What I find works for me with pain, and pleasure.

I can say one key word endophines. The reason why alot of peoples thresh hold for pain becomes more easier to handle is because of endorphins when partaking in sexual activites.

What has worked for me.
I find that if my partner gently starts patting my buttom, then plays with my vaginal area I can take more pain when he-she starts patting harder, until they become spanks. Of course the playing grows as well. I think you have to work your way up. Don't start by having your partner bite your nipples. Have them slowly, and gentle massage. Then when their hand in ah near you vaginal area, have them lick, and nip. When your are in orgasim it can be so intesne it dulls your pain receptors. What you could also do, is have a small wrestiling match before sexual play. Anything to get your endorphins running.

i've learned the same thing. if my girl can't take the edge of the pain at the begining of play i often find that a bit later they can, and she'll start to shake and wimper for it. that same pain she couldn't quite take before has become a need.

i am the same way. stimulation is the same as biting your lip. it dulls the pain a bit. enough to ease into the pain. and slip into focusing on it. it helps your mind establish the pain as good, sexual pain. as opposed to damaging bad pain.

pinch me, i think i'm dreaming... *whimper*

Mixing pain and pleasure

I find that I prefer to keep the activities separate. I would much rather have a session of pain focused activities, and then later have sexual activity. I hate having the two mixed up and confused. Naturally, I have fallen in love with a man who has a strong preference for combining sex and pain, so I've moved in that direction. But my first choice is not to mix them together.

K

Re: Mixing pain and pleasure

Kuurspet said:

I find that I prefer to keep the activities separate. I would much rather have a session of pain focused activities, and then later have sexual activity. I hate having the two mixed up and confused. Naturally, I have fallen in love with a man who has a strong preference for combining sex and pain, so I've moved in that direction. But my first choice is not to mix them together.

K

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