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Old 12-03-2015, 03:09 PM   #1
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Women, Do you consider a handjob cheating or just being friendly ?

Does it matter if he cums on your hand?
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Old 12-03-2015, 03:34 PM   #2
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Well for one, what's the sense of giving a hand job if you don't get his cum on your hand, but either way it's cheating in my opinion.
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Old 12-03-2015, 03:41 PM   #3
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the fuck?

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Old 12-03-2015, 06:23 PM   #4
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I have had a handful........ Yuck, Yuck

of hand jobs from women in my lifetime. Some were married and some weren't. Some I'm not sure about. I thank them all, even the ones who's names I never got.
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Old 12-03-2015, 06:56 PM   #5
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Cheating. I think if you're married or in a relationship that is not open in anyway, than any sexual contact is cheating.
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Old 12-03-2015, 07:00 PM   #6
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Cheating...but less of an offense than a BJ...

Had this last weekend with an ex-FWB that is currently living with someone and exclusive...although we're allowed to play a bit on the weekends when he's around.

When her BF is not around, BJ's & fucking are explicitly verboten...but handjob he's okay with.
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Old 12-03-2015, 07:04 PM   #7
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Cheating...but less of an offense than a BJ...

Had this last weekend with an ex-FWB that is currently living with someone and exclusive...although we're allowed to play a bit on the weekends when he's around.

When her BF is not around, BJ's & fucking are explicitly verboten...but handjob he's okay with.
Then I don't think she should say she is exclusive if some sexual contact is allowed. Exclusive means hands-and every other body part-off.
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Old 12-04-2015, 12:16 AM   #8
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No I don't think its cheating. I am a huge fan of helping out so helping a guy in need of release is be friendly.
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Old 12-04-2015, 12:22 AM   #9
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If you have to hide it from your spouse or lover, then yes it is cheating.
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Old 12-04-2015, 12:47 AM   #10
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If it's kept a secret it's cheating. IMO that's true even if it's a kiss on the lips.
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Old 12-04-2015, 11:19 AM   #11
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If it's kept a secret it's cheating. IMO that's true even if it's a kiss on the lips.
Yep.

Anything you do with someone else of a sexual or romantic nature that has to be kept from your spouse or lover is cheating.
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Old 12-04-2015, 11:23 AM   #12
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Yep.

Anything you do with someone else of a sexual or romantic nature that has to be kept from your spouse or lover is cheating.
well dang I am in serious trouble then.............
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Old 12-04-2015, 11:27 AM   #13
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Yep.

Anything you do with someone else of a sexual or romantic nature that has to be kept from your spouse or lover is cheating.
Agree 100%
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Old 12-04-2015, 11:30 AM   #14
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Cheating unfortunately again. Bloody good fun though!.
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Old 12-04-2015, 11:33 AM   #15
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Agree 100%
Could you point me the way to the forgiveness line, please?
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Old 12-04-2015, 11:44 AM   #16
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Kissing on the lips?

I have several friends who happen to be women, married, as am I and when we meet after some time away we kiss on the lips. Just a peck and smooch. Not French. Often with wife present.

I would accept a hand job any time though and I can't imagine my wife being present as I am pleasured. I guess I can't also imagine simply a hand job. A little mouth action would be expected. X I guess I'm a cheater. i
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Old 12-04-2015, 10:18 PM   #17
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If it's kept a secret it's cheating. IMO that's true even if it's a kiss on the lips.
Yeppers I agree
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Old 12-04-2015, 11:35 PM   #18
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Smile handjob is foreplay

a handjob is not cheating, it is foreplay or as you say 'just being friendly'. not serious sex anyway/
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Old 12-04-2015, 11:36 PM   #19
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a handjob is not cheating, it is foreplay or as you say 'just being friendly'. not serious sex anyway/
I'll have to come and see you sometime
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Old 12-05-2015, 12:09 PM   #20
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I know this thread was started as a bit of a joke following a similar one about blow jobs, but the responses have gotten me thinking about why I run into so many guys who are ready to try anything outside of their marriage.

I think one of the several reasons why so many married men, especially older ones, engage in mutual masturbation with other men outside of their marriage is that it is way they can break out of pervasively rigid monogamy rules without endangering the health of their spouse. I have met and have read the accounts of so many married men who love their wives, but feel stifled by zero tolerance issues regarding any perceived violation of exclusivity.

I've known married guys who were shamed for masturbating on their own or for watching soft porn on cable TV late at night when they thought their wives were sleeping. I have known men who were admonished for admitting that they thought about having sex with another person. These were good guys who just happened to be married to women who have a very strict set of rules.

The downside of having very strict rules about cheating is that it may end up cutting off all communication about sexual fantasies and provide an incentive for a husband to find another outlet for that part of his psyche. Hand jobs are a way they can do this with very low risk of contracting a disease, especially if they find another married "buddy" who provides exclusivity. These guys are not out looking for another LTR They want to continue in the one that they have committed to.

With all the CDC information on the web, most rational guys understand that casual blow jobs carry a higher disease transmission risk than casual hand jobs. I see a lot of discussion on lit about guys who say they do a lot of casual blow jobs or anal sex. These are not the men I am talking about. I am talking about rational men who care about their wives but feel they need more than what their wives will allow.
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