driver or a musician or someone's uncle.

Last I checked, a submissive was a human being who prefers a submissive stance in intimate relationships. I have no assumptions beyond that.
 
Netzach said:
Like most other human beings I think our senses of purpose are internally arrived at. I have no more insight into a submissive's purpose than a bus driver or a musician or someone's uncle.

Last I checked, a submissive was a human being who prefers a submissive stance in intimate relationships. I have no assumptions beyond that.
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I think you totally missed the point of the question
 
To me, my purpose is simple, to please Him of course. But there are so many levels to it. i am not just there to serve His physical needs, but His emotional and spiritual needs as well. i would hope that my primary pupose as a submissive (slave) is to give of myself whatever it is that He needs at the time, whether that be a lover, a friend, a confidant or a maid.

i couldn't think of one specific purpose..... but i will be interested in reading the answers of O/others.
 
Richard49 said:
I think you totally missed the point of the question
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I must have interpreted the question differently than it was intended.

In my relationship, the concept of "purpose" is not so different from the concept of purpose that one would encounter in vanillia life. It's the power dynamic that puts a different spin on that. That's all I'm saying. Submissives are always, primarily and above all else, just people. They are diverse, unpredictable, and will react completely differently to the same factors.

In my relationships, it could be said, the "purpose" of the submissive is to learn and develop in ways introduced by the Master, or in ways introduced via the relationship and its inherent tension between D and s. The lesson is sometimes learned in perfect obedience. The lesson is sometimes learned in total willful failure and its aftermath.

The purpose of the submissive is to be attuned to the lesson. And the lesson is larger than a simple "Master says..." The lesson is the larger scope, that life is not a force anyone can control, that surrender is necessary, and, at times, beautiful, that the submissive is a person gifted in the art of surrender.
 
sub princess said:
To me, my purpose is simple, to please Him of course. But there are so many levels to it. i am not just there to serve His physical needs, but His emotional and spiritual needs as well. i would hope that my primary pupose as a submissive (slave) is to give of myself whatever it is that He needs at the time, whether that be a lover, a friend, a confidant or a maid.

i couldn't think of one specific purpose..... but i will be interested in reading the answers of O/others.
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I agreed with you....that a person does cares about their Dom is there to serve him as a lover, his emotional and spiritual is very important too.......Also to be truthful, loyal and honest to him, and for him to be the same to his sub.
 
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Hi Richard....

My purpose is to submit within the limits and the context we have agreed upon. Therefore, the answer will be vary from person to person.
 
Richard49 said:
What do you see as the primary purpose of a submissive ?
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For me it will be to serve my Master in all ways to meet his needs and be what he requires me to be within the realms of what we have agreed.
 
my goals

To please, serve and obey with total love and devotion.

Something i have not been doing to the best of my ability of late. :(
 
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Pleasurekitten said:
To please, serve and obey with total love and devotion.

Something i have not been doing to the best of my ability of late. :(
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Why is that?
What would help you achieve that?
 
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Richard49 said:
Why is that?
What would help you achieve that?
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i have been more concerned with the pressures of my everyday life and have been ignoring the needs of my Master, much to his dismay. And mine too.

i am pleased to say though that after a miserable week for both of us, i seem to have turned a corner and am, as of today back on track, concentrating on his wants and needs and with my goals back to the forefront of my mind. :)

Dare i say we all have times like these. We're all human right?
 
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Pleasurekitten said:
i have been more concerned with the pressures of my everyday life and have been ignoring the needs of my Master, much to his dismay. And mine too.

i am pleased to say though that after a miserable week for both of us, i seem to have turned a corner and am, as of today back on track, concentrating on his wants and needs and with my goals back to the forefront of my mind. :)

Dare i say we all have times like these. We're all human right?
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We are all human and we all falter at times my pet. You have turned a corner and gotten back on the right road, and I have forgiven most, but I still get to turn your bottom an extreme shade of red. :D
 
I do not want a lover. I do not want a boyfriend. I do not want a husband.

I am always mindful of the purpose of the relationship. The magic that is between a Dominant female and a submissive male.

So the primary purpose of any submissive I want is to ability to serve Me.
 
To serve

That is the bottom line. When two people are deeply into their headspace, there is no other purpose, no other choice, but for the submissive to fulfill their role and serve.

Now, how this happens and when this happens will be identified within the context of who he/she is and the relationship he/she is in. Nevertheless, at some point in that D/s relationship, the Dominant expects service and the submissive's purpose is to serve.

Submissives?
When you are deep in subspace, your body feeling alive with physical sensation, your mind tickled by His/Her voice and you are completely helpless, you await the next step, act or direction given for HIS or HER pleasure and yep, that's service!

;)

For some , that may be the only time that they are fully focussed on servitude, for others, it carries into other parts of the day.

To each his own.

As long as you are happy with your D/s, no one can judge that.
 
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MissTaken said:
That is the bottom line. When two people are deeply into their headspace, there is no other purpose, no other choice, but for the submissive to fulfill their role and serve.

Now, how this happens and when this happens will be identified within the context of who he/she is and the relationship he/she is in. Nevertheless, at some point in that D/s relationship, the Dominant expects service and the submissive's purpose is to serve.

Submissives?
When you are deep in subspace, your body feeling alive with physical sensation, your mind tickled by His/Her voice and you are completely helpless, you await the next step, act or direction given for HIS or HER pleasure and yep, that's service!

;)

For some , that may be the only time that they are fully focussed on servitude, for others, it carries into other parts of the day.

To each his own.

As long as you are happy with your D/s, no one can judge that.
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Nicely put Miss T:)
 
Richard49 said:
What do you see as the primary purpose of a submissive ?
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In my world, to serve my Dominant, of course. He knows my limits. Everything else that i am is there for His service, be it doing His laundry, taking a flogging, or washing His feet.

~anelize
 
Richard49 said:
What do you see as the primary purpose of a submissive ?
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Intriguing question.

I suppose the most obvious answer is to submit, or to serve as others have said (although I don't personally think of my relationship to a Dominant as one of servant, so I'm going to stick with submit.)

One primary would be to obey - to submit myself to the Dominant. But in submitting my entire self, they are also going to get someone who can be a bit sassy, challenging, independent and somewhat critical. I don't have much of a "service" mentality - I obey Her because I have a need to surrender to One, Her brand of dominance inspires my submission and it is my wish to please Her because I love and respect Her - being pleasing and serving in general terms has never been a huge concern for me. I don't have a terribly submissive surface.

In submitting, I am receiving many of Her values and making them my own. So I suppose ultimately it is about surrender - my purpose is to surrender myself to Her, and calling that a service sounds too altruistic to me. I may have skipped some of the thought process in writing this down, so it may be a jumble of mumble. ;)
 
Richard49 said:
What do you see as the primary purpose of a submissive ?
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the question is one that seems to have an easy answer and mayhap for some it does. For me, however it is a little wierd. I believe that a sub should always strive to render the service due to their Master/Owner. Within myself, i find a vast longing to do just that: to serve with pleasure and commitment and with honor, always with honor. Do I always fulfill what it is I think I should give to my Owner? No, I don't. It seems that no matter how I would like to be able to some part of me always gets in the way of joyful submission. I guess for me then...it would be to learn my limits and to please Him in all I do. The rest I hope will eventually come.
 
You know, I keep reading that the "Purpose of a sub is to please, and serve". It's funny, but I loose sight of that when I'm tying them down, and fucking them. If anything, the Top serves, and pleases the sub, depending how you look at it.
There is no purpose, it's something they like to do. We're lovers, and lovers serve, and please each other. While in a Ds relationship, there's a nominal Top, and bottom, I usually see myself doing more work, than the sub, and they get more pleasure out of it.
The purpose of the sub is to love unconditionally, and to obey.
 
I obey Her because I have a need to surrender to One, Her brand of dominance inspires my submission and it is my wish to please Her because I love and respect Her - being pleasing and serving in general terms has never been a huge concern for me. I don't have a terribly submissive surface.
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lark sparrow said it so much better than I could have....:rose:
 
psiberzerker said:
You know, I keep reading that the "Purpose of a sub is to please, and serve". It's funny, but I loose sight of that when I'm tying them down, and fucking them. If anything, the Top serves, and pleases the sub, depending how you look at it.
There is no purpose, it's something they like to do. We're lovers, and lovers serve, and please each other. While in a Ds relationship, there's a nominal Top, and bottom, I usually see myself doing more work, than the sub, and they get more pleasure out of it.
The purpose of the sub is to love unconditionally, and to obey.
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lol I was thinking the same thing, psiberzerker. When I am tied and getting all of these delicious things done to me, it doesn't seem like much of a service on my part. I know that Mistress appreciates having someone who loves Her sadistic sexuality, but I still don't think that makes my submitting to them (because I love it!) a service - it's an exchange. Though perhaps it's just a matter of semantics and not context, as a service is usually an exchange as well.
 
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psiberzerker said:
The purpose of the sub is to love unconditionally, and to obey.
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i whole-heartedly agree, my love for Him is unconditional, but there was not always love there. It begins with respect and admiration, becomes trust, and then (at least in my case) became love.
 
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april-wine said:
lark sparrow said it so much better than I could have....:rose:
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Thank you, april-wine. :)

I've noticed and enjoyed reading your sig. lines very much - such tender, even delicate, intimacy.
 
lark sparrow said:
Thank you, april-wine. :)

I've noticed and enjoyed reading your sig. lines very much - such tender, even delicate, intimacy.
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Thank-you....My love sends them to me....She has written a few....
 
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