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Lancecastor
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WriterDom said:
I think the word "obey" should be included in the vows anyway, regardless of the flavour or dress code.
And that whole "cleaving unto each" other stuff should be standard equipment as well.
Mmm....cleave-age. Obeying.
Now "there's " a fantasy.
spankableBelle
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ceremonies
i am close with One that wishes for a handfasting for tradition...a vanilla wedding ceremony for the legalities and for the family...and the rose ceremony for the intimacy and privacy and beauty of the D/s relationship and all that it means to Him and His own...
And...i think the word 'obey' would be appropriate...even if it would raise eyebrows...if it's the way the heart of the two involved feels, then what business is it of anyone else?
just my thoughts...~smile~
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i am close with One that wishes for a handfasting for tradition...a vanilla wedding ceremony for the legalities and for the family...and the rose ceremony for the intimacy and privacy and beauty of the D/s relationship and all that it means to Him and His own...
And...i think the word 'obey' would be appropriate...even if it would raise eyebrows...if it's the way the heart of the two involved feels, then what business is it of anyone else?
just my thoughts...~smile~
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I can picture the faces on my friends if that obey were slipped in.
I really don't think i would change the wedding ceremony at all. My wedding would be stressful enough just from the family members i know are gonna be upset. My preference would be to get through the ceremony, survive the reception and get the hell out of dodge.
The meaningful expressions of our commitment to each other would occur later, privately, away from the madness.
I really don't think i would change the wedding ceremony at all. My wedding would be stressful enough just from the family members i know are gonna be upset. My preference would be to get through the ceremony, survive the reception and get the hell out of dodge.
The meaningful expressions of our commitment to each other would occur later, privately, away from the madness.
KestralWolfe
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My husband and I specifically cut out the cleaving and obeying out of our ceremony (which was mostly for my parents, erg) because we are both Dominants.
However, after the collaring of my sweet one, we will have a handfasting between our friends and the two of us. Something small and intimate, to symbolise not only are we Master and submissive, but lovers, best friends, and partners as well. Will this interfere with my marriage? Hell no. Our relationship is seperate from that of mine with my boi. He may be in the handfasting as a support, and "brother" to my boi, but nothing more than that.....and yes, the word obey will be in there, for hym.
Namaste,
Kes
However, after the collaring of my sweet one, we will have a handfasting between our friends and the two of us. Something small and intimate, to symbolise not only are we Master and submissive, but lovers, best friends, and partners as well. Will this interfere with my marriage? Hell no. Our relationship is seperate from that of mine with my boi. He may be in the handfasting as a support, and "brother" to my boi, but nothing more than that.....and yes, the word obey will be in there, for hym.
Namaste,
Kes
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In our weddings the passage from Ephesians 5:22-5:33 King Janes Version is read. It includes the words, "Wife, be subservient to the Husband."
Also the vows do contain the word obey.
That's our "'nilla" wedding ceremony.
This is nothing out of the ordinary.
It has served us well since ~642 AD
Also the vows do contain the word obey.
That's our "'nilla" wedding ceremony.
This is nothing out of the ordinary.
It has served us well since ~642 AD
WillowPuss
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Gosh ... my wedding to Master was almost 25 years ago now.
I THINK I kept it traditional and had the 'obey' in. It was more the norm than to take it out.
We are hoping to have a new ceremony this year, on or near our anniversary ... but we are still trying to work out how and where etc.
I THINK I kept it traditional and had the 'obey' in. It was more the norm than to take it out.
We are hoping to have a new ceremony this year, on or near our anniversary ... but we are still trying to work out how and where etc.
If my Dom didn't already have a life partner, "obey" is IN, baby...that's something that I would WANT to say to him. I don't take it to mean that I need to do everything he says, never questioning, to the point of the loss of my own identity. That seems to be the connotation it's been given, and why it's politically incorrect now. 
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Through necessity we had a civil ceremony so had little choice over wording unfortunately. We did manage to keep our D/s present thought with my black leather collar he had placed around my neck when me met 2 weeks earlier firmly in place, and all in the wedding party were aware it was more than just a vanilla union. We managed to spend the next few days adding our own special touch to the whole momentous event. 
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What exactly is the Rose ceremony?
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ladybutterfly said:
It's about halfway down this page. http://www.geocities.com/dommaster_us/html/symbol.html
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ladybutterfly
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That sounds beautiful.
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WriterDom said:
If I ever get the right, like any heterosexual teenage blockhead who can sign their name, I'll let you know (go Brittany!)... until then... let's see if it becomes a constitional bias even though it's overkill federally. Maybe we can bring back slavery in the process, yea!... go Bush! Politically correct? Perhaps in polite speech, but in deed? Nah, don't worry about it... well, worry a little.
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