Originally Posted by SynnR_SainT
Yes, I have ended it. It's been rough. I keep telling myself I'll always be secondary and nothing, no matter how hard I try will ever make me primary. It helps, some but I still have the urge to want to go back. I know it isn't what I want so I will wait patiently til I find my one and only.
Wow...I'm pretty impressed very few people when they ask for advice actually mull it over with the degree of careful consideration you seem to have.
Read some quote recently... I'm sure I'm going to missquote- and I have no idea who to attribute it to....something like "people ask for advice when they already know they don't want the answer."
Not that physical or emotional abuse was plainly evident or in the near future in your situation it seems all too often to me that women with submissive desires find themselves on the wrong end of a devil's bargain with an abuser.
A strong submissive is not an oxymoron, but seemingly rare.