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Old 07-18-2016, 01:52 PM   #1
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How to indulge when you have a female partner?

Hi,

My first original thread on here so be nice...please!

Basically I am male and have a long term g/f who I am very into (we're planning buying a house together, kids, the whole shebang).

I have previously enjoyed wearing panties, stockings and lately have become more into sissyfication...no harm in that obviously.

My issue is that i'd like to get more into this aspect of my sexual life as it turns me on so much. I've sucked a male stranger before a few years ago and my g/f is aware but when I first told her I shrugged it off as 'an experience that wasn't for me' in part so she wouldn't be put off me.

I'm now in a position where I fantasise about sucking dick, swallowing and receiving anal almost daily and can't decide whether to keep it to myself or not? I'm very happy with my g/f and basically don't want to scare her off now things are going so well in our life together...frankly saying you fantasise about dressing up and taking dick is not the usual for someone to hear.

I'm also very keen not to cheat on her for what it's worth as, basically, I am not a cheater.

So what should I do guys?

Any advise is gratefully welcomed.
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Old 07-18-2016, 02:55 PM   #2
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Hi,

My first original thread on here so be nice...please!

Basically I am male and have a long term g/f who I am very into (we're planning buying a house together, kids, the whole shebang).

I have previously enjoyed wearing panties, stockings and lately have become more into sissyfication...no harm in that obviously.

My issue is that i'd like to get more into this aspect of my sexual life as it turns me on so much. I've sucked a male stranger before a few years ago and my g/f is aware but when I first told her I shrugged it off as 'an experience that wasn't for me' in part so she wouldn't be put off me.

I'm now in a position where I fantasise about sucking dick, swallowing and receiving anal almost daily and can't decide whether to keep it to myself or not? I'm very happy with my g/f and basically don't want to scare her off now things are going so well in our life together...frankly saying you fantasise about dressing up and taking dick is not the usual for someone to hear.

I'm also very keen not to cheat on her for what it's worth as, basically, I am not a cheater.

So what should I do guys?

Any advise is gratefully welcomed.
You need to talk with your GF. no way should you get a house, have kids and try and hide your feelings, doesn't work out.
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Old 07-18-2016, 03:36 PM   #3
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You need to talk with your GF. no way should you get a house, have kids and try and hide your feelings, doesn't work out.
Thanks for the advice...I agree it's something I need to think about, hence my thread here.

The main thing I want to make is a considered choice about what to do so any further views would be good?
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Old 07-18-2016, 04:12 PM   #4
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Thanks for the advice...I agree it's something I need to think about, hence my thread here.

The main thing I want to make is a considered choice about what to do so any further views would be good?
Be honest with her, that's it.
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Old 07-18-2016, 06:24 PM   #5
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Difficult as it may be, Teddie Girl is right...talk about it. I am in my 60s and started getting into crossdressing and bisexuality late in life. My wife passed away 5 years ago. The last couple of years we got very sexual and talked about a whole slew of things. I told her that I wanted to taste my own cum and she would then give me a blowjob and come up and kiss it back to me. I told her I was interested in anal play and she was willing to rim me and to insert her fingers in my ass and play with my prostate. That would make huge amounts of pre-cum leak from me, which she would lick up and kiss over to me. I suggested strapon play but that was not something she was willing to do but she was okay with inserting a dildo and fucking me with it. Never mentioned crossdressing interest --I think that would have been too much for her then but maybe later it would have been okay. In any event, things got better because we talked, rather than me going behind her back.
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Old 07-19-2016, 02:41 AM   #6
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Do you watch porn together? If the answer is yes then you have an ice breaker of sorts to open the conversation. Find a vid that contains the sort of content/subject matter that interests you and allow her to see your very obvious arousal. She will hopefully comment on your obvious arousal allowing you the opportunity to, in a shy surprised manner, admit to her how turned on you are by it. Just an idea that worked for me in making my wife aware of my bi curiosity. Net result is I now have her consent to have a discreet male 'buddy' and experiment with my bi side. I haven't found him as yet but the point is I have my wifes consent to suck cock provided I stay safe, discreet and tell her the details of any bi encounters I experience. No secrets makes for a nice relaxed relationship without the need to hide who/what I am. A wannabee cock sucker. Life is good.
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