Favorite things about humiliation?

Giving or receiving. I'm starting to think I might be seriously into it, and I would love to collect ideas from folks and/or chat with some people who've been at it for a while.

reallyunsure said:

Giving or receiving. I'm starting to think I might be seriously into it, and I would love to collect ideas from folks and/or chat with some people who've been at it for a while.

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You are kidding, right?

I'm just an outsider here, so DO NOT go by what I say. I would love to discuss what works and what doesn't, humiliation-wise. I LOVE pain, but humiliation is better, to me. It seems to be OK for people to post pictures about whatever their kink might be, but to discuss it is somehow verboten.

All I can suggest is that you post what it is that you like to do, or have done to you and hope people will reply. I would start, but I've already been chastised once today. That's enough for me .

My husband is a bully; I've taken pains to cultivate that part of him over the years while making very sure not to encourage him to let it out in unacceptable ways, like in public.

He does the emotional humiliation thing in a lot of very minor ways; poking and prodding and pushing buttons mindfully. Making fun of things I like, my fears and frustrations. (I may have to talk to him about the possibility of bringing safewords into casual conversation because we've had some misunderstandings with him not taking me seriously when I needed him to before.) Not sure why this tends to make me beam with pride, but it does.

And then there are the small physical things. Pushing me over to make room for him, making me sit awkwardly while he gets to be comfortable. It makes me feel small and I love it.

We don't really do sexual humiliation. I just don't really get the appeal.

KoPilot said:

My husband is a bully; I've taken pains to cultivate that part of him over the years while making very sure not to encourage him to let it out in unacceptable ways, like in public.

He does the emotional humiliation thing in a lot of very minor ways; poking and prodding and pushing buttons mindfully. Making fun of things I like, my fears and frustrations. (I may have to talk to him about the possibility of bringing safewords into casual conversation because we've had some misunderstandings with him not taking me seriously when I needed him to before.) Not sure why this tends to make me beam with pride, but it does.

And then there are the small physical things. Pushing me over to make room for him, making me sit awkwardly while he gets to be comfortable. It makes me feel small and I love it.

We don't really do sexual humiliation. I just don't really get the appeal.

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I find that really interesting. In my relationship, I am the most insufferable brat on the planet and have no idea how my master can handle me. If anyone gets humiliated outside the bedroom, it is almost certainly always him. However, in the bedroom he turns into a complete beast (perhaps as a result of the aforementioned situation). If I so much as open my mouth to do anything other than beg or appreciate, some punishment is sure to follow. It's not the I can't try to behave, but I think he likes the complete dissonance between people's assumptions of our relationship and how things actually are.

I do not enjoy humiliation, but master seems to take very intense pleasure in it. He knows that I do not like to be watched. When he is feeling particularly sadistic he makes me pleasure myself and watches. I cry of mortification every single time. The most humiliating thing he's ever had me do was for punishment. He did not allow me to use the restroom until I ended up peeing myself while sitting on his lap. I wasn't allowed to make a sound either, so I just had to cry silently to myself until he decided I'd had enough. Even writing about it makes me shudder. It was terrifying, but to be fair I learned my lesson and master has never cared for me better than after he put me through that scene.

KoPilot said:

My husband is a bully; I've taken pains to cultivate that part of him over the years while making very sure not to encourage him to let it out in unacceptable ways, like in public.

He does the emotional humiliation thing in a lot of very minor ways; poking and prodding and pushing buttons mindfully. Making fun of things I like, my fears and frustrations. (I may have to talk to him about the possibility of bringing safewords into casual conversation because we've had some misunderstandings with him not taking me seriously when I needed him to before.) Not sure why this tends to make me beam with pride, but it does.

And then there are the small physical things. Pushing me over to make room for him, making me sit awkwardly while he gets to be comfortable. It makes me feel small and I love it.

We don't really do sexual humiliation. I just don't really get the appeal.

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We have a very similar dynamic. Lots and lots of relentless teasing, name calling (and not sexy stuff) plus the physical stuff like trapping me on the couch under his legs with his feet under my face.....

I really, really don't understand why I like being humiliated, especially as it was a frequent and unpleasant part of my childhood but I suppose the why doesn't really matter. A safeword is a really good idea though - we've had our fair share of misunderstandings but having the safeword has reduced them quite a lot.

Recently there's been a lot more verbal sexual humiliation too. It's been very, very good and I hope the trend continues.

As for me, my biggest turn on with humiliation is the willingness on the part of my sub. Her desire to please me, being so strong, that she is willing to accept the debasement from my lips, to "lower" herself for my sadistic pleasure. I put that word in quotes because she knows that my perception of her is not actually being lowered when she submits to humiliation play. It is just that, play. For me, it is about the lengths to which she is willing to go to submit to me.

Any other time, she knows she is my treasure, and that I value her above all other things/people in my life. I think it is only in an atmosphere like that, where the submissive's true value has been properly and thoroughly communicated to her, that healthy humiliation play can exist. And of course, loving and encouraging aftercare is highly recommended as a component of such play.

Ropebunny said:

I really, really don't understand why I like being humiliated, especially as it was a frequent and unpleasant part of my childhood but I suppose the why doesn't really matter. A safeword is a really good idea though - we've had our fair share of misunderstandings but having the safeword has reduced them quite a lot.

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I was teased and bullied pretty relentlessly as a kid (and teenager) too. I guess this is my way of turning my history of being in abusive company into something feel-good.

That's probably not all of it, but... who cares. I'm busy feeling like a million bucks over here.